What to do when SHIFT happens

The following is an excerpt from Jewel Diamond Taylor’s book “ShiFt Happens”

     Life can be a journey or a “trip” — Are you going to be a whiner or a winner in life? An African proverb teaches, “It rains on everyone’s roof.”

    The same thing can happen to two different people and they respond differently.  One person can receive troubling news about their health and feel bitter, afraid, and believe life is unfair.  Another one could receive the same diagnosis and feel hopeful and motivated to change their food choices and let go of any stressors in their life.  One can be pessimistic and the other optimistic.  One can live in fear and the other in faith.  One can feel like a victim and the other can feel victorious because of their thinking, actions, surroundings, and prayer life.  One could drown in their tears and fears and other could drop their long and strong anchor of faith.

 It’s not always the shift situation that causes unhappiness. It’s your thoughts about it. 

You may feel tired…get inspired !

Instead of thinking you are being punished…change your perspective to realize you are being PUSHED to deepen your faith, courage, resiliency, compassion, and coping skills.

 

Get equipped so you can’t be whipped by stress.

    Your shiFt could be a troubling marriage, parenting, seeking employment, illness, layoff, unexpected debt, looking for housing, slow business sales, a car accident, or suddenly you find yourself care giving for an aging parent.  Seasons of shifting, shaking, and storming may last for a long or a short time.  Your anchor of faith must be strong and long to endure your storm.  Suggested scripture Psalm 46:1-3

    You must be focused and yet know how to adapt to change and unexpected circumstances.   

     SHIFT happens!  Changes will happen without your permission.  In spite of a good plan and good intentions, you will need to know how to adjust, adapt, and regroup.   

Don’t quit because you’re alone.
Don’t quit because it’s tough.
Don’t quit because you’re out of your comfort zone.
Don’t quit because you’re mad.
Don’t quit because you’re sad.
Don’t quit because no one seems to help or care.
Don’t quit because it’s taking so long.
Don’t quit because you see no reward.
Don’t quit because you think it’s too late.
Don’t quit…stick with it.
Speak victory into your life.
Speak success into your life.
Speak determination into your life.
Speak love into your life.
Speak strength and courage into your life.

This post is an excerpt from Jewel Diamond Taylor’s e-book and audio book CD. To continue being inspired to overcome the SHIFT in your life, send your donation to Jewel’s Women on the Grow, Inc. 501c3 ministry click here.

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7 Tips – How to Self-Care Without Apology

Self-Care Pearls of Wisdom from

Jewel Diamond Taylor

 

1. Remember “No” is a complete sentence. Teach others how to respect your personal boundaries.  Guard your heart and peace of mind.  If your next decision or a request of your time, body, money, skills, or trust will take away from your peace mind…the cost is too expensive.

2. Taking care of yourself is not selfish or a luxury, it is necessary for your emotional and mental health.  Honor your emotions and don’t deny or suppress them.  Take a deep breath and assess your body, environment, and emotional triggers.  Sometimes I just simply sit in my car for an hour in a safe parking lot or even my driveway to exhale, have a good cry, get my praise on, listen to music, pray, get still, decompress, or listen to an audio book or watch a video.  I even listen to my own inspirational CDs! 

Give yourself permission to push the “pause” button.   If necessary, don’t answer every phone call, delegate duties, take a nap, stop talking, or go on a fast.   If you keep giving away pieces of yourself … there will soon be nothing left of you.  You always make sure your mobile phone is charged … do the same for your mind, body, and spirit.  Recharge your soul.

Self-care is critical for those who are caregivers for family members with special needs or aging parents.  The isolation and stress can affect your health.  Seek help and carve out some time to exhale and take care of your health before you crash with exhaustion, resentment, faith fatigue, or illness.

3. You cannot help others from an empty cup. Take care of yourself with good rest, boundaries, hobbies, water, nutritious food, some form of regular body movement (e.g. walking, stretching, gym, water aerobics) and remember to take a MeCation, StayCation, Vacation or retreat.

4. Strengthen your self-esteem and guard your heart, time, goals, money, lifestyle, and peace of mind.  No more people pleasing.  Be alert to manipulators, toxic, selfish, abusive, needy people, and boundary bullies.

5. If you are always the go-to person and the giver, learn how to receive. Delegate and learn how to ask for what you want or need.  Yes, I know how being a parent or always the one who helps friends and family in a crisis can become your identity and your norm.  Be careful of those who take advantage because you are the “rescuer” or their personal ATM.  Let go and teach others how to develop their own coping skills, responsibility, and faith in God. 

6. Gain coping skills, resiliency, faith, and self-determination to recover from setbacks, loss/grief, abuse, divorce, the empty next, surgery, loneliness, or illness.  Losing both my parents, in-laws, friends, and my 38 year old son to cancer taught me that grief has no clock.  It’s important for your emotional health to give yourself the gift of good friends, time and space to heal, and coping skills so you are equipped and not whipped by those overwhelming feelings of grief and depression.  

