How to Win Friends and Influence People

Possessing good people skills can open many doors of possibilities and success for you.

Poor treatment of family,friends, co-workers, customers, etc… can destroy opportunities, damage relationships, ruin reputations, decrease your integrity and block blessings.

Your word and your promises are like gold.  Below is a classic message about developing positive people skills.

PRINCIPLES FROM “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE.”
(by Dale Carnegie *1888-1955* founder of the Carnegie Course)

Biography: Dale Carnegie was born in 1888 in Missouri and was educated at Warrensburg State Teachers College.
As a salesman and aspiring actor, he traveled to New York and began teaching communication classes to adults at the YMCA. In 1912, the world famous Carnegie Course was born. He authored several best-sellers, including, “How to win Friends and Influence people”, and “How to stop worrying and start living.” Over 50 million copies of Mr. Carnegie’s books have been printed and published in 38 languages. Mr. Carnegie was a prominent lecturer of his day and a sought-after counselor to world leaders. He wrote newspaper columns and had his own daily radio show. Dale Carnegie founded what
is today a worldwide network of over 3,000 instructors and offices in more than 70 countries.
BECOME A FRIENDLIER PERSON
1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the most important sound in any language.
7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
9. Make the other person feel important – and do so sincerely.
10 The only way to get the best of an argument is to
avoid it.

Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

  1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. (Because even if you win, you aren’t going to get what you want.)
  2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, “You’re wrong.”
  3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically. (A good way to start is to admit that you could be mistaken.)
  4. Begin in a friendly way.
  5. Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
  6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
  7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
  8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
  9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives. (Even if deep down they make the decision based on the baser ones. Everyone wants to be the hero of their own story.)
  11. Dramatize your ideas. (A picture and a story are worth a thousand words.)
  12. Throw down a challenge. (Do this when all else fails.)

Be A Leader: How To Change People Without Giving Offense Or Arousing Resentment

  1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
  2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
  3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
  4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
  5. Let the other person save face.
  6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
  7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
  8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
  9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.   click here to see list of more articles

Free Classes to Educate Yourself On-line

If you’re interested in learning something new, these great resources are FREE on-line.

Grow your mind!

Science and Health

  • MIT OpenCourseWare – MIT OpenCourseWare is a free web-based publication of MIT course materials that reflects almost all the undergraduate and graduate subjects taught at MIT.
  • Tufts OpenCourseWare – Tufts OpenCourseWare is part of a new educational movement initiated by MIT that provides free access to course content for everyone online.  Tufts’ course offerings demonstrate the University’s strength in the life sciences in addition to its multidisciplinary approach, international perspective and underlying ethic of service to its local, national and international communities.
  • HowStuffWorks Science – More scientific lessons and explanations than you could sort through in an entire year.
  • Harvard Medical School Open Courseware – The mission of the Harvard Medical School Open Courseware Initiative is to exchange knowledge from the Harvard community of scholars to other academic institutions, prospective students, and the general public.
  • Khan Academy – Over 1200 videos lessons covering everything from basic arithmetic and algebra to differential equations, physics, chemistry, and biology.
  • Open Yale Courses – Open Yale Courses provides lectures and other materials from selected Yale College courses to the public free of charge via the internet.  The courses span the full range of liberal arts disciplines, including humanities, social sciences, and physical and biological sciences.
  • webcast.berkeley – Every semester, UC Berkeley webcasts select courses and events for on-demand viewing via the Internet.  webcast.berkeley course lectures are provided as a study resource for both students and the public.
  • UC San Diego Podcast Lectures – UCSD’s podcasting service was established for instructional use to benefit our students.  Podcasts are taken down at the end of every quarter (10 weeks Fall-Spring and 5 weeks in the summer).  If you’re enjoying a podcast, be sure to subscribe and download the lectures.  Once the podcast has been taken offline, faculty rarely approve their reposting.
  • Johns Hopkins OpenCourseWare – The Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health’s OpenCourseWare project provides access to content of the School’s most popular courses. As challenges to the world’s health escalate daily, the School feels a moral imperative to provide equal and open access to information and knowledge about the obstacles to the public’s health and their potential solutions.
  • Carnegie Mellon Open Learning Initiative – No instructors, no credits, no charge.  Use these self-guiding Carnegie Mellon materials and activities to learn at your own pace.
  • Utah State OpenCourseWare – Utah State OpenCourseWare is a collection of educational material used in our formal campus courses, and seeks to provide people around the world with an opportunity to access high quality learning opportunities.
  • AMSER – AMSER (the Applied Math and Science Education Repository) is a portal of educational resources and services built specifically for use by those in Community and Technical Colleges but free for anyone to use.
  • Wolfram Demonstrations Project – Wolfram brings computational exploration to the widest possible audience, open-code resource that uses dynamic computation to illuminate concepts.  Free player runs all demos and videos.
  • The Science Forum – A very active scientific discussion and debate forum.
  • Free Science and Video Lectures Online! – A nice collection of video lectures and lessons on science and philosophy.
  • Science.gov – Science.gov searches over 42 databases and over 2000 selected websites from 14 federal agencies, offering 200 million pages of authoritative U.S. government science information including research and development results.
  • The National Science Digital Library – NSDL is the Nation’s online library for education and research in Science, Technology, Engineering, Mathematics.
  • EnviroLink Network–  A  non-profit organization, grassroots online community uniting organizations and volunteers around the world.  Up-to-date environmental information and news.
  • Geology.com – Information about geology and earth science to visitors without charge: Articles, News, Maps, Satellite Images, Dictionary, etc.
  • Scitable – A free science library and personal learning tool that currently concentrates on genetics, the study of evolution, variation, and the rich complexity of living organisms.  The site also expects to expand into other topics of learning and education.
  • LearningScience.org – A free open learning community for sharing newer and emerging tools to teach science.

