Some lessons are caught, taught, and some are bought

 

God has been “growing” my mind.  I have been learning some rough and beautiful life lessons.

I love being a woman on the grow!  I am learning to reflect on my past with “Kindsight”, to be compassionate, real, and patient with myself.

Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with those areas in your life where you need to grow.  

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Don’t ever wander so far away from your true self just to get close to someone else.

A SHIP is designed to take you places.  
So if your friendSHIP, partnerSHIP, or relationSHIP isn’t taking you anywhere positive and helpful…think…is it time to abandon SHIP?

Some people like to stay busy and distracted or stay in a blame/victim mentality instead of sitting still to reflect, sit with their pain, and heal.  Once you are courageous enough to live with the reality of your pain, loss, setback, heartache, regrets, or disappointments, and patterns … you will be in a position to walk the emotional path of acceptance, healing, renewal, and restoration of self-worth and faith.

Too often I hear people saying they are fighting their demons when the reality is they’re fighting and resisting the consequences of their choices.

Could it be life is inviting you to build spiritual stamina, mental health, and emotional wellness?

Until YOU heal…you will be toxic to anyone who tries to hire you, collaborate with you, befriend you, or love you.

Are you willing to examine your thoughts, patterns, relationships, choices, and emotional capacity to cope with stress?

Positive thinking and faith do not work unless you understand the roots of your beliefs and behaviors.  You can’t ignore your past conditioning, experiences, trauma, fantasies, expectations, and cultural programming. Once you accept your shadow self and all the many versions of YOU, your AWARENESS becomes your superpower to begin transforming your life.

For that someone who has the courage to speak up, armor up, and NOT return to that person or habit which is your “Egypt” (a place of bondage, i.e. addiction, shame, anger, dishonesty, debt, pride, abuse, self-harm, family secrets, or a dysfunctional relationship)… I encourage you to keep walking into your place of promise, freedom, and peace.  Stay in the light.  Getting help can help you overcome the darkness and break unhealthy patterns.

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Jewel Diamond Taylor’s Speaking Calendar

March 21 – She is Well Book Launch and Virtual Summit (Maryland)

March 21 –  Sisters4SistersNetwork.org (Maryland)

March 24 Lexington Housing Authority Family Sufficiency Program virtual learning series in North Carolina

March 27 – Women with Visions, Unlimited Women’s History Month Program

March 27 – San Jose Multicultural Artist Guild Girlfriend Appreciation virtual program

March 31 – North County African American Women’s Association “The Strength of a Woman” Program

April 21 – FDIC Admin. Professionals Program

May 1 – 20th Annual Breast and Whole Health Empowerment Forum

Every Sunday Jewel Diamond Taylor’s webinar “The Filling Station”, 3 pm (Pacific)

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Sunday Filling Station – Romans 15:13

Do you feel like you are under attack?
Do you feel blocked instead of blessed?
Do you know the winning ways of spiritual warfare?
Do you know how to fight the exhaustion, fear, confusion, doubt, and emotional traps?
Are you isolating, defeated, sick, exhausted, angry, or fearful all the time?

“Master…help them to see their way out, become stronger and make it through. I pray, your gentle spirit rains down to refresh those who are weary. For You, alone, are the great comforter and our liberator from the prison of hopelessness. Remind them you correct and protect, guide, and provide. I give thanks in advance for their ability to breathe again, believe in your promises, refill their cup of faith, and experience their breakthrough.

“May the God of hope FILL you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with the hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” ` Romans 15:13

Register now for my Emotional/Spiritual Wellness weekly “FILLing Station” experience via zoom.

