“Loneliness and isolation are dangerous. They can be addicting. Once you get used to how peaceful it is, you can begin to dread and avoid dealing with people anymore. When you get upset, it is a set up for depression and isolation. I have had to pray and encourage myself many times out of the cave of depression, grief, isolation, and disappointments from other people’s treatment and loss of my son.
Active fellowship and positive communication are keys to your mental and emotional health. Living and serving in my purpose has been so helpful in pulling me out of my cave.
Even though you may have been hurt and lost trust in people, experienced loss (e.g. death, job, or divorce), or simply tired from the drama some people bring… do not fall into the pit of isolation. Your past implicit memories can trigger you around certain people or environments to have anxiety or isolate.
Believe that there are still good people who can enrich your life. And believe there are people who will benefit from knowing you. Begin to believe in new beginnings, new opportunities, and new possibilities.
To seek help and support is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
It is not good for your emotional, spiritual or mental health to be alone.
Pray for discernment and the courage to trust again, and create love and social connections into your life.”
by Jewel Diamond Taylor, conference speaker, author, life coach, and emotional wellness educator
What is the story you have been telling yourself? When you are consumed with fear, grief, disappointment, rejection, shame, worry or anger it is difficult to “see” the bigger picture. It is difficult to hear from God.
To survive…you may detach, shut down, go into denial, strive for perfectionism and live in hyperdrive to achieve, lash out to others, severely blame yourself, overeat, overspend, and define yourself by your past. You may have blind spots and cannot see hope, your future, your value or the bigger picture.
Are you cruising on auto-pilot and not really aware of the story in your head…not aware or willing to admit you have given your power away living in fear, abuse, poor health, toxic relationships, procrastination, financial stress, depression, shame, blame, resentment, burn out, loneliness, addiction or secrets?
You can learn to change how you see and interpret your past. You can learn to re-work your old narrative stories of being a victim, unworthy, powerless, useless and meaningless to find the lesson, peace, and renewal.
You can find something worthwhile, in what, at one point seemed unbearable, inconvenient, unfair, stressful or painful episodes in your life.
God can write a best seller in you. Your life story is important.
The characters in your story may be loving, mysterious, helpful, hurtful, sad, misbehave or leave you. Each one is writing pages in your book of blessing. Some of your chapters are long and some are short.
To survive an adverse childhood full of dysfunction, instability, abuse or neglect, you have unconsciously taken on the role of;
. The Helper, The Co-dependent, The Enabler, The Sad One
. The Comedian, The Goof off, The Slacker
. The Good Child, The Perfectionist, The Narcissist,
. The High Achiever, The Low Maintenance Child (the invisible ghost)
. The Truth Teller, The Defiant/Angry One, The Scapegoat/Black Sheep
. The Emotional Dumpster, The Drama Queen, The Addict
. The Lost Child, The Adjuster, The Caretaker, The Mascot
. The Silent Sufferer, The Responsible Child, The Family Hero
Discover your authentic self (e.g. the pain and joy, your unique strengths and gifts, talents, trials and triumphs, being lost and found, interests and purpose) WITHOUT the denial, anger, illusion, fantasies or creating another generation of dysfunction, pain, addictions, secrets, and brokenness.
Your past may be ugly, painful or traumatic. You have to acknowledge it but you don’t have to let it define, limit or imprison you. I help others to reframe and learn how to heal those broken places in their lives by acknowledging the truth of their past circumstances and choices. You can learn to break free from dysfunctional generational patterns.
Get self-motivated Get your own matches to get on fire to live your life of purpose, joy, truth, courage, love, peace, health and abundance. What this brief video message…you will be glad you did.”