Business and Money

  • MIT Sloan School of Management – MIT Sloan is a world-class business school long renowned for thought leadership and the ability to successfully partner theory and practice.  This is a subsection of the larger MIT OpenCourseWare site.
  • Investopedia Financial Investing Tutorials – A plethora of detailed lessons on money management and investing.
  • U.S. Small Business Administration Training Network – The Small Business Administration has one of the best selections of business courses on the web. Topics include everything from starting a business and business management to government contracting and international trade. Most courses take only 30 minutes to complete.
  • VideoLectures.NET (Business) – A free and open access educational video lectures repository. The lectures are given by distinguished scholars and scientists at the most important and prominent events like conferences, summer schools, workshops and science promotional events from many fields of Science.
  • My Own Business, Inc. – Offers a free online business administration course that would be beneficial to new managers and to anyone who is interested in starting a business. This comprehensive course is split up into 16 sessions covering topics like business plans, accounting, marketing, insurance, e-commerce and international trade.
  • UC Irvine OpenCourseWare (Business) – Rapidly with the addition of nearly 10 new courses every month. Many of our OCW offerings are directed at working adults seeking continuing education, with the option to enroll in instructor-led, for-credit courses, related to the OCW content.
  • Kutztown University of Pennsylvania – The Kutztown University of Pennsylvania’s Small Business Development Center offers more than 80 free business courses online. Kutztown’s courses are individualized and self-paced. Many of the courses feature high-end graphics, interactive case studies and audio streams.
  • Boston College Front Row (Business) – Boston College Front Row is a Web site that offers free access through streaming media to tapes of cultural and scholarly events at Boston College.
  • Financial Management Training Center – The Financial Management Training Center provides several free downloadable business courses for people who need to learn the finer points of financial management. All courses offered can be taken online; courses include full exams as well as evaluation forms for people seeking Continuing Professional Education (CPE) credits.
  • The Free Nonprofit Micro-eMBA – Free Management Library’s Free Nonprofit Micro-eMBA Program is an especially great resource for students wishing to learn more about nonprofit management, but most of the lessons also apply to general business management. Completion of this program will not result in an MBA degree, but enrollment is free and the material is well structured.
  • Bookboon Free Business e-books – Hundreds of free business books online in PDF format.
  • TheStreet University – If you’re just starting out as a stock and bond investor or need a refresher’s course, this is the place to learn what you need to know.

