12 Steps to Guard Your Heart (Proverbs 4:23)

  1. michelle obama quotePray for discernment to know when someone is fake and abusing you. A person’s words and actions should line up.  The adversary/trickster can use many fiery arrows, disguises, words, and emotional traps to get you in a web of doubting yourself, abuse, lies and stress.  Love should not hurt.  Stay prayed up and surround yourself with healthy relationships that are drama-free.
  2. Learn that “no” is a complete sentence.  Establish and honor your own boundaries which teaches others how to treat you.
  3. Recognize when you are people pleasing and stop it.
  4. Speak up when someone disrespects you.
  5. Delete the phone number or at least distance yourself from people who drain you and rob you of your peace, money, time and trust.
  6. Realize you can’t fix and change people. Remember Maya Angelou’s quote, “When somebody shows you who they are … believe it.” We all eat lies, empty promises and quick snacks of “fast food love” when our hearts are hungry. Guard your heart from the blurred lines of desperation, loneliness and a healthy self-esteem.
  7. Overcome desperation, blind spots or being naive.  It’s painful to admit, but your job, church, family and friends may be taking your kindness for weakness.  Be careful about discussing your finances, love life, marriage, and past blunders because unfortunately some people lacking integrity will use the information against you or try to get money from you.  It’s also important to not be defensive and blind when the people who have your back are pointing out some of the blind spots you are ignoring about your relationship (especially abuse).
  8. Do the people around you have anger issues? Walk away from unnecessary arguments and power struggles.  Choose your battles wisely.
  9. Practice and embrace the “serenity prayer.”
  10. Remember your worth and don’t compromise your self-esteem, values, voice or faith.
  11. Get emotionally strong and resilient so people won’t see you as a push over.  Forgive yourself for the blindness that let others deceive, use and betray you.  Sometimes a good heart like yours … doesn’t see the bad in others.
  12. Confide in your safe place of friends, peers or family member so you can release the anger, resentment and stress.book cover self esteem follow your heart
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jewel writing with penThese are lessons I had to learn the hard way.  I share these 12 gems with you to strengthen your heart and emotional well-being. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr., 323.964.1736, e-mail me- JewelMotivates@gmail.com

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Author Jewel Diamond Taylor, a native of Washington DC, presently resides in Southern California. Taylor is a wife mother and grandmother in 1984.  Jewel kicked the glass ceiling with her high heels as one of the 1st women of color motivational speakers.

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Taylor is a voice of empowerment born to teach possibility thinking, leadership, emotional wellness, faith, and success principles. This popular conference speaker’s resiliency story and years of experience empower audiences and coaching clients to grow beyond feeling stuck, unworthy, fear, doubt, and stress.

Jewel (aka ‘The Self-esteem Dr.), teaches impactful insights and actionable steps to increase personal success, deeper faith,  emotional wellness, inner peace, and a life of purpose.

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5 Personalities – Which one are you?

In my experience as a woman, wife, daughter, mother, sister, friend, life coach and counselor for thousands of women, I have discovered the following 5 common profiles.  I continue to grow to identify my own blind spots, personality tendencies, strengths and self-worth.
These are just some of the most common personalities I see either in myself or others. I hope this helps you to better understand the relationships around you and to better understand yourself.

1. PEACEMAKER PATRICIA you are flexible, adapt easily, good listener, you enjoy soothing others and making connections.       Blind spot: Trying to make others happy can cause you to overlook what you really want and need. Loyal to a fault while neglecting your own needs and opinions eventually creates resentment.
     Remedy: Start spending time alone periodically to hear your voice. Take off your superman(woman) cape and allow situations to work themselves out. Let go and let God.

2. STRIVING SHARON: Sharon is intense about pursuing accomplishment,. You have something to prove, you have a to-do-list, and a strong “all or nothing” focus. You have a high and sometimes hard expectation of yourself and others. This profile mask is “Excellence/perfect performance”.
      Blind spot: Developing relationships is not your strong suit and the relationships that you do have… suffer. Relaxation doesn’t come easy. Your personal achievements can give you a view of life that doesn’t allow for diversity and different points of view.
      Remedy: Be willing to grow out of your zone of routine and predictability and create more balance and spontaneity. Your books sometimes cannot teach what being around people who don’t share your experiences, status or pedigree can teach about life.

3. NURTURING NANCY: Nancy is very present, caring, empathetic and available as the “911” person in your tribe…ready to rescue others.
      Blind spot: You don’t realize you are being burned out, sick, resentful and that people are sometimes taking your kindness and availability for granted.
      Remedy: Begin to prioritize. Create more balance. Say “no” to unrealistic and unnecessary requests of your time, energy, talent, money and gifts. Develop ways to recharge your battery and nurture your soul, body, dreams and purpose without guilt.

4. I DON’T CARE CARRIE: This profile is someone who has been so independent, burned out and disappointed in the past that you have become apathetic, numb, isolated and frozen by choice to survive.                                                                           Blind spot: You are missing out on real connections that are not fake, users and abusers. You don’t see how people see you as someone who is cold, cruel, distant and without feelings. Their assessment is not true, but your body language, distance and attitude has become frozen without feeling.                                                                                                               Remedy: Begin to thaw out! Begin to trust happiness again. Begin to see that there are people around you who care and can bring some healing, joy, connection and positive experiences.

5. I NEED ATTENTION ANNIE: This profile is someone desperate, wounded and needy for any kind of attention (good or bad). Mask “I am a victim” “Nobody loves me.” “I can’t help it.”
      Blind spot: They think they are the only one experiencing pain. They don’t hear the voices of help. They feel stuck in the past. They do not see people pulling away from them. They don’t see how their “poor me” attitude, anger or whining repels the possibility of real loving relationships.
      Remedy: Be willing to hear from people who care about you even if it feels uncomfortable. Realize, through professional or authentic counseling, that your insecurity is based on fear and unresolved issues. Work on learning how to enjoy your own solitude without needing the type of relationships that only reinforce your sense of low self-worth. Learn to tend to your own needs in a healthy way without blaming and making others feel responsible for your happiness.

You may not see yourself in any of these profiles.  Of course there are many more.  Maybe this information will help you to see and understand some of the relationships in your life that are point of pain, confusion, stress or in need of help.  To schedule a one-on-one life coaching session with the Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor, call 323.964.1736 or email – Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net