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5 things to manifest your breakthrough and success

5 things to remember to manifest your next level of breakthrough and success…

1. Speak it before you see it. Your words have power.

2. Visualize it…be specific.

3. Think and ink it. Write it down and review often.

4. Seek accountability and support (e.g. mentor, life coach)

5. Give God thanks in advance. Take action with expectancy and gratitude.

Hello Jewel,”Thank you so much for all your wisdom, knowledge & gifts of the spirit. I came to you needing to get unstuck. My plan is to retire in a few years & you said to me narrow my mind &vision & get focused. In the back of my mind, there are all of these voices speaking to me. (e.g. What about this what about that and so on.) I needed to talk with someone who would not judge me & who could give a different perspective on my concerns. Your energy & positive words have helped me to focus better on my goals & desires of my heart. I am better at focusing & trusting God and have you now as an accountability partner.” – F.C.M.

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It will not be easy…but it is possible

Some people survive and talk about it. Some people survive tough times and remain silent. Some people deal with unimaginable pain in their own life.

So, the next time you look at someone’s life covetously, or feel your life is inadequate compared to their life…remember you may not be able to endure their experience.  You may not know the cost of their alabaster box. So, while someone sits before you looking calm like an ocean on a sunny day, think about this.  The ocean is vast and wide.  One part of the ocean can be calm while another part of the ocean could be experiencing a colossal storm. It’s happening on the same ocean.

The voice of shame and low self-esteem say, “I’m not good enough.” “Who do you think you are?” I’m not worth it.” “I’m not lovable, beautiful, smart, good, capable, etc.”

Are you frustrated and feel your progress of healing from a broken relationship, financial setback, job loss, trauma, or illness, depression, or setback in your life is not happening fast enough? Your breakthrough and healing are NOT linear.  There will be ups and downs. In order to heal, you have to become comfortable facing your uncomfortable reality.  Don’t depress your feelings, express your feelings. Let the feelings come. Don’t run, hide, deny, numb, or minimize your feelings.  There will be moments of feeling stagnant and triggers that may cause you to feel defeated or fearful.

The support I offer through my one-on-one sessions and books are curated to inspire others to find the hope, courage, will, and strength to discover the depths of their faith, courage, and resiliency they never knew they possess. 

I pray you learn to create a sanctuary within yourself, not a prison.  Create inside yourself a place, a knowing, a safe  place where the pain, anger, grief, and world news cannot disturb your peace.
It will not be easy, but it is possible. You can’t be rushed, forced, or manipulated to start or stay with it.
Your mind can come up with a lot of ways to protect you (e.g. blame, avoidance, denial, feeling helpless, ashamed and guilty, fake smiles, minimization, isolation, busyness, suppress or medicate your feelings with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling, helping others). 

You have to be ready and hopeful. You must feel worthy of healing. One day you will thank yourself for not giving up. Ready, set, grow!  Stay in the light. – Jewel Diamond Taylor

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“Jewel my session with you today helped me tremendously to cope in a more productive way with the harassment and racism I am experiencing on my job. I have been so angry, stressed, and fearful of losing my job. You helped me to see how to manage my emotions, guard my heart and self-worth, and to see how the game of micro-aggressions were trying to push my buttons and give them justification to fire me. With each session you have been empowering me to find my voice and stand my ground.” – K. A., Los Angeles, CA

Good morning Jewel,

On behalf of the Administrative Professionals Day planning committee, thank you for speaking during our 23nd annual FDIC Administrative Professional Day Program. We appreciated your encouraging words and advice on how to protect our mental health and adjust to change in a constantly changing world. We have received lots of great feedback and people are asking for the recording to watch it again! Again thank you for speaking at the 2021 Administrative Professionals Day Program. We truly appreciate it.

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Some lessons are caught, taught, and some are bought

 

God has been “growing” my mind.  I have been learning some rough and beautiful life lessons.

I love being a woman on the grow!  I am learning to reflect on my past with “Kindsight”, to be compassionate, real, and patient with myself.

Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with those areas in your life where you need to grow.  

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Don’t ever wander so far away from your true self just to get close to someone else.

A SHIP is designed to take you places.  
So if your friendSHIP, partnerSHIP, or relationSHIP isn’t taking you anywhere positive and helpful…think…is it time to abandon SHIP?

Some people like to stay busy and distracted or stay in a blame/victim mentality instead of sitting still to reflect, sit with their pain, and heal.  Once you are courageous enough to live with the reality of your pain, loss, setback, heartache, regrets, or disappointments, and patterns … you will be in a position to walk the emotional path of acceptance, healing, renewal, and restoration of self-worth and faith.

Too often I hear people saying they are fighting their demons when the reality is they’re fighting and resisting the consequences of their choices.

Could it be life is inviting you to build spiritual stamina, mental health, and emotional wellness?

Until YOU heal…you will be toxic to anyone who tries to hire you, collaborate with you, befriend you, or love you.

Are you willing to examine your thoughts, patterns, relationships, choices, and emotional capacity to cope with stress?

Positive thinking and faith do not work unless you understand the roots of your beliefs and behaviors.  You can’t ignore your past conditioning, experiences, trauma, fantasies, expectations, and cultural programming. Once you accept your shadow self and all the many versions of YOU, your AWARENESS becomes your superpower to begin transforming your life.

For that someone who has the courage to speak up, armor up, and NOT return to that person or habit which is your “Egypt” (a place of bondage, i.e. addiction, shame, anger, dishonesty, debt, pride, abuse, self-harm, family secrets, or a dysfunctional relationship)… I encourage you to keep walking into your place of promise, freedom, and peace.  Stay in the light.  Getting help can help you overcome the darkness and break unhealthy patterns.

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Jewel Diamond Taylor’s Speaking Calendar

March 21 – She is Well Book Launch and Virtual Summit (Maryland)

March 21 –  Sisters4SistersNetwork.org (Maryland)

March 24 – Lexington Housing Authority Family Sufficiency Program virtual learning series in North Carolina

March 27 – Women with Visions, Unlimited Women’s History Month Program

March 27 – San Jose Multicultural Artist Guild Girlfriend Appreciation virtual program

March 31 – North County African American Women’s Association “The Strength of a Woman” Program

April 21 – FDIC Admin. Professionals Program

May 1 – 20th Annual Breast and Whole Health Empowerment Forum

Every Sunday Jewel Diamond Taylor’s webinar “The Filling Station”, 3 pm (Pacific)

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Are you feeling the pressures of life?

Remember to save the date for this Sunday.  I continue to offer my weekly webinar in my signature zoom room.

For 8 months now, the ladies attending have experienced new levels of understanding about ; their gifts, breaking strongholds, creating success habits, healing issues of shame, worry, doubt, procrastination, and unhealthy relationships, making progress with their goals and life purpose, gaining insight about past pain, trauma, and childhoood experiences which keeps them living in fear, low self-esteem, and cycles of arrested development.  The “Filling Station (Romans 15:13)” has created a space for women to avoid burnout and refill their mind, heart and soul with hope and encouragement.  They are feeling seen, heard, and connected to others seeking empowerment and ways to strengthen their faith and personal development.  This experience is helpful, healing, and a positive resource for you to be able to endure this historic pandemic.  YOU are invited to be with us.

Meet and greet  2:30 pm Pacific/ 5:30 pm Eastern
The webinar begins 3:00 pm Pacific/ 6:00 pm Eastern
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“Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. “
Cicely Tyson
“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.” —Rosa Parks
“We all have dreams.  In order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.” ~ Jesse Owens, world record setting Olympic athlete
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Here is a great lesson to learn. If you squeeze a lemon, what comes out? Lemon juice right! Not apple juice, cranberry juice, or orange juice.
The pressure on the outside releases only what’s inside.
If you have fear, doubt, and anger on the inside of you…then when life brings you stress and pressure…the only thing that comes out is fear, worry, doubt, and anger.
“Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23

The more one watches or listens to rubbish on TV, gossip, music, movies, or social media…it shapes the inner man.
What you feel, say, and do is determined by what is going into your eyes, ears, mind, and heart. What comes out of your mouth is determined by what goes into your mind. Garbage in…garbage out.
What is spilling out of you when you are feeling stressed and under pressure? Are your words and conversations full of hate, fear, worry, lack, doubt, shame, anger, and jealousy?
It is a law of nature… that what goes in must come out.
So grateful to know from my readers that my books has helped to infuse faith, peace, hope, resiliency, and courage inside of them.
Guard your heart, eyes, ears, and thoughts.
The more you read God’s word and other inspirational books, the more you will have a reserve of faith, courage, love, and hope inside of you.   So whenever life squeezes you with the pressures of bills, relationships, loss, disappointments, and setbacks…your faith, hope, and courage will be released.

The word encourage is derived from the word courage which means “heart.” It takes courage (heart) to face your problems (i.e. passing a test, providing for your family, interviewing for a job, going into surgery, admitting you need help to become clean and sober, to deal with the bill collectors, resolving or asking for what you want, or going through the stressful process of buying a home or business).

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What triggers you?

QUESTION: Why do you emphasize teaching emotional health in your talks, books, and coaching/counseling?

ANSWER: Many triggers that are not understood or healed sets off an old memory. These triggers can sabotage your relationships, job, marriage, goals, maturity, peace of mind, and create addictions. We have a tape of everything and anything in our brain that has ever happened to us. Triggers can cause a flashback of a time that was traumatic for you. Often these flashbacks are induced by your five senses. When this happens, it takes us back to a time when we first felt upset. One of my main triggers that I am aware of, developed when I was 7 years old when my mother left my father and moved our family from my birthplace in Washington DC on Otis Street to Magnolia Street in Compton, CA. The trauma of separation and seeing the very intense drama of crying, screaming, and arguing unfold and seeing the emotional pain of my father separated from his wife and children is something that still triggers me in many ways. That experience ended my childhood of playfulness. I became an “adult child” unknowingly taking on the responsibility of the peacemaker, rescuer, fixer, and nurturer. That experience is an implicit and strong memory. I am triggered when I see others in pain. This trigger, on one hand, taught me compassion for others and on the other hand, I have learned that I can’t always help and respond to everyone’s pain. The awareness of my trigger helps me to have a healthy balance.
You may have an unconscious memory (eg. divorce, abuse, rape, poverty, job harassment, fight, loss of a loved one, prison, military, foreclosure, car accident, parents addiction, embarrassment, shame, childhood neglect) that triggers you and you don’t understand why certain people, things, voices, smells, or sounds set you off or cause you to withdraw, act out, drink, eat, escape, shop, argue, or rebel.
Unresolved trauma can stunt your growth, peace, and emotional/mental stability.
My books, keynotes, and counseling/coaching style help my clients/audiences to connect the dots between their triggers, behaviors, beliefs, habits, choices, past trauma, environment, programming from family/culture/society, expectations, and results.

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The Great Lie/Myth About Motivation

There is a great myth and lie about motivation. What’s motivation got to do with you achieving your goal?… very little if you don’t take consistent action, and have the belief that what you are seeking is possible.
You may get hyped up at a conference, church, sales meeting, etc. Many times we get motivated after a keynote, seminar, or sermon and then return right back to our old way of thinking and living. The word of God teaches, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Romans 12:2. In order to experience transformation and success, your mind has to be transformed from stinking thinking, limitation, fear, worry, anger, shame, bitterness, resentment, selfishness, resistance, low self-esteem, past hurts, misguided and dysfunctional influences.
The energy and enthusiasm will eventually wane. Motivation dissolves and fluctuates depending on your environment, circumstances and shifts that arise. Winners develop mental toughness for discipline.
You need momentum, not motivation.
Action = momentum, feelings = motivation.
If your goal is to stay on a diet, find a job/home, save money, write a book, go to the gym, finish your college studies, meet your sales goal, save money, declutter your environment, learn a new skill set, or go on a fast…you need momentum. Consistent action, step by step, create momentum.
So you’re not feeling it … too bad. The reason so many are fascinated about amazing athletes is because they show up and push past their pain to make that touchdown, goal, slam dunk, or home run. They can’t afford to take their feelings with them when it’s game time.
You don’t have the luxury to allow your feelings to get in the way and sabotage your plan, progress, intentions, goals, purpose, blessings, rewards, and breakthroughs. Feelings will fool you and paralyze you. Feelings can lie and stop you. Feelings can put mud in your wings. No wonder Solomon taught us in the Bible to guard our hearts.
The beginning task of going after a goal may seem emotionally/physically painful, awkward, or inconvenient. You hit a psychological ceiling and sabotage your momentum to complete a task .
You may feel like you are missing something.
You may be tempted to stop.
You may feel incompetent, ashamed, unworthy, or too afraid to ask for help, go on that interview, or make that call.
You will feel uneasy because you are out of your comfort zone.
You may hate; eating certain foods, doing certain physical exercises, meeting new people, going to new places, starting a new project or business, driving long distances, changing your routine, doing paperwork, changing who you gets your time, or downsizing your spending.
If you remain steadfast to meet your goals even though you don’t enjoy it…now that’s truly a motivated person. Be aware that your brain will resist new habits. You must be consistent and steadfast to re-map your mind to follow a new path … a path that leads to success.
If you get up and still do what you don’t like because;
you want to accomplish that bodyweight goal,
you want to increase your savings to purchase that car, home, or become debt-free,
you want to restore your health,
you want to travel,
you want to retire,
you want to increase your credit score,
you want to graduate,
you want to be a homeowner,
you want to start your business, you want to reach a sales goal… if you don’t stop anyway… then you are truly motivated.
Consistent momentum of sticking with your plan is the key. Stick, don’t quit.
Don’t believe you are a failure because you are not feeling pumped, excited, and motivated all the time to do what you need to do. Enthusiasm will come and go. You can’t have fear and focus at the same time. Procrastination is your thief. Your consistent steps and dedication are the keys to achieving your success
Redefine what motivation looks like and feels like. As you keep the main thing, the main thing, even though it is painful, and you feel like you’re missing out on that shoe sale, that party, the pizza, the candy, the donuts, or that temporary high…your discipline and consistent momentum will give you a great emotional payday.
Land mines are concealed under or on the ground and designed to destroy or disable enemy targets.
Watch out for your landMINDs that will trip you up and destroy your momentum (e.g. distractions, procrastination, low self-worth, dream killers, energy vampires, sleep deprivation, concerned about other people’s expectations, poor nutrition, past experiences, perfectionism, feeling unworthy, too much TV, social media). One day you will thank yourself for NOT giving up.

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Remember to encourage yourself

I don’t know who this is for…but maybe you are in a “God Gap” right in the middle of where you used to be and where you want to be. Are you waiting for a breakthrough in your family, marriage, employment, health, finances, ministry, or business?

Maybe your usual sources of support are missing. Maybe someone let you down and went “ghost” on you.

Maybe you feel your prayers aren’t going past the ceiling.

Maybe you feel no one understands you.

Sing out loud D. L. Lawrence “Encourage Yourself” song. Strengthen yourself. Believe in yourself. Heal yourself. Promise yourself to practice more self-care. Befriend yourself. The kindness and encouragement give to others…give it to yourself also. Don’t betray yourself. Speak your truth. Create your boundaries of emotional or physical distance from the energy vampires, haters, critics, time stealers, and drama bringers. Have a good talk with yourself. Acknowledge your dreams, gifts, talents, ideas, strength, creativity, and accomplishments. Value your time, family, faith, health, anointing, skills, and self-worth. Let go and forgive yourself for past hurtful choices. Remember this scripture…”God is within her, she cannot fail.” Psalm 46:5

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Encourage yourself by guarding your heart from toxic and manipulative people. Encourage yourself to stick and not quit on your goals. Encourage yourself by reminding yourself that you are worthy. Encourage yourself and remember your past victories. Encourage yourself in your money habits and eating habits.

Encourage yourself by speaking life over your situation. Encourage yourself through your recovery from a heartache, divorce, layoff, addiction, setback, illness, or seeking a home, job, car, or new love.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. – Philippians 4:6

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10

By blog writer Jewel Diamond Taylor.

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Live out loud

 

       

    So I have shared this quick story from many podiums as a guest speaker.  I want to share it with you now…

     One day a passenger in the back seat of a taxi kept asking his taxi driver questions.  His taxi driver kept jumping and looking startled every time his passenger asked him a question.  

     Finally, the passenger asked his driver, “Why are you so nervous?”  The driver replied, “This is my first day as a taxi driver. For many years I drove a hearse car for funerals..  I’m not used to hearing voices in my car.  I’m used to carrying around dead people.”