History and World Culture

  • University of Washington’s OpenUW – Explore a variety of learning in several free history-centric online courses from the University of Washington.
  • Notre Dame OpenCourseWare – Notre Dame OCW is a free and open educational resource for faculty, students, and self-learners throughout the world.
  • Bio’s Best – Biography.com’s most popular biographies on notable historical figures.
  • UC Irvine OpenCourseWare (Social Science) – Rapidly with the addition of nearly 10 new courses every month. Many of our OCW offerings are directed at working adults seeking continuing education, with the option to enroll in instructor-led, for-credit courses, related to the OCW content.
  • Boston College Front Row (History) – Boston College Front Row is a Web site that offers free access through streaming media to tapes of cultural and scholarly events at Boston College.
  • MIT OpenCourseWare (History) – The MIT History Faculty offers about 70 subjects in the areas of Ancient, North American, European, East Asian, and Middle Eastern history.
  • Wikiversity School of Social Sciences – Wikiversity is a Wikimedia Foundation project devoted to learning resources, learning projects, and research for use in all levels, types, and styles of education from pre-school to university, including professional training and informal learning.
  • OpenLearn (Arts and Humanities) – The OpenLearn website gives free access to Open University course materials.
  • A Biography of America – A Biography of America presents history not simply as a series of irrefutable facts to be memorized, but as a living narrative of America’s story.
  • Have Fun with History – A resource for students, educators and all lovers of American History.
  • The USGenWeb Project – Free genealogy and family history resources online.
  • MacroHistory and World Report – Tell without illusions or ideological restraints the story of our ancestors, our parents and us.
  • World History HyperHistory – Navigates through 3000 years of World History with links to important persons and events of world historical importance.
  • American Digital History – Online American history textbook. An interactive, multimedia history of the United States from the Revolution to the present.

Law

  •  Duke Law Center for the Public Domain – Duke University is counted amongst the best schools in the South. If you’re interested in law, Duke’s open courseware in that subject area can go a long way towards helping you learn more about the justice system.
  • Intute Law – Provides free access to high quality resources on the Internet. Each resource has been evaluated and categorised by subject specialists based at UK universities.
  • Boston College Front Row (Law) – Boston College Front Row is a Web site that offers free access through streaming media to tapes of cultural and scholarly events at Boston College.
  • American University – Offers a selection of podcasts on a number of different law-related subjects. There is even a very interesting podcast on debt relief and the law.
  • Lewis & Clark Law School – Provides a number of podcast from the law school. Subjects include tax law, business law, environmental law and other areas of law. Interesting and insightful lectures on the law.
  • Case Western Reserve University School of Law – Offers a number of interesting lectures on different law subjects. These lectures are both podcasts and Web casts. You can look ahead to the coming school year, which already has a number of interesting subjects lined up.
  • Harvard Law School – Provides a number of Web casts of law lectures, symposia, panels and conferences. A great collection of relevant information and insights on how the law interacts with current events.
  • Stanford Law – Provides open courseware via iTunes on a variety of law subjects, including the theory of justice, mobile content distribution, gay marriage, judicial review and privacy protection. The tracks are available for free, but you’ll need iTunes. Put the lectures on your iPod or iPhone and listen them anywhere.
  • MoneyInstructor Business Law – From MoneyInstructor.com provides a look at a number of basics in business law. Learn how to define crimes under business law. Worksheets and curriculums are available for teachers. Ordinary folks will find them useful as well.
  • Wesleyan College Constitutional Law – From North Carolina Wesleyan College offers an overview of the U.S. Constitution and the laws springing from it. Online lectures and class notes are included, which can help you develop a strong understanding of the Constitution and how it forms the basis of our laws.

Computer Science and Engineering

  • VideoLectures.NET (Computer Science) – A free and open access educational video lectures repository. The lectures are given by distinguished scholars and scientists at the most important and prominent events like conferences, summer schools, workshops and science promotional events from many fields of Science.
  • Wikiversity School of Computer Science and Technology – Wikiversity is a Wikimedia Foundation project devoted to learning resources, learning projects, and research for use in all levels, types, and styles of education from pre-school to university, including professional training and informal learning.
  • New York State University (US), Computer Science – Hundreds of lectures, tutorials and links to educational material.
  • Dream.In.Code Tutorials – Lots of computer programming tutorials.
  • MIT OpenCourseWare (Engineering and Computer Science) – MIT OpenCourseWare is a free web-based publication of MIT course materials that reflects almost all the undergraduate and graduate subjects taught at MIT.
  • Maine University (US), Fogler Guide to Computer Science – An insanely detailed list of computer science resources.
  • FreeComputerBooks.com  – Free computer, mathematics, technical books and lecture notes.
  • Collection of Computer Science Bibliographies – A massive collection of bibliographies of scientific literature in computer science, updated weekly from original locations, more than 3 millions of references (mostly to journal articles, conference papers and technical reports), clustered in about 2000 bibliographies.
  • W3Schools – Web-building tutorials, from basic HTML and XHTML to advanced XML, SQL, Database, Multimedia and WAP.
  • FreeTechBooks.com – This site lists free online computer science, engineering and programming books, textbooks and lecture notes, all of which are legally and freely available over the Internet.
  • Free computer Tutorials – Free computer courses and tutorials site. All the courses are aimed at complete beginners, so you don’t need experience to get started.
  • Programmer 101: Teach Yourself How to Code – Several helpful resources for computer programming beginners.
  • Google Code University – Provides sample course content and tutorials for Computer Science (CS) students and educators on current computing technologies and paradigms.

Mathematics

  • Oxford University Mathematics OpenCourseWare – Various online mathematics classes provided free by Oxford University.
  • UMass Boston Mathematics – Various online mathematics classes provided free by UMass Boston.
  • Whatcom Online Math Center – Various math lessons provided free by Whatcom Community College.
  • VideoLectures.NET (Mathematics) – A free and open access educational video lectures repository. The lectures are given by distinguished scholars and scientists at the most important and prominent events like conferences, summer schools, workshops and science promotional events from many fields of Science.
  • Wikiversity School of Mathematics – Wikiversity is a Wikimedia Foundation project devoted to learning resources, learning projects, and research for use in all levels, types, and styles of education from pre-school to university, including professional training and informal learning.
  • AMSER Mathematics – AMSER (the Applied Math and Science Education Repository) is a portal of educational resources and services built specifically for use by those in Community and Technical Colleges but free for anyone to use.
  • Math.com – Math.com is dedicated to providing revolutionary ways for students, parents, teachers, and everyone to learn math.
  • Intute Mathematics – Provides free access to high quality resources on the Internet. Each resource has been evaluated and categorized by subject specialists based at UK universities.
  • Free-Ed College Mathematics – Offers a wide range of free online math courses and study programs.

English and Communications

  • Open Yale Courses (English) – Open Yale Courses provides lectures and other materials from selected Yale College courses to the public free of charge via the internet.
  • Writing Guidelines for Engineering and Science Students – These guidelines for engineering writing and scientific writing are designed to help students communicate their technical work.
  • MIT Writing and Humanistic Studies – The MIT Program in Writing and Humanistic Studies gives students the opportunity to learn the techniques, forms, and traditions of several kinds of writing, from basic expository prose to more advanced forms of non-fictional prose, fiction and poetry, science writing, scientific and technical communication and digital media.
  • Merriam-Webster Online – In this digital age, your ability to communicate with written English is paramount skill.  And M-W.com is the perfect resource to improve your English now.
  • National Novel Writing Month – Valuing enthusiasm and perseverance over painstaking craft, NaNoWriMo is a novel-writing program for everyone who has thought fleetingly about writing a novel but has been scared away by the time and effort involved.
  • Lifewriting – A complete text of the 9-week writing class a professor taught for years at UCLA.
  • Guide to Grammar and Writing – Grammar and writing techniques, lessons and quizzes.
  • Purdue Online Writing Lab – Over 200 free resources including lessons on: writing, research, grammar, and style guides.

Foreign and Sign Languages

  • BBC Languages – Teach yourself a new spoken language online.
  • American Sign Language Browser – Teach yourself sign language online.
  • Livemocha – Start learning a new language online for free.
  • Learn10 – Gives you a language learning habit that’s hard to kick. 10 new words; everywhere, every day.
  • One Minute Languages – Learn a new language via podcasts that are updated regularly.
  • Mango Languages – Over 100 lessons, shown to you in PowerPoint style with interstitial quizzes, to move you through any language without cracking a book.

Multiple Subjects and Miscellaneous

  • OpenLearn – The OpenLearn website gives free access to Open University course materials.  Multiple subjects are covered.
  • Capilano University OpenCourseWare – The Capilano University OpenCourseWare site is a free and open educational resource for faculty, students, and self-learners throughout the world.
  • University of Southern Queensland’s OpenCourseWare – Provides access to free and open educational resources for faculty members, students, and self-learners throughout the world.
  • YouTube EDU – Educational videos on YouTube organized by subject matter.
  • LearnHub Test Prep – Raise your test scores with free practice tests & counseling on various subjects.
  • iTunes U – Hundreds of universities — including Stanford, Yale and MIT — distribute lectures, slide shows, PDFs, films, exhibit tours and audio books through iTunes U.  The Science section alone contains content on topics including agriculture, astronomy, biology, chemistry, physics, ecology and geography.
  • United Nations University OpenCourseWare – Showcases the training and educational programs implemented by the University in a wide range of areas relevant to the work of the United Nations.
  • Brigham Young Independent Study – BYU Independent Study now offers free courses in different areas of study.  These areas include Family History, Family Life, and Religious Scripture Study, Personal Dev elopement, etc.  Use these courses as a starting point for your personal studies or just to add insight to an area of interest.
  • University of Utah OpenCourseWare – Provides access to free and open educational resources for faculty members, students, and self-learners throughout the world.
  • United States Nation Archives – The National Archives and Records Administration (NARA) is the nation’s record keeper.  Valuable records are preserved and are available to you, whether you want to see if they contain clues about your family’s history, need to prove a veteran’s military service, or are researching an historical topic that interests you.
  • Wikiversity – Wikiversity is a Wikimedia Foundation project devoted to learning resources, learning projects, and research for use in all levels, types, and styles of education from pre-school to university, including professional training and informal learning.
  • UMass Boston OpenCourseWare – Various online classes provided free by UMass Boston.
  • About U – A collection of free online educational courses from About.com.
  • Academic Earth – Online degrees and video courses from leading universities.
  • Free-Ed – Clusters of courses that support your preparation for today’s fastest-growing careers and critical academic disciplines.
  • Connexions – A place to view and share educational material made of small knowledge chunks called modules that can be organized as courses, books, reports, etc. Anyone may view or contribute.
  • TED – Motivational and educational lectures from noteworthy professionals around the world.
  • Intute – Provides free access to high quality resources on the Internet. Each resource has been evaluated and categorised by subject specialists based at UK universities.
  • Boston College Front Row – Boston College Front Row is a Web site that offers free access through streaming media to tapes of cultural and scholarly events at Boston College.

Free Books and Reading Recommendations

  • LibraryThing – LibraryThing connects you to other people who are reading what you’re reading and allows you to see which books are popular in various categories of reading.
  • Textbook Revolution – Links to free online textbooks and other educational materials.
  • Book TV – This is the companion site to Book TV on C-Span2. The site holds some current interviews with authors, many past interviews, opinions, reviews, and featured programs through online video.
  • Bookboon – Bookboon provides online textbooks for students in PDF format. The free ebooks can be downloaded without registration. Our books are legal and written exclusively for Bookboon. They are financed by a few in-book ads.
  • Scribd – Scribd, the online document sharing site which supports Word, Excel, PowerPoint, PDF and other popular formats. You can download a document or embed it in your blog or web page.
  • BookYards – BookYards is a web portal in which books, education materials, information, and content will be freely to anyone who has an internet connection.
  • Planet eBook – Free classic literature to download and share.
  • E-Books Directory – Thousands of ebooks on various subjects to download and share.
  • Read Print Library – Free online books library for students, teachers, and the classic enthusiast.GoodReads – Get great book recommendations and keep track of what you want to read.
  • The Online Books Page – University of Pennsylvania database with over 30,000 books.
  • Public Literature – Thousands of familiar classics, children’s books, plays and poems, as well as books by new authors.
  • Full Books – Thousands of full-text nonfiction and fiction books.
  • Many Books – Free fiction and nonfiction ebooks for your PDA, iPod or ebook reader.
  • Get Free Books – Thousands of free ebooks to download.
  • Project Gutenberg – More than 20,000 free books from the first producer of free e-books.
  • Bibliomania – Thousands of classic books, poems, short stories and plays.
  • Classic Reader – Large collection of free classic books, plays, and short stories from more than 300 authors.
  • Bartleby Fiction – Classic anthologies and volumes.
  • The Personal MBA Recommended Reading List – MBA programs don’t have a monopoly on advanced business knowledge: you can teach yourself everything you need to know to succeed in life and at work.  The Personal MBA features the very best business books available, based on thousands of hours of research.
  • Books Should Be Free – Free audio books from the public domain.

