Relationship Pearls of Wisdom


Relationships Pearls of Wisdom

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Honor and take good care of yourself to avoid feeling resentful, desperate and empty. Feed your mind, body and spirit with healthy and worthy thoughts.  When you’re physically hungry… you’re more likely to stop for fast/junk food… you’re not as selective about what food you eat because you are starving.  It’s the same with emotional hunger for love and companionship.  Vow to yourself that you will stay away from the “junk/fast food and late night”snacks”.  Junk food type relationships happen when you are emotionally starving and accept less, mess and stress.

pearl  Generally speaking…men are seeking peace and control and women are seeking security and attention.  One wants rest, the other wants to build a nest.

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Each of you brings emotional baggage and flaws into your relationship.  Be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts. Neither of you are perfect, just perfect for each other.
pearl When a woman is uncertain about a relationship she will either start asking questions about where the relationship is going or she will try to win him over, fix him, rescue him, change him or challenge him. When this happens men will either; be like a genie in a bottle and disappear, act like a turtle moving slow in the relationship, ignore, avoid, play dumb, become angry or start arguments which are indirect signals to let you know he is not on the same page with you.  Have a life.  Don’t give someone else sole responsibility for your happiness.

Notice and acknowledge when your mate is doing something right.  A big common mistake is taking each other for granted.  Remember to speak the languages of love (i.e. 1) touch, 2) thoughtful I’m thinking of you surprise gifts (they don’t have to be expensive), 3) acts of service, 4) quality time and 5) kind words).
Women ask God for these type of men.

1. The Unmarried Man –
There are too many women attempting have relationships with married men. Married men are not a candidate for single women to date… period! This includes married men who are separated (legally or otherwise). They are still married and not available to date. Married people have their own families and concerns to deal with. That being said, the unmarried man, who is devoted to the things of God, is the type of man you should be interested in dating. (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).

2. The Kingdom Seeker –
A man who is seeking God’s Will for His life will, not only seek out a woman to date, but will seek out his wife. The Bible says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (Matthew 6:33).  Ladies, you should be an asset; the thing that is *added* to him as he is FIRST seeking the kingdom of God.This is why I say, run as fast as you can for Jesus and the one who can keep up might be the one.

3. The Real Man –
No, I am not talking about machismo behavior (all the shoulders back, chest out, fist curling gestures and such)… Real men don’t need all of that. That’s what grown-boys do to get a woman’s attention. Real men “pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace” (2. Timothy 2:22). Real men regard women as a gift that is not to be taken advantage of; they see her as priceless and desire to cling to her (Matthew 19:5).   A real man’s character shows his high regard for a woman long before the dating stage.

4. The Learner –
A man who is in continual pursuit of knowledge is better equipped to handle life and execute on goals / plans. He should read, seek counsel, study continuously, etc… The Bible says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed”( Proverbs 15:22). Also, “My people are destroyed because of lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). A man who is willing to learn and gain knowledge in life should also be more open to gaining knowledge about love and having successful relationships.

5. The Multiplier –
A man shouldn’t just balance you out, he should constantly add to you. His presence should multiply your potential. He should add to the beauty of who you are and never take away from anything that is precious about you.  The Bible says, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” (1 Corinthians 15:33). The man you date should never cause you to compromise good morals. He should seek ways to support you in your values. His values should complement yours.

6. The Servant –
A man who has demonstrated a pattern of submitting to authorities in his life (leadership, pastors, parents, etc…) will also have an understanding of how to submit to God as the head of his life and, subsequently, how to commit to his future wife. The Bible says, “Obey your leaders and submit to them… Let them do this with joy and not with groaning,” (Hebrews 13:17). His positive attitude towards authority figures is an indication of his servant’s heart and also provides a picture of how he can be in a dating relationship.

7. The Consistent Man –
Emotions rise and fall, but character shows with consistency. The consistent man is not in a rush because he does not have poor intentions, nor is he interested in manipulating a woman to be led by her emotions). He will take his time to get to know you and will allow you to get to know him as well. The Bible says, “Whoever walks in integrity will be delivered, but he who is crooked in his ways will suddenly fall.” (Proverbs 28:18).  Over time, the consistent man’s good character will still stand, while the man with bad intentions will also come to light.

These 7 profiles of men written by Q. McCall

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