No More Toxic “Straw People”

Straw people aren’t good for your life…
They suck out of all your energy and faith. They take a lot out of you and drain you of your joy and enthusiasm.  They are “high maintenance.”

I’m sure you have experienced the negative effect when a straw person is on the phone with you or walks into the room.  They suck out all the air.  They leave you feeling empty, tense, guarded, bad, defeated, doubtful and sometimes even sick.  Straw people can be in your family or you work with them.  Learn how to love them from a distance.  Honor your boundaries to keep out any disrespect, abuse or manipulation.

Recognize when you are surrounded by straw people so you can adapt or take action to maintain your peace, faith, joy and enthusiasm.  Never give someone the power to steal your joy or speak negativity and limitation into your life.  Don’t allow anyone to take your kindness for weakness.

There is a time to be quiet and there is a time to speak up.  There is a time to endure and there is a time to draw the line.  Train people how to treat you by not allowing them to suck out all of your joy, peace, time, bank account, faith, confidence, success or self-esteem.

Make the effort to cultivate relationships which add to your life instead of taking away.  On  my CD I share the major types of “straw people” to avoid.  As you learn to discern who the straw types are in your life…

. you can begin to increase your experiences of peace, success, confidence, self-esteem, joy and faith.

. work, love, communicate and cope with difficult people

. or let go of the people who are toxic

This article is an excerpt from the motivational CD “How to Let Go of the Straw People” by the The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor.

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When God is Silent

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“Do you remember taking tests in school and/or college?  Do you remember how quiet the room was?  Do you remember how the teacher would seat quietly at his/her desk saying nothing!  Did your teacher ever walk around the room looking over the shoulders of the students to see how they were doing?  Do you remember sitting in your seat staring at the problem feeling stuck, stupid, stressed, overwhelmed and unprepared?  Did you ever think to yourself, “This test is unfair?”

I believe as adults we have tests of life.  We are all students at the “The University of Adversity.” Our honesty is tested.  Our loyalty is tested.  Our faith is tested.  Our patience is tested.  Our character is tested.  Our love is tested. Our leadership and parenting are tested.  Our marriages are tested.  Our promises and commitments are tested.  Our compassion for others is tested. Our self-control is tested.  Our ability to let go and move forward is being tested.  Our ability to forgive is being tested.  Our self-esteem is tested.  Our trust in God is tested.  I think that maybe God is quiet and watching to see if we are prepared and ready.

You may be going through a test right now and thinking God is silent and forsaking you.  You may be sitting in life’s waiting room waiting for a breakthrough. The silence maybe frightening (i.e. what will I do?…help me God…I don’t know the answer!).  God’s word says, “Be still and know that I AM God.”  I think we give up too soon when are going through a test of our faith.  Our mind plays tricks on us and we think we are all alone and that God does not care or God is taking too long to help us figure out our mess and our problems.  God is watching.  Don’t give up.  Pass your test of endurance, faith and temptation.  Do the right thing.  You are smarter than you think.”

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. (James 1:2-12)

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Today’s Monday Motivation message is an excerpt from the CD “The 12 Seats in God’s Waiting Room”  by Jewel Diamond Taylor

9 Ways People Cope with Problems

      “I would bet you are like me.  You’ve had your share of problems, disappointments, losses, heartaches, regrets and mistakes.  Maybe you have tried to cope with your personal pain by pretending it doesn’t hurt or you put up an emotional wall keeping people and solutions out.  Maybe you sought comfort and relief with food, sex, sleep, shopping, busyness, isolation, alcohol, drugs or hurting others.  Maybe you ignored the guidance of God, family and friends.

Sadly, I realize those were some of the emotional paths I took.  In the past, my inability to cope or my lack of faith led to depression, overspending, high blood pressure, loss of sleep, being so serious and emotionally fragile that I couldn’t laugh, relax, let go or take the hits.

Oh but thank God for mercy, grace and patience.  I learned to let go, trust God more, listen more and not be so hard on myself.  I learned how to discipline my appetites, flesh, feelings and faulty thinking.  No, wait a minute, let me say…
I continue to learn how to discipline myself.  It is an on-going process to mature in my faith and in my human imperfections.

If we do not grow emotionally and spiritually to cope with the twists and turns of life, we become prone to sickness, anger, depression, addiction, broken relationships, a low self-esteem and repeat the same mistakes.

If you and I are too sensitive to receive feedback and support from others, we lose.  If you and I quit every time a job, task or relationship gets difficult, we lose credibility, blessings,opportunities, success and self-esteem.  If you and I are not teachable and constantly compare ourselves to others, it is a sign that our self-worth and self-esteem are low. If we think we should be able to control and fix everyone and every situation, we are living with an illusion.  If we cannot listen to the whispers of God guiding us the right way…then we will suffer as life begins to scream and yell, “You fool…you are not listening to wisdom.”

Every day I challenge myself to stop, look and listen.  Today I challenge you with tenderness mixed with toughness to grow emotionally and spiritually.  When you are faced with a problem or at a crossroad will you…

. Make excuses

. Make mistakes

. Make and keep commitments

. Be mad

. Be miserable, depressed and act like a victim

. Seek wisdom and wise counsel

. Take responsibility for your choices

. Be motivated to take positive steps

. Love God, listen to God, let go and trust God

The wisdom of God, personified as a woman, teaches us that the knowledge of God is readily available to us in Proverbs 1:20-26

     We don’t have to stay stuck in our foolishness, pain or past.  Read Proverbs 4:5-7   Get wisdom and understanding.”