Educational Mainstream Broadcast Media

  • BBC Learning – Online learning, support, and advice. This site offers internal and offsite links to a vast amount of materials.
  • Biography – The site holds videos to past interviews and biographies on people in topics that range from Black history to women’s history.
  • Book TV – This is the companion site to Book TV on C-Span2. The site holds some current interviews with authors, many past interviews, opinions, reviews, and featured programs through online video.
  • CBC Archives — Relive Canadian history through thousands of available radio and television clips.
  • Discovery — This channel is home to several different networks that focus on the military, animals, travel, etc. The Discovery site offers a “Video of the Day” from its home page, a separate online video section, and a Discover Education center where teachers can accumulate materials for K-12 teaching. It’s impossible to list all their offerings here, so go discover!
  • History Channel – Visit the Video Gallery for a selection on historical topics. Like the Discovery Channel, this network provides many opportunities for you to gain access to information and reference materials.
  • NOVA — Watch current science shows or browse by category. PBS sponsors this channel.
  • Research Channel — Speakers, researchers and professors present revolutionary thoughts and discoveries. Use their Webstreams and an extensive video-on-demand library for research.
  • Weather Channel – You can learn about weather all over the world, but the Weather Channel also offers dynamic content based upon seasons and special conditions and a special multimedia and education section.

Online Archives

  • American Memory – The Library of Congress provides extensive multimedia offerings on various topics through their American Memory Collection, including their outstanding Built in America project that showcases historical buildings through photographs.
  • Fathom – This archive, provided by Columbia University, offers access to the complete range of free content developed for Fathom by its member institutions. The archives include online learning resources including lectures, articles, interviews, exhibits and seminars.
  • Internet Archive Open Educational Resources – A digital library of Internet sites and other cultural artifacts in digital form.
  • National Archives – Provides primary source materials from NARA along with lesson plans for teaching with those sources.
  • National Climatic Data Center – The NCDC, a division of NOAA, maintains climatic archives, including lists of storms in given counties, and records about global extremes, etc.
  • The Rosetta Project – A global collaboration of language specialists and native speakers building a publicly accessible online archive of all documented human languages.
  • September 11 Digital Archive – This site uses electronic media to collect, preserve, and present the history of the 9/11 attacks.
  • U.S. Census Bureau – If you think the Census Bureau is all about numbers, you might be surprised to learn about their archived photographs, daily radio features, and more available through theirNewsroom.

Directories of Open Education

  • Google Scholar – Provides a simple way to broadly search for scholarly literature. From one place, you can search across many disciplines and sources: articles, theses, books, abstracts and court opinions, from academic publishers, professional societies, online repositories, universities and other web sites.
  • OpenCourseWare Consortium – This site provides a portal to search through hundreds of free courses or to add new courses you know about to the database.
  • iBerry – Check out this site for a huge directory of open courseware organized by school and subject matter that can point you in the right direction for any type of learning.
  • Self Made Scholar Directory – Free online directory of web-based classes and courses.

5 Ways to Get Things Done!

1. Be honest with yourself. Overcome denial. Admit you could use some help and accountability. Welcome the support of others i.e. friend, tutor, mentor, prayer partner, co-worker, success coach, support group, rehab sponsor, etc.

2.Break down your task or project into small steps. Start by focusing on that first small step. When you are done move on to the next and just focus on that one. The small successes will keep your motivation up and keeping your focus away from the big picture which can stop you from becoming overwhelmed and discouraged. It’s amazing how much you can get done if you follow this simple method.

3. Get close to people on fire (i.e. people who are taking action and living their best life overcoming procrastination or fear). When a stove is on, the closer you get the stove, more you feel the heat and see something cooking. The further you walk away from the stove, you become colder. If you want to start something “cookin'” in your life, get close to people already on fire and away from cold, stuck, unmotivated and critical people.

4. Stop right now and think of a task/goal that you are procrastinating on. Now think of the rewards and benefits if you finish it or think of the consequences and costs you will face if you don’t finish. Now which one of these will cause you to get moving…consequences or rewards? People are either motivated by pain or pleasure…which one are you?

5. Notice your sabotaging inner-talk. Change your thinking and words to be more affirming, positive and productive. Here is a suggested link with 12 powerful prayer/affirmation cards to read daily.

