Do you have a man or a dog?

excerpt from my book “Love Smart with Your Heart” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

Yes, there are good, mature, loving, caring, responsible and faithful men.  This book is NOT male bashing.  This message helps women to discern bad behavior.  This message helps women to avoid stepping into a dog mess.  This message helps women to guard their heart.  This message helps women to understand how men and women are wired differently.  This message helps women to love smart and build a healthy self-esteem.

Yes, one of the great traits of dogs is that they are loyal.  Yet there are untamed, bad tempered and aggressive dogs that exhibit behavior you should be warned about.  There are some dogs that are too friendly with strangers and will go to anybody.  Some dogs have fleas that you can’t see.  Some dogs bark too much.  Some dogs just want to sleep all day and stay in the house.  Some dogs are good watch dogs and want to protect you.  Some dogs will bite you for no reason.  Many dogs make loyal and comforting companions and love you unconditionally.  And there are those men who are players for life…unfaithful roamers who justify their bad boy behavior by saying…”It’s just the dog in me…chasing the cat.”

Who let the dogs out?@!

A “player” and a “dog” know what to say and how to say it with charm to get what they want.

A dog is nicest when they want to be fed, they wag their tail.

After you give a man what he wants, without consideration for your own needs, values and lifestyles… you are setting  yourself up to be used and mistreated.

Dogs only go where they are fed.    Maintain your self-respect and self-esteem.  If you keep answering the phone and opening the door to your bedroom even though you are being mistreated… you are opening your heart and spirit to trouble, pain, more disrespect and abuse.

Once you stop feeding a stray dog, they stop coming around.

Unless he’s a puppy… have him tested, you don’t know where he’s been.

Don’t handle aggression with aggression.

Compliment good behavior. (good boy)

Understand that men are territorial.

Dogs are territorial.

Puppy love fades – they pant and beg when they don’t get what they want.

If he spends most of his time playing games (i.e. video, play station, sports)…you got a boy…not a man.

If his eyes still roam and he can’t resist flirting with other women or won’t delete the phone numbers from past relationships…he still wants to play…not stay.

Seek respect first.  Love takes time.

Observe family members and friends of your mate because they influence and shape their personality and lifestyle.

Some things dogs do just aren’t cute.  If you are cleaning up after his mess all the time. You don’t have a mature man.  If his pants are drooping like a diaper and he calls his place a “crib”, you’ve got a baby…not a man.

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Help for a Broken Heart

I’m smart in some areas of my life, but I was in the slow class of learning how to love smart with my heart.  I wasn’t alone in this class.  Many women are smart on their jobs, in college, operating their businesses, juggling schedules to care for children, aging parents, job, class, hair appointments and fitness classes.  But these same women have secretly mourned lost loves, they have; given away love, denied love, shared love, tried to buy love, been betrayed by love, got bankrupted and hurt by love.  Many were on a one-way street of love.  Many ignored the flashing red and yellow lights.  Many put their life on hold for years living with false hopes on holidays and weekends.  My slow learning classmates will tell you they were obsessed or depressed by love.  They will tell you how his “bad boy” risky behavior put her life in danger.  They will tell you how they sacrificed for their man; in prison, in a long distance relationship, the one who promised he “would get it together” or he convinced her was leaving his wife.  They will tell you they were caught by surprise when the romance stopped and mistreatment started. Many will say they chose to live in denial instead of living with truth. They will tell you they stayed in a loveless or abusive marriage.  They will tell you they were martyrs for their children or afraid of being alone so they put their heart on the “for sale” rack or even the “the clearance rack” rather than be alone. They will tell you they put their man on a pedestal and idolize him forsaking God, family and priorities for her self-presevation and peace of mind.  They will tell you took financial hits, emotional hits and physical hits from his hand instead being cherished with his heart.  They will tell you how they betrayed themselves by diminishing and dishonoring their own desires, worth, goals, virtue, time, body, heart and soul.  They will tell you how they suffered in silence as their crown of worthiness fell to the floor.  They will tell you they were not smart with their hearts.  Read “Love Smart with the Heart” in e-book/PDF format only $9.99 click here to order your copy now    If you want the book mailed to you, click here

You Have 2 Brains – Which one are you listening to?

Did you know your body has two (2) brains?  I was reminded of this medical revelation from an experience I had 20 years ago.  I was invited to inspire women living with HIV/Aids but I was the one who left encouraged after my brief encounter and hug from a sightless man who was there as one of the social workers.  I will always remember what this blind man said to me after finishing my keynote speech at a large health conference on a Tuesday in Southern California.  This sightless man stood patiently in my long book signing line to tell me something that has remained with me for 20 years.  When I doubt my purpose or ask God if I should stick with my passion when times are difficult or the speaking invitations come in slow… I remember what he said.  When I question my decision to quit my human resources job with a pay check every week to become self-employed…I remember what he said to me.  He did not see the dress I was wearing.    He did not see my performance of sign language to a Yolanda Adam’s song “Never Give Up.”  He did not see my handouts.   He did not see all the things I prepared to visually inspire and educate my audience.  He didn’t see all the external things that I took so much time planning for or worrying what other people saw or thought about me (e.g. how I looked, how I stood, what I was wearing, my printed handouts, my hair, my jewelry, my shoes, my nails, etc.)  This sightless man standing alone without any assistance but his cane said to me, “Thank you Jewel for following your golden gut.  You have touched my spirit.  I felt your energy and I am encouraged to go on.”  WOW!!  My golden gut!

Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of many researchers who studies brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior. Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings of being; guided, warned, nervous, sad, happy, in love, or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  Your gut feelings give you warnings and sometimes you may regretfully ignore what your gut (instincts) are telling you.  Your brain and “golden gut” are connected and communicate. My golden gut feeling (instincts, emotions, true north, God’s voice) guided me to quit my job and start my public speaking career in 1984.  Sometimes I question my decision.  But for the most part I’m glad I listened to my golden gut.  That sightless man saw in me the invisible.  He helped me to remember my “why” I wanted to make a difference.  I wanted the freedom of developing my own future.  I wanted to impact people’s lives in a positive way.  I wanted to express what God had revealed to me about love, faith, courage, wisdom, healing, self-esteem, resiliency, perseverance and purpose.  I had no mentors, no web site, no clue and no money but I began following my gut.

I consulted my first brain for logic and set a goal when I should begin my new golden career.  My first brain (mental) calls it risk taking.

My second brain (emotions) calls it a leap of faith.   My first brain wanted a plan.  My first brain was full of doubt and fear.  My second brain was full of excitement and gave me courage.  My second brain compelled me to follow my dream and my heart.   If you only listen to the logic in your first brain, the fear and rational thinking may paralyze you.  If you only listen to your second brain (emotions) without consulting your first brain (logic), you may impulsively make decisions you will soon regret.

What is your “golden gut” saying to you?  I hope you are inspired to discover the golden treasures and life purpose God has for you by listening to your second brain…your golden gut.  Pray that God will guide you to find your hidden golden treasures (Proverbs 2:4) ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor


I Teach 3 Things

The mind, body and spirit are one.  What your mind thinks affects your cells.  Your emotions are triggered by what you think and the level of your faith.  Your body is the host vessel for the Holy Spirit.  As you grow in any of your tri-dimensions, it affects your total well-being.  This principle has been the cornerstone of my teaching.  I refer to my speaking style and approach as a holistic one.  1. Biology (body) helps us to understand our bodies (i.e. nutrition, generational disease like alcoholism, diabetes, exercise, stress, etc.).  2. Psychology (mind), which was my major in college, helps us to understand perception, cognition, attention, emotion, motivation, brain functioning, personality,behavior, and interpersonal relationships, childhood, trauma, shame based issues, addictions, coping skills, attitude, choices, habits, etc.   3.  Spirituality (study of the Holy Spirit, God) helps us to build awareness, connection, gratitude, wonder, curiosity, honor and relationship with our Creator.  Spirituality is the revelation of the mystery and miracle of God around, through and in our lives and environment.  Spirituality is studying universal laws and the omnipresence of God who loves us.  Spirituality for me is about developing a relationship with the Divine, not a religion.  Study and practical application of Jesus teaches the way to live with compassion, restoration, forgiveness, mercy, grace, love for one another, serving humanity, to die to our selfish desires/ego/pride, suffering rising above our haters, persecutors and giants and posessing peace in the midst of our storms.

