New Things to Do in 2010

I am challenging myself in the new year and I challenge you to join me in doing  SOMETHING DIFFERENT in 2010.  Get out of any rut.  Get out of a box of old thinking and old habits.  Dust off your dreams.  Change your program.  Stretch out on faith.  Ask for what you want.   Act on your goals.  Let go of some grudges, drama, messy living and false starts.   Treat your body well with better foods, laughter, activity and a makeover in your wardrobe.  Pray and press more to defeat the trickster and your own self-sabotaging habits.  Go back to class.  Get to work on time.    Prepare different meals.  Forgive a family member.  Enjoy the company of a new pet or a new friend.   Let some one off the hook that you have been blaming for your failures and disappointments.   Feel, heal and deal with your wounds so you can start living instead of dying.  Choose to watch more empowering and entertaining TV programs.  Travel some where new.  Start your web site.  Be more consistent in reusing and recycling.  Never be too ashamed, too busy or too prideful to ask God for help.  Clean out your closet.  Volunteer in your church, neighborhood or nearby school.   Drive a new route to work.    Finish what you start.   Paint a room in your home.  Talk to a young person and let them know they will survive tough times because you are still standing.   Procrastination is a thief, so create another stream of income, even if it is a trickle, just get started.   Stop worrying about what other people think.  Be more of your authentic and real self…no more masks, no more games.  Throw out an old piece of furniture or broken dishes.  Take someone to lunch to really talk, listen and bond without gossip, complaining, selling them something or rushing.   Work on your shortcomings.  Promote your strengths, passions and creativity.  Simply your life.  If you can’t pay for it… pray for it.    Confront your challenges one task at a time.  Develop a recession proof kind of faith, joy and courage.  Increase your vocabulary, savings and confidence.   Share about God’s glory in your life by telling your story.   Collaborate and spend more time with people on-the-grow.  Make each day count.   Continue learning and solving problems to keep your mind/brain healthy and active.   Remember those who help you instead of giving energy to those who hurt you.  Remember wisdom, good health, faith, family and friends are more precious than diamonds and pearls.  Wake up the sleeping giant inside of you and pursue your destiny, purpose and possibilities.   Use your imagination, trust your instincts and create empowering affirmations for yourself.  The quality of your life is shaped by the quality of your thoughts and feelings.  Be gentle, yet be more firm with yourself to motivate yourself to win in 2010. ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor, Conference Keynote Speaker, Author, Minister, Women’s Retreat Facilitator, Workplace Trainer for Effective Performance Skills, Change Management,  Customer Service and Stress Management – http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net (permission to reprint articles in entirety including author and source)

ThanksLIVING

I give thanks to all of you who have given to me your love and friendship, business sales, teamwork, referrals, feedback and prayers.

When we testify (Psalm 26:7) about how good God is, we multiply our blessings, magnify our faith and glorify our Lord who shows us so mercy and grace. 

I invite you to a wonderful and blessed milestone event in my life.  Sunday, November 29. 2009,  I will be ordained as a Minister of the Gospel.  Pastor Jelani Kafela, my Pastor and Teacher at Imani Temple Christian Church in Pomona, California  will be presenting me with a license after I give my sermon at the 10:30 AM Service.  Family and friends will be in attendance to celebrate what God has done and is doing in my life as His servant.

In order to plan for enough refreshments after the service, please RSVP to JewelMotivates@gmail.com if you are able to attend.

