COVID-19 – Thinking Out Loud

Thinking out loud,..

During my time of stillness, reflection, and missing family and friends…I have NO regrets. I am glad I already spent my life;
1. Showing my love and appreciation to others.
2. I always showed love by hugging my family and friends so I don’t feel regrets if I don’t see them for a while.
3. I didn’t procrastinate about traveling. I have a lot of travel memories to keep me warm.
4. I know how to cook. I’m not missing fast food or risking my health.
5. I always had the habit of reaching out to others.
6. I always prayed and meditated which keeps my anxiety down.
7. I am an ambivert so I am not restless staying home.
8. I learned coping skills so I don’t need a crash course.
9. I have plenty of books in my house to read.
10. I already practiced morning rituals of stretching, nasal cleanse, daily herbal supplements and drinking water without ice.
11. Losing many loved ones taught me to be resilient and appreciate each day, even in a crisis. I know life is fragile. Losing my parents, in-laws, friends and my 38 yr old son JJ taught me about the impermanence of life. My mental toughness, faith in God, and past pain have taught me to accept the uncertainties and the unpredictable suffering in life and to also expect miracles.
12. I’m grateful for the technology and awareness in the past to take many videos and pictures with my phone. Re-visiting them is my self-care and acts of self-soothing. I continue to take advantage of real-time video apps to see my loved ones.
13. Stress can bring out the worst or the best in people. I thank God for discernment, protection, peace, resiliency, emotional wellness, and feet to my faith.

Wash your hands, be safe, pray, be kind, conserve your energy, be hopeful and practice gratitude,

Jewel Diamond Taylor

Covid-19 How to Cope With Anxiety Attacks

 

I continue to offer my coaching/counseling (phone or video) by sharing coping skills, my experience, prayer, and emotional wellness support.
During this crisis there NO fee.  A love offering is available by cash app or paypal.
Contact email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com, call 323.964.1736

Wash your hands, be safe, pray, be kind, conserve your energy, be hopeful, and practice gratitude.

 

Where does it hurt?

Where does it hurt?  That’s the question the doctor usually asks when you come to be healed of your back ache, head ache, muscle pain, heart problems, high blood pressure, weight issues or depression?

Your emotional and physical body are one. Your body holds memories, emotions, and unresolved issues. You probably have feelings that are unexpressed or never healed which get stored in your body (i.e. trauma from abuse, incest, rape, incarceration, homeless). You may have emotional junk in your trunk.  Your heart can be heavy with emotional clutter. Maybe as a child you were never been hugged…never accepted…felt different…always punished…told to be quiet, be seen and not heard.  Feelings of rejection become suppressed emotions in your body.

Your feelings from a divorce, job loss, accident, anger, incarceration, severe illness, or uncried tears from the death of a loved one can pile up boxes of emotions in your body.

clutter logo smThose boxes may have never been opened because you had to keep going to work, show face, be strong, survive, and hold it all together. Those boxes of pain could be stored in your knees, heart, head, stomach, back, or neck.

Your internal conflict or unresolved emotional issues can store up in your muscles. You could have bladder problems (e.g. “He pissed me off!”). Maybe you are full of anxiety, nervous, worried and can’t sleep (e.g. “They are getting on my nerves.”).

Maybe you’re realizing you’ve had denial, lapses of memory, fallen into an addiction caused by saying to yourself, “I can’t believe this is happening to me!@#!”.

Your way of coping could have been sleeping, depression, denial, lapses of memory, staying extra busy, etc.

Unresolved sadness, grief, or anger from a breakup could make you feel you like you can’t breathe causing your chest to feel heavy, (e.g. “My heart is broken.”) thus making your body more vulnerable for a  heart attack or stroke.

pain body tender pointsYou could be experiencing muscle pain because you have spent years avoiding dark and painful emotions.  In situation where someone has experienced incarceration, abuse, incest, or rape in the past suffer from fatigue, muscle and joint pain, brain fog, and insomnia.  Trauma  changes the way the brain handles pain and stress.  It is very important to seek help to address your past wounds stored up metaphorically as “boxes” in your brain.

I’ve had my share of depression which happens when a toxic situation builds up over time in the brain.

Recently I have allowed myself to open some boxes and stop suppressing some feelings. I’m getting rid of some emotional boxes.

