Check your relationship receipts

I’m still in my “life class” learning lessons about relationships. I share many of my relationship lessons in my book “Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain with You”

. Words don’t always line up with people’s actions. Start paying attention to people’s patterns.

Don’t be surprised when a person is true to their habits, patterns, needs, and personality.

. Don’t try to paint “red” flags green. Stop, look, listen, and proceed accordingly, Too many people run past the red flags and red lights and are surprised when they have a crash.

. Many people are not afraid of new love. They are afraid of old pain. Many people don’t fear commitment, they fear wasting their time.

. Many people would learn from their past mis-takes, choices, and dilemmas if they weren’t so busy wearing glasses of denial or fantasizing with unrealistic expectations.

. Many people are stuck in their ‘healing gap’….”I really want to talk to you.” and “I really need to get over you.” or “I really need to set some clear boundaries.”

. Notice the people who MAKE an effort to stay in your life.

. Ask yourself, “Am I pouring into cups that leave mine empty.” The healthy goal is to have more balanced and reciprocal relationships.

. Sometimes their some GOOD in good-bye. Sometimes their uncaring and disrespectful behavior is all the closure you need.

. An apology means nothing if the pattern remains the same. An apology is just words.

. One of the best feelings is finally losing your attachment and pain to somebody who isn’t good for you.

. One of the biggest battles to win is the war between your heart and mind. That goes for relationships with parents, children, siblings, lovers, spouses, friends, and any family member. Improving your relationship I.Q. is critical for parents and for adults caring for their parents. Your heart can be so loyal, that unfortunately, loved ones can take advantage of your kindness and loyalty. Guard your heart, money, credit, health, time, peace, and priorities.

. Before your heart, life, spirit, bank account, and self-worth are shattered to pieces, I pray you are able to SEE the truth. You can start to rebuild your life and stop walking on eggshells. Remember Proverbs 4:23 teaches us to guard our hearts.

. When you understand your worth, you will stop giving people discounts. You are God’s precious jewel and should be placed inside the glass counter with a lock, not on the discount table for everybody to pick up, touch, and handle.

Continue reading more in my book “Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain With You”

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What are you attracting into your life?

You attract into your life;

what you expect,
what you fear,
what you give thanks for,
what you believe,
what you feel worthy of receiving,
what you act upon on,
what you concentrate on,
what you visualize,
what you talk about,
what you prepare for,
and what you think about all day

The ideas, energies, and practices that YOU focus your time, energy, and brain on will grow and show up in your experiences.  As you focus on the outcome that you desire most – regardless of the fact that it may not be your current reality. Remember that manifesting is co-creating; it is bringing to you something that you do not yet see in the present. “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined the things that God has prepared for those who love him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9

Your opportunities can come from the most unexpected places.
· Ask for what you want.
· Act on what you want.
· Affirm what you want.
· Actualize what you want.
Focus today on solutions, peace, love, right action, right speech, and right thinking.

You possess what you confess. Your words have creative power. “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock, and my redeemer.” – Psalm 19:14

“I don’t know how to do it”… OR say, “I am committed to LEARN how to do it.”

“I am broke.”….OR say, “My money is circulating. I am a money magnet.”

“I am so tired and so lazy”…OR say, “I’m glad my body gives me signals to rest and restore my body.”

“Nothing works out for me.” OR say, “I am focusing more every day on my blessings. Goodness and mercy are with me. Every day I am getting better and better. Every day I choose to be in the right place at the right time with the right people doing the right things. Miracles and breakthroughs keep showing up in my life. All is well.”

Practice positive self-talk. Catch negative or self-critical thoughts as they pass through your head. Acknowledge that those thoughts exist as an emotional signal, then picture the negative thoughts like clouds drifting by and let them go. If you find yourself using a lot of “should,” “must,” “always” or “never” statements, that’s a good sign to ask yourself, “Am I speaking to myself the way I’d speak to a friend?”

  • For instance, instead of saying, “I should’ve prepared more for that presentation,” give yourself credit for what you did do. For example, “I did the best that I could given the tight deadline, and my coworkers told me it was helpful.”
  • Turn statements expressing worries into hopeful statements. You could turn a thought like, “I’m so nervous for this test” into a statement like, “This test is going to be tough, but I’m going to do my best.”

Stay ready in this changing job environment

This pandemic has ushered in several layers of disruptions and opportunities. The economic effects and rising automation of occupations is a call to action for many to upskill, reskill, or cross-skill their talents and resume.

.Employers predict that problem-solving and critical thinking will become increasingly important skills over the next five years. This is one of the reasons I am so passionate about teaching skills like; active learning, resilience, stress tolerance, problem-solving, flexibility, the power of your thinking/mindset, self-awareness, and how to deepen one’s faith, well-being, and confidence.

Only a person in hiding, denial, emotional/mental turmoil, or fantasy thinking would not see the historical changes we are all experiencing on so many levels (economy, technology, jobs, housing, healthcare, mental illness, stress, etc.)

If someone is in a survival mode they have little interest or time to gain new skills to thrive in these times.

I salute the ladies from California, New York, North Carolina, South Carolina, Atlanta, and Las Vegas who have been present, proactive, intentional, consistent, and “ride or die” with me for the past 2 years in my signature zoom room “The Diamond INNERversity.” They are experiencing results, clarity, confidence, and an awesome “life toolbox.”

I continue to keep the INNERversity enrollment open, whether you attend every Sunday or as your time permits. It promises to ADD to your life toolbox so you can build a life to excel and endure and enjoy life on a personal or professional level.

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