GET UP – No more excuses

 “As a one-on-one life coach I have worked with numerous people who, on the verge of important accomplishments  and breakthroughs – procrastinate, stop their sessions, doubt themselves, get distracted and sabotage their own success.  It beats getting their hopes up and having somebody else dash them — especially if that’s been a frequent experience in life.  By extinguishing your own hopes, your unconscious is trying to protect you from the rejection that has already happened in the past. The pain you know is familiar, and by causing it yourself … you at least feel in control. You know how things will turn out since, without realizing it, you have unconsciously set yourself up for failure.  (e.g. “See I knew it wasn’t going to work out!” or “My (Mom, Dad, husband, wife, friends) were right, I shouldn’t try this.”

People often say they procrastinate because there are lazy.  No, I suggest they put off a daunting task because they are afraid they will not be good enough to accomplish it. Or what if they do, and still feel empty inside? Not trying and making excuses is a way to keep alive the hope that things will still work out in the future. Acting mean, nasty and combative is a way to sabotage relationships and jobs to fulfill a prophesy of failure and rejection.  By unconsciously repeating self-defeating patterns that lead to failed relationships, rejection, financial struggle, addictive behavior, or dead ends…you are fulfilling your own prophecy that you are unworthy, bad, stupid or that life is unfair.

What is your personality type when it comes to; using your influence, responding to conflict, going after your goals, coping with stress or believing in your prayers and gifts?  Are you an approacher or an avoider?  Are you passive or aggressive?  Are you an optimist or a pessimist?  Do you procrastinate or are you proactive?  Are you easily offended and defensive or are you emotionally resilient? Are you a grumbler or do you wake up grateful?  Are you praying or playing around wasting time on minor tasks to avoid your major tasks?  Are you easily distracted or focused?  Are you letting people and/or circumstances drive you crazy or are you driven with passion, purpose, focus and faith to manifest your heart’s desire?  Are you closed or open to new experiences and the flow of life?  Do you run away from your problems with excuses or do you confront them with faith, courage and action?

Get focused.  Get energized.  Get going. Get back your joy. Get inspired. Get an “I’m gettin’ up out of my situation” attitude.  Get closer to people on fire!  Get the resources and tools that can help you get closer to your goals. Get some self-control.  Get some courage.  Get real.  Get on fire!  Get up!”  Click here to listen to excerpt from my CD “Get Your BUT Out of the Way.”

You Have 2 Brains – Which one are you listening to?

Did you know your body has two (2) brains?  I was reminded of this medical revelation from an experience I had 20 years ago.  I was invited to inspire women living with HIV/Aids but I was the one who left encouraged after my brief encounter and hug from a sightless man who was there as one of the social workers.  I will always remember what this blind man said to me after finishing my keynote speech at a large health conference on a Tuesday in Southern California.  This sightless man stood patiently in my long book signing line to tell me something that has remained with me for 20 years.  When I doubt my purpose or ask God if I should stick with my passion when times are difficult or the speaking invitations come in slow… I remember what he said.  When I question my decision to quit my human resources job with a pay check every week to become self-employed…I remember what he said to me.  He did not see the dress I was wearing.    He did not see my performance of sign language to a Yolanda Adam’s song “Never Give Up.”  He did not see my handouts.   He did not see all the things I prepared to visually inspire and educate my audience.  He didn’t see all the external things that I took so much time planning for or worrying what other people saw or thought about me (e.g. how I looked, how I stood, what I was wearing, my printed handouts, my hair, my jewelry, my shoes, my nails, etc.)  This sightless man standing alone without any assistance but his cane said to me, “Thank you Jewel for following your golden gut.  You have touched my spirit.  I felt your energy and I am encouraged to go on.”  WOW!!  My golden gut!

Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of many researchers who studies brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior. Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings of being; guided, warned, nervous, sad, happy, in love, or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  Your gut feelings give you warnings and sometimes you may regretfully ignore what your gut (instincts) are telling you.  Your brain and “golden gut” are connected and communicate. My golden gut feeling (instincts, emotions, true north, God’s voice) guided me to quit my job and start my public speaking career in 1984.  Sometimes I question my decision.  But for the most part I’m glad I listened to my golden gut.  That sightless man saw in me the invisible.  He helped me to remember my “why” I wanted to make a difference.  I wanted the freedom of developing my own future.  I wanted to impact people’s lives in a positive way.  I wanted to express what God had revealed to me about love, faith, courage, wisdom, healing, self-esteem, resiliency, perseverance and purpose.  I had no mentors, no web site, no clue and no money but I began following my gut.

I consulted my first brain for logic and set a goal when I should begin my new golden career.  My first brain (mental) calls it risk taking.

My second brain (emotions) calls it a leap of faith.   My first brain wanted a plan.  My first brain was full of doubt and fear.  My second brain was full of excitement and gave me courage.  My second brain compelled me to follow my dream and my heart.   If you only listen to the logic in your first brain, the fear and rational thinking may paralyze you.  If you only listen to your second brain (emotions) without consulting your first brain (logic), you may impulsively make decisions you will soon regret.

What is your “golden gut” saying to you?  I hope you are inspired to discover the golden treasures and life purpose God has for you by listening to your second brain…your golden gut.  Pray that God will guide you to find your hidden golden treasures (Proverbs 2:4) ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor

 

Wisdom in Your Wilderness

The following is an excerpt from my book and CD “Shift Happens”….

When I have been self-absorbed with my pain, losses, guilt, fears, tantrums of disappointments or weary waiting on God, I realized that my wilderness times were not about punishment.  That is the trick of the enemy.  The immature and fearful mind can trick you into thinking you are exiled from God’s grace.

Once we embrace any shifting, suffering or wilderness experience in our lives, it’s so helpful to pray for wisdom in our wilderness experiences.  Yes, our wilderness experience can be a time of wandering, complaining and confusion.  But the wilderness experience can also be a time of learning, healing, renewal of purpose and a rebirth of your faith.  We don’t like having to meet God in the darkness and times of despair and discouragement.  But I have learned in my times of darkness and disappointment it was God’s invitation for me to make an appointment with the Divine to see more clearly who I was, where I was and where I needed to grow in order to see the light of hope again.   The Hebrew people were lost in the wilderness for 40 years.  Psalm 78:14 states they were guided by God’s cloud by day and with light from the fire all night.  They were never alone.  God was guiding them.  Each time I come through a “shift” or a wilderness experience I’m reminded that God has not left me.  There is a cloud of glory over my head and a light in my darkness.

I think….no, I know… I sometimes suffer from ADD (attention deficit disorder).   When I need to complete paperwork or project, I’m challenged to remain focused.  I get restless or distracted.  I also know that I have spiritual ADD.   Trials, trouble and testing of my faith requires me to pay attention, focus and trust God.  When I feel overwhelmed or worried, these are times I need to keep my attention on God’s promises and my possibilities. Trials, trouble and testing of my faith requires me to pay attention, focus and trust God.   Faith requires one to be still and focus on God’s word.  Faith requires one to stop looking around and keep their eye on God.  It’s so easy for fear, distractions and the need to escape to take my attention off of God’s promises.

Each time I find myself lost in the wilderness of depression, isolation, worry or waiting, I am reminded how important it is to pray and ask God to help me with my disbelief (Mark 9:24).   I learn each time that faith is not just quoting scriptures or any rituals…true faith is learning how to trust God for what I cannot see.  It’s about surrendering my need to control.  Faith is trusting God even in the darkness.  Faith is trusting God even when I hear divine instruction that does not make sense to my logical mind.  To read more, order your copy today of Shift Happens

One step at a time – Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

Are you climbing a mountain to overcome debt, family drama, health/weight issues, building your business/ministry or seeking a job?  Are you climbing a mountain of success to; make more money, save your marriage, finish college, save your home, achieve your dream, build your business/ministry or taking steps to break an addiction, temper or depression?

