21 Success Habits

As a writer and public speaker with a curious mind, I’m always searching for new words to express my ideas about success, excellence, performance, customer service, motivation and the pursuit of purpose and happiness.  “über” is a word I see often.

In German, über is used as a prefix as well as a word in its own right. Both uses indicate a state or action involving increased elevation or quantity in the physical sense, or superiority, elevation, pedominant elite or excess in the abstract.

The crossover of the term “über” from German into English goes back to the work of German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche. In 1883, Nietzsche coined the term “Übermensch” to describe the higher state to which he felt men might aspire. The term was brought into English by George Bernard Shaw in the title to his 1903 play “Man and Superman”.  Below I offer 21 proven ways to be a “superman” or “superwoman” to surpass those who have an average existence.  Elevating your thinking and habits will help you to “uber-size” your income, achievements, faith and well-being.

Uber 1“We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.”  ~Aristotle

A habit is a choice that we deliberately make at some point, and then stop thinking about, but continue thinking, feeling or doing unconsciously (auto pilot).  A habit is a formula (i.e. loop of actions, thoughts and feelings) our brain automatically follows.  Your mind likes to conserve energy, so habits become short cuts.  Your mind is on auto-pilot and doesn’t have to think.  Habits can be ignored, changed, or replaced. Habits are powerful.  Sadness and depression can become a habit.  Procrastination, anger and doubt can become habits.  Perseverance and optimism can become habits.  Gratitude, compassion and great customer service can become habits.  Dishonesty or integrity are habits.  Praying or complaining are habits.   Drinking water or alcohol are habits.   Your brain can’t tell the difference between bad and good habits. This explains why it’s so hard to create exercise habits.   To surpoass your past results, what habits do you need to change, replace and create?

21 Habits to Uber-size your efforts to aspire higher to achieve more momentum, progress and success.

1.    Get sufficient rest.  Lack of sleep causes more mistakes, irritability and poor health.
2.    Think and ink your priority tasks and goals.  Keep them in sight. Review them often.
3.    Create accountability relationships to keep you on track.
4.    Feed your brain.  Create the healthy habits of drinking water (less soda).  Eat healthy foods (less fatty, fast, fried and frozen foods).
5.    Start your day with gratitude/prayer/meditation.
6.    Don’t compromise your core values.
7.    Engage in “brain fitness” exercises to strengthen your focus, concentration and
problem solving skills.  Eliminate drugs and alcohol which creates a fuzzy brain.
8.    Arrest the thief called procrastination which  steals your time, opportunities, health, peace of mind.
9.    Grow out of your comfort zone.  Listen to the CD “Get Your But Out of the Way.”
10.  Exercise with calorie burning body movement at least 4 times a week.
11.   Eliminate blind spots by remaining open to feedback.  Read and listen to life enrichment books and CDs.  Build up your personal success library.
12.   Keep your personal and working environment clutter-free.
13.   Strengthen your confidence and self-worth to defend yourself against the critics,
haters and challenging relationships.
14.   Visualize your outcome.  See in your mind yourself experiencing success.
15.   Read, study, and observe your positive role models.   Spend more time with people who add inspiration to your life.
16.   Be resilient when challenges and hardships occur.  Read Shift Happens
17.   Attract the kind of people you want to meet.  Attract the connections, opportunities
and resources you need by dressing, walking and talking the part.
18.   Work on reducing debt.  Develop your financial intelligence.
19.   Create harmony and peace in your marriage, relationships and with business
associates.  Read the Five languages of Love by Gary Chapman also How to Win
Friends and Influence People
 by Dale Carnegie and “Love Smart with Your Heart“.

20.   Feed your faith and starve your fears.  Read your Bible and other spiritual resources to win the battles of defeat, disappointment, despair, doubt, dysfunction and despair.
21.   Pursue your purpose.  Find your true north.  You were born for greatness.

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Don’t Give Up

You may feel your life is blessed …but in a mess.  You may feel your car is a lemon; your body image is ugly, your heart is broken and lonely, your life is on hold, your bank account is low, your faith is stretched to the limit, your job is stressful and your life won’t get any better than this.