     Unfortunately, there are too many people who are used to carrying “dead” things around (e.g. dead dreams, dead hope, dead faith, dead imagination, old hurts, old habits, old beliefs, relationships, etc.).  When they are offered a new opportunity, a new experience, a new relationship, a new idea, or a new way of living and thinking…it scares them.  They have become accustomed to living a limited and joyless life. 

     I want to encourage someone today to start living with more gratitude, courage, curiosity, creativity, adventure, and grow out of any state of isolation, misery, and old stinkin’ thinkin’.  Wake up, get up, try something new, go someplace new, break your routine, add some color, laughter, nature, and beauty into your day.  Avoid people whose hope, joy, love, kindness, and imagination has died.  You are STILL ALIVE.  Live your life more fully. 

     Your life is NOT shaped by your circumstances.  Your life is shaped by the decisions you make each day.  Create some new habits and new experiences.  Read Psalm 90:12 (Lord teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.) ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor
 
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3 Things That Can Really Mess Your Life Up

I’m constantly growing every day and so thankful to learn what emotional traps to overcome, avoid, and let go of in order to have peace of mind.

I think we can burn up too many “emotional and mental calories” thinking and thinking and thinking (rumination) about these 3 emotional mindsets that can really mess up our day and ultimately our life.

We can burn up “emotional and mental calories” when our thoughts think about the future with worry, doubt, fear, and anxiety. Our thoughts can focus on the present with emotions of resentment, anger, fear, doubt, impatience, or indifference. Our thoughts can turn back to the past. That is the direction I’m focusing on today…the past. Why? Once I learned the origin of the word “regret” is from the French language which means “dead”…I realized I was spending too much energy and time revisiting things that were dead, gone, passed, never to return. I needed to learn how to “fast” from the diet of the past and burn my energy calories by enjoying the present and being more forward thinking to better prepare for my future.

There is no rewind or recalibrate button that we can push to change our past. When we spend too much energy and time about our past choices, circumstances, and consequences…we are “shoulding” on ourselves,. (e.g. I should have left that relationship, job, town, marriage, etc….I should have spoken up…I should have invested or saved more wisely…. I should have stepped up and taken action… I should have been honest about my feelings…I should have started that project…I should have never said that….I should have never done that.” I should have _____________You fill in the blank.

I believe there are 3 mindsets that can eat up our time, steal our confidence, blind us to see new possibilities, paralyze us, shame us, keep us in bondage, and create more anxiety, stress, self-loathing, depression and war within ourselves.

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The first one ….The regret of what I DID…(e.g. lied, cheated, quit, procrastinated, abused my body with alcohol, food, or drugs, shopped too much, misjudged a person, impulsive sex or marriage too soon, wasted time on minor things, terminated a pregnancy, gave into peer pressure, left a marriage, job or friendship too soon, missed an opportunity because of not being prepared or on time, acts of selfishness, took my health, time, people, and blessings for granted, sought revenge, held onto grudges, broke trust, broke laws, broke hearts, broke promises, misguided anger and frustrations towards the wrong people, etc.)

The second …The regret of what I DIDN’T do…(e.g. finish college, good investments, didn’t spend enough time with family and friends, didn’t ask for help, didn’t travel, missed opportunities, didn’t get out of a dead-end relationship or job, didn’t speak up, didn’t ask for what I wanted, didn’t say, “I’m sorry”, didn’t take care of myself, didn’t go to the meeting, the party, class, immaturity and poor choices in my parenting ability, didn’t take leaps of faith, didn’t listen to my intuition, didn’t acknowledge my spiritual calling or purpose, etc.)

The third…The regret of not being able to fix or help someone When you can’t help a friend or family member who is sick, dying, addicted, in prison, suicidal, mentally ill, physically challenged, homeless, etc… you may feel helpless and regret not being able to be present/available/compassionate, financially helpful, the problem solver and fixer.
“A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart… the spirit is crushed.

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~ Proverbs 15:13

written by Jewel Diamond Taylor, Conference Keynote Speaker, Author, Life Coach, Leadership Workshop facilitator, Resiliency Educator, Emotional Wellness Educator, call 323.964.1736

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Here is a suggested web page to learn HOW TO STOP ruminating about your regrets and move forward in more healthier, positive, and productive ways. https://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Regretting-Your-Decisions