God will supply all my needs.  Phil. 4:19 And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from His glorious riches, which have been given us in Christ Jesus.

Remember it’s not always the big steps or the height of your mountain that can stop you, it’s the little things that frustrate you.  If you are easily irritated or distracted by people, this can stop you.  If you lose your patience in the process, this can stop you.  If you become easily frustrated with following through, details or coping with unexpected “shifts” in life, this can stop you.  Because the people around you may think differently, act differently or respond differently to situations, do you lose your cool over petty things or things you have no control over?  If the inevitable glitches, setbacks and daily demands of life easily besets you…you will never reach the top of your mountain.

Assess your stress.  Are you delegating tasks to others so you can lessen your stress?  Are you being pulled in many different directions trying to please everybody?  Are you a people pleaser being stretched by the drama and demands from the people in your life? Are your children, co-workers, friends, boss or mate getting on your last nerve?  I believe emotional or physical pain serves to inform you.  It is a signal that you need to pay attention.   Check your mindset.  Shake off anything that can distract and discourage you.  The road up the rough side of the mountain is never smooth.  Shift happens.  Be sure to wear your faith walking shoes.  Keep your mountain climbing back pack gear full of things necessary to survive the journey.  Don’t turn back.  Don’t give up.  Don’t let the little things become big stumbling blocks.  Keep on reaching until you reach your higher ground. Reflect on this quotation by Robert Service, “It isn’t the mountain ahead that wears you out; it’s the grain of sand in your shoe.”  Amen to that statement because so often it is the little things that steal our joy!

“As you focus more on becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be, you begin to find peace right now, in the present. Then, as you move around, try new things, and meet new people, you carry that sense of inner peace with you. It’s absolutely true that, “Wherever you go, there you are. One of the mistakes many of us make is that we feel sorry for ourselves, or for others, thinking that life should be fair, or that someday it will be. It’s not and it won’t. When we make this mistake we tend to spend a lot of time wallowing and/or complaining about what’s wrong with life. “It’s not fair,” we complain, not realizing that, perhaps, it was never intended to be.  If we would just slow down, happiness would catch up to us.” ― Richard CarlsonDon’t Sweat the Small Stuff … and it’s all small stuff: Simple Ways to Keep the Little Things from Taking Over Your Life (#Don’tSweatTheSmallStuff)

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  Deuteronomy 31:6

Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping.  Keep your guard up. You`re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It`s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on faith. The suffering won`t last forever. It won`t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ- eternal and glorious plans they are! – will have you put together and on your feet for good.  He gets the last word.  1 Peter 5:9 (Message Bible)

But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles: they will run and not grow waery, they will walk and not be faint.  Isaiah 40:31 (NIV)

Your Dream is Possible

My popular motivational book is “Shift Happens: The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing…The MAIN THING!”

Tyler Perry shares a great message on a video about the power of focus. When you remain focused on the “main thing” …you increase your chances for success.

Many times people tried to get me off track to follow their opinion, their dream, their business, their passion or their agenda.  My passion for speaking and teaching has remained for over 25 years and I am SO thankful that God’s grace has kept me.  I believe 100% in the success principle of focus that Tyler Perry shares on a short video message link below.

Are you willing to let some things go?  Are you willing to press, persevere, push and be resilient each time you have a disappointment?  Will you give up 5 minutes before your miracle?  Will you stay the course even though you see no evidence of your harvest?
 Anything is possible when you become a passionate believer in the gift, idea, dreams and possibilities that God gives to you.  Be unstoppable.  Be relentless,  Be focused.  Be persistent.  Be teachable.  Be resilient.  Be clear.  Be willing to sacrifice and be misunderstood but also be ready to receive the support, love and resources from unexpected places and people.

You will be encouraged by his message.  Listen and decide what your focus will be.

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