Are you staying too long?

Yes, my web site and brand of speaking teaches others to not give up. However, you and I can at times choose the wrong person or project to invest our energy in.  Sometimes we ignore our intuition.  Sometimes red flags are waving that it is time to escape, get out and get out without guilt.   I believe there are times we should get out of a futile situation while we are ahead.

The word “futile” means… incapable of producing any result; ineffective; useless; not successful:  unavailing, fruitless, frivolous, unimportant, dull, flat, fruitless, futile, lackluster, profitless, stale, uninspiring, unproductive, unrewarding, useless, in vain, at end of one’s rope, back to the wall, can’t win, dead duck, despairing, despondent, downcast, forlorn, goner, hard up, in the soup, in the toilet, inconsolable, irrecoverable, irremediable, irretrievable, no-chance, no-way, no-win, running out of time, sad, sunk, up against it, up the creek, useless.

Quitting when your situation is futile should not be confused with a “do not give up” message.  Quitting while you are ahead should not be confused with the habit of giving up too soon.  Wisdom will help you to know when it’s time to quit or stick with a person, project, pursuit, your plans or place of employment.  Sometimes people don’t have enough sense, enough courage or enough faith to quit some one or some thing.  So God will end it or “they” will end it for you.  Getting laid off a job or a person ending a relationship because you couldn’t do it, is the only way the futile efforts will stop.

Don’t confuse persistence with insistence.  There are some people and circumstances that you can not control.  Wisdom comes as you learn to let go of projects, people or perplexing situations and give them to God.  There are some relationships, pursuits, projects and places of employment that can cost you if you stay in it too long.  Yes, you should persist with your goals and self-improvement.  Yes, you should not be easily defeated or distracted.

The questions I pose to you now are… “Are you letting your pride, denial, low self-esteem, fear or lack of faith keep you in a fruitless, uninspiring and no-win situation?  Will you persist on worthy pursuits and people?  Do you have the courage to stop insisting and pushing as you keep running into walls or resistance?  Can you discern when to know that your efforts and persistence will yield reward in the future?  Can you discern when you have reached a limit, a dead end and your pride/ego won’t allow you to let go?  During your times of insistence and frustration … remember the Serenity Prayer.

There is a time to quit and there are times you need to hear “Don’t give up.”  Quit smoking, gossiping, wasting time and giving your body, money, power and peace of mind away to people and pursuits that only rob, destroy and drain you.  Quit a project, job or relationship that is abusive or not lined up with your values and vision.  Milk is good until it’s expiration date.  Sometimes people stay way too long after the expiration date and everything becomes sour.  Have you stayed too long or have you been distracted or unfocused causing you to give up too soon on worthy pursuits? Are your hopes, dreams, energy and time hanging on to something that is futile or can it bear fruit and reward in due season? ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor