“As a one-on-one life coach I have worked with numerous people who, on the verge of important accomplishments and breakthroughs – procrastinate, stop their sessions, doubt themselves, get distracted and sabotage their own success. It beats getting their hopes up and having somebody else dash them — especially if that’s been a frequent experience in life. By extinguishing your own hopes, your unconscious is trying to protect you from the rejection that has already happened in the past. The pain you know is familiar, and by causing it yourself … you at least feel in control. You know how things will turn out since, without realizing it, you have unconsciously set yourself up for failure. (e.g. “See I knew it wasn’t going to work out!” or “My (Mom, Dad, husband, wife, friends) were right, I shouldn’t try this.”
People often say they procrastinate because there are lazy. No, I suggest they put off a daunting task because they are afraid they will not be good enough to accomplish it. Or what if they do, and still feel empty inside? Not trying and making excuses is a way to keep alive the hope that things will still work out in the future. Acting mean, nasty and combative is a way to sabotage relationships and jobs to fulfill a prophesy of failure and rejection. By unconsciously repeating self-defeating patterns that lead to failed relationships, rejection, financial struggle, addictive behavior, or dead ends…you are fulfilling your own prophecy that you are unworthy, bad, stupid or that life is unfair.
What is your personality type when it comes to; using your influence, responding to conflict, going after your goals, coping with stress or believing in your prayers and gifts? Are you an approacher or an avoider? Are you passive or aggressive? Are you an optimist or a pessimist? Do you procrastinate or are you proactive? Are you easily offended and defensive or are you emotionally resilient? Are you a grumbler or do you wake up grateful? Are you praying or playing around wasting time on minor tasks to avoid your major tasks? Are you easily distracted or focused? Are you letting people and/or circumstances drive you crazy or are you driven with passion, purpose, focus and faith to manifest your heart’s desire? Are you closed or open to new experiences and the flow of life? Do you run away from your problems with excuses or do you confront them with faith, courage and action?
Get focused. Get energized. Get going. Get back your joy. Get inspired. Get an “I’m gettin’ up out of my situation” attitude. Get closer to people on fire! Get the resources and tools that can help you get closer to your goals. Get some self-control. Get some courage. Get real. Get on fire! Get up!” Click here to listen to excerpt from my CD “Get Your BUT Out of the Way.”