Why People Give Up and Quit!

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People don’t typically enjoy quitting. People usually are seeking stability/belonging, connection and a place to make a contribution and grow.

People don’t like leaving their jobs, they leave their poor leader/boss/poor management.
People don’t quit on God, they quit the church leader,the members, church hurt.
People don’t quit friendship, they quit haters, dysfunction and unequally yoked relationships.
People don’t quit on marriage, they quit the person who stopped being loving and/or being faithful to them.
People don’t want to quit living, they just want the pain, drama, hatred, abuse, loneliness, and dysfunction to end.
People don’t quit class/college, they quit the boring/ineffective teachers.

People quit dreaming and going after their goals because they lack support, faith, good health/energy, good coaching and mentors.

People quit because they never learned how to endure tough times.  If their life has a history of comfort, spoiled by parents, sheltered from pain and struggle, always had a job, home, money, car or support…they will be easily frustrated when faced with difficulty, obstacles and loss.

It’s unrealistic to think you can control everything or agree with every aspect of a project,relationship, group, church, job, etc.  But some people quit easily when they can’t control everything or have everything their way.  Commitment means staying loyal long after that great feeling you had when you first started has diminished or gone. Commitment is about staying and sticking way past what is convenient, comfortable or controllable.

Some people never learned how to cope, endure, be resilient or press through their pain. Champions, athletes, freedom fighters, single parents, cancer survivors and soldiers are examples of people who learned how to never give up in spite of their physical or emotional pain.

Your body may be tired, but stay inspired. Your way may be hard and long, just don’t lose your faith and song. Don’t give up even though you think no one appreciates you. Don’t give up even though you think God has forsaken you. You may be comparing your life to someone else’s progress. You may be giving too many of the wrong people access to your joy, talents, dreams, time, heart and ear gate. Get up one more time. Your life is worth living. When I come up against a wall of grief, discouragement and delays, I have learned how important it is to encourage myself.”

~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, Leadership Workshop Trainer, http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net

Broken But Blessed

“I have certainly learned that being broken and blessed can happen at the same time.

It’s a paradox.  The two words should not be in the same sentence.

crayonsAs I hold these broken pieces of crayons I realize I have two choices.  I could throw them away.  Or I could still use them to color.

Whenever you and I feel broken I believe we can still use the pieces of our brokenness to color our life and others around us with gratitude, joy, kindness, service, love and courage.

Sure, life can give you a swift kick in the gut and break your heart.  I pray you are able to be resilient and COLOR again.  Pain and loss have taught me to color my life with compassion, a sense of humor, to enjoy each moment and let go of clutter.  I’m learning to color my life with simplicity, humility, gratitude and faith that sustains me even in my sorrow.   The enemy to your soul can make you feel useless, worthless and broken beyond repair.  The truth is you are stronger than you think.  The truth is life doesn’t offer you joy or pain, sunshine or rain, blessings or brokenness … it is joy AND pain, sunshine AND rain, blessings AND brokenness.  The truth is God will never leave you nor forsake you.  Pain is your invitation to begin the process of healing from the struggle, sadness, shame, secrets, silent screams and suffering.  If you feel stuck, insecure and broken…. pick up the broken pieces and discover a peace that surpasses all understanding…that is your gift of grace from God.

Get rid of clutter, anger, depression, toxic relationships and grudges.  Forgiveness and resiliency are the rebirth of hope, a renewing of your mind.  Declare and decree, “It’s not over.  I will bounce back.  I will not break.  I am more than a conqueror.  I take my power and joy back.  I will not live like a victim, but as a victorious woman/man.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net

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Take Yourself Off the Hook

QUESTION FOR THE SELF-ESTEEM DR. FROM SHELLEY: “Dr. Jewel I’m in my 50’s now and I feel like a failure. I feel like many opportunities for love, money, career advancement and my weight image have passed me by. I feel stuck, lonely and embarrassed when I see what other people around me have accomplished. I was recently laid off my job and too ashamed to tell my family and friends about my fears and financial struggles. I even missed going to our family reunion to avoid the questions and judgment. Just to get out of the bed each day is a struggle.  Thank you so much for your web site and the weekly newsletters you send out. I have been saving them for years but now I need to know how to start applying what you write about. I’m sorry I missed your recent speaking engagement in Atlanta but this heavy depression has me on lock down. Did you record your message?”

JEWEL DIAMOND TAYLOR’S RESPONSE: Thank you Shelley for writing me. No, my recent Atlanta message was not recorded. Based on the feedback from my audience, I believe you would have been inspired and blessed to pull yourself out of this pit. We all make mistakes, fail, procrastinate, make the wrong turn, miss golden opportunities and make wrong decisions at some point. We all go through a painful time of reassessing our lives and realizing we were either misinformed, uninspired, in denial, busy helping others, lazy, disconnected from the right people, scattered our time, love and money on the wrong things or wrong people, hoping someone would come along and save us or do what needed to be done for us.
downward spiral of emotions     If you internalize, obsess and judge yourself based on a failed marriage, being single, your bank account, your education, your dress size, your past of missed opportunities or social/economic status, you will never grow out of your negative self-evaluating patterns, self-loathing and down spiraling emotions.

You will only grow out of this from desperation or inspiration. Unfortunately, most people are not motivated by pleasure but their painful circumstances.      Your message sounds like your pain is motivating you to seek help. It’s time to take yourself off the hook. You gain nothing by being angry with yourself, resentful, depressed, critical or defeated.  The opposite of beating yourself up is practicing self-care, compassion and self-motivation. I promise you…you are not alone. Shame is a powerful stronghold, but this chain can be broken. You have new choices and new steps you can take. I pray you TAKE YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK.off the hook

Read inspirational/motivational books like mine and other authors. Declare that you will encourage yourself.  Your worth is not just measured by what you own or accomplished or your marital status.  You are worthy in God’s sight. You can still leave your mark. You can still touch lives and find inner peace.  You can still move forward, not on a broken road, but a blessed road of faith, action, courage, purpose, humility and love.  If you can’t get excited and motivated about your own goal…enlist to help, assist, volunteer and share your experiences, time and talents as a dream pusher for a person/organization you believe in. Open your windows, listen to some upbeat music, make your gratitude list, nurture new relationships, make an appointment with me for some awesome, life changing, effective and healing coaching/counseling.  I know how it feels to grieve in your heart for people and opportunities lost.   Shake out your garment of despair that’s been hanging on that hook. Put on a garment of praise.  The book of Isaiah says to those who grieve in Zion that God will give you a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.  Thank God for His grace and mercy which as brought you this far.  You are still here.

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As Morgan Freeman’s character says in the movie Shawshank Redemption,“Get busy living or get busy dying…..there ain’t nothing in between.

I look forward to hearing from you soon. Stay in the light.”                ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net, 323.964.1736, e-mail me Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net

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