A few days ago I couldn’t understand why I was feeling down, irritated and exhausted. After I traced my last few conversations, phone calls, places I went and personal encounters…I figured it out. I had a conversation with a person who has the personality of what I call a “vacuum cleaner.” This type “sucks” out all of your joy, energy and oxygen in the room. This type of person can leave you feeling empty, fearful, or depressed. I’m learning more and more of the importance to be careful and have boundaries around people who are like “energy vampires”, “vacuum cleaners”, “joy stealers”, and “blessing blockers.”
Have you ever eaten some food and then became violently sick and realized it was food poisoning? Well I think we should be aware of people in our lives who can give us “mood poisoning.”
Guard your heart, ears, eyes and spirit. The more you detox your life from people, habits and things that rob you of your peace, the more you will be sensitive to mood poisoning people who are critical, self-absorbed, gossipers, naggers, manipulative, negative, complainers, pessimistic, needy and emotionally messy.
People who lack confidence and full of gloom and doom, distrust, and anxiety are a toxic cocktail mix. Learn to be smart with your heart, mind and time. You may work with them or they may be in your family, church, campus, neighbor, organization or circle of friends. Yes, we must learn how to navigate our relationships with love, patience, diplomacy and care. Learn to assess which relationships are healthy and which you need to limit or distance yourself from. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor
Depression thrives on fear and hopelessness. If your brain is worn out by thinking about stress, anxiety, doom, shame and “what if”…your brain gets exhaustion from the rumination and lack of good sleep. When your brain is flooded with stress hormones, it is difficult for your brain to see new perspectives, possibilities and hope. Shame and low self-esteem thrive on silence, secrecy, judgment and isolation which is the perfect breeding ground for addictions.
As a life coach I help others to find creative ways to get unstuck and calm their thinking and reframe their identity from shame to hope to healing to resiliency.
Call 323.964.1736 to schedule your one-on-one time with Jewel Diamond Taylor or email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com
“Fear, pain, and setbacks can be paralyzing, traumatizing and terrorizing. Life isn’t always easy. Parenting, marriage, caregiving, paying your bills, living with abuse, financial stress, dysfunctional families, illness, operating your business/ministry, loneliness, grief, betrayal, an unfulfilling job, college, or poverty aren’t easy.
Some people drop out of life and drop into addiction, depression, despair, crime, toxic relationships, self-loathing or anger. Some people haven’t learned how to cope and overcome their troubled childhood, abuse, poverty, family secrets, past setbacks or personal pain. So they defend themselves from the pain by learning some very counterproductive behavior … procrastinating, isolating, depression, addictions, lying, silence, withdrawal, victimization, extreme joking/humor, fantasy, disconnecting, extreme busyness minimize or rationalize their pain or abuser’s behavior. Depression causes thinking in all-or-nothing extremes which makes depressed ones resistant to new thoughts, support, and change. Depression is closely rated to low self-esteem, which hinders a depressed person from seeing their worth and possibilities. Unfortunately, many people who have been burned out, hurt, and traumatized learn to; not feel, not trust, not talk and pretend nothing is happening.
When you go through a terrible experience in your life, you decide what it means. You can say it is unfair, horrible and you identify yourself as a victim, loser, unlovable or a failure. Or you can say it was a life lesson. You can perceive it as a permanent or temporary inconvenience. You determine whether you will live with blame, shame, grudges or peace. The story you tell yourself will either limit and define you as a victim. Or your story will be about overcoming, healing, moving forward, forgiveness, creating a new normal, faith, courage, perseverance and resiliency.
As the Self-esteem Dr./Life Coach for women, I provide an emotionally safe place to help women come out of their psychological safe hiding place to feel, deal and heal their emotions that are sabotaging their relationships, success, happiness, health, peace, and purpose.
My prayer for you today is that you will find a mustard seed of faith and hope to believe you can make it through your wilderness. Don’t let your past or setbacks define, discourage, defeat, deter, distract or destroy you. My prayer for you is Numbers 6:24-26.” Call me 323.964.1736 or email me JewelMotivates@gmail.com to schedule a one-on-one life coaching/counseling session with me.