12 Awesome Self-Care Prescriptions

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1. Stop over-thinking. You will never have all the answers to all of life’s issues and mysteries.  You cannot fix everyone and everything.  Remember you can not pour into someone else’s life if you are empty, sick, tired, financially burdened, sad and overwhelmed.  If you have the responsibility of parenting, care giving for the sick or elderly, your staff, team, ministry… delegate, ask for help, take frequent breaks to decompress and refuel your mind, body and soul.
2. Know that “no” is a complete sentence. You will burn out with exhaustion, resentment and sickness if you are a people pleaser, doormat, enabler, fixer go-to-person and silent sufferer.

3.  We live in such a hurry up, over-stimulated, technology driven, media driven, competitive, do it now and have it all now society.  Step away.  Slow it down. Breathe in and savor the silence.  Remember the “Serenity Prayer.”
4.  Comparing yourself to others creates depression, self-loathing and envy.  Facebook is great and it’s fun and healthy to be social. And if you have an online business, it’s priceless. Facebook is like an advertising campaign for everyone’s life. It’s all shiny, sparkly and well-crafted to present the best. Too much scanning can cause depression and feelings of inadequacy.
5. Create joyful rituals and activities. Find ways to develop your skills, talents, and interests.  Even if your time and money are limited…make a promise to yourself to carve out some time in small increments to just “do you” …until you have more time and money for the extra perks of massages, travel, classes, etc.
6. Be so optimistic, pleasant, encouraged, hopeful and positive that negative people will stop coming around or calling you.  Avoid the “vacuum type people” who suck out all of your peace, joy and energy.  Distance yourself from the blessing blockers, manipulators, liars, drama driven, dysfunctional, needy and negative people.  Cherish your friends.  Make time for those you love and who uplift and energize your mind, faith, peace and soul. Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

7. Be dedicated to upgrading your nutrition and drinking more water. We fill our bodies with so much sugar, fast, frozen, fried and fatty foods, microwaved foods, hormones, chemicals and pesticides and that support awful places like factory farms. Whether you’re an animal person or not, eating more from the earth and less from the factories lightens both your plate, your arteries, and your spirit. Consider watching Forks Over Knives .

8. Regular exercise can transform your life and add years to your life span. Move your body. Walk more. Find parking spaces further away from your store and walk.  When you sit too much (e.g. TV, computer, sedentary work place) you will start to rust.

9.  Splurge a little every once in a while on yourself (e.g. hair salon, pampering, travel, reading a book, enjoy your favorite dessert, take yourself to dinner or the movies, buy yourself some flowers, a new wallet, purse or that quirky piece of furniture or new jewelry you have been wanting, etc.)  gift-to-me

What is the most recent “gift” you have given to yourself? (e.g. writing, forgiveness, telling the truth, letting go, travel, painting, a nap, speaking up, pampering, reading, drinking more water, fasting, dancing, solitude, a day off, took yourself on a date, said “no” or said “yes”, bought yourself some flowers, etc.)

10.  Unplug. ..no emails, internet, smart phone, nothing for regular intervals. We are turning into an ADD society, jumping from one distraction to another.  Unplug regularly or you’ll burn out your emotional hardware. Create sacred spaces in your home and de-clutter. Do more of the things that make you laugh and feel safe, loved and alive (e.g. comedy club, concerts, sitting on the floor with your children/grandchildren, cooking, dancing, painting, crafts, pets, gardening, volunteer work, etc.

11. You have a right to your feelings.  But you don’t have to act out on your feelings the-self-esteem-dr-stethoscopeof anger, fear or self-loathing. Let those feelings come and go like an ocean wave. If you suppress your authentic feelings eventually they will resurface in an unhealthy way at the wrong time and to the wrong person.  Seek counseling support to heal from past trauma.  Read my book Wisdom for Women. Pray, exhale, meditate, go for a walk, listen to inspiring music or inspiring messages, write in your journal, call or visit a good friend, fast, change your routine, seek counseling or life coaching, etc.

12.  Love and embrace your idiosyncrasies, image, age, and body…flaws and all.  Be aware of your self-talk and sabotaging behavior.  Walk in your truth.  Be courageous enough to honor your choices, core values, body, time, and truth… or you will suffer in self-betrayal and the little lies that eat away at your soul.  Lovingly self-correct without harsh judgment.  Forgive yourself for past choices.  Don’t be so intense about your life that you miss the joy, grace, blessings and beauty of life.  Don’t downplay and diminish your strengths, gifts, purpose and uniqueness.  Acknowledge your accomplishments.  Be open, curious and ready to grow in every area of your life.

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Are you following your vision?

It takes faith, guts and grit to follow your dream and achieve your goals.
Realize fear, opposition and obstacles will never go away.
Fear and doubt will cause you to stop and flee.
Faith will cause you to pause, plan and persevere.
Understand the importance of persistence.
Continually develop yourself so you can
maintain your vision and blessings that are on the way.
The world is changing fast.  Keep up with these changing
times so you can be on the winning side.
Build up your confidence.
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Your thoughts have power

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“You cannot keep your thoughts a secret. What you think about… you bring about.  What you think about … shows up in your habits.  What you fear and what you love shows up in your life.

If you think about and focus on your past hurts…it shows up as anger, bitterness, sadness,sickness, addiction, poverty of the spirit and depression.

If you think about and focus on your passion, ideas, interests, gifts and talents, they show up as joy, energy, enthusiasm, confidence and brilliance.

You cannot hide what you feel, talk about or think about all the time.  Your “seed trinity” is your feelings, thoughts and words.  Your “seed trinity” plants and produces its likeness.  That is what Proverbs 23:7 teaches and the author James Allen shared in his popular books, “As a man thinketh and “As a woman thinketh.”