The address is 510 W. Monterey Ave, Pomona, CA 91768 I wish you and yours a beautiful, bountiful, blessed and safe holiday season. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor and family www.DoNotGiveUp.net

Mind Body Spirit Connection

The mind, body and spirt are one.  What your mind thinks affects your cells.  Your emotions are triggered by what you think and the level of your faith.  Your body is the host vessel for the Holy Spirit.  As you grow in any of your tri-dimensions, it affects your total well-being.  This principle has been the cornerstone of my teaching.  I refer to my speaking style and approach as a wholistic one.  1. Biology (body) helps us to understand our bodies (i.e. nutrition, generational disease like alcoholism, diabetes, exercise, stress, etc.).  2. Psychology (mind), which was my major in college, helps us to understand perception, cognition, attention, emotion, motivation, brain functioning, personality,behavior, and interpersonal relationships, childhood, trauma, shame based issues, addictions, coping skills, attitude, choices, habits, etc.  Spirituality (study of God) helps us to build awareness, connection, gratitude, wonder, curiousity, honor and relationship with our Creator.  3. Spirituality is the revelation of the mystery and miracle of God around, through and in our lives and environment.  Spirituality is studying universal laws and the omnipresence of God who loves us.  Spirituality for me is about developing a relationship with the Divine, not a religion.  Study and practical application of Jesus teaches the way to live with compassion, restoration, forgiveness, mercy, grace, love for one another, serving humanity, to die to our selfish desires/ego/pride, suffering rising above our haters, persecutors and giants and posessing peace in the midst of our storms.

My perspective and style of teaching is what I call “SpiritPsyBio”, an integration of pursuing a better awareness and power by connecting the dots of the Spirit, our mind and our bodies.  I do my clients and audiences a big dis-service if I only address one dimension of their life.  I don’t separate, I integrate all three…mind, body and spirit.  I strive everyday through action, thought, words, gratitude and focus to align my mind with the divine.

I learned that it is difficuilt to motivate someone to change their self-destructive habits of procrastination, addiction, anger, depression or crime if I don’t seek to understand their psyhological damage, mindset or maladaptive coping skills to survive because of poverty, lack of education, family dysfunction, racism, addictions, peer pressure or media messages.  As a minister, giving the word of God to someone sick in their body or psychologically wounded will not be enough for their breakthrough.  The whole person must be healed.  I can’t inspire someone to have more faith in God if I don’t address their line of thinking (brain).  Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of a number of researchers who are studying brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior.  Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings, nervous, lonely, happy or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  95% of all serotonin in the body is in the gut, where it triggers digestion. Nerve cells in the gut also use serotonin to signal back to the brain. This information can train us not to eat certain foods by communicating pain, gas and other terrible feelings.  Just like the brain in your head, “gut brain” is also able to learn, remember, and produce emotion-based feelings.  We really do have feelings in our gut.  Our two brains communicate back and forth via a major nerve trunk extending down from the base of your brain all the way down into your abdomen. Because of this, your two brains directly influence each other.  When one brain becomes upset, the other joins right in.

If someone has body image issues or poor eating habits, I must start there before challenging them to build up their self-esteem.   I can’t motivate someone to write a book or start their business if they lack faith and don’t believe they were born on purpose with a purpose.  If someone lacks faith, it can affect the outcome of their surgery, marriage, business venture or ability to speak up in an abusive relationship, or buy their dream car or home.  Anything is possible with faith in God and action.

The achievement of success and progress in your life will be determined by the level of your faith, the health of your body and the thoughts you think.  Who you love, what you think, feel, eat, believe and do creates the life you live negatively or positively.  Your stress, relationships, emotions, lack of sleep, poor diet and lack faith can be the root for your illnesses, procrastination, depression, or drama. It is a fact that nearly 90% of diseases that afflict humans are self-induced.  You are a whole being.  So I teach and motivate the whole person.  As a personal success life coach offering one-on-one phone counseling, my approach is SpiritPsyBio.  I’m interested in your wellness by integrating what I have experienced and studied about Spirituality, Psychology and Biology.

Where and with whom do you place your faith?  Are you willing to be transformed by the renewing of your mind?  Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?  Call me 323.964.1736 or e-mail JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Are you staying too long?

Yes, my web site and brand of speaking teaches others to not give up. However, you and I can at times choose the wrong person or project to invest our energy in.  Sometimes we ignore our intuition.  Sometimes red flags are waving that it is time to escape, get out and get out without guilt.   I believe there are times we should get out of a futile situation while we are ahead.

