|Yes, my web site and brand of speaking teaches others to not give up. However, you and I can at times choose the wrong person or project to invest our energy in. Sometimes we ignore our intuition. Sometimes red flags are waving that it is time to escape, get out and get out without guilt. I believe there are times we should get out of a futile situation while we are ahead.
The word “futile” means… incapable of producing any result; ineffective; useless; not successful: unavailing, fruitless, frivolous, unimportant, dull, flat, fruitless, futile, lackluster, profitless, stale, uninspiring, unproductive, unrewarding, useless, in vain, at end of one’s rope, back to the wall, can’t win, dead duck, despairing, despondent, downcast, forlorn, goner, hard up, in the soup, in the toilet, inconsolable, irrecoverable, irremediable, irretrievable, no-chance, no-way, no-win, running out of time, sad, sunk, up against it, up the creek, useless.
Quitting when your situation is futile should not be confused with a “do not give up” message. Quitting while you are ahead should not be confused with the habit of giving up too soon. Wisdom will help you to know when it’s time to quit or stick with a person, project, pursuit, your plans or place of employment. Sometimes people don’t have enough sense, enough courage or enough faith to quit some one or some thing. So God will end it or “they” will end it for you. Getting laid off a job or a person ending a relationship because you couldn’t do it, is the only way the futile efforts will stop.
Don’t confuse persistence with insistence. There are some people and circumstances that you can not control. Wisdom comes as you learn to let go of projects, people or perplexing situations and give them to God. There are some relationships, pursuits, projects and places of employment that can cost you if you stay in it too long. Yes, you should persist with your goals and self-improvement. Yes, you should not be easily defeated or distracted.
The questions I pose to you now are… “Are you letting your pride, denial, low self-esteem, fear or lack of faith keep you in a fruitless, uninspiring and no-win situation? Will you persist on worthy pursuits and people? Do you have the courage to stop insisting and pushing as you keep running into walls or resistance? Can you discern when to know that your efforts and persistence will yield reward in the future? Can you discern when you have reached a limit, a dead end and your pride/ego won’t allow you to let go? During your times of insistence and frustration … remember the Serenity Prayer.
There is a time to quit and there are times you need to hear “Don’t give up.” Quit smoking, gossiping, wasting time and giving your body, money, power and peace of mind away to people and pursuits that only rob, destroy and drain you. Quit a project, job or relationship that is abusive or not lined up with your values and vision. Milk is good until it’s expiration date. Sometimes people stay way too long after the expiration date and everything becomes sour. Have you stayed too long or have you been distracted or unfocused causing you to give up too soon on worthy pursuits? Are your hopes, dreams, energy and time hanging on to something that is futile or can it bear fruit and reward in due season? ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor
Your words have power! As a man or woman thinketh…so is he(she). What you think about…you can bring about.
Your prescription of pearls of wisdom today from the Self-esteem Dr. is to read the “I AM Success Declaration” as least twice a day. In case of an emergency (doubt, fear or procrastination), I suggest you read it 3 times a day. The refills on this prescription are unlimited. Read more in my e-book Heal Your Mind and Your Behind Will Follow.
Click here to read the popular “I AM Success Declaration” which has taken the world by storm. It is my most popular download request from my web site. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr. www.DoNotGiveUp.net
When you fall into a pit of exhaustion, fear, desperation or worry … be careful not to fall into the trap of doing desperate, destructive, sinful and illegal things to get out of your situation.
When the flesh or faith are weak, one can be tempted to seek short cuts to get out of a stressful situation (i.e. lie, cheat, steal, sexual favors, make excuses or blame others).Don’t fall prey to the temptations…pray for strength, self-control, guidance, peace and courage to press on.
“Though I have fallen, I will rise. Though I sit in darkness,
The Lord will be my light. ~ Micah 7:8
I offer my e-book as a tool to assist you in digging your way out of a pit of depression, denial and discouragement. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor
“Without God, our week would be: Sinday, Mournday, Tearsday, Wasteday, Thirstday, Fightday and Shatterday.” (e-mail author unknown)
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She is teaching about the importance of mentoring. The lack of mentoring is on my list of the 10 Success Power Points to Work On.