For 9 months every Sunday, I have been pouring into women’s lives insights to gain clarity, faith, peace, courage, and steps to heal and strengthen their mind, body, and spirit.
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“The Filling Station is the best way to describe this virtual webinar. Every week I look forward to “Filling Myself” spiritually and emotionally. I’m so grateful to have pulled into this station of my life to get the tools necessary for my life’s journey. Thank you Women on the Grow. Let’s keep growing together for His glory!” – Valerie Vaultz

“The Filling Station has ministered to me in so many circumstances in my life. I am evolving every week. I leave the Filling Station feeling filled up with a new attitude and gratitude for Jewel Diamond Taylor’s inspirational and educational message.” – Diane Hale
 
“I’ve been attending Jewel’s 💞 Filling Station on Sundays for 8 months now. She has shared so much wisdom on relationships, divorce, grief, to name a few. It’s an amazing fellowship with everyone. For me at first, a broken relationship, I was stuck from a three year break Up. She gave me tools to find my joy again. Jewel and everyone are so transparent , encouraging, and loving. I’m so thankful to be apart of the group. Thanks Jewel 💞 AMEN” –
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Remember to encourage yourself

I don’t know who this is for…but maybe you are in a “God Gap” right in the middle of where you used to be and where you want to be. Are you waiting for a breakthrough in your family, marriage, employment, health, finances, ministry, or business?

Maybe your usual sources of support are missing. Maybe someone let you down and went “ghost” on you.

Maybe you feel your prayers aren’t going past the ceiling.

Maybe you feel no one understands you.

Sing out loud D. L. Lawrence “Encourage Yourself” song. Strengthen yourself. Believe in yourself. Heal yourself. Promise yourself to practice more self-care. Befriend yourself. The kindness and encouragement give to others…give it to yourself also. Don’t betray yourself. Speak your truth. Create your boundaries of emotional or physical distance from the energy vampires, haters, critics, time stealers, and drama bringers. Have a good talk with yourself. Acknowledge your dreams, gifts, talents, ideas, strength, creativity, and accomplishments. Value your time, family, faith, health, anointing, skills, and self-worth. Let go and forgive yourself for past hurtful choices. Remember this scripture…”God is within her, she cannot fail.” Psalm 46:5

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Encourage yourself by guarding your heart from toxic and manipulative people. Encourage yourself to stick and not quit on your goals. Encourage yourself by reminding yourself that you are worthy. Encourage yourself and remember your past victories. Encourage yourself in your money habits and eating habits.

Encourage yourself by speaking life over your situation. Encourage yourself through your recovery from a heartache, divorce, layoff, addiction, setback, illness, or seeking a home, job, car, or new love.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. – Philippians 4:6

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10

By blog writer Jewel Diamond Taylor.

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9 steps to forgive yourself

forgive yourself shadow    Are you holding yourself hostage, feeling stuck, feeling ashamed or feeling unworthy because of your past?
    You may have; ​trusted the wrong person, made poor financial choices, ​mistreated someone, didn’t complete your studies, had serial meaningless relationships, mismanaged your money, hold grudges, misjudged others, walked away too soon from a relationship, business or job.
     You may have; a poor credit score, babies by different fathers, had a history of addiction, never learned to speak up in an abusive relationship, misused your body, ashamed of your family, been divorced several times, lied, abused or cheated on someone, or continually beat yourself up with negative self-talk about your body image or past poor choices.  It isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others, but sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
     If you can’t forgive yourself, you are doomed to live in shame.  When you can’t forgive others, you live in blame. Holding grudges, shame and blame can only block your blessings.  Don’t waste your power, time and energy on dead issues.  Let go of the negative garbage in your life.   Empty your mental trash can.  Begin to write in your journal about your feelings.  Working on patterns of your behavior is often more helpful than ruminating about your regrets.
     As I began to think about mistakes I made in my marriage, parenting, spending habits, real estate I shouldn’t have sold, food I shouldn’t have eaten, things I shouldn’t have bought, places I shouldn’t have gone to, people I shouldn’t have trusted, things I shouldn’t have said, or opportunities and money I lost because of doubt, procrastination, fear or feeling unworthy…I knew I had to learn how to forgive myself.
conference speaker author workshop     Once I no longer lived in denial and had the courage to face and own up to my harmful behavior and lack of information…I was able to forgive myself.  Once I knew better, I did better.  Once I stopped blaming others or seeking quick fixes when my emotional buttons were being pushed…I began to see a “better me”.  I began to recognize the unrealistic expectations I had of myself and others.  I learned how to repent, respect and repair broken promises and relationships.  I learned to reduce ruminating about past mis-takes (e.g. thinking about it over and over again).  I resolved in my mind, heart, and choices to continually grow in every area of my life.  I am more aware of my habits and mindsets so I can learn from past mis-takes so I won’t repeat them.  I learned to reach out to others to give and receive love, compassion, and connections…which helped me to realize I am not alone and creates accountability.  Once I remembered the mercy and grace of God in my life…wow!  I knew I was the only harsh judge of myself.  Rejoice in knowing you have God’s unconditional love.
     Don’t let the past rob you of your present or future.  Peaceful and productive days will come as you make up your mind to only focus on thinking, speaking and acting in a positive way.  Work on healing any areas in your life of shame and guilt.  You must feel worthy.  This clears the path for you to experience more love, more success, more breakthroughs, more blessings and more peace.   Always remember prayer cannot change your past but it can change your heart.