7. Improve your inner-self talk. Think, speak, and act as an overcomer and not a victim. “God is within her and she will not fail.” Psalm 46:5

For one-on-one coaching/counseling with Jewel Diamond Taylor aka The Self-esteem Dr. and the EmpowHERment Coach, call 323.964.1736, or emailJewelMotivates@gmail.com

21 Quotes to Get Through Tough Times

1. “When your  personal storm comes, be so rooted in your faith that you stand like a palm tree…you bend, but you don’t break.” – Jewel Diamond Taylor

2.  “Family and friends can be a tonic or toxic.  You don’t have to give up on them.  Just give them UP to God.  Being a fixer and rescuer can be exhausting and unhealthy.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

3. “Dream.  Let nothing dim the light that shines in you.” – Maya Angelou

4.  When your chest is heavy with stress, anger, fear, anxiety, and grief…stop and take a few deep breaths.  Lose the weight of other people’s burdens, expectations, demands, and opinions.  Exhale stress…inhale peace.  Exhale anxiety…inhale courage.  Exhale fear and inhale faith.  You got this.

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6.  “Problems grab us where we are weak.  They’re a call to get strong and master that area of our life.” – Tony Robbins

7. “All relationships go through hell.  Some GROW through it.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

8.  “Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.” – Theodore N. Vail

9.  “Our fatigue is often caused not by work… but by worry, frustration, and resentment.” – Dale Carnegie

10. “Lighten your stress load.  Let go of people, projects, and problems that are not your assignment.” – Jewel Diamond Taylor

11.  “Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don’t pray when it rains if you don’t pray when the sun shines.”  – Leroy Satchel Paige

12. “Your struggle is real and so is God’s grace and mercy.  At any moment, any day, you can experience a breakthrough.  Shift happens and no one said life is fair or easy.  Trust the process. Read 1 Corinthians 2:9″ – Jewel Diamond Taylor

13.  This…too…shall pass.

14. ” It`s not the load that breaks you down, it`s the way you carry it.” – Lena Horne

15. Adversity is a fact of life. It can’t be controlled. What we can control is how we react to it.  – Unknown

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17. “The true test of a person’s character is how they stand during test of adversity.   Are you experiencing a crisis, conflict, or unwelcomed change?  These are defining moments which reveal your true character and faith.  Will you be destroyed, defeated, or determined to be resilient?” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

18.  God’s promises He will never leave you or forsake you.  “And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.” Phil 4:19    Put feet to your faith.  You have to get up and walk by faith.  Fear leads to paralysis.  Action leads to satisfaction. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

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20.  “Quitting can become a habit.  Stick don’t quit.” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

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Sister Soul Saturday – September 21, 2019

The popular conference speaker, media personality, author, aka “The Self-esteem Dr. “, “The EmpowHERment Life Coach”, and the Founder of Women on the Grow, Inc., Jewel Diamond Taylor, will be speaking and featuring a great panel of women in diverse careers. You will be inspired by the panel speakers sharing their stories of; purpose, career, resiliency, faith, family, tenacity, and reinventing their life.

1. Maria Dowd  Chief Catalyst of My Amazing Lyfe, speaker, author, coach, insurance educator, Founder of the legendary African American Women on Tour Conferences.

2. Deborah Pegues  MBA, CPA, global speaker, TV host, behavioral consultant, and bestselling author of 17 books (over 2 million copies sold) including The One-Minute Money Mentor for Women, 30 Days to a Stronger, More Confident You, and 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue.

3. Tamika Williams – Orange County Deputy District Attorney

4. Dr. Alice S. Campbell – retired middle/high school teacher, principal, district coordinator, and Founder of the Black Butterflies Book and Empowerment Circle. 

YES!  YOU CAN PURCHASE TICKETS AT THE DOOR

One ticket $35 per person or save bring a friend 2 tickets for $60

one ticket for Sister Soul Saturday

September 21, 2019 Four Points Sheraton Westside, Culver City, CA

$35.00

2 tickets for Sister Soul Saturday

September 21, 2019 Four Points Sheraton Westside, Culver City, CA

$60.00

Live out loud

 

       

    So I have shared this quick story from many podiums as a guest speaker.  I want to share it with you now…

     One day a passenger in the back seat of a taxi kept asking his taxi driver questions.  His taxi driver kept jumping and looking startled every time his passenger asked him a question.  

     Finally, the passenger asked his driver, “Why are you so nervous?”  The driver replied, “This is my first day as a taxi driver. For many years I drove a hearse car for funerals..  I’m not used to hearing voices in my car.  I’m used to carrying around dead people.”

     Unfortunately, there are too many people who are used to carrying “dead” things around (e.g. dead dreams, dead hope, dead faith, dead imagination, old hurts, old habits, old beliefs, relationships, etc.).  When they are offered a new opportunity, a new experience, a new relationship, a new idea, or a new way of living and thinking…it scares them.  They have become accustomed to living a limited and joyless life. 

     I want to encourage someone today to start living with more gratitude, courage, curiosity, creativity, adventure, and grow out of any state of isolation, misery, and old stinkin’ thinkin’.  Wake up, get up, try something new, go someplace new, break your routine, add some color, laughter, nature, and beauty into your day.  Avoid people whose hope, joy, love, kindness, and imagination has died.  You are STILL ALIVE.  Live your life more fully. 

     Your life is NOT shaped by your circumstances.  Your life is shaped by the decisions you make each day.  Create some new habits and new experiences.  Read Psalm 90:12 (Lord teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.) ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor
 
To invite Jewel Diamond Taylor to speak for your conference, church, retreat, or campus, call 323.964.1736 or email JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Know when to say “no”

“Be careful.  Like a fish caught in a net, you can become entangled in a toxic relationship, trying to support or fix someone else’s problems. Some people are more loyal and trapped in their story and identity of victimization more than they are open to experience healing, restoration, and peace.
You may find yourself saying “no” or distancing yourself from loved ones to protect your peace. This doesn’t mean you don’t care… however, it gives the other person space to develop their own problem solving muscles, faith, and healing.

You may feel a disconnect or exhausted from arguing, saving, or pretending you are not hurt.  Misery is contagious. We become drained when we take on assignments that God didn’t give us. Know your limits. Know when to say “no”.

Develop the courage to guard your heart. This helps you to avoid the lines in your relationship becoming blurred causing you to feel discomfort, invisible, unloved, anger, disrespected, resentment, and frustration.” By Jewel Diamond Taylor

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Learn about Women on the Grow

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Women on the Grow coaching sessions teaches; goal setting, self-care, pursuing your life purpose, emotional wellness, cognitive behavior awareness to heal from past trauma, stress, abuse, procrastination, fear, relationships and self-esteem issues.

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Women on the Grow GatHERing

 

San Antonio Winery (2)

Women on the Grow GatHERing
San Antonio Winery,737 Lamar St , Los Angeles, California

(food, networking, wine tasting, door prizes, awesome fellowship, connections, inspiration, etc.)

Saturday, February 16, 2019
12 noon
This is a fundraiser for Women on the Grow 501c3.

The fundraiser registration for the group is $20 per person.
Your lunch is separate at the restaurant. Enjoy creative Italian dishes (e.g.fresh kinds of pasta, grilled meats, gourmet salads & sandwiches.) Dine among redwood casks in a beautiful historical winery.  It is a buffet that ranges from $13 – $30 based on your choices.

Women on the Grow GatHERING

$20 per person February 16, 2019, 12 noon

$20.00

It is a buffet that ranges from $13 – $30 based on your choices.

The restaurant is allowing individual payment receipts.

Our color theme to wear is red and/or black.

winery

If you have any questions, please call 323.964.1736

Creative Ways to say “NO”

Do you feel guilty or stressed when you want to say “NO” to a request of your time, money, personal space, resources, etc.?
Below are various ways to master your boundaries and communicate “NO” to unreasonable, unexpected, unrealistic, or inconvenient requests of your time or money…
‘No’ as a complete sentence: “No, thank you” or “No, thank you. I won’t be able to.” (Say it, don’t apologize, then shut up.)
Vague but firm: “Thank you for asking me, but that is not going to work for me.”
Refer/Delegate: “I won’t be able to, but why don’t you ask Joe? I bet he’ll be able to.”
Last Minute Boundary: “I can’t add anything onto my calendar this month, but the next time you’re planning to go _____, let me know as soon as you can because I would love to go with you.”
It’s Not Personal: “Thank you for thinking of me, but I am not doing any interviews this quarter while I am focusing on starting my new project.”
Showing Gratitude: I’m so touched that you thought of me and I really appreciate your enthusiasm and support. I’m sorry I won’t be able to help out at this time.”
It’s Not Whether, But When: “I would like to, but I am unavailable until August. Could you ask me again closer to that time?” or “None of those dates work for me, but I would love to see you. Send me some more dates.”
Gracious:  “I truly appreciate your asking, but my time is already committed.”
Word of Mouth Is the Best Recommendation: “I won’t be able to, but let me recommend someone to you who would be able to help you.”
Someone Else Asked First/Family: “I already told my partner/therapist/coach/etc. that I would not be taking on more at this time. I am working to create a more balanced life.” or “That is the day of my son’s dance recital, and I never miss those.”
Know Thyself: “No. But here is what I can do….” (Then limit the commitment to what works for you.)
Time To Assess: “Let me think about it and I will get back to you.”
Give Others a Chance: “You know, I feel like the accounting department is always organizing the office fundraisers/parties. Let’s ask the Marketing Department to help this year.”
The Pressure Valve: Author Katrina Alcorn shares: “We need a ‘safety word’ for saying no – an easy way to tell people that we can’t/won’t do the thing they are requesting, but that it’s not personal. One convenient thing about authoring a book called Maxed Out is that now I can say ‘I’m maxed out’ and people who are familiar with the book know I’m asking them to respect that I’m taking care of myself, and that I also respect their need to take care of themselves.”
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