Wake Up! Pain is your friend

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“Believe it or not, pain can be a great motivator!

Pain is the brain’s way of telling you to CHANGE something. It could be as simple as lifting your hand off the hot stove, a constant headache or being in an abusive or unfulfilling relationship. Both physical and emotional pain are signals to wake you up to change your behavior. Pain can be your friend to alert you to something that is not in alignment.

I had painful headaches all the time and didn’t want to accept the fact that I might have to take medication and stop eating French fries, bacon and cheetos.  I had stress and sleepless nights.  I ignored the wake up calls. I hit my “emotional snooze button” even though I was having excruciating headaches. Eventually I got sick and tired of being sick and tired from sleepless nights. My headaches and possibility of a stroke were my wake up call. I decided to start dealing with stress in more positive ways and reduce my salt intake. I went to the doctor and finally decided to confront this issue and starting taking low doses of medication which stopped my headaches.  I started exercising.  I was stubborn. I was procrastinating. Are you in denial about any habits that are stealing your sleep, health, confidence, joy, peace of mind and success?

If life is painful in any area of your life, do not numb yourself. Shifts and changes could be your wake up call to do something different. It could be your wake up call to wake up from denial, procrastination and paralysis of analysis.
If a relationship or job is changing…if your life is experiencing sudden shifts…if your weight is increasing and your energy is decreasing…if your body is in pain…if you are experiencing trust issues in your relationship… if you keep losing things, forgetting things and have accidents… if trouble and drama seems to constantly show up in your life… if people continually take advantage of you…if you keep missing opportunities…if you are losing money, sleep, relationships and your peace of mind…WAKE UP…GET UP and don’t go back to sleep. Don’t hit the snooze button. Life is shaking beneath your feet to get you to walk by faith and do something new.”
excerpt from “SHIFT HAPPENS” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

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Dealing with Emotional Pain

“How do you metabolize the pain and difficult passages in your life?  Inner peace and maturing in our faith happens when we learn how to be reasonably comfortable with the uncontrollable.  Our culture teaches us to run from failure and sorrow instead of teaching us how to embrace and endure the adversity and loss.

Entering into the space of grief and loss teaches us that there is a legitimate place for sorrow as well as gratitude and hope.

We think we can avoid pain and be protected by our good deeds, pedigree, religious standing, accomplishments, acquisitions and masks.  Christians become saved and believe they are immune from problems. None of us can escape our appointed time of loss, disappointment, grief and emotional pain.  Pain, loss and sorrow are the admission price we pay for the privilege of living.

What discomfort are you avoiding?
Are you willing to confront your fears? Are you learning to cope, adapt, heal, let go and surrender?
Are you resisting loss, change and pain?
Are you making permanent decisions about temporary situations?
Are you isolating to avoid feeling ashamed, embarrassed, vulnerable or feeling insecure?
Do you think acknowledging your pain makes you weak?
Are you wearing a mask to survive and fit in?
Are you afraid people will judge you?
Have you lost confidence in yourself and faith in God?
Are you willing to break open your heart and allow the pain, fears and uncertainties flow out?
Are you willing to connect with others and have the courage to tell your story and speak up? What is your pain trying to tell you?

I’m becoming friends with pain so I don’t become hostage to the pain. I’m learning to let it pass through me like a visitor but not a resident that can move in and stay. The more courage I have to see and accept the pain…the less power is has to control and defeat me.”

~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, www. DoNotGiveUp.net

I was born for this

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Jewel Diamond Taylor

jewel baby picture     “I was born in the Walter Reed Army Hospital in Washington D. C.  After completing his duty in the U. S. Army, my father, Robert Lewis, became a gemologist and a jewelry store owner.   

   After he passed away I began to read his books and became very curious about gem stones.  There’s a machine called the “Rock Tumbler”.   It tumbles dirty, rough and dull rocks in water. It’s very noisy as the rocks start to spin, fly, and crash into each other as they rumble around in the water. After all the tumbling and rubbing up against each other, the rocks that were once rough and dull come out shining and polished.  They are transformed. 

    Whatever pressure, tumbling, polishing or storm you are going through in life it is a process called transformation.  Some might feel they are being punished when really God is polishing and perfecting you for a higher purpose.  It never feels good or feels fair.  In our lives we crash, tumble and rub up against other.  Some people polish us up and some crush us.

