Ups and downs of life

Life is full of ups and downs, just like a rollercoaster ride. Your age, education, income, intelligence, breeding or status doesn’t matter. You will experience the ups and downs of life. It does not matter if you are in the back or front of a roller coaster, everyone will feel the excitement, fear and unknown twists and turns.

Unfortunately many people cannot cope with the downs and want to always stay up. When the pain of being down is too much to bear people often choose to numb the pain with sleep, food, alcohol, sex, drugs, denial, extreme busyness or being the clown. People who shut their eyes to reality simply invite their own doubts, destruction and defeat.

Life is better lived awake, sober, resilient and with faith. The human spirit is stronger than you think.

If you find yourself wanting to numb the pain, please reach out for help to stop any self-destructive habits. Wake up. Get up. Stay prayed up. Cheer up. Think up. Reach up and look up to God to order your steps and bless you with mercy, grace and strength to see better days. Always remember the wise saying, “This, too, shall pass.”

Don’t quit because you’re alone.

Don’t quit because it’s tough.

Don’t quit because you’re out of your comfort zone.

Don’t quit because you’re mad.

Don’t quit because you’re sad.

Don’t quit because no one seems to help or care.

Don’t quit because it’s taking so long.

Don’t quit because you see no reward.

Don’t quit because you think it’s too late.

Don’t quit…stick with it.

Speak victory into your life.

Speak success into your life.

Speak determination into your life.

Speak love into your life.

Speak strength and courage into your life.

Direct your action and attention on your intention.

(excerpt from the book “Shift Happens: The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing…The Main Thing by Jewel Diamond Taylor )   When your order this book, you will receive two (2) laminated magnets below of this picture.

Praise Report

Blessings Minister Jewel Diamond Taylor (June 5, 2012)

I pray all is well. Please excuse me if I am rambling but I want to inform you that meeting you for the first time in 2008 at the business meeting that took place in Greenbelt MD changed my life. It gave me the inspiration to go home and write my essay to apply for Graduate school when I had procrastinated for months(almost a year) to write it. The deadline for graduate school was approaching fast and I could never stay focus to complete one paragraph, but after that first session of hearing you speak in person I was on an inspirational high. I was able to go home and write my 5-page typed essay in three hours. 😉 I was dancing around my house, listening and singing the song “Encourage Yourself” by Donald Lawrence that you played at the event.

I was on an inspirational high and no person or thing was able to break my spirit at that moment. I felt as if I could conquer the world. I was very empowered by your message to “Keep the Main Thing the Main Thing” that it encouraged me to purchase your book so it can help me to continue to stay focus and keep moving and growing forward. You autograph the book for me and you wrote the message, “stay focused” and I did. Your message and your wonderful spirit encouraged and empowered me to finish that paper that words were flowing out of nowhere. I emailed it to my friends and family to proofread before I submitted it to the school and they loved it. They said that they were so inspired by my essay that they wanted to return to school and focus on living their dreams or if they were the dean they would accept me without any thought. I was able to write an empowering essay because God used you to empower me that day. I was so full of encouragement that the very next day I emailed you to inform you of how I felt and emailed all of my friends and coworkers who were also inspired by what you have done. After reading my email to them, they wanted to meet you because they have never heard me sound so excited and encouraged in that way before I sent them my testimony of going to see you whenever you are in town is a life changing experience.

I wanted to inform you that the day you help me take the first step to apply to graduate school. Now, I have now completed that goal. I saw myself finishing school and I completed my MBA program from the University of the District of Columbia, Saturday, May 8, 2012. Attached is a picture of me receiving my MBA degree with a concentration in Accounting. To this day, I am not sure if I would have ever written that essay if I did not meet you so thanks for always encouraging God’s people.

Blessings,  Ikisha N. Little, MBA

ABC’s for Success

ABC’s for Success

A ppreciate and value your life and dreams.  Life is too short to waste on complaining, procrastination or a pity party. Take consistent steps to create a life of purpose, meaning, success, peace, faith and inner strength to withstand the challenges in life.

B elieve in yourself.  Distance yourself from those who belittle and discourage you. Control that inner critic.   Putting yourself down damages your self-esteem.  Change the voice of your inner critic.  Perfectionism and self-criticism are sabotaging and non-productive.   Don’t be too hard on yourself… yet continue to push yourself towards the next level of improvement.  Sometimes you may not “feel” like doing what you should do; i.e. balance your budget, exercise, school work, build your business, get over the blues or fight the battle of the bulge.  Feelings of apathy, indifference, denial, procrastination, fear and doubt do not serve you well. Stand up and speak up when you feel someone is riding your back, abusing or disrespecting you, judging you, stabbing you in the back or simply doesn’t have your back.  Surround yourself with people who believe in you instead of people who belittle you.  Strengthen your confidence and self-esteem.  There is a difference between being cocky and prideful and having confidence.

