How to Get Relief from Emotional Pain

numbing“We don’t like to feel pain. That is why pain killers, alcoholism, drug abuse, excessive eating, excessive spending, excessive busyness or isolation ruins a lot of lives. Numbing the pain doesn’t make it go away. Attempts to numb any pain is a temporary escape and band aid. People in emotional pain from loss, trauma, or loneliness can become reckless in their life choices by choosing or staying in toxic relationships, neglecting important things like paying their bills, showing up for work, neglecting their health or neglecting their family. Some people cope with their pain with denial, becoming armored, and building walls instead of bridges to connect with others. Pain is a signal that something needs our attention…something needs to be changed …something needs to be healed … something needs to be confronted or accepted.

smoke alarmPain is like a smoke alarm. If you take out the batteries because you don’t like the noise, or you never put in new batteries, your house could burn down. Don’t let your life be destroyed into ashes because you are ignoring the pain you feel in your heart, body, relationships, finances or job situation. If there is smoke, there is a fire starting. Put out the fire with action, courage and faith. Pay attention to the “alarm signals” or you will pay a heavy price.” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

Interviewer: Why do you think women seek life coaching/counseling?

Jewel: I have discovered most of the women I coach/counsel have issues with their relationships, loneliness, feeling battle weary from their job, feeling isolated, experiencing too much stress/demands or too little time, money, love, support or sense of purpose.
Many of my counseling/coaching mentees are inspired to; stop procrastinating, find their voice to make key decisions, amp up their actions and confidence, deepen their faith and focus more on the real priorities that can change their lives in a positive way. They are renewed to have hope again to believe their future holds promise and possibilities.

Interviewer: Do you believe your style of mentoring/coaching/counseling supersedes the power of prayer?

Jewel: Absolutely not. What I offer only supplements and strengthens one’s personal development and spiritual faith. I believe one’s personal and spiritual strength are interwoven. It is very evident to me that the popularity of social media like Facebook and Instagram proves that people crave to be seen, heard, successful, celebrated, connected and significant. My coaching/counseling, books and my signature events gives women an opportunity to be seen, heard, understood, validated and challenged to GROW beyond their comfort zone, shame, fears and sabotaging behavior.

Interviewer: How long have you been offering your life coaching and counseling for women? Do you only coach women?

Jewel: I’m glad the popularity of life coaching has reduced the negative stigma of people seeking support and mentoring.  Long before “life coach” was even heard of and became mainstream in our culture and on TV, I was mentoring and counseling women by phone, in my retreats and my women’s life enrichment gatherings (e.g. The Enlightened Circle and now my Women on the Grow Organization). I started in 1986. Because I share my mistakes, pain, successes, stories, wisdom and experiences as a; wife, mother, sibling, author, ordained minister, self-employed speaker, life coach, columnist, media personality, author and someone who has learned to cope with the loss of both parents and my son from cancer… I believe my life journey allows me to be more relevant in connecting with women’s issues and needs. I have discovered that when a person has no hope, encouragement, faith or vision…they are more likely to return to their past unhealthy and destructive patterns of coping and living.

Interviewer: What are you planning in the near future to engage and empower women to be stronger and encouraged?

Jewel: I am known as the Self-esteem Dr. so I will be offering my “Open Heart Surgery” Relationships Clinic Saturday, July 11 in Los Angeles. I will be teaching from my book “Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain with You.” In August I will continue with my “Diamond Lane Mentoring Class for Women” in the Los Angeles area. Every October I host a women’s retreat getaway. This year it will be in Northern Las Vegas.

Interviewer: Do you only speak in California?

Jewel: Oh no!!! Over the years I have been invited to speak all over the United States, London, Jamaica, Brazil, the Bahamas, Cancun, the Virgin Islands, St. Kitts and Turks and Caicos Islands. I’m ready to travel and bring the inspiration and encouragement around the globe. Below are the states where I have been a guest speaker over the years. My goal next is to speak and/or host a women’s retreat in Hawaii. I’m seeking any contacts in Hawaii to make that happen.
Contact me by email – Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net

my speaking map

Extreme Heart Makeover

After a long season of loss, betrayal, bitterness, abuse, divorce or loneliness one’s heart can become either too hard or too fragile, too closed or too open.

I find in my travels, speaking and counseling that far too many women suffer extreme heart issues.  The emotional pendulum swings from one end of extreme hardness or being extremely needy, desperate and naive. There are those extremely independent (“I don’t need any one)…all the way to the other extreme mindset of being too dependent. If you are afraid of being alone or think a relationship validates you and makes you whole, you could have a relationship addiction. Unfortunately I see this all too often.

When your self-esteem is healthy, the emotional pendulum swings in the middle because of healing, balance, prayer and self-awareness.  Open your eyes and see your real worth and beauty in the mirror.  Get balance in your life.   Seek advice help from the wise women in your life.  Pour all that misguided and untapped passion into your goals, purpose and dreams.  Begin to transform your thinking to believe you can take care of yourself.  If you think a man can save you, you are setting yourself up for an unhappy,  abusive and dominating relationship. You can do good all by yourself until the Lord sends the right one baby!

When you both bring something to the table, your chances for harmony, respect, love and common goals are increased.  But if you get into a relationship feeling empty and expect some one to fill your cup, you are giving away all of your power, value and self-worth.

I write in my book, “Follow Your Heart But Take Your Brain With You”  that the scent of a woman is powerful.  Dogs can smell desperation, neediness, immaturity and weakness.  A woman with self-esteem has the aroma of confidence, faith and self-worth.

When your heart is smart you can avoid the pitfalls, problems and pain of living in a chaotic, drama filled, sitting by phone, life on hold and stressful world.

You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay.  If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life,” you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Don’t allow other people to control, manipulate or validate your existence. Value your dreams, body, goals, time and peace of mind.  If you don’t… no one else will.  Learn how to discern between lust, like and love.  Learn how to love smart.  Don’t allow your heart to be attacked by abusers and losers.

As you heal your heart of illusions, grudges, fantasies, desperation and bitterness, your opportunities increase to have a righteous relationship.

As the Self-esteem Dr. I have performed many heart makeovers and CPR to help women breathe again.

Read Proverb 23:7 and remember that as a man(woman) thinketh, so is he(she).  This powerful teaching reminds us that  right thinking begins with the words we say to ourselves.  If you think in your heart that you are not worthy…not pretty…not loving…not blessed…not qualified…then you will have more that in your life. Begin to speak and think in your heart that you are qualified, beautiful, divine, blessed, grateful, anointed and loved. Wear the sweet aroma of self-esteem, confidence and a daughter of the Most High God. “Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” – Proverbs 4: 23

by Jewel Diamond Taylor, The Self-esteem Dr., Author, Conference Speaker, Women’s Retreat Leader, Life Coach, Founder of Women on the Grow

To contact Jewel or call 323.964.1736

e-mail –  JewelMotivates@gmail.com

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