Your efforts and seeds produces results.  Your 3-fold seed is either planting and producing weeds.  Or your 3-fold seed of faith and action is planting and producing a harvest.”

Many are depressed, stuck, procrastinating, angry and unfulfilled because they keep thinking the same old thoughts…stinkin’ thinkin’.  Elevate your thinking and you will SEE new results in your life!  Put your seed in the ground!~ Jewel Diamond Taylor.com

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The Self-esteem Dr. Reveals 5 Things That Keep You Stuck

We don’t like to lose control, lose an argument or lose the people, beliefs, lifestyle and things that make us feel safe, powerful, needed and loved.

baby poutAs a adults, we can exhibit child-like responses and pout feeling annoyed, angry or sad when we don’t get our way or feel misunderstood.  Others may become depressed or exhibit default impulsive behaviors like blaming others or excessive shopping, eating or drinking.

Family and relationships mean so much to me.  As a wife, mother, big sister, friend, auntie, Godmother, etc.  I know that I can worry too much about the people I love.  I’m writing this because I realized that whenever my life got crazy, sad or hurtful, I shifted from too much shopping  to another unhealthy way of coping.  I began to notice that I would stare at the ceiling ruminating.  The word “ruminate” derives from the Latin for chewing cud.  Whenever we get stuck repeatedly thinking about a stressful situation, we are ruminating.  The habit of ruminating is (chewing) turning the matter over and over and over again in our mind.  It’s like rewinding the tape and playing it again and again.

. Where did I go wrong?                    . Why doesn’t he/she act right?

. Why is this happening to me?       . What could I have said or done differently?

. How can I fix this?                           . How can I make him/her love me back?

. When will they listen to me?         . What can I do to prove my love/worthiness?

I used play and rewind repeatedly my favorite songs by the Whispers, Luther, Kem, Maze or BeBe Winans.  I kept them in rotation learning every word allowing my mind and emotions to drift and escape from my reality.

Having the blessed opportunity to inspire and help others, has also given me the opportunity to learn about myself.  Helping and healing myself and others requires the courage to tell the truth and become aware of our default coping behaviors.  We can reduce our stress and be more resilient from setbacks as we learn to cope in healthy ways.

woman waitingI was inspired to write this blog today because I caught myself staring at the ceiling again ruminating about several situations in my life where I feel sad, where I feel misunderstood and one where I feel I have no control to stop a loved one’s pain.  Ruminating eats away at your confidence, faith, self-esteem, peace of mind, gratitude and ability to solve or cope with life situations.  I have read studies that when men ruminate (overthink) a situation, they are more likely to turn to alcohol or drugs.

Author Dr. Susan Nolen-Hoeksema states that women are significantly more likely than men to fall into overthinking and depression.  As women, we are more likely to analyze and think too much more about relationships than men.  Food, alcohol and depression creates a “Toxic Triangle” that can destroy your faith, self-esteem, relationships and emotional/mental health.

Let me be your cautionary tale if you find yourself stuck overthinking about something or someone.  I find there are at least five (5) emotional traps to avoid.   They are emotional quicksand that will pull you down into a dark place of guilt, shame, low-self-esteem, self-loathing, sickness, doubt, debt, drama, dysfunction, defeat and depression.

I’m learning everyday to recognize my triggers, body language, default thinking and old tapes in my head that I have to fix, rescue, control, love, be accepted/understood or succeed in every situation.  Anything in excess is unhealthy. These are the 5 “Too Much” traps to moderate and pray for wisdom, discernment, courage and discipline.

1) over think

2) over worry

3) over procrastinate

4) over do things (e.g. give too much, stay too busy, signing up for too many projects, feeling you have to fix, rescue or help others – too accommodating, people pleasing)

5) impulsive (overeat, over drink, over spending)

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net

Making Better Decisions (2014)

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Your daily decisions shape your destiny. Make up your mind that your thoughts, words and actions will break cycles of frustrations and failure.  Make up your mind that you will invest in your success, health, faith, abundance, relationships and purpose.

Train your mind to SEEK opportunities.  SEE opportunities.  SEIZE opportunities.  SEE that you are worthy, willing and courageous.

There are no guarantees. Certainly you can never know in advance whether a decision will be correct, therefore, you must be prepared to take risks.  The more courage you show in making decisions, the more you improve your skill.

Look for the opportunities. If you make a mistake, view it as an opportunity to learn what didn’t work and why. Many times decisions are reversible and you can change your mind.

Hindsight is 20/20.  You might discover in hindsight situations that may have affected your decision had you known about them earlier.  This is normal and typical but should not stall your decision-making process.

Don’t make hasty and emotional decisions especially when you just received a large amount of money from gambling, the lottery, job bonus, family inheritance, insurance settlement or when you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired.

The habit of avoidance and procrastination is costly (financially, physically, your relationships and your peace of mind).  Listen to my CD on Procrastination to learn the power of making decisions and taking action.

Do not get stuck and do nothing. If you’ve done everything you can to make a good decision and still can’t make up your mind, do not delay making an important decision for fear that you don’t know enough or will make the wrong choice.  Make decisions with confidence and courage.

Don’t let fear stop you. Sometimes people become so paralyzed with the fear of making a wrong decision that they panic and lose sight of what they’re trying to accomplish.  This hinders making any decision.  Don’t assume the worst or allow other people’s opinions to cloud your judgement and faith.  Don’t second-guess yourself and talk yourself out of action, momentum, breakthroughs and peace of mind.

When all is said and done, all you can do is the best with what you have to work with. Do not underestimate the power of intuition, intelligence, ideas and instincts.

Scripture suggestions about making decisions:

Proverbs 3:5-6, James 1:5, Jeremiah 33:3