    I have heard testimonies, questions, and stories of pain and success from women from all walks of life.  I have seen women so wounded that they can’t see beyond their past.  I have seen resilient women overcome cancer, divorce, abuse, poverty, unemployment, loneliness, promiscuity, ridicule, racism, sexism, single parenting, betrayal, addictions, procrastination, depression, homeless, anxiety disorders, anger, rape, incest, prison, low self-esteem/worth, grief and shame.  I have seen women grow and take leaps of faith.  I have seen women walk out of fear and right into their purpose.  I have seen women sit on their assets and some women blossom and grow into entrepreneurship.  My clothes have been soaked with tears and my ears have heard untold secrets of shame, hurt, dysfunctional families, depression and drama.  I was born for this!  I was born to co-labor with my sisters on their path of discovery, healing, peace and restoration.  I was born for this.  I know that a lot of my sisters are so heavily burden with just surviving, that they don’t have a smile.  They don’t have time or know how to enjoy the benefits of sisterhood, serenity, or self-care.   I gladly accept the assignment to be a guidepost towards the path of emotional wellness, joy, sanity, peace, sisterhood, purpose, coping skills, self-care, faith, healing and trusting again.  I was born for this!   I have seen women beat incredible odds and some who complain, whine and easily give up.  Some choose to grow and some choose being a a victim.  Some women think they will shock with their stories and some choose to live as silent sufferers.  No story can scare me or cause me to judge you.

    If you are trying to build your business or ministry, write a book, lose weight, become debt free, finish college, find a job, improve or heal relationships, let go of the past or break an addiction…surrender to the PROCESS to get to your PROMISE. Your step by step actions, perseverance, faith and discipline will make the difference. You may get tired, but stay inspired. Anything is possible with faith and action. There are no short cuts. The “PROCESS” is the price of admission to walk through the doors of success.”

        The journey of a diamond is a long and complex process.  Diamonds are formed under extreme temperatures and pressure.  The diamond industry uses “fire polish” to bring sparkle and create a fiery diamond that unleashes the quality, color, beauty and light within.  There is a big difference seen once a diamond is polished with fire…it becomes a blazing gem after being recut!  Once a diamond has been recut and polished by fire, it flashes with color and light.  Are you ready to be in a room full of empowerment, information and women sharing their stories, wisdom, experiences and FIRE?

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     As an activist, messenger of God’s love, an author, sister, wife, mother,  grandmother, intuitive life coach/counselor, leader and influencer in the movement for women’s life enrichment, I have a keen sense of vision and sensitivity to the issues women face today.  I am honored to “fire polish” the attendees who attend my classes, conferences, retreats and coaching sessions. I have been privileged to help shape and polish women for their purpose, destiny, dreams and well-being.    I love to leave a little sparkle of encouragement, love, faith and empowerment wherever I go.” ~ The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor aka “The Encouragement Whisperer”

      

Coping with Stress and Pressure

“When you are feeling under the pressure of life, be careful not to lose your way, your faith or your identity.  When I see the word “pressure”… I see two (2) words, PRESS and SURE.

The heavy weight of maintaining your family, business, ministry, job, studies, finances and meeting deadliness can PRESS down on you so hard that you can begin to question God and yourself.  You could begin to ask, “Are you sure God I’m supposed to be doing this? Are you sure I am anointed, blessed, talented, covered, called and destined to do this?  The phone isn’t ringing. The sales are slow. My progress is slow.  I feel stuck.  No one seems interested in keeping the family, the team, business or ministry together. You may begin to question yourself under the pressure and ask yourself, “Am I sure I can do this?  Am I sure God will show up?  Am I sure things will work out?  Am I sure I am qualified and ready? I’m not sure I can cope and handle this difficult situation.

When you are confused and discouraged because of the pressures in your life you could begin to give up.  You could easily give up your calling or decide to change your direction and do something different because your identity in God has been stolen.

These questions under pressure can cause you to experience Identity Theft.  External and internal voices, feelings and situations can cause you to lose your confidence and trust in God and trust in yourself.

