Wake Up! Pain is your friend

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“Believe it or not, pain can be a great motivator!

Pain is the brain’s way of telling you to CHANGE something. It could be as simple as lifting your hand off the hot stove, a constant headache or being in an abusive or unfulfilling relationship. Both physical and emotional pain are signals to wake you up to change your behavior. Pain can be your friend to alert you to something that is not in alignment.

I had painful headaches all the time and didn’t want to accept the fact that I might have to take medication and stop eating French fries, bacon and cheetos.  I had stress and sleepless nights.  I ignored the wake up calls. I hit my “emotional snooze button” even though I was having excruciating headaches. Eventually I got sick and tired of being sick and tired from sleepless nights. My headaches and possibility of a stroke were my wake up call. I decided to start dealing with stress in more positive ways and reduce my salt intake. I went to the doctor and finally decided to confront this issue and starting taking low doses of medication which stopped my headaches.  I started exercising.  I was stubborn. I was procrastinating. Are you in denial about any habits that are stealing your sleep, health, confidence, joy, peace of mind and success?

If life is painful in any area of your life, do not numb yourself. Shifts and changes could be your wake up call to do something different. It could be your wake up call to wake up from denial, procrastination and paralysis of analysis.
If a relationship or job is changing…if your life is experiencing sudden shifts…if your weight is increasing and your energy is decreasing…if your body is in pain…if you are experiencing trust issues in your relationship… if you keep losing things, forgetting things and have accidents… if trouble and drama seems to constantly show up in your life… if people continually take advantage of you…if you keep missing opportunities…if you are losing money, sleep, relationships and your peace of mind…WAKE UP…GET UP and don’t go back to sleep. Don’t hit the snooze button. Life is shaking beneath your feet to get you to walk by faith and do something new.”
excerpt from “SHIFT HAPPENS” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

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Coping with Stress and Pressure

“When you are feeling under the pressure of life, be careful not to lose your way, your faith or your identity.  When I see the word “pressure”… I see two (2) words, PRESS and SURE.

The heavy weight of maintaining your family, business, ministry, job, studies, finances and meeting deadliness can PRESS down on you so hard that you can begin to question God and yourself.  You could begin to ask, “Are you sure God I’m supposed to be doing this? Are you sure I am anointed, blessed, talented, covered, called and destined to do this?  The phone isn’t ringing. The sales are slow. My progress is slow.  I feel stuck.  No one seems interested in keeping the family, the team, business or ministry together. You may begin to question yourself under the pressure and ask yourself, “Am I sure I can do this?  Am I sure God will show up?  Am I sure things will work out?  Am I sure I am qualified and ready? I’m not sure I can cope and handle this difficult situation.

When you are confused and discouraged because of the pressures in your life you could begin to give up.  You could easily give up your calling or decide to change your direction and do something different because your identity in God has been stolen.

These questions under pressure can cause you to experience Identity Theft.  External and internal voices, feelings and situations can cause you to lose your confidence and trust in God and trust in yourself.

   The term “identity theft” comes from the escalating criminal acts of finances, identification and credit being stolen. Those who fight against identity theft and arrest the criminals, warn people to do three (3) things to avoid identity theft.

I think the three steps can also be applied to protecting your spiritual identity. 1) DETER – minimize risk and safeguard important information and documents.

2) DETECT suspicious activity by routinely monitoring your financial accounts and billing statements.  3) DEFEND your identity and alert creditors to follow certain procedures before they open new accounts in your name or make changes to your existing accounts.

Everyone needs to realize they are vulnerable to financial and spiritual identity theft.  Thieves are cunning.  They study your habits and routine.  They look for easy access to your information.  The enemy knows when you are feeling down, discouraged, hopeless and dePRESSed.  The enemy knows when you are vulnerable.

When it comes to proactive steps to protect your spiritual identity 1) DETER – minimize risk by protecting your heart and who you share your time, dreams, goals and conversations with.  2) DETECT suspicious activity by monitoring on a regular basis your relationships, what you say, how you feel and what you believe. Check your spirit to avoid depression, pity parties, sabotaging behavior like shame, guilt and procrastination.  3) DEFEND yourself.  Block the enemy from stealing your joy and purpose.  Before you slip into darkness and want to give up, remind yourself who you really are in God.  Speak your declarations and affirmations.  Proclaim again that you are worthy, qualified, blessed and resilient. Go for it.  Stick with it.  Don’t let internal or external enemies discourage you with doubt. Defending your dreams and goals is like hiding a priceless jewels so potential robbers won’t find them and steal them. Defend your purpose and those dreams and goals which are precious to you.  Defend and protect your identity in the Lord.  You are who God says you are. Encourage yourself and defend your worthiness, talents, dreams, purpose and faith in God.  Read Psalm 139:17-18 and remember how precious you are to God.