My perspective and style of teaching is what I call “SpiritPsyBio”, an integration of pursuing a better awareness and power by connecting the dots of the Spirit, our mind and our bodies.  I do my clients and audiences a big dis-service if I only address one dimension of their life.  I don’t separate, I integrate all three…mind, body and spirit.  I strive everyday through action, thought, words, gratitude and focus to align my mind with the divine.

I learned that it is difficult to motivate someone to change their self-destructive habits of procrastination, addiction, anger, depression or crime if I don’t seek to understand their psychological damage, mindset or maladaptive coping skills to survive because of poverty, lack of education, family dysfunction, racism, addictions, peer pressure or media messages.  As a minister, giving the word of God to someone sick in their body or psychologically wounded will not be enough for their breakthrough.  The whole person must be healed.  I can’t inspire someone to have more faith in God if I don’t address their line of thinking (brain).  Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of many researchers who studies brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior.  Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings, nervous, lonely, happy or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  The gut feelings give you warnings and sometimes you may ignore them to your regret.  95% of all serotonin in the body is in the gut, where it triggers digestion. Nerve cells in the gut also use serotonin to signal back to the brain. This information can train us not to eat certain foods by communicating pain, gas and other terrible feelings.  Just like the brain in your head, “gut brain” is also able to learn, remember, and produce emotion-based feelings.  We really do have feelings in our gut.  Our two brains communicate back and forth via a major nerve trunk extending down from the base of your brain all the way down into your abdomen. Because of this, your two brains directly influence each other.  When one brain becomes upset, the other joins right in.

If someone has body image issues or poor eating habits, I must start there before challenging them to build up their self-esteem.   I can’t motivate someone to write a book or start their business if they lack faith and don’t believe they were born on purpose with a purpose.  If someone lacks faith, it can affect the outcome of their surgery, marriage, business venture or ability to speak up in an abusive relationship, or buy their dream car or home.  Anything is possible with faith in God and action.

The achievement of success and progress in your life will be determined by the level of your faith, the health of your body and the thoughts you think.  Who you love, what you think, feel, eat, believe and do creates the life you live negatively or positively.  Your stress, relationships, emotions, lack of sleep, poor diet and lack faith can be the root for your illnesses, procrastination, depression, or drama. It is a fact that nearly 90% of diseases that afflict humans are self-induced.  You are a whole being.  So I teach and motivate the whole person.  As a personal success life coach offering one-on-one phone counseling, my approach is SpiritPsyBio.  I’m interested in your wellness by integrating what I have experienced and studied about Spirituality, Psychology and Biology.

The pillars of my vocation/ministry are: critical thinking, faith building, compassion, resiliency, gratitude, love, therapy (via storytelling, drama and music), women’s worth, leadership skills and community.

Where and with whom do you place your faith?  Are you willing to be transformed by the renewing of your mind?  Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?  Call me 323.964.1736 or e-mail

Testimony…Hi Jewel!
 I just wanted to reach out to you again to say thanks so much for being a true inspiration in my life! Your dynamic, inspiring coaching has helped me accelerate my goals with Meet Me on the Moon. For that, I am sooo grateful!!!   

Please know that I still want to do the book writing coaching with you.  Realistically, I should be able to start the book writing coaching after the holidays…I am so looking forward to working with you again to get book writing tips and strategies to give birth to the book!  
Not sure if you saw my newest brochure.  It’s attached.  I remember our coaching call when you advised me to have marketing materials that speak for me.  I hired another graphics designer.  Again, you have no idea how much you helped me and are helping me!!!  Thanks!!!!!! 🙂  
I will be in touch as soon as I am ready.
P.S.  I like your new branding “The Success Navigator”  That is awesome!!!

Many blessings, Enrika