Be Aware – 50 signs of stress

All your times of seeing trauma, abuse, racism, harassment, rescuing and helping others, juggling your own daily demands/drama, job, family, bills, health, and stress, watching constant news cycle on TV or facebook and disregarding my your health…can cause things to started crashing down in your life.  If you are not mindful, you could experience a breakdown feeling overwhelmed, vulnerable and exhausted.  There are numerous emotional and physical disorders that have been linked to stress including depression, anxiety, heart attacks, stroke, hypertension, immune system disturbances that increase susceptibility to infections, a host of viral linked disorders ranging from Image may contain: 1 person, smiling, sitting and textthe common cold and herpes to AIDS and certain cancers, as well as autoimmune diseases like rheumatoid arthritis and multiple sclerosis. In addition stress can have direct effects on the skin (rashes, hives, atopic dermatitis, the gastrointestinal system (peptic ulcer, irritable bowel syndrome, ulcerative colitis) and can contribute to insomnia and degenerative neurological disorders like Parkinson’s disease.  It’s hard to think of any disease in which stress cannot play an aggravating role or any part of your body that is not affected.

50 Common Signs and Symptoms of Stress

1. Frequent headaches, jaw clenching or pain,  grinding teeth3. Stuttering or stammering

4. Tremors, trembling of lips, hands

5. Neck ache, back pain, muscle spasms

6. Light headedness, faintness, dizziness

7. Ringing, buzzing or “popping sounds

8. Frequent blushing, sweating

9. Cold or sweaty hands, feet

10. Dry mouth, problems swallowing

11. Frequent colds, infections, herpes sores

12. Rashes, itching, hives, “goose bumps”

13. Unexplained or frequent “allergy” attacks

14. Heartburn, stomach pain, nausea

15. Excess belching, flatulence

16. Constipation, diarrhea, loss of control

17. Difficulty breathing, frequent sighing

18. Sudden attacks of life threatening panic

19. Chest pain, palpitations, rapid pulse

20. Frequent urination

21. Diminished sexual desire or performance

22. Excess anxiety, worry, guilt, nervousness

23. Increased anger, frustration, hostility

24. Depression, frequent or wild mood swings

25. Increased or decreased appetite

26. Insomnia, nightmares, disturbing dreams27. Difficulty concentrating, racing thoughts

28. Trouble learning new information

29. Forgetfulness, disorganization, confusion

30. Difficulty in making decisions

31. Feeling overloaded or overwhelmed

32. Frequent crying spells or suicidal thoughts

33. Feelings of loneliness or worthlessness

34. Little interest in appearance, punctuality

35. Nervous habits, fidgeting, feet tapping

36. Increased frustration, irritability, edginess

37. Overreaction to petty annoyances

38. Increased number of minor accidents

39. Obsessive or compulsive behavior

40. Reduced work efficiency or productivity

41. Lies or excuses to cover up poor work

42. Rapid or mumbled speech

43. Excessive defensiveness or suspiciousness

44. Problems in communication, sharing

45. Social withdrawal and isolation

46. Constant tiredness, weakness, fatigue

47. Frequent use of over-the-counter drugs

48. Weight gain or loss without diet

49. Increased smoking, alcohol or drug use

50. Excessive gambling or impulse buying

Watch Out for the Joy Stealers, Energy Vampires

A few days ago I couldn’t understand why I was feeling down, irritated and exhausted.  After I traced my last few conversations, phone calls, places I went and personal encounters…I figured it out.  I had a conversation with a person who has the personality of what I call a “vacuum cleaner.”  This type “sucks” out all of your joy, energy and oxygen in the room.  This type of person can leave you feeling empty, fearful, or depressed.  I’m learning more and more of the importance to be careful and have boundaries around people who are like “energy vampires”, “vacuum cleaners”, “joy stealers”, and “blessing blockers.”

Have you ever eaten some food and then became violently sick and realized it was food poisoning?  Well I think we should be aware of people in our lives who can give us “mood poisoning.”

