Even though our society enjoys the benefits of technology, fast food, Amazon, Netflix, emails, smartphones and same day dry cleaning…these conveniences have affected our ability to be patient. We live expecting, craving and even demanding instant gratification. There is no APP in the digital world to replace the long process of building relationships or building your business, ministry or friendships. There are no shortcuts.
We want to; lose weight instantly, be promoted instantly, fall in love instantly, receive the hits and “likes” on our Instagram, twitter or facebook posts. etc. There is a process to become; sober, graduate from college, parent your children, develop your confidence, build trust in friendship, mature in your marriage, recover and heal from loss, or have your book to become a best seller.
Be aware of the two demons that can kill your self-worth, patience, faith, and endurance. Craving instant gratification and comparing yourself to others on social media, at church, on your job or what you see on TV has caused an increase of people and youth being easily bored, depressed and addicted to substances to numb their pain. You need faith, time, patience, stamina and coping skills to achieve your goals.
Do not believe the things you tell yourself when you are sad or alone. When you are frustrated and impatient what kind of temptation is knocking on your door (e.g. give up, emotional eating/spending, gambling, deceit/cheat, drugs/alcohol, shut down, disconnect, procrastination)?
If you’re always tired, hungry, lonely, mad, sad, rushed, stuck, scattered, depressed or stressed, you’ll increase the likelihood of giving into temptation. Be careful of the “what-the-hell attitude.” It’s a slippery slope that leads to disaster.
You were born to succeed and overcome those tricks, traps and emotional triggers.
Simply knowing you have to be accountable for your actions keeps you focused on a habit change. Regularly communicate with someone who shares a similar desire to make a lasting change.
~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, keynote speaker, author, life coach, emotional wellness educator, http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net
All your times of seeing trauma, abuse, racism, harassment, rescuing and helping others, juggling your own daily demands/drama, job, family, bills, health, and stress, watching constant news cycle on TV or facebook and disregarding my your health…can cause things to started crashing down in your life. If you are not mindful, you could experience a breakdown feeling overwhelmed, vulnerable and exhausted. There are numerous emotional and physical disorders that have been linked to stress including depression, anxiety, heart attacks, stroke, hypertension, immune system disturbances that increase susceptibility to infections, a host of viral linked disorders ranging from the common cold and herpes to AIDS and certain cancers, as well as autoimmune diseases like rheumatoid arthritis and multiple sclerosis. In addition stress can have direct effects on the skin (rashes, hives, atopic dermatitis, the gastrointestinal system (peptic ulcer, irritable bowel syndrome, ulcerative colitis) and can contribute to insomnia and degenerative neurological disorders like Parkinson’s disease. It’s hard to think of any disease in which stress cannot play an aggravating role or any part of your body that is not affected.
1. Frequent headaches, jaw clenching or pain, grinding teeth3. Stuttering or stammering
4. Tremors, trembling of lips, hands
5. Neck ache, back pain, muscle spasms
6. Light headedness, faintness, dizziness
7. Ringing, buzzing or “popping sounds
8. Frequent blushing, sweating
9. Cold or sweaty hands, feet
10. Dry mouth, problems swallowing
11. Frequent colds, infections, herpes sores
12. Rashes, itching, hives, “goose bumps”
13. Unexplained or frequent “allergy” attacks
14. Heartburn, stomach pain, nausea
15. Excess belching, flatulence
16. Constipation, diarrhea, loss of control
17. Difficulty breathing, frequent sighing
18. Sudden attacks of life threatening panic
19. Chest pain, palpitations, rapid pulse
20. Frequent urination
21. Diminished sexual desire or performance
22. Excess anxiety, worry, guilt, nervousness
23. Increased anger, frustration, hostility
24. Depression, frequent or wild mood swings
25. Increased or decreased appetite
26. Insomnia, nightmares, disturbing dreams27. Difficulty concentrating, racing thoughts
28. Trouble learning new information
29. Forgetfulness, disorganization, confusion
30. Difficulty in making decisions
31. Feeling overloaded or overwhelmed
32. Frequent crying spells or suicidal thoughts
33. Feelings of loneliness or worthlessness
34. Little interest in appearance, punctuality
35. Nervous habits, fidgeting, feet tapping
36. Increased frustration, irritability, edginess
37. Overreaction to petty annoyances
38. Increased number of minor accidents
39. Obsessive or compulsive behavior
40. Reduced work efficiency or productivity
41. Lies or excuses to cover up poor work
42. Rapid or mumbled speech
43. Excessive defensiveness or suspiciousness
44. Problems in communication, sharing
45. Social withdrawal and isolation
46. Constant tiredness, weakness, fatigue
47. Frequent use of over-the-counter drugs
48. Weight gain or loss without diet
49. Increased smoking, alcohol or drug use
50. Excessive gambling or impulse buying