1 Peter 3:15 says, “Always  be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor

Jewel’s book “Thank You Lord I Don’t Look Like What I Have Been Through”

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EXCERPT FROM THE BOOK

Helplessly watching my son fade away in pain from cancer so quickly, I know we were all in a battle to save his life. We were stressed, weary, in shock, sad and felt helpless and disoriented. These are the same symptoms that describe what military soldiers feel when they return home from battle, especially when the events felt unpredictable and uncontrollable. Their anxiety is called Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  I don’t look like what I have been through.  Because of God’s grace I have “post-traumatic strength.”

The amazing gift of grace that I have experienced and want to share with you is that…even though I went through the most stressful and painful battle in my life (my son dying from cancer), I have not experienced post-traumatic stress. God has given me post-traumatic strength! I am resilient. I’ve been able to remain productive through my tears. Yes, there are overwhelming moments of feeling empty, nauseous, sad or bewildered… but I’m still standing. My faith was not robbed. I realized that the Lord can be with us where family and friends cannot. When you have grown in God’s grace through a spiritual battle you receive the gift of spiritual transformation. You begin to realize bad things do happen to good people. We will suffer in life. Strength comes from realizing you don’t have to suffer from your suffering. My spiritual transformation and feeling raw in my vulnerability revealed some insights which gave me strength instead of stress.

Through the bitter and sweet, the joy and pain, the bad and the good… we must learn how to ACTIVATE our faith in and out of season. We must learn how to MOTIVATE ourselves so the enemy does not overtake our gratitude, joy, health, peace, faith, hope, praise and trust in God. We must learn how CELEBRATE each day with thanksgiving, love, service to mankind and forgiveness. ”
Each time that I’ve been stretched to grow beyond my comfort zone, God was there. Each time I was stretched; I tapped into my power of creative problem solving, my flexibility, my sense of humor, my intelligence, my ability to let go, my inner strength and yes, stretched to give, be and do more than I ever knew was possible. I don’t look like what I have been through. And you don’t have to look like the abuse, dysfunction, grief, stress, sickness, struggle or heartache you have been through.

Life circumstances may be pressing you right now. Are you going to allow your challenges to stop you, stress you, strengthen you or stretch you?

Life circumstances may be pressing you right now. Are you going to allow your challenges to stop you, stress you, strengthen you or stretch you?
Miracles happen every day. Don’t let the spirit of defeat, depression and disappointment rob you of the wonder, blessings, favor, love and supernatural breakthroughs God can bring. God has given us the divine power to demolish strongholds. He is Baal-Perazim. He is the God of Breakthroughs. He wants to see us free. He wants to see us victorious, but we have to “grow” through the process.

I have been a Life Coach to hundreds of women over the years. I have heard painful stories of dysfunction, divorce, debt, disappointments and dreams deferred. Some of their stories sounded like mine. So many women, including myself, became burned out and had to WAKE UP to sadly realize we have been; asleep… living on auto-pilot… sleep walking through love-less marriages… struggling with child-rearing… grieving the loss of a parent child or friend… being silent suffers never speaking up… settling for a part-time relationship… tolerating selfish friends/relatives… walking on eggshells people-pleasing and just getting by hoping our man would change, our job would get better or our lives would just magically get better. Waking up and recovering from an emotional hangover is bitter and sweet. You can feel shocked and ashamed. But you also will feel free and finally exhale. You begin to breathe new oxygen. You begin to create a new normal for yourself.

Persevere through the hard times

      Millions of people suffer from depression (e.g. sadness, hopeless, fatigue and loss of interest). Depression is an illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts. It interferes with daily life, normal functioning, and causes pain for both the person with the disorder and those who care about him/her.    For some this dis-ease is treatable.  Click this link to learn about the many types of depression.
      For some people depression is short term …a temporary blue mood.  Medical and mental health support is not in my wheelhouse.  I can offer emotional and spiritual support for those not suffering from chronic disorders of depression.  
      If you have short lived episodes of anxiety feeling sad and overwhelmed, I render these thoughts below for emotional and spiritual wellness with my Depression Poster below.

Sometimes you may feel that neither faith, joy or hope can find you.  You may be in a place of dryness, uncertainty and stagnation. You may stare at your low “joy ceiling”, pace the floor, sleep all day, eat compulsively or not eat at all.  You may isolate and want to give up because you ache for a divine and loving relationship, peace in your family, better finances, a home, increase in your business/ministry, help for your child, spouse of parent.  You may just want to be left alone or you may be yearning for connections and companionship. Maybe you are sick and tired of being sick and tired.