The word “futile” means… incapable of producing any result; ineffective; useless; not successful:  unavailing, fruitless, frivolous, unimportant, dull, flat, fruitless, futile, lackluster, profitless, stale, uninspiring, unproductive, unrewarding, useless, in vain, at end of one’s rope, back to the wall, can’t win, dead duck, despairing, despondent, downcast, forlorn, goner, hard up, in the soup, in the toilet, inconsolable, irrecoverable, irremediable, irretrievable, no-chance, no-way, no-win, running out of time, sad, sunk, up against it, up the creek, useless.

Quitting when your situation is futile should not be confused with a “do not give up” message.  Quitting while you are ahead should not be confused with the habit of giving up too soon.  Wisdom will help you to know when it’s time to quit or stick with a person, project, pursuit, your plans or place of employment.  Sometimes people don’t have enough sense, enough courage or enough faith to quit some one or some thing.  So God will end it or “they” will end it for you.  Getting laid off a job or a person ending a relationship because you couldn’t do it, is the only way the futile efforts will stop.

Don’t confuse persistence with insistence.  There are some people and circumstances that you can not control.  Wisdom comes as you learn to let go of projects, people or perplexing situations and give them to God.  There are some relationships, pursuits, projects and places of employment that can cost you if you stay in it too long.  Yes, you should persist with your goals and self-improvement.  Yes, you should not be easily defeated or distracted.

The questions I pose to you now are… “Are you letting your pride, denial, low self-esteem, fear or lack of faith keep you in a fruitless, uninspiring and no-win situation?  Will you persist on worthy pursuits and people?  Do you have the courage to stop insisting and pushing as you keep running into walls or resistance?  Can you discern when to know that your efforts and persistence will yield reward in the future?  Can you discern when you have reached a limit, a dead end and your pride/ego won’t allow you to let go?  During your times of insistence and frustration … remember the Serenity Prayer.

There is a time to quit and there are times you need to hear “Don’t give up.”  Quit smoking, gossiping, wasting time and giving your body, money, power and peace of mind away to people and pursuits that only rob, destroy and drain you.  Quit a project, job or relationship that is abusive or not lined up with your values and vision.  Milk is good until it’s expiration date.  Sometimes people stay way too long after the expiration date and everything becomes sour.  Have you stayed too long or have you been distracted or unfocused causing you to give up too soon on worthy pursuits? Are your hopes, dreams, energy and time hanging on to something that is futile or can it bear fruit and reward in due season? ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor

Success Declaration

Your words have power!  As a man or woman thinketh…so is he(she).  What you think about…you can bring about.

Your prescription of pearls of wisdom today from the Self-esteem Dr. is to read the “I AM Success Declaration” as least twice a day.   In case of an emergency (doubt, fear or procrastination), I suggest you read it 3 times a day.   The refills on this prescription are unlimited.   Read more in my e-book  Heal Your Mind and Your Behind Will Follow.   positive pearls

Click here to read the popular  “I AM Success Declaration”   which has taken the world by storm.  It is my most popular download request from my web site. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr.  www.DoNotGiveUp.net

Feeling discouraged?

When you fall into a pit of exhaustion, fear, desperation or worry … be careful not to fall into the trap of doing desperate, destructive, sinful and illegal things to get out of your situation.

When the flesh or faith are weak, one can be tempted to seek short cuts to get out of a stressful situation (i.e. lie, cheat, steal, sexual favors, make excuses or blame others).DeliveranceDon’t fall prey to the temptations…pray for strength, self-control, guidance, peace and courage to press on.

“Though I have fallen, I will rise.  Though I sit in darkness,

The Lord will be my light. ~ Micah 7:8

I offer my e-book as a tool to assist you in digging your way out of a pit of depression, denial and discouragement. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

“Without God, our week would be:  Sinday, Mournday, Tearsday, Wasteday, Thirstday, Fightday and Shatterday.”  (e-mail author unknown)