Success Life Coaching Works

“My style of personal coaching and counseling is a collaborative, goal-oriented method of communication with particular attention to helping you get results and more clarity about your choices and circumstances.   My job is to “draw out” your own motivations, skills, faith and courage to grow.  My assistance by listening, feedback and coaching will guide you from thinking about change … to confidence…to actually taking action.  My style and experience of coaching/counseling can guide you from feeling stuck and overwhelmed … to creating a new feeling and mindset of courage, faith, self-esteem, confidence, satisfaction and emotional healing.  What follows is feedback from one of my clients.”
“Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivator, Speaker, Life Coach, Author, Supreme Woman of God, what else can I say?  Truly my first session with Jewel was an appointment ordained by God.  Jewel is truly gifted in her profession and anointed by God.  I would have never imagined that I would have an opportunity to work with Jewel from a one on one coaching perspective.  All I can say is God opened the door.  My first session was very informative and caused me to do some heartfelt soul searching.  I thank God for Jewel’s book, “You Deserve More”  because it gave me a voice around what I could not say of did not know how to say.  I could relate to everything in the book.  Please to all, I would strongly recommend that purchase.  Make an investment in yourself.
During my session with Jewel, she asked probing questions with genuineness and sincerity to understand my expectations and needs.  She was very transparent in sharing her experiences which assisted me in expressing and communicating what I was looking to change and improve.  Jewel ws empathetic and focused on ensuring I pursue my best self in all areas, personally, emotionally, professionally, spiritually, and financially.
The most amazing part of this experience was the very next morning after the session, I googled a particular topic on joy and so many of the things that Jewel discussed during my session were confirmed by this article that I searched.  I don’t call this luck, I call that an anointed and divine session that God had orchestrated from the time I was being formed in my mother’s womb.  Jewel, thank you for a wonderful first session.  I look forward to many more.
To those of you that are going through any challenge or obstacle, love yourself, invest in yourself because YOU are worth it.  Be Blessed and as Jewel says, “Stay In The Light”.
 ~ Renee (Delaware)

Women on the Grow

A few years ago a young woman sat in my Women on the Grow life enrichment support group classes, How to Be anE-7 Woman“. I congratulate and celebrate with my Women on the Grow Dream Team Member Arnetha because she followed through by applying the principles from my E-7 Woman Class and my book Shift Happens: The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing…The Main Thing.  Enjoy and be inspired by her testimony below:

“I am an E7 Woman on the Grow!!! Hello Jewel Diamond Taylor, This notification is to share with you the good news that I met my goal on June 9, 2012. I graduated from University of Phoenix and received my Bachelors of Science degree in Psychology. It was a long journey. I overcame many challenging obstacles; issues in my marriage relationship, struggling to stay focused and committed to my family and friends (I had to say NO to numerous social activities in order to “Keep the Main Thing ~ The Main Thing. “ My obstacles became my stepping stones for success and strengthened me in areas that I felt I could not persevere. There were times I felt that I would not be able to accomplish my goals because I was too busy trying to balance work and family. I recall at so many of your Super Goal Saturday events that I would say this is my year to graduate only to fall short a few credits (take a break to avoid a breakdown). Well here I am stronger and wiser and more knowledgeable. Yes, I was tired many of nights, sleep deprivation and unprepared family meals; needless to say I lost a few points on assignments due to poor planning of time management better known as procrastination.  I will continue to grow and work towards my Masters in Psychology.

Arnetha Booth

My accomplishments and goals as an E7 woman include the following:

1)      Empowered – plugged into God’s energy, standing in authority of God’s power

2)      Emotional Intelligence – manage my own emotions so others don’t manage me

3)      Economic Strength – wise with spending money and prosperous in health, multiple streams of income

4)      Enlightened – relationship with God and understanding His word

5)      Encouraged – empty the negative and fill myself with positivity, appreciation & gratitude (listening and reading materials by Jewel Diamond Taylor) my mentor and greatest inspirational teacher

6)      Education – Returned to school in 2007, one class and one course at a time, focused on the area that I was interested in growing (With God all things are possible)

7)      Self Esteem – I am worthy and loved. I am enough. I know who I am and know that I am truly a worthy child of God. (This was a long process to accept of myself).”

 Sincerely, Arnetha Booth (Your Dream Team Member) Irvine, CA

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Coping with a Setback

Setbacks are an inevitable part of life.  Expect them and accept them as learning experiences. No one likes to experience a setback in life.  No one likes to start all over again. Resilient people know that failures and mistakes are not dead-ends.  People become resilient and recover from setbacks because they don’t let failures and mistakes stop them—they use them as learning experiences.  Obstacles can become opportunities for growth.

None of us know what the future holds.  If God told you all the blessings and possibilities coming your way, you might not believe it or you might sabotage it because you don’t feel worthy or ready.

Do you feel like your setbacks are permanent or a form of punishment?  Maybe you are like an arrow in God’s hand and you are about to be launched into a brighter future and new possibilities you can’t even imagine.  Hold on and trust God.  Your setback could be a setup for a stronger comeback.  Your attitude, actions, courage and faith are determining the trajectory of your future.