   The term “identity theft” comes from the escalating criminal acts of finances, identification and credit being stolen. Those who fight against identity theft and arrest the criminals, warn people to do three (3) things to avoid identity theft.

I think the three steps can also be applied to protecting your spiritual identity. 1) DETER – minimize risk and safeguard important information and documents.

2) DETECT suspicious activity by routinely monitoring your financial accounts and billing statements.  3) DEFEND your identity and alert creditors to follow certain procedures before they open new accounts in your name or make changes to your existing accounts.

Everyone needs to realize they are vulnerable to financial and spiritual identity theft.  Thieves are cunning.  They study your habits and routine.  They look for easy access to your information.  The enemy knows when you are feeling down, discouraged, hopeless and dePRESSed.  The enemy knows when you are vulnerable.

When it comes to proactive steps to protect your spiritual identity 1) DETER – minimize risk by protecting your heart and who you share your time, dreams, goals and conversations with.  2) DETECT suspicious activity by monitoring on a regular basis your relationships, what you say, how you feel and what you believe. Check your spirit to avoid depression, pity parties, sabotaging behavior like shame, guilt and procrastination.  3) DEFEND yourself.  Block the enemy from stealing your joy and purpose.  Before you slip into darkness and want to give up, remind yourself who you really are in God.  Speak your declarations and affirmations.  Proclaim again that you are worthy, qualified, blessed and resilient. Go for it.  Stick with it.  Don’t let internal or external enemies discourage you with doubt. Defending your dreams and goals is like hiding a priceless jewels so potential robbers won’t find them and steal them. Defend your purpose and those dreams and goals which are precious to you.  Defend and protect your identity in the Lord.  You are who God says you are. Encourage yourself and defend your worthiness, talents, dreams, purpose and faith in God.  Read Psalm 139:17-18 and remember how precious you are to God.

1 Peter 3:15 says, “Always  be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor

Jewel’s book “Thank You Lord I Don’t Look Like What I Have Been Through”

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EXCERPT FROM THE BOOK

Helplessly watching my son fade away in pain from cancer so quickly, I know we were all in a battle to save his life. We were stressed, weary, in shock, sad and felt helpless and disoriented. These are the same symptoms that describe what military soldiers feel when they return home from battle, especially when the events felt unpredictable and uncontrollable. Their anxiety is called Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  I don’t look like what I have been through.  Because of God’s grace I have “post-traumatic strength.”

The amazing gift of grace that I have experienced and want to share with you is that…even though I went through the most stressful and painful battle in my life (my son dying from cancer), I have not experienced post-traumatic stress. God has given me post-traumatic strength! I am resilient. I’ve been able to remain productive through my tears. Yes, there are overwhelming moments of feeling empty, nauseous, sad or bewildered… but I’m still standing. My faith was not robbed. I realized that the Lord can be with us where family and friends cannot. When you have grown in God’s grace through a spiritual battle you receive the gift of spiritual transformation. You begin to realize bad things do happen to good people. We will suffer in life. Strength comes from realizing you don’t have to suffer from your suffering. My spiritual transformation and feeling raw in my vulnerability revealed some insights which gave me strength instead of stress.

Through the bitter and sweet, the joy and pain, the bad and the good… we must learn how to ACTIVATE our faith in and out of season. We must learn how to MOTIVATE ourselves so the enemy does not overtake our gratitude, joy, health, peace, faith, hope, praise and trust in God. We must learn how CELEBRATE each day with thanksgiving, love, service to mankind and forgiveness. ”
Each time that I’ve been stretched to grow beyond my comfort zone, God was there. Each time I was stretched; I tapped into my power of creative problem solving, my flexibility, my sense of humor, my intelligence, my ability to let go, my inner strength and yes, stretched to give, be and do more than I ever knew was possible. I don’t look like what I have been through. And you don’t have to look like the abuse, dysfunction, grief, stress, sickness, struggle or heartache you have been through.

Life circumstances may be pressing you right now. Are you going to allow your challenges to stop you, stress you, strengthen you or stretch you?

Life circumstances may be pressing you right now. Are you going to allow your challenges to stop you, stress you, strengthen you or stretch you?
Miracles happen every day. Don’t let the spirit of defeat, depression and disappointment rob you of the wonder, blessings, favor, love and supernatural breakthroughs God can bring. God has given us the divine power to demolish strongholds. He is Baal-Perazim. He is the God of Breakthroughs. He wants to see us free. He wants to see us victorious, but we have to “grow” through the process.