C onsider things from every angle.  You have blind spots that can prevent you from seeing possibilities and solutions.  When you are faced with a decision or problem don’t think small and don’t get stuck with a limited perspective.  Practice creative thinking, communicate with others, be flexible, tap into your intuition, imagination and instincts. You can learn to see new ways of solving problems, creating solutions and resolving conflict.

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Feeling stuck #!?@

You and I could blame other people all day for our failures, hurts and setbacks.  We only grow when we examine ourselves and realize we often sabotage and block our own blessings and success.  We procrastinate for many reasons; self-doubt, boredom, fear of failure, perfectionism, lack of discipline and focus, being unprepared, feeling unworthy, pride, and shame.

These feelings alone don’t necessarily lead to procrastination.  What tips the scales is going after your goals or tackling a task alone with no one to help you and no one to cheer you on.

You might think you are lazy or lack faith and confidence.  The real hindrance is loneliness and lack of accountability.  The way to overcome loneliness-based procrastination is to enlist the support of other people.

Jogging buddies, college study groups and self-help recovery groups understand the secret of accountability and encouragement.  If you are tired of your own excuses and really want to see results this year, ask for support.

coaching logo      Allow me to share with YOU some solutions and accountability to help you stay the course and see results this year!

 Do you have a desire to:

.  lose weight/have more energy/better health

.  find employment

.  increase your faith

.  graduate

.  stay clean and sober

.  complete your paperwork

.  de-cluttering your office/garage/home

.  overcome depression

.  save money/get out of debt

.  get out of an abusive relationship

.  write your book, finish your project or start your business

.  discover your life purpose

. heal from being stuck in grief, shame and depression

Come out of isolation.  Let go of pride.  Create a partnership.  Be accountable to a friend, family member, life coach (like me), your co-worker, mentor, your Bible Study group, etc.  Procrastination is a thief.

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Your Dream is Possible

My popular motivational book is “Shift Happens: The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing…The MAIN THING!”

Tyler Perry shares a great message on a video about the power of focus. When you remain focused on the “main thing” …you increase your chances for success.

Many times people tried to get me off track to follow their opinion, their dream, their business, their passion or their agenda.  My passion for speaking and teaching has remained for over 25 years and I am SO thankful that God’s grace has kept me.  I believe 100% in the success principle of focus that Tyler Perry shares on a short video message link below.

Are you willing to let some things go?  Are you willing to press, persevere, push and be resilient each time you have a disappointment?  Will you give up 5 minutes before your miracle?  Will you stay the course even though you see no evidence of your harvest?
 Anything is possible when you become a passionate believer in the gift, idea, dreams and possibilities that God gives to you.  Be unstoppable.  Be relentless,  Be focused.  Be persistent.  Be teachable.  Be resilient.  Be clear.  Be willing to sacrifice and be misunderstood but also be ready to receive the support, love and resources from unexpected places and people.

You will be encouraged by his message.  Listen and decide what your focus will be.

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Success Declaration

Your words have power!  As a man or woman thinketh…so is he(she).  What you think about…you can bring about.

Your prescription of pearls of wisdom today from the Self-esteem Dr. is to read the “I AM Success Declaration” as least twice a day.   In case of an emergency (doubt, fear or procrastination), I suggest you read it 3 times a day.   The refills on this prescription are unlimited.   Read more in my e-book  Heal Your Mind and Your Behind Will Follow.   positive pearls

Click here to read the popular  “I AM Success Declaration”   which has taken the world by storm.  It is my most popular download request from my web site. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr.  www.DoNotGiveUp.net

Do You Have a Mentor?

Click the link below to read about our awesome First Lady Michelle Obama.

She is teaching about the importance of mentoring.    The lack of mentoring is on my list of the 10 Success Power Points to Work On.

If these 10 points are ignored, you will can never reach your full potential for success, health and purposeful living.   I painfully paid the price of learning 10 major areas in our lives that require your attention, wisdom and growth.  You can avoid losing my money, time and opportunities.  I share these pearls of wisdom with you on my CD.

Glamour magazine cover 2009

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