If these 10 points are ignored, you will can never reach your full potential for success, health and purposeful living. I painfully paid the price of learning 10 major areas in our lives that require your attention, wisdom and growth. You can avoid losing my money, time and opportunities. I share these pearls of wisdom with you on my CD.
Let your words of success take flight.
Shout words of victory and power to encourage yourself.
Fill your atmosphere with words of strength, determination and hope.
God’s Word in Proverbs 18:21 tells us that life and death are in the power of the tongue. Words are carriers of meaning, emotion, faith, fear and energy.
A repetitive teaching from my parents still echoes in my mind… “It’s not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it.” And I remember, “Think twice before you speak. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”
And I heard as a child, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Now that statement is not true. Words do carry the potential to hurt, linger, humiliate, misdirect, anger, sadden or crush one’s spirit.
Remember words can heal or hurt…bless or stress…create or destroy…attract or repel…motivate or discourage…decrease or increase your opportunities … demean or develop a healthy self-image. As parents we are not perfect. We often carry our wounds from words and then unknowingly pass them onto our children. Once we forgive, heal and become aware of the impact of words, then we can break the generation cycle of low self-esteem and crushed spirits.
“The game of life is a game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy. ” by Florence Scovel Shinn “Your Word is Your Wand.”
Think twice before you release words of anger, jealousy, lies, gossip, criticism, fear, vulgarity, lack, excuses or defeat. Different words evoke different feelings.
Send out your words like arrows with great intention, power and focus.
Don’t underestimate the power of words to make or break you financially. Your words are boomerangs. If you constantly speak only about lack, you will experience more little and lack.
Be more and more aware of God’s abundance, love and infinite provision; you can never really feel a state of lack and stress if you remember the truth … “The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.” (Psalms 23:1)
What words are you speaking and releasing today?
What words have taken flight and will return because of the law of cause and effect? You possess what you confess. If you believe the Word of God, speak and release your words of faith and believe the promises for your provision. Read Mark 9:23
The definition of HOPE is to look forward to with desire and reasonable confidence…the feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best.
Hope is the feeling you have that the feeling you have isn’t permanent. ~ Jean Kerr
If you’ve destroyed a man’s hope, you’ve destroyed the man. ~ John du Plessis
There is no worse death than the end of hope.~ Pelagius
One who has health has hope, and one who has hope has everything. ~ Arabic Proverb
Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the LORD.~ Psalm 1:24
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up. ~ Anne Lamott
I have put my hope in your word. ~ Psalm 119:74
Hope dies last but is first to be resurrected from the ashes.~ Leonid S. Sukhorukov
Hope is the poor man’s bread. ~ George Herbet
Fear can hold you prisoner. Hope can set you free. ~ The Shawshank Redemption
Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible and achieves the impossible. ~ Charles Caleb Colton
If it were not for hopes, the heart would break. ~ Thomas Fuller
There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off. ~ Psalm 23:18
If you lose hope, somehow you lose the vitality that keeps life moving, you lose that courage to be, that quality that helps you go on in spite of it all. And so today I still have a dream. ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr
Our ancestors had hope for freedom. Our President Obama had the audacity to hope. Every time I’m at the end of my rope… I still have hope. ~ http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net
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A “serial quitter” is someone who looks for quick fixes, short cuts, drive-through spiritual fast food and all green lights on their road to success. They often are running in the wrong lane towards the wrong finish line. Sometimes their ladder of success is propped up against the wrong wall. Have you said “yes” to the right assignment/purpose for your life?
Once you become clear, determined, diligent, relentless and resilient… no thing and no one can stop you. Yes, they can discourage you, but you learn to overcome restlessness, impatience, pain and obstacles. Moments of uncertainty and impatience will come, but they subside.
Have you ever stood in line at the grocery store; the line was too long, you were in a hurry, someone ahead of you was taking too long. In your frustration, you kept changing lanes? You exhaled loudly and complained that the store needed more clerks. This is a test of your patience. On the way to your dream/goal/destiny/task, you will experience delays and discouragement. It’s a test!!!! Can you wait without reward? Can you endure waiting? Can you endure when God is silent in your valley? Can you enjoy the moment? Patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit. Patience comes from the Latin word “suffer.” Worship while you wait. Work while you wait. Give thanks while you wait. Prepare while you wait. When there is a delay, faith says, “STAY”!
Overcome a short attention span. Don’t quit, stick with your plan.
No longer start and stop. Procrastination is a thief. No more excuses. Instead of venting your complaints or getting bent out of shape with impatience, be diligent. Get up and keep the main thing…the MAIN THING!
My word of encouragement for you today is to stay in your lane. Stay on track. Laziness, procrastination, lack of confidence and lack of self-control are the enemies to your success. Be diligent in your faith and actions. You probably have my book “Shift Happens”. Remember to read often. Repetition is important for transforming of your mind to think and bounce back in positive ways.
“The soul of the diligent shall be made full (blessed by the Lord and made to prosper.) ~ Proverbs 13:4
After a long season of loss, betrayal, bitterness, abuse, divorce or loneliness one’s heart can become either too hard or too fragile, too closed or too open.
I find in my travels, speaking and counseling that far too many women suffer extreme heart issues. The emotional pendulum swings from one end of extreme hardness or being extremely needy, desperate and naive. There are those extremely independent (“I don’t need any one)…all the way to the other extreme mindset of being too dependent. If you are afraid of being alone or think a relationship validates you and makes you whole, you could have a relationship addiction. Unfortunately I see this all too often.
When your self-esteem is healthy, the emotional pendulum swings in the middle because of healing, balance, prayer and self-awareness. Open your eyes and see your real worth and beauty in the mirror. Get balance in your life. Seek advice help from the wise women in your life. Pour all that misguided and untapped passion into your goals, purpose and dreams. Begin to transform your thinking to believe you can take care of yourself. If you think a man can save you, you are setting yourself up for an unhappy, abusive and dominating relationship. You can do good all by yourself until the Lord sends the right one baby!
When you both bring something to the table, your chances for harmony, respect, love and common goals are increased. But if you get into a relationship feeling empty and expect some one to fill your cup, you are giving away all of your power, value and self-worth.
I write in my book, “Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain With You” that the scent of a woman is powerful. Dogs can smell desperation, neediness, immaturity and weakness. A woman with self-esteem has the aroma of confidence, faith and self-worth.
When your heart is smart you can avoid the pitfalls, problems and pain of living in a chaotic, drama filled, sitting by phone, life on hold and stressful world.
You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life,” you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Don’t allow other people to control, manipulate or validate your existence. Value your dreams, body, goals, time and peace of mind. If you don’t… no one else will. Learn how to discern between lust, like and love. Learn how to love smart. Don’t allow your heart to be attacked by abusers and losers.
As you heal your heart of illusions, grudges, fantasies, desperation and bitterness, your opportunities increase to have a righteous relationship.
As the Self-esteem Dr. I have performed many heart makeovers and CPR to help women breathe again.
Read Proverb 23:7 and remember that as a man(woman) thinketh, so is he(she). This powerful teaching reminds us that right thinking begins with the words we say to ourselves. If you think in your heart that you are not worthy…not pretty…not loving…not blessed…not qualified…then you will have more that in your life. Begin to speak and think in your heart that you are qualified, beautiful, divine, blessed, grateful, anointed and loved. Wear the sweet aroma of self-esteem, confidence and a daughter of the Most High God. “Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” – Proverbs 4: 23
by Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr., Author, Conference Speaker, Women’s Retreat Leader, Life Coach, Founder of Women on the Grow
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