COMPASSION

How to have compassion

Compassion is essentially the wish that beings not suffer – from subtle physical and emotional discomfort to agony and anguish – combined with feelings of sympathetic concern.

You could have compassion for an individual (a friend in the hospital, a co-worker passed over for a promotion), groups of people (victims of crime, those displaced by a hurricane, refugee children), animals (your pet, livestock heading for the slaughterhouse), and yourself.

Compassion is not pity, agreement, or a waiving of your rights. You can have compassion for people who’ve wronged you while also insisting that they treat you better.

Compassion by itself opens your heart and nourishes people you care about. Those who receive your compassion are more likely to be patient, forgiving, and compassionate with you. Compassion reflects the wisdom that everything is related to everything else, and it naturally draws you into feeling more connected with all things.

Additionally, compassion can incline you to helpful action. For example, one study showed that motor circuits in the brain lit up when people were feeling compassionate, as if they were getting ready to do something about the suffering they were sensing.

How do we cultivate compassion? Compassion is natural; you don’t have to force it; just open to the difficulty, the struggle, the stress, the impact of events, the sorrow and strain in the other person; open your heart, let yourself be moved, and let compassion flow through you.

Feel what compassion’s like in your body – in your chest, throat, and face. Sense the way it softens your thoughts, gentles your reactions. Know it so you can find your way back again.

Moments of compassion come in the flow of life – maybe a friend tells you about a loss, or you can see the hurt behind someone’s angry face, or a hungry child looks out at you from the pages of a newspaper.

Also, you can deliberately call in compassion a minute (or more), perhaps each day; here are a few suggestions:

  • Relax and tune into your body.
  • Remember the feeling of being with someone who cares about you.
  • Bring to mind someone it is easy to feel compassion for.
  • Perhaps put your compassion into words, softly heard in the back of your mind, such as: “May you not suffer . . . may this hard time pass . . . may things be alright for you.”
  • Expand your circle of compassion to include others; consider a benefactor (someone who has been kind to you), friend, neutral person, difficult person (a challenge, certainly), and yourself (sometimes the hardest person of all).
  • Going further, extend compassion to all the beings in your family . . . neighborhood . . . city . . . state . . . country . . . world. All beings, known or unknown, liked or disliked. Humans, animals, plants, even microbes. Beings great or small, in the air, on the ground, under water. Including all, omitting none.

Going through your day, open to compassion from time to time for people you don’t know: someone in a deli, a stranger on a bus, crowds moving down the sidewalk.

Let compassion settle into the background of your mind and body. ~ by Rick Hanson

I Teach 3 Things

The mind, body and spirit are one.  What your mind thinks affects your cells.  Your emotions are triggered by what you think and the level of your faith.  Your body is the host vessel for the Holy Spirit.  As you grow in any of your tri-dimensions, it affects your total well-being.  This principle has been the cornerstone of my teaching.  I refer to my speaking style and approach as a holistic one.  1. Biology (body) helps us to understand our bodies (i.e. nutrition, generational disease like alcoholism, diabetes, exercise, stress, etc.).  2. Psychology (mind), which was my major in college, helps us to understand perception, cognition, attention, emotion, motivation, brain functioning, personality,behavior, and interpersonal relationships, childhood, trauma, shame based issues, addictions, coping skills, attitude, choices, habits, etc.   3.  Spirituality (study of the Holy Spirit, God) helps us to build awareness, connection, gratitude, wonder, curiosity, honor and relationship with our Creator.  Spirituality is the revelation of the mystery and miracle of God around, through and in our lives and environment.  Spirituality is studying universal laws and the omnipresence of God who loves us.  Spirituality for me is about developing a relationship with the Divine, not a religion.  Study and practical application of Jesus teaches the way to live with compassion, restoration, forgiveness, mercy, grace, love for one another, serving humanity, to die to our selfish desires/ego/pride, suffering rising above our haters, persecutors and giants and posessing peace in the midst of our storms.