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A Time to Dance with God

As you wake up and stretch your body and mind to prepare for the new day…remember to guard your heart from the joy and peace blockers.

Don’t take people’s criticism to heart.  Don’t be embarrassed about your past fumbles.  Remember to dance in your heart before the Lord because you are grateful for this new day.

Look carefully and you will see “dance” at the end of the word “guidance“.  When two people try to lead,  the movement is clumsy and doesn’t flow with the music.

When one person realizes that, and lets the other lead, both bodies begin to flow with the music.  The lead dancer gives gentle cues, perhaps with a nudge to the back or by pressing lightly in one direction or another.

It’s as if two become one body, moving beautifully. The dance takes surrender, willingness, and attentiveness from one person and gentle guidance and skill from the other.

 

When someone is learning to dance for fun, they may start off feeling self-conscious, embarrassed and falling over their feet.  Some people prefer to dance without a partner and just have fun line dancing the wobble wobble or the electric slide.  Yes, it’s fun line dancing because you don’t have to wait for someone to ask you to dance. I see more and more solo dancers and fewer couples dancing in rhythm together. But to dance with a partner, it takes practice and a willingness to follow their lead.  To dance with God takes surrender and willingness.

You may feel like you are dancing alone in life, but God is dancing with you…just get in rhythm with your faith.  When I see the word “guidance” I see “G” (God), followed by “u” and “i”. “God,” “u” and “i” dance.” God, you and I dance.

When you are willing to follow the Lord’s lead and guidance, the dance with the Lord will get easier with practice.  The more you lean in, trust and dance with the Lord, the more you will stop worrying. Dance together with God, trusting God to lead and to guide you through each season of your life. 

The word of God tells us there is a time to dance and a time to cry.  As I healed through the process of grief and crying from losing my 38 yr. old son to cancer…I began to understand this scripture.  It was OK to be joyful again, in spite of my pain, without feeling guilty.  As I counted my blessings, it was time to dance again.  As I slayed the enemy of depression, worry and grief, my heart began to dance again. “You changed my mourning into dancing…” Psalm 30:12

Just like David returned from killing the Philistines and everyone was dancing (1 Samuel 18:6), you can dance as you conquer and kill the enemy within of doubt, procrastination, temptation, anger, fear, worry, addictions or hatred.  Your family and friends will dance with you and for you as you grow in your courage to slay the tricks, traps and tribulations of the enemy.

Prayer:  Today Lord I praise your Holy name.  I’m in a new season of my life. I stand on your word that  “Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. (Romans 8:5)

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I choose You heavenly Father as my partner, provider and protector.  Thank you Lord for your faithfulness and enduring love and abundance in every season of my life.   I want to follow your lead and guidance.  Thank you for endowing me with power, dominion and authority to conquer my enemies. Thank you for new life and a new season.  Thank you for lighting my path as I daily walk out of sin and into salvation.

Call to Action:

  1. Do not hold grudges or hold onto things that are out of your control. Let go of the past and forgive those that have caused you pain. Not only will you be more stressed out but you will carry an unnecessary burden upon your shoulders. Seek God for guidance and let go of the past.
  2. Be honest with yourself.  Before David asks for joy in Psalm 51:8 and 51:12, he acknowledges the weight of his wrong doing: “Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge” (Psalm 51:4).  The joy of repentance flows directly out of its grief.  Some people never dance because their feet are heavy with sin, guilt and shame.  If you are battling a habitual sin and you have not held yourself accountable in any way, be honest with yourself: You might feel badly about your sin, but you are not actually repenting of it. Repentance is more than remorse — it means change.
  3. Write down 3 things you’re grateful for.  Listen to some upbeat music that makes you want to tap your feet and move your body.  Dance before the Lord. Your physically body movements can change your emotional body from sadness to gladness.

Are you dying on the inside?

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I have known of a couple of people who told me clearly they had a “near-death” experiences. This phenomena is usually reported after an individual has been pronounced clinically dead or very close to death.  They speak clearly about how they felt and what they saw.  They report feeling a sense of peace, well-being, painlessness, positive emotions and a sense of removal from the world.

But I also know of people who have had “near-life” experiences.  They came close to experiencing joy, passion, new beginnings, love, vibrancy and optimism.

Instead of doing…they are distracted, dreaming and focusing on disappointments.  Instead of living and acting on their spiritual impulse to create…their courage dies,  their faith dies, their trust dies and their confidence dies.  Depression and pain can numb you and place you in an emotional coma or paralysis of analysis.

Indictments, hurt, abandonment, rejection or jealousy from your past can cripple you and you eventually flat line emotionally…no joy, no dreams, no confidence, no purpose, no worth and no faith.Emotional and Spiritual CPR

One of the ways to breathe life into your dreams and purpose is to surround yourself with people who are fully alive.   Build your faith and sense of worth by dealing with any sense of shame, guilt or fears.

Arrest the thief called procrastination.  Get out of any comfort zone of defeat, a rut or what’s the use attitude.  Don’t just stick your toe in the water.  Jump in!  The water will be cold and startling at first.  But the longer you stay in, the more your body will adjust.  Become super-intentional with your thoughts, emotions and actions to be resilient and proactive after any season of challenges, loss, setbacks or pain.   Open up your lungs and breath.  Open up your mind and believe again.  Open up your journals and inspirational books.   Give yourself spiritual and emotional CPR before you flatline.   Life is calling you.  Life is a gift. Endure it, embrace it, enjoy it, excel it and exhale all the hurt so you can inhale all of God’s power.

Broken to be blessed

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“The glass blower knows in the heat of the beginning, any shape is possible.  Once hardened, the only way to change… is to break.” ~ Mark Nepo

“This profound quote above reminds me that in the beginning of our lives as children, we can take on any shape as God, family, friends, school, church, etc. breathes life into us. They influence the shape of our lives. Our early habits, hurts and history of relationships and beliefs shapes our lives. Our hurts, setbacks, disappointments, limiting thoughts and bitterness can make us hard like glass. Life’s hurts, changes and losses can break us and re-shape our thinking, faith, and beliefs. Sometimes people only change after being broken by divorce, death, debt, disease or disappointments. Being broken by life’s circumstances should humble you and not hardened you. Suffering and pain can break your heart and soul wide open to be more alive, awake and aware of God’s grace. Everyone at some point in their lives will be broken and changed…either changed for the better or changed becoming bitter.

 I encourage you today to not let unfortunate circumstances and seasons harden your heart like glass. Be flexible. Be teachable. Be open to change. Develop courage and faith to stand. If you have been broken, allow the Master to blow new life into you, transform your thinking and reshape your life into a new vessel. Let God do a new thing in your life. (Isaiah 43:19).

You can be broken but still blessed.”  ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor, http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net