Live out loud

       So I have shared this quick story from many podiums as a guest speaker.  I want to share it with you now…

     One day a passenger in the back seat of a taxi kept asking his taxi driver questions.  His taxi driver kept jumping and looking startled every time his passenger asked him a question.  

     Finally, the passenger asked his driver, “Why are you so nervous?”  The driver replied, “This is my first day as a taxi driver. For many years I drove a hearse car for funerals..  I’m not used to hearing voices in my car.  I’m used to carrying around dead people.”

     Unfortunately, there are too many people who are used to carrying “dead” things around (e.g. dead dreams, dead hope, dead faith, dead imagination, old hurts, old habits, old relationships, old beliefs, etc.).  When they are offered a new opportunity, a new experience, a new relationship, a new idea, or a new way of living and thinking…it scares them.  They have become accustomed to living a limited and joyless life. 

     I want to encourage someone today to start living with more gratitude, courage, curiosity, creativity, adventure, and grow out of any state of isolation, misery, and old stinkin’ thinkin’.  Wake up, get up, try something new, go someplace new, break your routine, add some color, laughter, nature, and beauty into your day.  Avoid people whose hope, joy, love, kindness, and imagination has died.  You are STILL ALIVE.  Live your life more fully. 

     Your life is NOT shaped by your circumstances.  Your life is shaped by the decisions you make each day.  Create some new habits and new experiences.  Read Psalm 90:12 (Lord teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.)
 
 

Great Tips from a Recovering Procrastinator

jewel-colorful-topI am Jewel Diamond Taylor.  I am a recovering procrastinator.

Sadly, I admit I have lost money, time, opportunities, sleep and peace of mind from the terrible habit of avoiding important tasks.  I am not totally recovered.  However, gladly, I have seen so much progress and gained some self-respect, effectiveness, progress and peace of mind because of these following practices I put into place to break old habits.

To increase my daily success of achieving my tasks.  I have to psyche myself out because I know the words, habits and thoughts in my head that block and sabotage my progress which causes me to avoid tasks and eventually pay the consequences.   So instead of having a “to do” list…I have a “things to finish” list.  When I hear “to do” it sounds to wide open and vague.   “Things to finish” is my kick in the behind to not only do something…but finish my task.   I have learned that my self-talk changes how I do things.  Since I read my emails daily…all day…I send myself an email with the subject line “To finish“.

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I don’t have several pieces of paper with lists that eventually end up being lost.
I only have one place which insures that I will SEE it and get it done.
I don’t put tasks on my list that I normally would do anyway.
I add those things that I want to avoid or seem difficult.
I am learning to stop the habit of putting my self into a last minute crisis and panic attack which was self-induced.
I keep the consequences of avoiding important tasks in my mind instead of being in denial or hoping someone else will do it for me.  I take responsibility for the quality of life and peace of mind that I gain when I finish my tasks.
I keep a short list so my day won’t feel so overwhelming.
I have learned to delegate, dump the low priority items and finish the high priority items to keep my stress down.
I have given up being a perfectionist…shift happens.
I don’t over commit.  I have boundaries and review my list often for short term and long term goals so I can keep the main thing…THE MAIN THING!
I say “no” without feeling guilty to unrealistic demands of my time.
Distractions and excuses keeps me ineffective and stressed so I have learned to notice when my mind tries to justify not doing the task or I hear the whispers “Do it tomorrow.”
I am eating better and walking daily which gives me
strength and stamina for the day.
I pray for discernment, guidance, courage and wisdom.
I am determined to keep growing, get better and develop the discipline of an
achiever, leader and finisher.  How about you? ~
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5 Ways to Get Things Done!

1. Be honest with yourself. Overcome denial. Admit you could use some help and accountability. Welcome the support of others i.e. friend, tutor, mentor, prayer partner, co-worker, success coach, support group, rehab sponsor, etc.

2.Break down your task or project into small steps. Start by focusing on that first small step. When you are done move on to the next and just focus on that one. The small successes will keep your motivation up and keeping your focus away from the big picture which can stop you from becoming overwhelmed and discouraged. It’s amazing how much you can get done if you follow this simple method.

3. Get close to people on fire (i.e. people who are taking action and living their best life overcoming procrastination or fear). When a stove is on, the closer you get the stove, more you feel the heat and see something cooking. The further you walk away from the stove, you become colder. If you want to start something “cookin'” in your life, get close to people already on fire and away from cold, stuck, unmotivated and critical people.

4. Stop right now and think of a task/goal that you are procrastinating on. Now think of the rewards and benefits if you finish it or think of the consequences and costs you will face if you don’t finish. Now which one of these will cause you to get moving…consequences or rewards? People are either motivated by pain or pleasure…which one are you?

5. Notice your sabotaging inner-talk. Change your thinking and words to be more affirming, positive and productive. Here is a suggested link with 12 powerful prayer/affirmation cards to read daily.