Miracles happen every day.  Don’t let the spirit of defeat, depression and disappointment rob you of the wonder, blessings, favor, love and supernatural breakthroughs God can bring.   Say “yes” to miracles, hope and God’s gifts of peace and provision.   Proclaim and announce to the enemy within and without that something great is about to happen.  (Request a free copy of Jewel’s e-book “Something Great is About to Happen” – send request to Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net)

Nothing you have done has been a waste of time.  Whatever you are going through, let it grow you.  Everything you have been through is a stepping stone to your next level.  Don’t let boredom, depression, fear or procrastination steal your joy or success.  Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.  Whatever you are going through, you can make it.  Do not put yourself down.   Do not count yourself out the game.  Do not dump your anger on others or play the blame game.   Do not shut down, withdraw and isolate yourself.  Help is on the way.   Cancel the pity party.  Get up!   Shake of the stress, doubt and worry.  Focus on solutions.  Pray for discernment, courage and wisdom.  Analyze your options.  Make a decision.  Take action and move forward one step at a time.  You will have a great testimony of your faith, endurance and creative problem solving skills.   You will come through this stronger and wiser.

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Heal Your Depression

In my family, circle of friends and women that I counsel/coach…I hear a cry in the land.

I hear the words, “I’m tired…Does it really matter if I live?… My money is spent, my get up and go has got up and went….I’m lonely…. I can’t believe I opened my heart to someone only to be hurt again….I don’t feel appreciated by my children….It’s too hard living with my loss and loneliness…I’m exhausted taking care of everybody else and no one seems to care about me… I give my all and don’t feel like any one is there for me…I have lost my home, job, marriage, my joy and now I feel like I’m losing my mind… I’m giving up and feel like God has forgotten me.”

Depression is a dis-ease like cancer that can spread.  Depression unchecked can make you spiritually bankrupt and physically sick.  Depression can be mild or severe.  Anything or anyone can trigger your dark, defeating and discouraging thoughts.

A good chiropractor can align your back when it is bent and out of shape.  Likewise, your thinking and emotions can become bent,  out of alignment with the love, power and strength of God around you and in you.  Sometimes you may just need a minor adjustment of your thinking to remember God’s grace and your possibilities for change, solutions, progress and peace.

Your car tires will eventually be damaged if you never align them.  When tires are out of alignment, you experience a rough and bumpy ride.  If your life is feeling rough and bumpy, re-align your thinking.  Listen to an excerpt below from my CD “Align Your Mind with the Divine.”

“It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy. 
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it’s not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence. 
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children. 
It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back. 
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away. 
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments. We know that what we do and how we think affects the quality of our lives. Many things are clearly up to us. And many others are not. I can see no evidence that the universe works on a simple meritocratic system of cause and effect. Bad things happen to good people – all the time. Monetary success does come to some who do not do what they love, as well as to some who are unwilling or unable to see the harm they do to the planet or others. Illness and misfortune come to some who follow their soul’s desire. Many great artist’s have been poor. Great teachers have lived in obscurity.
My invitation, my challenge to you here, is to journey into a deeper intimacy with the world and your life without any promise of safety or guarantee of reward beyond the intrinsic value of full participation.”  Oriah Mountain Dreamer (author of the book “The Invitation”) 

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Stop Assuming

     You are a creature of habit.  Since the day you were born, your mind began to accumulate memories and agree with others beliefs, opinions and a system of reward or punishment in the hopes of being secure, loved, accepted and approved.

    In order to have less pain and rejection, you made many compromises to survive and to be loved.  You began to wear masks to cover up your pain, disappointments and true self.       If one feels rejected, unloved, inadequate, used, invisible or wounded, they will learn over time to wear emotional masks to hide their true feelings.  Over time, our mind can begin to play tricks on us if we feel robbed of love, attention, recognition, success and belonging.

The mind can perpetuate fantasy, illusion, distorted memories, neediness, fear and a sense of self-importance.   My e-book message is for the person who wants to assess their stress and free themselves from the traps of …

.  the dis-ease to please others

.  a mental fog about how to find happiness and peace

.  feeling tired of losing time, opportunities, relationships and peace of mind

.  critical, judgmental and negative thinking

.  a low sense of self-worth (I’m not smart enough, pretty enough, good enough, etc.)

.  feeling broken and lost

Right now you may be searching for answers to break the spell of low self-esteem or sabotaging habits that destroy your health, relationships, career and peace of mind.

You may be asking, “Why do I keep repeating the same mistakes?  How do I break this cycle of depression, worry or self-destructive addictions?”  Why do I try so hard to get people to love me and understand me?  How do I find some peace in my life instead of always falling to pieces?  Why am I always comparing my life to others?

Asking questions is the first step to personal growth and for learning how to take responsibility for the quality of your life.   The thoughts you think and your knee-jerk reactions to people and circumstances are shaped over time.  They become your mental traps.  In my e-book, How to Avoid the Mental Traps to Your Happiness,  I identify 7 mental traps that can keep you trapped in depression, low self-esteem, fear, stress and limited living.  Listen to the message below which discusses one of the mental traps.

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