I have been a Life Coach to hundreds of women over the years. I have heard painful stories of dysfunction, divorce, debt, disappointments and dreams deferred. Some of their stories sounded like mine. So many women, including myself, became burned out and had to WAKE UP to sadly realize we have been; asleep… living on auto-pilot… sleep walking through love-less marriages… struggling with child-rearing… grieving the loss of a parent child or friend… being silent suffers never speaking up… settling for a part-time relationship… tolerating selfish friends/relatives… walking on eggshells people-pleasing and just getting by hoping our man would change, our job would get better or our lives would just magically get better. Waking up and recovering from an emotional hangover is bitter and sweet. You can feel shocked and ashamed. But you also will feel free and finally exhale. You begin to breathe new oxygen. You begin to create a new normal for yourself.

Surfers Teaching Life Lessons

 “Lord speak to my heart. Tranquilize my soul. Let your balm heal my grief. I inhale your peace and exhale my stress. Renew my mind. Wash away my fears and tears. I want to learn the secret of the surfers who balance themselves and ride out the high waves. Instead of fighting the unavoidable strength and immensity of the ocean, through practice, resiliency and determination they learn to stand and balance themselves. Let me feel your rhythm Holy Spirit and experience the mystery and beauty of your creation.” ~ I AM a “Life Surfer” Jewel Diamond Taylor
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I have never surfed in my life. But when I see the surfers waiting patiently for the right wave, I learn about patience. When I see them crash and get back on the board again, time after time, I learn about resiliency and perseverance. When I see them learn how to balance the huge waves, I am reminded to be strong. When I see them fluid and not resisting the strength of the waves, I’m reminded that I am not in control. Resisting what is happening is foolish. The master surfers don’t fight and resist the giant waves. The waves can be dangerous, scary, unpredictable, beautiful and deadly. It takes courage to ride a wave. They learn how waves work, where to look, where to sit on their board, how to position themselves, and sense when they should move in because the tide is changing. They don’t fight the force of nature. The big waves of life can destroy and swallow you or you can learn to ride the waves. Surfers don’t suffer from the illusion of control. They learn to relax and ride out the wave.
The ocean can be calm, rough, immense, scary, chaotic and beautiful. There is another whole world beneath. The world is covered with more ocean than land. I am continually intrigued and attracted to the message of the ocean and it’s surfers. I feel calm and renewed when I see the ocean.
I AM a “life surfer.” I am learning to ride out the tough times. I am learning to work on more balance. My courage is getting stronger to face the “waves” (e.g. loss, hurt, disappointment, grief, setbacks and frustration). I am not in control when the waves come. However, I am learning how to sit on my board and position myself to ride out the wave. I will stand even when it feels unsure, awkward and scary. I will plant my feet firmly in my faith and life purpose. I am patient and watch for the right wave (opportunity) to carry me to my destination. I will go out to the shore and see the beauty of life. I will breathe in God’s peace.

How to Get Relief from Emotional Pain

numbing“We don’t like to feel pain. That is why pain killers, alcoholism, drug abuse, excessive eating, excessive spending, excessive busyness or isolation ruins a lot of lives. Numbing the pain doesn’t make it go away. Attempts to numb any pain is a temporary escape and band aid. People in emotional pain from loss, trauma, or loneliness can become reckless in their life choices by choosing or staying in toxic relationships, neglecting important things like paying their bills, showing up for work, neglecting their health or neglecting their family. Some people cope with their pain with denial, becoming armored, and building walls instead of bridges to connect with others. Pain is a signal that something needs our attention…something needs to be changed …something needs to be healed … something needs to be confronted or accepted.

smoke alarmPain is like a smoke alarm. If you take out the batteries because you don’t like the noise, or you never put in new batteries, your house could burn down. Don’t let your life be destroyed into ashes because you are ignoring the pain you feel in your heart, body, relationships, finances or job situation. If there is smoke, there is a fire starting. Put out the fire with action, courage and faith. Pay attention to the “alarm signals” or you will pay a heavy price.” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

Interviewer: Why do you think women seek life coaching/counseling?

Jewel: I have discovered most of the women I coach/counsel have issues with their relationships, loneliness, feeling battle weary from their job, feeling isolated, experiencing too much stress/demands or too little time, money, love, support or sense of purpose.
Many of my counseling/coaching mentees are inspired to; stop procrastinating, find their voice to make key decisions, amp up their actions and confidence, deepen their faith and focus more on the real priorities that can change their lives in a positive way. They are renewed to have hope again to believe their future holds promise and possibilities.

Interviewer: Do you believe your style of mentoring/coaching/counseling supersedes the power of prayer?

Jewel: Absolutely not. What I offer only supplements and strengthens one’s personal development and spiritual faith. I believe one’s personal and spiritual strength are interwoven. It is very evident to me that the popularity of social media like Facebook and Instagram proves that people crave to be seen, heard, successful, celebrated, connected and significant. My coaching/counseling, books and my signature events gives women an opportunity to be seen, heard, understood, validated and challenged to GROW beyond their comfort zone, shame, fears and sabotaging behavior.

Interviewer: How long have you been offering your life coaching and counseling for women? Do you only coach women?

Jewel: I’m glad the popularity of life coaching has reduced the negative stigma of people seeking support and mentoring.  Long before “life coach” was even heard of and became mainstream in our culture and on TV, I was mentoring and counseling women by phone, in my retreats and my women’s life enrichment gatherings (e.g. The Enlightened Circle and now my Women on the Grow Organization). I started in 1986. Because I share my mistakes, pain, successes, stories, wisdom and experiences as a; wife, mother, sibling, author, ordained minister, self-employed speaker, life coach, columnist, media personality, author and someone who has learned to cope with the loss of both parents and my son from cancer… I believe my life journey allows me to be more relevant in connecting with women’s issues and needs. I have discovered that when a person has no hope, encouragement, faith or vision…they are more likely to return to their past unhealthy and destructive patterns of coping and living.

Interviewer: What are you planning in the near future to engage and empower women to be stronger and encouraged?

Jewel: I am known as the Self-esteem Dr. so I will be offering my “Open Heart Surgery” Relationships Clinic Saturday, July 11 in Los Angeles. I will be teaching from my book “Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain with You.” In August I will continue with my “Diamond Lane Mentoring Class for Women” in the Los Angeles area. Every October I host a women’s retreat getaway. This year it will be in Northern Las Vegas.

Interviewer: Do you only speak in California?

Jewel: Oh no!!! Over the years I have been invited to speak all over the United States, London, Jamaica, Brazil, the Bahamas, Cancun, the Virgin Islands, St. Kitts and Turks and Caicos Islands. I’m ready to travel and bring the inspiration and encouragement around the globe. Below are the states where I have been a guest speaker over the years. My goal next is to speak and/or host a women’s retreat in Hawaii. I’m seeking any contacts in Hawaii to make that happen.
Contact me by email – Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net

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Persevere through the hard times

      Millions of people suffer from depression (e.g. sadness, hopeless, fatigue and loss of interest). Depression is an illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts. It interferes with daily life, normal functioning, and causes pain for both the person with the disorder and those who care about him/her.    For some this dis-ease is treatable.  Click this link to learn about the many types of depression.
      For some people depression is short term …a temporary blue mood.  Medical and mental health support is not in my wheelhouse.  I can offer emotional and spiritual support for those not suffering from chronic disorders of depression.  
      If you have short lived episodes of anxiety feeling sad and overwhelmed, I render these thoughts below for emotional and spiritual wellness with my Depression Poster below.

Sometimes you may feel that neither faith, joy or hope can find you.  You may be in a place of dryness, uncertainty and stagnation. You may stare at your low “joy ceiling”, pace the floor, sleep all day, eat compulsively or not eat at all.  You may isolate and want to give up because you ache for a divine and loving relationship, peace in your family, better finances, a home, increase in your business/ministry, help for your child, spouse of parent.  You may just want to be left alone or you may be yearning for connections and companionship. Maybe you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.