I have cried, reflected, cut my losses, let go of grudges, forgiven myself, laughed, given thanks, prayed and let go. I have felt muscle tightness in my shoulders (e.g. Trying to fix other’s problems and carry the world on my shoulders…thus back and shoulder pain.)

Seek healthy ways to unpack your emotional boxes and get rid of the emotional clutter.

In my seminars and retreats I offer injections for the infection of low self-esteem, fear, stress, procrastination and emotional pain. Those boxes could be blocking your door of success, health, peace and blessings.

This article is an excerpt from Jewel Diamond Taylor’s e-book “Get Rid of the Physical and Emotional Clutter”.  Download your copy today to review often and you will soon feel lighter and more peaceful.

Talk therapy, meditation, stretching, exercising, change of diet, emotionally distancing yourself from toxic people or places can help reduce your physical and emotional pain.

 

e-book Letting Go of Emotional Clutter

by Jewel Diamond Taylor

$2.99

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To schedule your one-on-one coaching/counseling session with The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor, call 323.964/1736 or email TheSelfesteemDr@gmail.com

I’m done!!!!!

When you are feeling agitated, sad, mad, or hurt…ask yourself “What is REALLY going on?”
The real answer may surprise you. You may just be tired, lonely, sick, feeling ashamed or stretched to your limit. How often do you take out your frustrations on the wrong person, your closest target? How often do you make permanent decisions about a temporary situation? How many times have you quit a relationship, marriage, project, or job because your nerves and emotions were on edge?  How many times have you said, “I’m done!” but you were really feeling anxiety, used, abused, invisible, physically exhausted, not heard, not appreciated, insecure, overwhelmed, scared, tired of trying, and simply needing a break?

Is the clock ticking and you feel like you are running out of time? Sometimes the question is…”Who’s the matter with you” not “WHAT is the matter with you?”  Lingering, futile, toxic, unhappy, or manipulative relationships can tire you out.  Are you an overhelper, co-dependent, fixer, or is your loyalty displaced?

People and circumstances may trigger your emotions which live right underneath your skin that you have pushed down, ignored, forgotten or covered up with a mask.
What is really going on with you?

If you cut your finger or broke your leg, you would seek immediate medical care.
What do you do when you are emotionally bleeding, have a broken heart, become blind and lose sight of your purpose, your joy and optimism are on life support, or you fell down and fractured your faith, peace, and hope?

Through my counseling/coaching style I am able to support others to:

. discover emotional sobriety and emotional freedom
. improve their relationships
. revive their self-worth and self-esteem
. reduce their vulnerability to toxic people or past shame
. learn how to navigate a crisis without numbing themselves
. cope with a crisis with acceptance, action, right thinking, faith, endurance, hope, and   pproductive coping skills.
. move forward past their shame, procrastination, grief, abuse, setbacks, burnout, or ffaith fatigue.

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by The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor, speaker, author, life coach, women’s retreat facilitator, Founder of Women on the Grow, Inc., media personality

To reserve your one-on-one time by phone, zoom, or in person, call 323.964.1736

or email – TheSelfesteemDr@gmail.com

 

 

Prayer for a new home

Praying for a New Home

Thank you Lord for hearing and responding to my prayer for my housing situation.

I release my anxiety and fears and focus on my faith in your power and provision.           I stand on my faith believing that my housing needs of a beautiful place to live with _________bedrooms, ________________ and ____________________ will be realized.

Thank you for placing me in the right place at the right time to meet the right people.  I thank you God in advance for how You can work this out.  All that the Father hath for me is mine and I take possession of what belongs to me with a swiftness, gratitude and confidence.  I believe as I speak these words, that You, Father God, go before me preparing a way.

I have no fear, for You are with me – my peace, my protection and my provision. 

Thank You for placing heavenly and earthly angels in my life to guide me. 

I believe what You have done for others, You can do for me.  Grant me favor so that I may learn soon of approval of my place to live. 

I will share Your goodness with others so they may know of Your power and glory.

I trust your promise from 1 Corinthians 2:9 “that no eye has seen, nor ear heard, neither has it entered into the heart of man, the things which God has prepared for them that love him.”  So I will dream big and keep my worries small.