Success Navigation – Roads to Success

  

Life can be a journey or a “trip” — Are you going to be a whiner or a winner in life?  An African proverb teaches that “it rains on everyone’s roof.”

    Faith and fear are both expecting something to happen. Faith expects something good to happen. Fear expects something bad to happen.  Fear is exhausting.  Faith is liberating.  If you can change how you think, you can change how you feel.  When you change how you feel — you change how you act.

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When “shift” happens in your life you can either choose to feel bitter, helpless, resentful, angry and afraid.   Or you can choose to yield to the circumstances out of your control and gain wisdom, compassion, spiritual insights and future coping skills.  It’s not always the shift situation that causes unhappiness.  It’s your thoughts about it.  When the bad feelings come, you don’t have to chase, push, fight, flee, cave in or suppress them.  Let them come in and go out like a swinging door.  The feeling will pass.  Or you can become frozen with fear, anger and worry.  Faith helps you to navigate your way out of a dark place into a place of light to see what steps you need to take to see and believe in your possibilities are for a better tomorrow.

The flow of traffic is better when you are in the “diamond lane”.  You cannot drive in the lane if you are driving alone.  You must have one or more persons traveling with you to reach your destination faster and to avoid slow traffic.

As your “Success Navigator” I can accompany you to avoid slow progress and improve your achievement rate of reaching your goal/destination faster.

You can pass those who are isolated and traveling the road of life alone without any guidance, coaching or support.

Your associations determine your destination.  Who is traveling with you on the road of life?  Who gets your time, energy and support?  If you want to go and grow to another level, check your passengers.  Put good fuel in your tank (body).  Check your tires often to avoid blowouts and burnouts.  Keep your windshield (vision) clear.  Follow your map.  Don’t get off your road to success and take the next nearest exit because you feel discouraged, tempted or distracted.  The main thing is to KEEP the main thing…THE MAIN THING.
~quote from the book “Shift Happens” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

There won’t be all green lights on your road to success.  Learn to be flexible, patient, focused, determined and enjoy the journey.  If you are teachable, you can avoid many u-turns and dead-ends when you invite the right passengers to join you along the way.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor ` www.TheSuccessNavigator.com

 Your brain is programmed to resist change.  But with your small steps of courage and faith, you can learn to adapt and discover new possibilities.  I offer you my books and CDs to help you train your brain

CDto navigate through the maze of fear, negative/small thinking, low self-esteem, doubt and pain.  Yes, shift happens, but you find new pathways of success and blessings.  This message is an excerpt from my book “Shift Happens: The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing…The Main Thing.”

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Feeling stuck #!?@

You and I could blame other people all day for our failures, hurts and setbacks.  We only grow when we examine ourselves and realize we often sabotage and block our own blessings and success.  We procrastinate for many reasons; self-doubt, boredom, fear of failure, perfectionism, lack of discipline and focus, being unprepared, feeling unworthy, pride, and shame.

These feelings alone don’t necessarily lead to procrastination.  What tips the scales is going after your goals or tackling a task alone with no one to help you and no one to cheer you on.

You might think you are lazy or lack faith and confidence.  The real hindrance is loneliness and lack of accountability.  The way to overcome loneliness-based procrastination is to enlist the support of other people.

Jogging buddies, college study groups and self-help recovery groups understand the secret of accountability and encouragement.  If you are tired of your own excuses and really want to see results this year, ask for support.

coaching logo      Allow me to share with YOU some solutions and accountability to help you stay the course and see results this year!

 Do you have a desire to:

.  lose weight/have more energy/better health

.  find employment

.  increase your faith

.  graduate

.  stay clean and sober

.  complete your paperwork

.  de-cluttering your office/garage/home

.  overcome depression

.  save money/get out of debt

.  get out of an abusive relationship

.  write your book, finish your project or start your business

.  discover your life purpose

. heal from being stuck in grief, shame and depression

Come out of isolation.  Let go of pride.  Create a partnership.  Be accountable to a friend, family member, life coach (like me), your co-worker, mentor, your Bible Study group, etc.  Procrastination is a thief.

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Success Solutions

“You and I could blame other people all day for our failures, hurts and setbacks.  We only grow when we examine ourselves and realize we often sabotage and block our own blessings and success.  We procrastinate for many reasons; self-doubt, boredom, fear of failure, perfectionism, lack of discipline and focus, being unprepared, feeling unworthy, pride, and shame.

These feelings alone don’t necessarily lead to procrastination.  What tips the scales is going after your goals or tackling a task alone with no one to help you and no one to cheer you on.

You might think you are lazy or lack faith and confidence.  The real hindrance is loneliness and lack of accountability.  The way to overcome loneliness-based procrastination is to enlist the support of other people.

Jogging buddies, college study groups and self-help recovery groups understand the secret of accountability and encouragement.

If you are tired of your own excuses and really want to see results this year,coaching logo ask for support. I want to share with some solutions to help you stay the course and see results this year!

 Do you have a desire to:

.  lose weight/have more energy/better health

.  find employment

.  increase your faith

.  graduate

.  stay clean and sober

.  complete your paperwork

.  de-cluttering your office/garage/home

.  overcome depression

.  save money/get out of debt

.  get out of an abusive relationship

.  write your book, finish your project or start your business

.  discover your life purpose

Come out of isolation.  Let go of pride.  Create a partnership.  Be accountable to a friend, family member, life coach (like me), your co-worker, mentor, your Bible Study group, etc.  Procrastination is a thief.  Send for your “Wise Steps” CD today. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor,Keynote Speaker, Author, Life Coach, Workshop Facilitator, Minister, Women’s Retreat Facilitator

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