    If you find that all hope is gone, I pray you breathe in hope and remember the moments of sunshine and sweetness to heal your wounds and get through your difficult times.  I pray that you will not be weary in your well doing and live with hope, gratitude and resiliency.  I pray, that just like a flower is determined to bloom no matter the circumstances, that you will also bloom in spite of the brokenness in your life.
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     The flower in this picture went through dirt and broken concrete seeking the sunlight. Whatever you are going through, I pray that you “grow” through it so you can see better days.  I believe with every fiber of being that you can make it!  You are stronger than you realize.  Be resilient and push through your “dirt and broken concrete”.  Push through to see the light of your possibilities.  Push through today.  Push through believing that God is with you in the joy and pain…sunshine and rain.”  ~  by Jewel Diamond Taylor, author of “I Am Resilient, www.DoNotGiveUp.net/IAMResilient  To contact Jewel call 323.964.1736 or email – Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net
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Benefits of Life Coaching with Jewel aka “The Self-esteem Dr.”

    

Too often we feel a sense of shame, guilt or over responsibility ( e.g. feel like a bad Christian, bad wife, bad mother, bad sister, bad daughter). Or our inner self-talk says, “if I don’t ‘help or give.”…or “They will be in danger if I don’t help.” ….”or  “If I stay or if I prove or if I make him feel better, he will love me.” “I’ve invested so much already in this relationship and I don’t know how to stop the manipulation.” …”They need me because I have always been the; e.g. giver, the fixer, the savior, the rescuer, the breadwinner, the strong one in this family.”

I’ve been there and I’ve done that. Thank God I’m not what I used to be. Are you ready to stop playing the “rescue sheroe role”?

I empower my life coaching clients to GROW :
from procrastination to action,
from low self-esteem to a healthy worthiness,
from fear to faith,
from doubt to done, from idea to implementation, from setback to bounce back!

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Is your life puzzling, problematic, painful, peaceful, productive or progressing? Life can seem like a mystery, magical, puzzling, exhausting, exciting, a battle or a blessing. The challenge for us all is to learn to trust the unknown and yet live in the present proactively planning our future.

” Jewel is an extremely astute coach, mentor, listener and guide. I had an initial Skype session with Jewel some time back. Since then I have aimed to put in to practice the clear steps she advised me to look at and work on. However, recently I hit a wall, and had an epiphany of what lay at the heart of the majority of my very long standing ‘ negative – self’mindset issues and this resulting suppressant to reach the potential God is calling me to. I knew how deeply significant this was for me and that I’d arrived at a clear watershed in my life. I immediately knew I needed to speak with Jewel. I knew she would read my situation, understand and discern with incisive authority, speaking courage, truth, honour and measured calm in the way that was necessary and fully appropriate to me. I can’t recommend her highly enough. If you are really serious in turning your damaged mindsets round in your life for good so you can move on permanently speak with Jewel to get you on the right path and beyond. Jewel is the total package and genuine spirit-filled- sent article for those of us who need genuine encouragement and a restoration of true self worth.” Emily, United Kingdom

You may be perplexed by your past choices or present circumstances. You can be baffled about your next step because you are isolated or over think the process.  You may be stuck in grief, depression or a dysfunctional lifestyle. You may not understand that your problems are an invitation to grow in discernment, courage, wisdom, purpose, faith, fortitude or emotional intelligence. Sure, at times we feel confused and anxious. We wonder whether we’re making the “right decision.” Thoughts haunt us like…”What am I going to do with my life? “What have I done with my life ?@!#!” or “I’m ready to make something out of my life!” We begin to lack trust in ourselves and in the faithfulness of God.

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  As you grow in your coping skills, faith, self-esteem, relationships, anger issue and purpose you will be able to see how the pieces of your life are coming together. Nothing you have done has been a waste of time. Patience, prayer, perseverance and taking proactive steps will help you to see progress.

If you are enthusiastic about your goal, you will need direction.
If you are discouraged, you will benefit from coaching.
If you are cautious in moving forward, you will need support.
If you have a goal, you will either GIVE UP or GROW up in your commitment, endurance, faith, perseverance, and capacity for success.

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For over 25 years I have helped others to put together the pieces of their life. I’m here to serve you and/or your organization. Reply to e-mail Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net or call me 323.964.1736 with your questions or to confirm your success coaching or counseling time with the Self-esteem Dr.”

“My decision to meet with Jewel as a Life Coach was a divine life changing decision. Jewel was so easy to talk to and I instantly felt comfortable enough to open up and share things that I had not shared before. She truly understood me which meant so much. The nuggets of wisdom that I walked away with I will forever treasure. She is truly an anointed Woman of God.” – B. W. (California)

“I took advantage of this and it was by far one of the best experiences/ coaching session ever. I was very touched that Mrs. Taylor ended our coaching session in Prayer not to mention I felt like a conqueror afterwards. I’m in desperate need of another coaching session and hopefully I can secure of of the available slots. Thank you!!” Wendy Reed

Click here to read more testimonials…women who have been impacted in a positive way!