I feel better, encouraged and ready now for my breakthrough.  Thank You Lord for being the center of my JOY and the source of my great new home! Amen                

by Minister Jewel Diamond Taylor – visit http://www.JewelDiamondTaylor.com

Vision Board GOAL Shop

Saturday, January 18, 2020

12 noon – 3:00 p.m.

Location: Mine by Design

16921 South Western Ave., Gardena, CA 90247

Men, women and families are welcomed to attend.

click this link to register $20.20 per person

If you have any questions, email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Bring your blank poster board and old magazines to cut out pictures of

your personal and professional goals.

Deborah Hutcheson, owner of Revamped Glamour, is our co-sponsor offering beautiful and sparkling accessories.

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Get Emotionally Free

Waiting for someone else to make you happy is for sure one of the quickest ways to be sad.
Giving up blaming others and giving up being depressed from unmet expectations strengthens your “emotional sobriety” giving you freedom to experience peace.

Read below my version of the Serenity Prayer for those seeking healing and freedom from relationships full of; drama, stress, estrangement, pain, resentment, anger, and manipulation.
“God, grant me the serenity to calmly accept the situations I cannot change, the courage to respond with self-worth, and the wisdom to grow and enjoy my life’s journey.”

– Jewel Diamond Taylor, aka The Self-esteem Dr., popular life coach and counselor, conference speaker, author, media personality, and founder of Women on the Grow, Inc. 501c3

This story of abuse and low self-esteem is why I offer counseling and coaching

Linda has always been the unofficial care giver in any relationship. It’s always been about the other person.
She has continually put her own needs last. She neglects her own appearance, and self-care, turns down invitations for social activities and feels she has no voice or power to make decisions. Linda never gained her own voice to say “no” or ask for help.

Growing up, her mother was a cruel narcissist who had no warmth or interest in Linda, Her father died when she was young. When Linda was eighteen her mother became ill and Linda was the primary care giver. She has older siblings but they didn’t help or visit.
Linda cared exclusively for her mother which blocked her from developing and living her best life. Her mother died when Linda was thirty-five, and Linda lived on in the same house until she had to sell it as her mother hadn’t left a will. She had spent her life caring for her mother whose self-absorption didn’t include any consideration of Linda’s own needs.
She knows she neglects and isolates herself. She barely knows how to ask for help. She feels she has wasted her life and doesn’t know how to start living. Linda lives with shame and guilt and doesn’t find it easy to make new friends. Linda feels she is “stupid, helpless, useless, and unworthy” when she is around other people.
Linda developed low self-esteem and lacked physical or emotional boundaries to protect and honor her peace and value. Her mother’s fits, of anger and rage, unpredictable mood swings, silent treatments, insults, neediness, and narcissistic ways shaped Linda’s emotional mondswt. Nothing was ever about Linda… so she believed she was nothing. Linda has been conditioned through the repeated emotions of shame and guilt to feel that any self-promotion or self-care, opinions, or desires were conceited and showing off. She was put down a lot as a child and emotionally she has confused success with conceit.

As the Self-esteem Dr., I guide my coaching/counseling clients on ways to check their own “emotional temperature.” Why? Because people and environments can cause you to experience;

. heart palpitations
. head aches
. stomach aches
. digestion flare ups
. no eating
. sleep deprivation

. Anxiety spells

. depression and isolation
. excessive drinking, cutting, eating

. super driven high achiever

The spectrum of abuse from; parents, lovers, spouses, children, friends, and authority figures can be from mild to severe, subtle or mean, manipulative and charming.

These are some of my prescriptions to gain emotional freedom, peace, and emotional well-being…

Journaling: write about how you’re feeling

Meditation: some quiet time and reflection helps us listen to ourselves

Prayer seeking guidance, comfort, and strengthening your faith

Reflection: looking back can help you plan ahead. What have you learned about yourself?

Questioning: ask yourself what you need more or less of.

Seek counseling and/or seek out a trusted friend to talk and express your feelings, learn how to establish boundaries and self-worth to believe you can have a life beyond your present circumstances.

Deep breathing exercises

Be proactive and schedule time for self and keep your commitment

Creativity: draw, paint, crafts, listen to music – something that frees your mind

Physical activity – dancing, therapuetic massage, walking, yoga, pampering (i.e. nails, hair, pedicure, etc.)

