What is stopping you from being, doing or having what you desire in your life? I confess…I am a recovering procrastinator. Because of my desire to break the avoidance habit, I began to study and interview countless people about their procrastination habits. I have discovered 25 reasons why people allow the thief called “procrastination” to rob them of success, peace of mind, the fulfillment of their destiny or have self-imposed pain, limitations and lost opportunities. One of the strongholds that perpetuates procrastination is allowing the critics/naysayers/haters/”straw people” to suck out all of your joy, faith, confidence, passion and fire.
If you want to be successful in life and stay in the game, you have to be mentally tough to take the hits, criticism, rejection, insecurities, fears and nonsense that will surely come your way when you are bold enough to go after your dream.
A few years ago I hosted a Mother/Daughter Cruise with over 100 women to the Bahamas and spoke at Rev. Myles Munroe’s Church during our port stop. On the return cruise home one of the ladies complained about every little detail of the trip. I really believe she had a manipulative/con spirit and simply wanted a refund. I received so many letters, calls and emails from the other ladies telling me how much fun they had and how some of them had healing breakthroughs with their estranged mothers or daughters. But for some reason I focused on that “one” critic who sucked out all of my joy and gratitude and I forgot about all the positive feedback while focusing on the negative.
I learned a lesson from this about procrastination. People often avoid making decisions, taking action or making changes in their life because of past trauma or negative feedback. You may be procrastinating on your dream because you want to avoid pain (i.e. fear of rejection, criticism, failure, embarrassment or loss). I reveal the other 24 causes of procrastination and some awesome and “do-able” solutions to help you experience progress, satisfaction, results, fulfillment and success on my CD “Who or What is Stopping You?” (Stories, Strongholds and Solutions to Arrest the Thief Called Procrastination – click here to order your own copy)
“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt, Speech in Paris April 23, 1910