3 types of people…which one are you?

Imagine you are on a beach. As you approach the crashing waves and scent of the salt water…you notice 3 men.

  • The first man is constructing the most elaborate sand castles. He is intentional, focused, and feeling good about his work. He is not aware that the incoming tide will destroy all that he’s built. This man ignores the reality of the situation and is constantly surprised, upset, angry, disappointed, and feels like a victim when the sand castles return to their source.
  • The second man sees the inevitability of the incoming tide and decides not to build any sandcastles–he stands unyielding and discouraged. What’s the point? His overthinking and preoccupation with the inevitable ending prevents him from enjoying the process of playing in the sand and appreciating what’s right in front of him.
  • The third person is aware of the incoming tide. He knows that nothing he builds will last forever, and yet decides to build sand castles anyway. His awareness of the end sweetens his enjoyment of the present moment and increases his passion for the creative process…living and celebrating the NOW.

Attitude and perspective are everything! In fact … YOU and everything you are attached to and own will return to it’s source.

“To whom it may concern, this endorsement is my letter of reference about Jewel Diamond Taylor, but it’s really about your life, it’s about your relationship, your marriage, what you want, and how hard you’re willing to work at it. When you make a decision that it matters and that your significant other matters, you matter, and your family matters… reach out to Jewel. She can help you. She helps me and my wife. But you got to want it. You got to be willing to try hard. Be benevolent, loving, and understanding. If any of those adjectives describe you …give her a shot. She can help you. Imagine real peace in your life. It is obtainable. say this from the bottom of my heart.” – Yours truly K.L.

” I enjoy holding a space for my counseling clients to feel safe to take off their mask, armor, and boxing gloves. ” – Jewel Diamond Taylor, aka The Self-esteem Dr.

“I cannot say enough about one of Gods angels, Mrs. Jewel Diamond Taylor, Therapy Practitioner, Life Coach/Counselor, she has helped me put a ” voice” to my pain, take off the mask and start the process of healing that little girl inside of me who felt so unworthy for so long.No matter how many degrees or achievements I may have accomplished, I kept apologizing because I could not see my “value”.Dr. Jewel has helped me get to the core of my pain, where I am no longer feeling the need to apologize for who I am and that I do not need to keep trying to make everyone else happy because “my” happiness is important too. Thank you Dr. Jewel. You were born to healed hearts.” – T. S.

“Hello Mrs Jewel; I want the world to know what an amazing person you are. You are a mentor, life coach, public speaker, and a woman of character. It’s through your experiences and blessings that have allowed you to become a beacon of light for so many.I would like to share how you how you saved my marriage. My husband and I are both type “A” personalities. He sometimes moves and speaks in a way that makes me question his love for me. Dr. Taylor you showed me how to understand my husband and interpret his language of love. I almost gave up on my marriage. I mistook my husband’s actions as controlling and overbearing when all along he was trying to protect me and keep me safe. If it were not for you Dr. Taylor I would have lost the love of my life. Marriage is work and it’s not always easy but when you have tools like you gave us to navigate through your issues it’s manageable. Thank you Dr. Taylor for wisdom and understanding.” – D. T. ( Los Angeles)

May is Mental Health Month. If you have a headache, stomachache, or toothache … it’s normal to seek relief to stop the pain. No one would shame you for seeking relief. In fact, people who care about you would encourage you to seek help. Mental health doesn’t need to be discussed in whispers. It is ok to talk about it. It is ok to need help to stop the pain. We all need help sometimes. You are not alone. Help is available. I invite you to ask yourself …”How am I really doing?” “How can I get the support I need?” “Am I allowing shame and guilt to keep me silent, isolated, and hurting?” “Am I minimizing, hiding, and denying the changes in my personality during this pandemic or from a recent loss or trauma?” Please talk with your support circle. Talk with your loved ones. You are not alone. Help is available. Love, Jewel Diamond Taylor

6 Necessary Boundaries to Maintain Your Peace

It will not be easy…but it is possible

Some people survive and talk about it. Some people survive tough times and remain silent. Some people deal with unimaginable pain in their own life.

So, the next time you look at someone’s life covetously, or feel your life is inadequate compared to their life…remember you may not be able to endure their experience.  You may not know the cost of their alabaster box. So, while someone sits before you looking calm like an ocean on a sunny day, think about this.  The ocean is vast and wide.  One part of the ocean can be calm while another part of the ocean could be experiencing a colossal storm. It’s happening on the same ocean.

The voice of shame and low self-esteem say, “I’m not good enough.” “Who do you think you are?” I’m not worth it.” “I’m not lovable, beautiful, smart, good, capable, etc.”

Are you frustrated and feel your progress of healing from a broken relationship, financial setback, job loss, trauma, or illness, depression, or setback in your life is not happening fast enough? Your breakthrough and healing are NOT linear.  There will be ups and downs. In order to heal, you have to become comfortable facing your uncomfortable reality.  Don’t depress your feelings, express your feelings. Let the feelings come. Don’t run, hide, deny, numb, or minimize your feelings.  There will be moments of feeling stagnant and triggers that may cause you to feel defeated or fearful.

The support I offer through my one-on-one sessions and books are curated to inspire others to find the hope, courage, will, and strength to discover the depths of their faith, courage, and resiliency they never knew they possess. 

I pray you learn to create a sanctuary within yourself, not a prison.  Create inside yourself a place, a knowing, a safe  place where the pain, anger, grief, and world news cannot disturb your peace.
It will not be easy, but it is possible. You can’t be rushed, forced, or manipulated to start or stay with it.
Your mind can come up with a lot of ways to protect you (e.g. blame, avoidance, denial, feeling helpless, ashamed and guilty, fake smiles, minimization, isolation, busyness, suppress or medicate your feelings with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling, helping others). 

You have to be ready and hopeful. You must feel worthy of healing. One day you will thank yourself for not giving up. Ready, set, grow!  Stay in the light. – Jewel Diamond Taylor

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“Jewel my session with you today helped me tremendously to cope in a more productive way with the harassment and racism I am experiencing on my job. I have been so angry, stressed, and fearful of losing my job. You helped me to see how to manage my emotions, guard my heart and self-worth, and to see how the game of micro-aggressions were trying to push my buttons and give them justification to fire me. With each session you have been empowering me to find my voice and stand my ground.” – K. A., Los Angeles, CA

Good morning Jewel,

On behalf of the Administrative Professionals Day planning committee, thank you for speaking during our 23nd annual FDIC Administrative Professional Day Program. We appreciated your encouraging words and advice on how to protect our mental health and adjust to change in a constantly changing world. We have received lots of great feedback and people are asking for the recording to watch it again! Again thank you for speaking at the 2021 Administrative Professionals Day Program. We truly appreciate it.

Human Resources Branch/ DOA Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation Arlington, VA

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