~ Jewel Diamond Taylor, Conference Keynote Speaker, Success Coach, Author, Women’s Retreat Facilitator and Workshop Trainer

Spiritual Mood Swings

At some time in all of our lives, we will experience suffering, inconveniences, heart ache and stress. If our faith is not built up, we can find ourselves bi-polar in our faith.
I admit there are times when my faith is extremely strong and unwavering. There have been times when my faith swung to the extreme and doubt, fear and worry crept into my soul and attitude.
I can relate to the apostle Paul who wrote in Romans 7:19 how he felt confused and double minded about his actions and faith. Do you ever go from one extreme to another extreme in your moods, feelings, beliefs and faith? Have you ever gone from peace to stress in 0 – 60 seconds? Have you ever said you were going to forgive someone, stop feeling angry or stop worrying about your children, health, finances or job? Have you ever thought that because you were in a season of suffering that God had forsaken you? Has trouble ever knocked on your door but your faith did not open the door? Have you ever started the day off in peace and then something happens on your job that causes your mood and faith to swing to the extreme? Do you only have faith and peace when everything is going well in your life? When “shift happens” in your life, does your faith shift to doubt, anger and worry? Does your “pendulum of thought” swing back and forth exhausting you and robbing you of rest, peace and faith in the Lord?

James 1:8 reminds us that being double minded and indecisive makes us unstable.
As I encourage myself each day…I want to encourage you also to avoid being bi-polar in your faith. If someone is diagnosed as mentally bi-polar they are usually given some medication (which has side effects). However, to be spiritually bi-polar I prescribe meditation, not medication. When we meditate and pray, the only side effect is that our peace, rest, joy and faith are restored. We must practice this daily not just when we are in a storm or on Sunday at church. Daniel prayed three times a day and was delivered from the lion’s den.

The benefits of prayerful meditation are many;
. Strengthens your relationship with the Lord
. Deepens your faith and ability to surrender to the flow of life
. Increases gratitude and strength to endure difficult times
. Gives you insight and clarity to see purpose through your pain
. You are able to hear from clearly from God what should be your next step.
. You are able to self-correct any negative thoughts or feelings
. Lowers high blood pressure.
. Relieves stress and anger.
. Lowers the levels of blood lactate, reducing anxiety attacks.
. Decreases any tension-related pain, such as, tension headaches, ulcers, insomnia, muscle and joint problems.
. Increases serotonin production that improves mood and behavior.
Improves the immune system.
by JewelDiamond Taylor, author of “Shift Happens“, conference keynote speaker, women’s retreat leader, women’s life coach “The Self-esteem Dr.

6 Things That Can Mess Up Your Life

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There are so many factors that can rob you of peace, block your blessings and stop you from achieving your dreams and goals.  Below is a partial list of some of the most critical hindering factors:

1. People – Surround yourself with people of like mind, similar interests/values and who have a positive impact on your life.  You won’t grow around negative people who lack faith and live in fear, drama, and dysfunction.

2.  Past – Don’t dwell on your negative past which only increases guilt, shame and a low sense of self-worth.  You can’t focus on your past and bright future at the same time.

3.  Pity parties – Seek ways to heal any depression, grief, sadness, discouragement or self-loathing.

4.  Present situation – If your present circumstances are unpleasant, challenging or limiting…remember, this, too, shall pass.  Don’t allow your present circumstances to steal your hope, joy and faith.

5. Procrastination is birthed out of fear, low self-esteem, doubt and lack of organization in your life.  Procrastination is a thief.  Get rid of clutter.  Think about the rewards or the consequences you will have if you don’t take some positive action steps today to break the habit of avoidance. Get busy!

6. Pain – If you are suffering from any emotional or physical pain, seek help. It’s difficult feeling optimistic, grateful and productive if you are ignoring any symptoms of pain.  You need your mind and body healthy, clear and energized.  Get your life, joy and health back.

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Feeling discouraged?

When you fall into a pit of exhaustion, fear, desperation or worry … be careful not to fall into the trap of doing desperate, destructive, sinful and illegal things to get out of your situation.

When the flesh or faith are weak, one can be tempted to seek short cuts to get out of a stressful situation (i.e. lie, cheat, steal, sexual favors, make excuses or blame others).DeliveranceDon’t fall prey to the temptations…pray for strength, self-control, guidance, peace and courage to press on.

“Though I have fallen, I will rise.  Though I sit in darkness,

The Lord will be my light. ~ Micah 7:8

I offer my e-book as a tool to assist you in digging your way out of a pit of depression, denial and discouragement. ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

“Without God, our week would be:  Sinday, Mournday, Tearsday, Wasteday, Thirstday, Fightday and Shatterday.”  (e-mail author unknown)