My perspective and style of teaching is what I call “SpiritPsyBio”, an integration of pursuing a better awareness and power by connecting the dots of the Spirit, our mind and our bodies.  I do my clients and audiences a big dis-service if I only address one dimension of their life.  I don’t separate, I integrate all three…mind, body and spirit.  I strive everyday through action, thought, words, gratitude and focus to align my mind with the divine.

I learned that it is difficult to motivate someone to change their self-destructive habits of procrastination, addiction, anger, depression or crime if I don’t seek to understand their psychological damage, mindset or maladaptive coping skills to survive because of poverty, lack of education, family dysfunction, racism, addictions, peer pressure or media messages.  As a minister, giving the word of God to someone sick in their body or psychologically wounded will not be enough for their breakthrough.  The whole person must be healed.  I can’t inspire someone to have more faith in God if I don’t address their line of thinking (brain).  Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of many researchers who studies brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior.  Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings, nervous, lonely, happy or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  The gut feelings give you warnings and sometimes you may ignore them to your regret.  95% of all serotonin in the body is in the gut, where it triggers digestion. Nerve cells in the gut also use serotonin to signal back to the brain. This information can train us not to eat certain foods by communicating pain, gas and other terrible feelings.  Just like the brain in your head, “gut brain” is also able to learn, remember, and produce emotion-based feelings.  We really do have feelings in our gut.  Our two brains communicate back and forth via a major nerve trunk extending down from the base of your brain all the way down into your abdomen. Because of this, your two brains directly influence each other.  When one brain becomes upset, the other joins right in.

If someone has body image issues or poor eating habits, I must start there before challenging them to build up their self-esteem.   I can’t motivate someone to write a book or start their business if they lack faith and don’t believe they were born on purpose with a purpose.  If someone lacks faith, it can affect the outcome of their surgery, marriage, business venture or ability to speak up in an abusive relationship, or buy their dream car or home.  Anything is possible with faith in God and action.

The achievement of success and progress in your life will be determined by the level of your faith, the health of your body and the thoughts you think.  Who you love, what you think, feel, eat, believe and do creates the life you live negatively or positively.  Your stress, relationships, emotions, lack of sleep, poor diet and lack faith can be the root for your illnesses, procrastination, depression, or drama. It is a fact that nearly 90% of diseases that afflict humans are self-induced.  You are a whole being.  So I teach and motivate the whole person.  As a personal success life coach offering one-on-one phone counseling, my approach is SpiritPsyBio.  I’m interested in your wellness by integrating what I have experienced and studied about Spirituality, Psychology and Biology.

The pillars of my vocation/ministry are: critical thinking, faith building, compassion, resiliency, gratitude, love, therapy (via storytelling, drama and music), women’s worth, leadership skills and community.

Where and with whom do you place your faith?  Are you willing to be transformed by the renewing of your mind?  Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?  Call me 323.964.1736 or e-mail JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Testimony…Hi Jewel!
 I just wanted to reach out to you again to say thanks so much for being a true inspiration in my life! Your dynamic, inspiring coaching has helped me accelerate my goals with Meet Me on the Moon. For that, I am sooo grateful!!!   

Please know that I still want to do the book writing coaching with you.  Realistically, I should be able to start the book writing coaching after the holidays…I am so looking forward to working with you again to get book writing tips and strategies to give birth to the book!  
 
Not sure if you saw my newest brochure.  It’s attached.  I remember our coaching call when you advised me to have marketing materials that speak for me.  I hired another graphics designer.  Again, you have no idea how much you helped me and are helping me!!!  Thanks!!!!!! 🙂  
 
I will be in touch as soon as I am ready.
 
P.S.  I like your new branding “The Success Navigator”  That is awesome!!!