When life brings you situations that you can’t control or change … the change will change you.  The shift will shake your faith.  The question is, “How will you be changed?  Will you be bitter or better?  Will you get stuck in your pain or will you be self-motivated to press and persevere?  Will you live with shame, anger or blame or will you become super intentional to learn the lessons so you won’t have to repeat them?  Will you become more compassionate, discerning, and proactive or will you start acting like a powerless victim?  Will you find your voice or will you become helpless and passive?  Will you have more faith or have more fear and anxiety?  Will you be crushed by the weight of life’s demands, trials and tribulations or rise and be resilient?

“Be of good courage and He shall strengthen your heart.”          (Psalm 31:24)

No matter how good a person you are or how much preparation you make… stuff happens.  No matter how strong the attack, be still and Trust God. You may be experiencing envy, threats from bill collectors, loneliness, heart ache or wondering how you will get through your season of drought.

Connect with loved ones.  Keep your perspective.  Help others.   Feel gratitude.  Nothing raises your energy higher than offering prayers of thanks for what you have.  Learn from the situation.  Your situation may really be quite horrible but what’s worse is to fall into the same trap again.  If you just left an abusive relationship, learn from it and don’t get into another one.  If you just got fired, figure out what you really want to be doing and see it as an opportunity to find something better.  If you think low self esteem got you into the situation, work on improving your self esteem.  What you don’t want to do is beat yourself up after someone else has already beaten you up.  That serves no purpose.  If you start hearing thoughts in your head like, “I’m just a failure,” or “I’m not worthy of love,” or “Who is going to hire me now?”, stop the negative thinking.  That’s fear talking.  Negative, fearful and worry thoughts will anchor your feet under the water and you’ll drown.  If you pray, don’t worry.  If you’re going to worry, you cancel out the power of prayer.  Take care of yourself.  Take some time to do something joyful.  See a movie, take a walk, call a good friend, get a spa treatment, dine at your favorite restaurant.   Shift happens.  Don’t allow any setbacks, shaking, and shifting in your life cause you to give up.  Read more in my book “Shift Happens.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr., Founder of Women on the Grow, author, Life Coach, Minister and Women’s Retreat Leader for over 20 years.

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Repeating Mistakes? Read Proverbs 4:5-7

“I would bet you are like me. You’ve had your share of problems, disappointments, losses, heartaches, regrets and mistakes. Maybe you have tried to cope with your personal pain by pretending it doesn’t hurt or you put up an emotional wall keeping people and solutions out. Maybe you sought comfort and relief with food, sex, sleep, shopping, busyness, isolation, alcohol, drugs or hurting others. Maybe you ignored the guidance of God, family and friends.

Sadly, I realize those were some of the emotional paths I took. In the past, my inability to cope or my lack of faith led to depression, overspending, high blood pressure, loss of sleep, being so serious and emotionally fragile that I couldn’t laugh, relax, let go or take the hits.

Oh, but thank God for mercy, grace and patience. I learned to let go, trust God more, listen more and not be so hard on myself. I learned how to discipline my appetites, flesh, feelings and faulty thinking. No, wait a minute, let me say… I continue to learn how to discipline myself. It is an on-going process to mature in my faith and in my human imperfections.

When you and I do not grow emotionally and spiritually to cope with the twists and turns of life, we become prone to sickness, anger, depression, addiction, broken relationships, a low self-esteem and repeat the same mistakes.

If you and I are too sensitive to receive feedback and support from others, we lose. If you and I quit every time a job, task or relationship gets difficult, we lose credibility, blessings,opportunities, success and self-esteem. If you and I are not teachable and constantly compare ourselves to others, it is a sign that our self-worth and self-esteem are low. If we think we should be able to control and fix everyone and every situation, we are living with an illusion. If we cannot listen to the whispers of God guiding us the right way…then we will suffer as life begins to scream and yell, “You fool…you are not listening to wisdom.”

Every day I challenge myself to stop, look and listen. Today I challenge you with tenderness mixed with toughness to grow emotionally and spiritually. When you are faced with a problem or at a crossroad will you…

. Make excuses

. Make mistakes

. Make and keep commitments

. Be mad

. Be miserable, depressed and act like a victim

. Seek wisdom and wise counsel

. Take responsibility for your choices

. Be motivated to take positive steps

. Love God, listen to God, let go and trust God