Newsletter Update April 26,2021

Feedback from a MARRIED COUPLE who are receiving weekly counseling with the Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor:

I’m realizing the dysfunctional relationship I have had for so many years of rejections and criticism from mother has effected my marriage. You have helped me to understand why I am so hard on myself and constantly trying to prove my love to my wife.

My wife and I learned some real good communication skills. We can see a difference in the way we are dealing with our disagreements…I am learning to respond and not react.

I can really see a difference in my husband. I can see he is really tryiing to change and think before he blows up with anxiety and impatience.

We are learning how to be more honest about our feelings and triggers. Thank you Dr. Jewel for these weekly sessions. We are telling other couples about your counseling service.

Feedback from SEVERAL WOMEN who share their takeway from their sessions with The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor:

. I am more of an avoidant mom than a smothering mom.  I don’t like feeling smothered or too bothered and I get overwhelmed with conflict or responsibility  because I was such a young mom and I was a single mom for most of my children’s lives so I avoid stuff to protect my self.

. My parents did they best they could but I didnt have  a perfect model of parenting and I am parenting from some of those same flawed parenting techniques.

. I may have wrong expectations about the type of parent I can be and I need to practice more self compassion.

. I am struggling to confront and draw boundaries with my mother who is manipulative, emotionally distant, and shows me no respect. You are helping me to accept the reality of her personality and this dysfunctional relationship. I am drained emotionally and it is affecting other areas of my life.

. As a young woman who had a lot of bad decisions with men, you are giving me guidance and helping me to move forward after some deep depression, feeling suicidal, angry, and ashamed. I’m so glad my Grandmother referred me to you for counseling and coaching. I now have 2 new jobs and accepted to go go to community college.

. I can feel the pain but I don’t have to feed it. (For me the feeding is with shopping and eating, and I buying my kids stuff so they wont feel pain and I wont feel guilty.)

. No more secrets I don’t have to be ashamed of my past.  I can be vulnerable and transparent, it is freeing!

. I am gaining so much clarity and feeling free from guilt, shame , and always being the giver, fixer, and go-to person in my family. It’s my time now to start finding out what I want, need, and deserve. My life has been about helping everybody for so many years and now these sessions are strengthening my self-esteem and I’m taking some positive actions to let go and reduce the drama and stress I’ve been feeling for years.

. Generational patterns are repeating themselves, I’m seeing my daughters are making some of my same mistakes.  Divorce, unwed mom, being with men that are broken and don’t value selves and finding men that don’t value them.

. I share too much business with my children because I haven’t had a spouse for many years.

. You helped me to see that we can shine on our jobs and fail at home.

. I need to recognize and acknowledge the things I was running from or I will leave a trail behind me.It may make me uncomfortable at first but it is liberating.

To contact The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor for one-on-one life coaching or counseling, email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com or call 323.964.1736

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Wednesday, April 28,4:00 pm (Pacific) onThe Blend Talk Show facebook page. Season 2 is everything you need to know to start healing from the impact that #covıd 19 has had on your mind, body, and spirit.

The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor will be a speaker for The Wellness Group – Breast Health Awareness celebrating 20 Years of Empowering Women! The Wellness Group presents our 20th Annual Healthy Lifestyle Forum, “Embrace the Woman You Are,” on Saturday, May 1, from 10 a.m. to 11:30 a.m., via Zoom. The event will offer dynamic and powerful presentations, educational materials, product samples, gifts and prizes. Admission is free with registration. To register, visit https://twg20thannualhealthylifestyleforum.eventbrite.com
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Updates April 18, 2021

Change is – a different way of doing

Transformation is – a different way of being

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If you have a cold, the flu, a cut, stomach ache, head ache or nausea… you probably have some of these in your medicine cabinet. But do you have the tools to deal with your emotional pain of worry, shame, childhood abuse, anger, depression, regrets, grief, disappointments, loneliness, feeling unworthy, fears, doubts, low self-esteem, procrastination or feeling stressed?
When we are hurt physically in our bodies…we don’t hesitate to seek relief. But why do we ignore our emotional pain (mind/heart)?
Fear of being judged and ridiculed by your family, friends, church, job, and society can make feel shame…which only complicates and prolongs your ability to heal and thrive.
Did you realize your emotional pain undiagnosed, not treated, denied, suppressed, or ignored could be the cause of your unhappiness, sickness, broken relationships, addictions, weight gain, insomnia, and joyless living? What’s in your “wellness cabinet?” What emotional wounds do you have?

  1. Cuts, nausea, depression and headaches from caused by rejection and heart ache.
  2. The relationship muscle weakness of loneliness. The longer you go without relating closely to others, the more difficult it becomes to reestablish contact with new people, or even get back in touch with the old friends you’ve drifted away from.
  3. Broken bones of loss and trauma can shatter and destroy your life, relationships, career, and health. Your post traumatic stress untreated can cause you to make assumptions about the world and feel that it’s not as safe a place as you once thought. I will continue sharing more of my list 7 points about this message of emotional healing next week in my Master Class “The Filling Station” Sunday, April 25, 3:00 PM (Pacific)…6 PM (Eastern)
    Today, Sunday, April 18, my topic is “The 12 Seats in God’s Waiting Room” to register, email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Upcoming speaking engagements

Wednesday, February 21 – FDIC Administrative Professional Day

Saturday, May 1 – Wellness Group 20th Annual Virtual Healthy Lifestyle Forum – Free – register at https://twg20thannualhealthylifestyleforum.eventbrite.com

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Saturday, June 5 – Being About My Sister’s Business, Azure Hotel and Suites, Ontario, CA

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Remember to listen to my popular podcast. Additional audios are added frequently. Thank you for listening, supporting, and sharing this link https://jewelspodcasts.buzzsprout.com

To schedule your one-on-one counseling or coaching by phone or video, call 323.964.1736 or email JewelMotivates@gmail.com

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The pain of words lasts longer than a physical wound.

Sometimes you need to seek counseling and help because the wounded or stressful people in your life won’t seek counseling. What words did someone say to you that keep ruminating in your head? Did someone mock you and you began to think you were unworthy, stupid, unlovable, undesirable, ugly, or a failure? Did someone cause you to feel invisible, unheard, or crazy? Did somone think of you as their default relationship and only with you when it was convenient for them?

A wound is a wound. The pain of words lasts longer than a physical wound. The tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart. I’m counseling a young lady now who is devastated and almost suicidal because the man she loves broke her heart, used her, took her money, and pride. She is finding it difficult to understand that the one who broke her … can’t be the one to fix her. She is caught up in a spell. Her love hangover has her doubting herself, hiding in shame, and constantly replaying in her mind the lies and disappointments. It takes time to heal and gain a new perspective and insight about yourself from being betrayed and/or abused. Taking back your power, joy, value, and your true identity is a process. You can’t change the experience from your past but you can learn to live in the now. You can learn to change the emotion attached the experience. You can smile again. You can see yourself through a lens of compassion, worthiness, victorious, beautiful, smart, strong, and resilient.

You can go without oxgen for 3 minutes. You can go without water for 3 days. You can go without food for 3 weeks. But every waking moment you are thinking, feeling, and choosing all day. Your thoughts and imagination can be digging you deeper into a pit of despair, self-pity, shame, depression, hopelessness, and low self-esteem. Once you start recognizing your train of thoughts, habits, and behaviors … you can begin to observe and redirect your thoughts to create a new narrative. Positive affirmations are good…but not enough to create lasting change. Talk therapy, meditation, healthy food choices, some form of creativity, journaling, reading, and associating with people who can help you grow are prescriptions for your mental and emotional wellness. As a counselor/life coach, I have been supporting so many women on their journey of reclaiming their personal power and breaking generational patterns of abuse, neglect, secrets, shame, guilt, depression, dysfunction, and emotional thugs.

I talk to many people who are seriously committed to their physical fitness (e.g. the gym, counting calories, running, walking, etc.). Just know for sure, It’s also important to gain mental and emotional fitness. This is especially critical in these times as stress factors like racism, violence, increase in care giving for the elderly, and the disruption of lives and livelihood from the pandemic are happening.

My strengths in offering life coaching are from my experience as a wife, mother, grandmother, author, entrepreneur, women’s retreat leader, my studies in psychology, and being seasoned international conference speaker.

I focus on self-esteem issues, relationships, pursuing your purpose, overcoming strongholds of procrastination, fear, shame, anger, grief, and past trauma.

The sessions are by phone or video conferencing. I offer you a fresh perspective, encouragement, clarity, wisdom, non-judgment and a call to action towards your peace, self-worth, purpose and goals. My purpose is to help you build up your faith, confidence, focus, and take steps for what you want to achieve. I accomplish this by helping YOU discover what coping skills, limiting beliefs, emotional masks, or sabotaging habits you have which are hindering your growth and happiness.

Feel free to call me to ask specific questions, 323.964.1736.

I can facilitate your session with me by phone or Zoom. Listen to my recent podcast conversation with a young lady who grew up with abusive, neglectful, and alcoholic parents, a mother with mental illness, and moved over 20 times. Her youth was very disruptive, unstable, and traumatic. She shares in this podcast how she made a choice to break out of the cycle and benefited from learning from my sessions, conferences, books, counseling, and mentoring. click here

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