    If you find that all hope is gone, I pray you breathe in hope and remember the moments of sunshine and sweetness to heal your wounds and get through your difficult times.  I pray that you will not be weary in your well doing and live with hope, gratitude and resiliency.  I pray, that just like a flower is determined to bloom no matter the circumstances, that you will also bloom in spite of the brokenness in your life.
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     The flower in this picture went through dirt and broken concrete seeking the sunlight. Whatever you are going through, I pray that you “grow” through it so you can see better days.  I believe with every fiber of being that you can make it!  You are stronger than you realize.  Be resilient and push through your “dirt and broken concrete”.  Push through to see the light of your possibilities.  Push through today.  Push through believing that God is with you in the joy and pain…sunshine and rain.”  ~  by Jewel Diamond Taylor, author of “I Am Resilient, www.DoNotGiveUp.net/IAMResilient  To contact Jewel call 323.964.1736 or email – Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net
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Enjoy this upbeat song “Don’t give up”

You Cannot Change People

paint people change     “It’s our ego, fears, values, personality and desires that cause us to want to change people.  Because we can’t change people and make them think, live, love, give or behave the way we desire…it can become a big source of your stress.
When you spiritually and emotionally mature, inner peace happens because your expectations or demands from your spouse, family, friends or groups, church, or job diminishes. Maturity teaches you not to take offense or praise too seriously.
People cannot give you what they usually CANNOT give, DON’T KNOW HOW to give or DON’T WANT to give. Unrealistic expectations and assumptions are a setup for resentment, anger and a reactionary mindset 
Pain, loss and suffering invites you to learn that you cannot control, explain, fix, change or understand all things and all people. You can pray for your children, parents, friends your “ex” or your boss, but you can’t change them.  You lead by example, but you can’t change them.  You can accept them or draw boundaries, but you can’t change them.
     We get frustrated with other people, because they don’t act the way we want them to act. Maybe it’s our kids, our spouse, in-laws, our coworker or boss, maybe it’s our mom or best friend. But we have to realize that they are acting according to their personality, according to what they feel is right, and they are not going to do what we want all of the time. Peace and maturity comes from accepting that we can’t control or change people. It’s not easy, but we can learn to communicate and adapt.  Yes, it takes practice, especially when they are family or people you work with daily.  Here are 7 things to think about…

1.  Sometimes people don’t change.  Their mask just falls off.
2.  You can’t change people.  You can lead them with guidance, love and example.
3.  Consider how hard it is for you to change and you’ll soon realize how exhausting it is to try to
change others.
4.  Everyone wants the gift of acceptance.
5.  Change is always met with resistance.
6.  You cannot change the people in your life. But you can change the kind of people you choose to
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7.  Learn to have boundaries for the people who create drama, chaos, pain or conflict with your values, goals, personality and lifestyle.”

Jewel Diamond Taylor, Conference motivational speaker, life coach, emotional wellness educator, author and Founder of Women on the Grow…read more on her popular web sites http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net and http://www.JewelDiamondTaylor.com

Don’t Give Up

You may feel your life is blessed …but in a mess.  You may feel your car is a lemon; your body image is ugly, your heart is broken and lonely, your life is on hold, your bank account is low, your faith is stretched to the limit, your job is stressful and your life won’t get any better than this.

Miracles happen every day.  Don’t let the spirit of defeat, depression and disappointment rob you of the wonder, blessings, favor, love and supernatural breakthroughs God can bring.   Say “yes” to miracles, hope and God’s gifts of peace and provision.   Proclaim and announce to the enemy within and without that something great is about to happen.  (Request a free copy of Jewel’s e-book “Something Great is About to Happen” – send request to Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net)

Nothing you have done has been a waste of time.  Whatever you are going through, let it grow you.  Everything you have been through is a stepping stone to your next level.  Don’t let boredom, depression, fear or procrastination steal your joy or success.  Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.  Whatever you are going through, you can make it.  Do not put yourself down.   Do not count yourself out the game.  Do not dump your anger on others or play the blame game.   Do not shut down, withdraw and isolate yourself.  Help is on the way.   Cancel the pity party.  Get up!   Shake of the stress, doubt and worry.  Focus on solutions.  Pray for discernment, courage and wisdom.  Analyze your options.  Make a decision.  Take action and move forward one step at a time.  You will have a great testimony of your faith, endurance and creative problem solving skills.   You will come through this stronger and wiser.

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