Guard your heart, ears, eyes and spirit.  The more you detox your life from people, habits and things that rob you of your peace, the more you will be sensitive to mood poisoning people who are critical, self-absorbed, gossipers, naggers, manipulative, negative, complainers, pessimistic, needy and emotionally messy.

People who lack confidence and full of gloom and doom, distrust, and anxiety are a toxic cocktail mix.  Learn to be smart with your heart, mind and time. You may work with them or they may be in your family, church, campus, neighbor, organization or circle of friends.  Yes, we must learn how to navigate our relationships with love, patience, diplomacy and care.  Learn to assess which relationships are healthy and which you need to limit or distance yourself from.  ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

Valuable and effective coaching and/or counseling

Image may contain: 1 person, smilingDepression thrives on fear and hopelessness. If your brain is worn out by thinking about stress, anxiety, doom, shame and “what if”…your brain gets exhaustion from the rumination and lack of good sleep. When your brain is flooded with stress hormones, it is difficult for your brain to see new perspectives, possibilities and hope.  Shame and low self-esteem thrive on silence, secrecy, judgment and isolation which is the perfect breeding ground for addictions.

As a life coach I help others to find creative ways to get unstuck and calm their thinking and reframe their identity from shame to hope to healing to resiliency.

Call 323.964.1736 to schedule your one-on-one time with Jewel Diamond Taylor or email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com

 

Yes, it can be difficult…but don’t drop out of life

“Fear, pain, and setbacks can be paralyzing, traumatizing and terrorizing.  Life isn’t always easy.  Parenting, marriage, caregiving, paying your bills, living with abuse, financial stress, dysfunctional families, illness, operating your business/ministry, loneliness, grief, betrayal, an unfulfilling job, college, or poverty aren’t easy.

Some people drop out of life and drop into addiction, depression, despair, crime, toxic relationships, self-loathing or anger.  Some people haven’t learned how to cope and overcome their troubled childhood, abuse, poverty, family secrets, past setbacks or personal pain.  So they defend themselves from the pain by learning some very counterproductive behavior … procrastinating, isolating, depression, addictions, lying, silence, withdrawal, victimization, extreme joking/humor, fantasy, disconnecting, extreme busyness minimize or rationalize their pain or abuser’s behavior.  Depression causes thinking in all-or-nothing extremes which makes depressed ones resistant to new thoughts, support, and change.  Depression is closely rated to low self-esteem, which hinders a depressed person from seeing their worth and possibilities.  Unfortunately, many people who have been burned out, hurt, and traumatized learn to; not feel, not trust, not talk and pretend nothing is happening.

When you go through a terrible experience in your life, you decide what it means. You can say it is unfair, horrible and you identify yourself as a victim, loser, unlovable or a failure.  Or you can say it was a life lesson. You can perceive it as a permanent or temporary inconvenience.  You determine whether you will live with blame, shame, grudges or peace.  The story you tell yourself will either limit and define you as a victim.  Or your story will be about overcoming, healing, moving forward, forgiveness, creating a new normal, faith, courage, perseverance and resiliency.

As the Self-esteem Dr./Life Coach for women, I provide an emotionally safe place to help women come out of their psychological safe hiding place to feel, deal and heal their emotions that are sabotaging their relationships, success, happiness, health, peace, and purpose.
My prayer for you today is that you will find a mustard seed of faith and hope to believe you can make it through your wilderness.  Don’t let your past or setbacks define, discourage, defeat, deter, distract or destroy you.  My prayer for you is Numbers 6:24-26.”  Call me 323.964.1736 or email me JewelMotivates@gmail.com to schedule a one-on-one life coaching/counseling session with me.

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Overcoming Fear

“Faith is a thriving emotion … fear is a surviving emotion.
Faith is inspiring. Fear is intimidating.
Action is liberating. Fear is limiting.
Action is courageous. Fear is cowardly.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~     Nelson Mandela