To plan a one-on-one session with the Self-esteem Dr., call 323.964.1736 or email TheSelfEsteemDr@gmail.com

Remember to encourage yourself

I don’t know who this is for…but maybe you are in a “God Gap” right in the middle of where you used to be and where you want to be. Are you waiting for a breakthrough in your family, marriage, employment, health, finances, ministry, or business?

Maybe your usual sources of support are missing. Maybe someone let you down and went “ghost” on you.

Maybe you feel your prayers aren’t going past the ceiling.

Maybe you feel no one understands you.

Sing out loud D. L. Lawrence “Encourage Yourself” song. Strengthen yourself. Believe in yourself. Heal yourself. Promise yourself to practice more self-care. Befriend yourself. The kindness and encouragement give to others…give it to yourself also. Don’t betray yourself. Speak your truth. Create your boundaries of emotional or physical distance from the energy vampires, haters, critics, time stealers, and drama bringers. Have a good talk with yourself. Acknowledge your dreams, gifts, talents, ideas, strength, creativity, and accomplishments. Value your time, family, faith, health, anointing, skills, and self-worth. Let go and forgive yourself for past hurtful choices. Remember this scripture…”God is within her, she cannot fail.” Psalm 46:5

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Encourage yourself by guarding your heart from toxic and manipulative people. Encourage yourself to stick and not quit on your goals. Encourage yourself by reminding yourself that you are worthy. Encourage yourself and remember your past victories. Encourage yourself in your money habits and eating habits.

Encourage yourself by speaking life over your situation. Encourage yourself through your recovery from a heartache, divorce, layoff, addiction, setback, illness, or seeking a home, job, car, or new love.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. – Philippians 4:6

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10

By blog writer Jewel Diamond Taylor.

For a life-changing, insightful, and transformative counseling or life coaching session call 323.964.1736

email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com

God, can we talk?!

OK now…please listen God! You got me up writing all these messages and feeling a lot of “aha” moments.  Am I writing these messages for others…or is it really helping me!  I think it’s both.

The revelations and insights are helping me and making me feel some kinda way.  Why didn’t I know these things before?  How many people have I hurt?  How many people have I helped?  Have I been my own worst enemy and saboteur?  Will I get better?  Will I have the right words to express what I am discovering?

I am learnig to process my past poor choices and emotional pain, mourn, feel, deal, heal, grieve, repent, and grow from them.

Everytime I feel I have grown on one level of my life, I find myself back in Your operating room to remove a cancerous thought, unrealistic expectation, belief, or habit.

I am no longer resisting the spiritual surgery.  I am healing and learning at the same time.  The process hurts at first before I begin to feel better.  I have to give up denial, worry, procrastination, and doubts.

It’s hard sometimes to fight a battle when I’m still limping from the last shot, cut, fall, kick, loss, or wound.  Yes, God, I’m learning to be resilient and practice what I teach.

I am reading this morning Isaiah 42:3 and encouraged by this scripture that says, “a bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick He will not quench because even though many of us are heavy laden with doubts, fears, and wounds…we will bend but not break, because of Your divine love.  Even though our inner candle is smoldering and about to go out, Your grace revives the flame of purpose, hope, and strength within us.

Lord, I need Your guidance to share the essential pearls of wisom I have excavated from the depths of my soul, experience, self-awareness, prayer, and study.

I thank you Lord for Your grace, mercy, and marvelous light which are accelerating my growth and peace.

Thank you for my “aha” moments enabling me to see more clearly how to overcome bitterness, depression, doubts, worry, and unrealistic expectations from others.

I get it God…every marriage needs a balance between intimacy and independence.  Beginnigs and endings will happen…friends, customers, and business associates will come and go.  My body needs healthy foods, water, and exercise.  I must see, seek, and seize opportunities beyond my comfort zone.  Continue learning so I can pass any of my tests (i.e. patience test, wilderness test, grief test, character test, courage test, faith test). Trust in Your divine order.  Remember my prosperity commandments.  My thoughts and words have power to create what I focus on.  I must keep the main thing…the MAIN THING!

Thank you for placing so many wonderful people in my life who see me and value my journey and purpose.  I will stay in the light.

 

 

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