Many blessings, Enrika

Mind Body Spirit Connection

The mind, body and spirt are one.  What your mind thinks affects your cells.  Your emotions are triggered by what you think and the level of your faith.  Your body is the host vessel for the Holy Spirit.  As you grow in any of your tri-dimensions, it affects your total well-being.  This principle has been the cornerstone of my teaching.  I refer to my speaking style and approach as a wholistic one.  1. Biology (body) helps us to understand our bodies (i.e. nutrition, generational disease like alcoholism, diabetes, exercise, stress, etc.).  2. Psychology (mind), which was my major in college, helps us to understand perception, cognition, attention, emotion, motivation, brain functioning, personality,behavior, and interpersonal relationships, childhood, trauma, shame based issues, addictions, coping skills, attitude, choices, habits, etc.  Spirituality (study of God) helps us to build awareness, connection, gratitude, wonder, curiousity, honor and relationship with our Creator.  3. Spirituality is the revelation of the mystery and miracle of God around, through and in our lives and environment.  Spirituality is studying universal laws and the omnipresence of God who loves us.  Spirituality for me is about developing a relationship with the Divine, not a religion.  Study and practical application of Jesus teaches the way to live with compassion, restoration, forgiveness, mercy, grace, love for one another, serving humanity, to die to our selfish desires/ego/pride, suffering rising above our haters, persecutors and giants and posessing peace in the midst of our storms.

My perspective and style of teaching is what I call “SpiritPsyBio”, an integration of pursuing a better awareness and power by connecting the dots of the Spirit, our mind and our bodies.  I do my clients and audiences a big dis-service if I only address one dimension of their life.  I don’t separate, I integrate all three…mind, body and spirit.  I strive everyday through action, thought, words, gratitude and focus to align my mind with the divine.

I learned that it is difficuilt to motivate someone to change their self-destructive habits of procrastination, addiction, anger, depression or crime if I don’t seek to understand their psyhological damage, mindset or maladaptive coping skills to survive because of poverty, lack of education, family dysfunction, racism, addictions, peer pressure or media messages.  As a minister, giving the word of God to someone sick in their body or psychologically wounded will not be enough for their breakthrough.  The whole person must be healed.  I can’t inspire someone to have more faith in God if I don’t address their line of thinking (brain).  Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of a number of researchers who are studying brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior.  Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings, nervous, lonely, happy or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  95% of all serotonin in the body is in the gut, where it triggers digestion. Nerve cells in the gut also use serotonin to signal back to the brain. This information can train us not to eat certain foods by communicating pain, gas and other terrible feelings.  Just like the brain in your head, “gut brain” is also able to learn, remember, and produce emotion-based feelings.  We really do have feelings in our gut.  Our two brains communicate back and forth via a major nerve trunk extending down from the base of your brain all the way down into your abdomen. Because of this, your two brains directly influence each other.  When one brain becomes upset, the other joins right in.

If someone has body image issues or poor eating habits, I must start there before challenging them to build up their self-esteem.   I can’t motivate someone to write a book or start their business if they lack faith and don’t believe they were born on purpose with a purpose.  If someone lacks faith, it can affect the outcome of their surgery, marriage, business venture or ability to speak up in an abusive relationship, or buy their dream car or home.  Anything is possible with faith in God and action.

The achievement of success and progress in your life will be determined by the level of your faith, the health of your body and the thoughts you think.  Who you love, what you think, feel, eat, believe and do creates the life you live negatively or positively.  Your stress, relationships, emotions, lack of sleep, poor diet and lack faith can be the root for your illnesses, procrastination, depression, or drama. It is a fact that nearly 90% of diseases that afflict humans are self-induced.  You are a whole being.  So I teach and motivate the whole person.  As a personal success life coach offering one-on-one phone counseling, my approach is SpiritPsyBio.  I’m interested in your wellness by integrating what I have experienced and studied about Spirituality, Psychology and Biology.

Where and with whom do you place your faith?  Are you willing to be transformed by the renewing of your mind?  Are you sick and tired of being sick and tired?  Call me 323.964.1736 or e-mail JewelMotivates@gmail.com