Depression thrives on fear and hopelessness. If your brain is worn out by thinking about stress, anxiety, doom, shame and “what if”…your brain gets exhaustion from the rumination and lack of good sleep. When your brain is flooded with stress hormones, it is difficult for your brain to see new perspectives, possibilities and hope. Shame and low self-esteem thrive on silence, secrecy, judgment and isolation which is the perfect breeding ground for addictions.
As a life coach I help others to find creative ways to get unstuck and calm their thinking and reframe their identity from shame to hope to healing to resiliency.
Call 323.964.1736 to schedule your one-on-one time with Jewel Diamond Taylor or email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com
“Fear, pain and setbacks can be paralyzing, traumatizing and terrorizing. Life isn’t always easy. Parenting, marriage, care giving, paying your bills, living with abuse, financial stress, dysfunctional families, illness, operating your business/ministry, loneliness, grief, betrayal, an unfulfilling job, college, or poverty aren’t easy.
Some people drop out of life and drop into addiction, depression, despair, crime, toxic relationships, self-loathing or anger. Some people haven’t learned how to cope and overcome their troubled childhood, abuse, poverty, family secrets, past setbacks or personal pain. So they defend themselves from the pain by learning some very counterproductive behavior … procrastinating, isolating, depression, addictions, lying, silence, withdrawal, victimization, extreme joking/humor, fantasy, disconnecting, extreme busyness minimize or rationalize their pain or abuser’s behavior. Depression causes thinking in all-or-nothing extremes which makes depressed ones resistant to new thoughts, support and change. Depression is closely rated to low self-esteem, which hinders a depressed person from seeing their worth and possibilities. Unfortunately, many people who have been burned out, hurt, and traumatized learn to; not feel, not trust, not talk and pretend nothing is happening.
When you go through a terrible experience in your life, you decide what it means. You can say it is unfair, horrible and you identify yourself as a victim, loser, unlovable or a failure. Or you can say it was a life lesson. You can perceive it as a permanent or temporary inconvenience. You determine whether you will live with blame, shame, grudges or peace. The story you tell yourself will either limit and define you as a victim. Or your story will be about overcoming, healing, moving forward, forgiveness, creating a new normal, faith, courage, perseverance and resiliency.
As the Self-esteem Dr./Life Coach for women, I provide an emotional safe place to help women come out of their psychological safe hiding place to feel, deal and heal their emotions that are sabotaging their relationships, success, happiness, health, peace and purpose.
My prayer for you today is that you will find a mustard seed of faith and hope to believe you can make it through your wilderness. Don’t let your past or setbacks define, discourage, defeat, deter, distract or destroy you. My prayer for you is Numbers 6:24-26.” Call me 323.964.1736 or email me JewelMotivates@gmail.com to schedule a one-on-one life coaching/counseling session with me.
- “Dreams are lovely. But they are just dreams. Fleeting, ephemeral, pretty. But dreams do not come true just because you dream them. It’s hard work that makes things happen. It’s hard work that creates change.” – Shonda Rimes
- “Any time women come together with a collective intention, it’s a powerful thing. Whether it’s sitting down making a quilt, in a kitchen preparing a meal, in a club reading the same book, or around the table playing cards, or planning a birthday party, when women come together with a collective intention, magic happens.” – Phylicia Rashad
- “The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself. You have to embrace getting older. Life is precious and when you have lost a lot of people, you realize that each day is a gift.” – Meryl Streep
- “One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.” – Michelle Obama
- “Whenever I feel bad, I use that feeling to motivate me to work harder. I only allow myself one day to feel sorry for myself. When I’m not feeling my best I ask myself, ‘What are you gonna do about it?’ I use the negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me.” – Beyoncé
- “Sometimes you have to let everything go – purge yourself. If you are unhappy with anything – whatever is bringing you down – get rid of it. Because you will find that when you are free, your true creativity, your true self comes out.” — Tina Turner
- “War is not a computer-generated missile striking a digital map. War is the color of earth as it explodes in our faces, the sound of child pleading, the smell of smoke and fear. Women survivors of war are not the single image portrayed on the television screen, but the glue that holds families and countries together. Perhaps by understanding women, and the other side of war … we will have more humility in our discussions of wars… perhaps it is time to listen to women’s side of history. Everything can be taken from you in a second, but the human spirit is so strong. War can teach you so much about evil and so much about good.” – Humanitarian Zainab Salbi
- “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” – Oprah Winfrey
- “I believe that the privilege of a lifetime is being who you are, truly being who you are. And I’ve spent far too long apologizing for that—my age, my color, my lack of classical beauty—that now at the age of, well, at the age of 46, I’m very proud to be Viola Davis, for whatever it’s worth.” —during her speech accepting the 2012 Crystal Award for Excellence in Film
- “Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They’re what make the instrument stretch, what make you go beyond the norm.Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. They’re what make the instrument stretch, what make you go beyond the norm.” – Cicely Tyson
- “I’m a parent, and I try to take care of my health and keep my life in order. In the last few years I’ve really had to decide what’s important to me, and it seems to me that my family and my health are top on the list. And those have nothing to do with show business.” – Diana Ross
- “Shift happens in life. Develop your faith, courage, connections and resiliency to bounce back like a palm tree…bend… but don’t break.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor