What to do when SHIFT happens

The following is an excerpt from Jewel Diamond Taylor’s book “ShiFt Happens”

     Life can be a journey or a “trip” — Are you going to be a whiner or a winner in life? An African proverb teaches, “It rains on everyone’s roof.”

    The same thing can happen to two different people and they respond differently.  One person can receive troubling news about their health and feel bitter, afraid, and believe life is unfair.  Another one could receive the same diagnosis and feel hopeful and motivated to change their food choices and let go of any stressors in their life.  One can be pessimistic and the other optimistic.  One can live in fear and the other in faith.  One can feel like a victim and the other can feel victorious because of their thinking, actions, surroundings, and prayer life.  One could drown in their tears and fears and other could drop their long and strong anchor of faith.

 It’s not always the shift situation that causes unhappiness. It’s your thoughts about it. 

You may feel tired…get inspired !

Instead of thinking you are being punished…change your perspective to realize you are being PUSHED to deepen your faith, courage, resiliency, compassion, and coping skills.

 

Get equipped so you can’t be whipped by stress.

    Your shiFt could be a troubling marriage, parenting, seeking employment, illness, layoff, unexpected debt, looking for housing, slow business sales, a car accident, or suddenly you find yourself care giving for an aging parent.  Seasons of shifting, shaking, and storming may last for a long or a short time.  Your anchor of faith must be strong and long to endure your storm.  Suggested scripture Psalm 46:1-3

    You must be focused and yet know how to adapt to change and unexpected circumstances.   

     SHIFT happens!  Changes will happen without your permission.  In spite of a good plan and good intentions, you will need to know how to adjust, adapt, and regroup.   

Don’t quit because you’re alone.
Don’t quit because it’s tough.
Don’t quit because you’re out of your comfort zone.
Don’t quit because you’re mad.
Don’t quit because you’re sad.
Don’t quit because no one seems to help or care.
Don’t quit because it’s taking so long.
Don’t quit because you see no reward.
Don’t quit because you think it’s too late.
Don’t quit…stick with it.
Speak victory into your life.
Speak success into your life.
Speak determination into your life.
Speak love into your life.
Speak strength and courage into your life.

This post is an excerpt from Jewel Diamond Taylor’s e-book and audio book CD. To continue being inspired to overcome the SHIFT in your life, send your donation to Jewel’s Women on the Grow, Inc. 501c3 ministry click here.

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7 Tips – How to Self-Care Without Apology

Self-Care Pearls of Wisdom from

Jewel Diamond Taylor

 

1. Remember “No” is a complete sentence. Teach others how to respect your personal boundaries.  Guard your heart and peace of mind.  If your next decision or a request of your time, body, money, skills, or trust will take away from your peace mind…the cost is too expensive.

2. Taking care of yourself is not selfish or a luxury, it is necessary for your emotional and mental health.  Honor your emotions and don’t deny or suppress them.  Take a deep breath and assess your body, environment, and emotional triggers.  Sometimes I just simply sit in my car for an hour in a safe parking lot or even my driveway to exhale, have a good cry, get my praise on, listen to music, pray, get still, decompress, or listen to an audio book or watch a video.  I even listen to my own inspirational CDs! 

Give yourself permission to push the “pause” button.   If necessary, don’t answer every phone call, delegate duties, take a nap, stop talking, or go on a fast.   If you keep giving away pieces of yourself … there will soon be nothing left of you.  You always make sure your mobile phone is charged … do the same for your mind, body, and spirit.  Recharge your soul.

Self-care is critical for those who are caregivers for family members with special needs or aging parents.  The isolation and stress can affect your health.  Seek help and carve out some time to exhale and take care of your health before you crash with exhaustion, resentment, faith fatigue, or illness.

3. You cannot help others from an empty cup. Take care of yourself with good rest, boundaries, hobbies, water, nutritious food, some form of regular body movement (e.g. walking, stretching, gym, water aerobics) and remember to take a MeCation, StayCation, Vacation or retreat.

4. Strengthen your self-esteem and guard your heart, time, goals, money, lifestyle, and peace of mind.  No more people pleasing.  Be alert to manipulators, toxic, selfish, abusive, needy people, and boundary bullies.

5. If you are always the go-to person and the giver, learn how to receive. Delegate and learn how to ask for what you want or need.  Yes, I know how being a parent or always the one who helps friends and family in a crisis can become your identity and your norm.  Be careful of those who take advantage because you are the “rescuer” or their personal ATM.  Let go and teach others how to develop their own coping skills, responsibility, and faith in God. 

6. Gain coping skills, resiliency, faith, and self-determination to recover from setbacks, loss/grief, abuse, divorce, the empty next, surgery, loneliness, or illness.  Losing both my parents, in-laws, friends, and my 38 year old son to cancer taught me that grief has no clock.  It’s important for your emotional health to give yourself the gift of good friends, time and space to heal, and coping skills so you are equipped and not whipped by those overwhelming feelings of grief and depression.  

7. Improve your inner-self talk. Think, speak, and act as an overcomer and not a victim. “God is within her and she will not fail.” Psalm 46:5

For one-on-one coaching/counseling with Jewel Diamond Taylor aka The Self-esteem Dr. and the EmpowHERment Coach, call 323.964.1736, or emailJewelMotivates@gmail.com

21 Quotes to Get Through Tough Times

1. “When your  personal storm comes, be so rooted in your faith that you stand like a palm tree…you bend, but you don’t break.” – Jewel Diamond Taylor

2.  “Family and friends can be a tonic or toxic.  You don’t have to give up on them.  Just give them UP to God.  Being a fixer and rescuer can be exhausting and unhealthy.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

3. “Dream.  Let nothing dim the light that shines in you.” – Maya Angelou

4.  When your chest is heavy with stress, anger, fear, anxiety, and grief…stop and take a few deep breaths.  Lose the weight of other people’s burdens, expectations, demands, and opinions.  Exhale stress…inhale peace.  Exhale anxiety…inhale courage.  Exhale fear and inhale faith.  You got this.

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6.  “Problems grab us where we are weak.  They’re a call to get strong and master that area of our life.” – Tony Robbins

7. “All relationships go through hell.  Some GROW through it.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

8.  “Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.” – Theodore N. Vail

9.  “Our fatigue is often caused not by work… but by worry, frustration, and resentment.” – Dale Carnegie

10. “Lighten your stress load.  Let go of people, projects, and problems that are not your assignment.” – Jewel Diamond Taylor

11.  “Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don’t pray when it rains if you don’t pray when the sun shines.”  – Leroy Satchel Paige

12. “Your struggle is real and so is God’s grace and mercy.  At any moment, any day, you can experience a breakthrough.  Shift happens and no one said life is fair or easy.  Trust the process. Read 1 Corinthians 2:9″ – Jewel Diamond Taylor

13.  This…too…shall pass.

14. ” It`s not the load that breaks you down, it`s the way you carry it.” – Lena Horne

15. Adversity is a fact of life. It can’t be controlled. What we can control is how we react to it.  – Unknown

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17. “The true test of a person’s character is how they stand during test of adversity.   Are you experiencing a crisis, conflict, or unwelcomed change?  These are defining moments which reveal your true character and faith.  Will you be destroyed, defeated, or determined to be resilient?” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

18.  God’s promises He will never leave you or forsake you.  “And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.” Phil 4:19    Put feet to your faith.  You have to get up and walk by faith.  Fear leads to paralysis.  Action leads to satisfaction. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

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20.  “Quitting can become a habit.  Stick don’t quit.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

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