Frustrated, Stuck, Broke, Sick, Tired or Lonely?

“It can certainly be frustrating feeling stuck, overwhelmed, broke, sick, lonely or lacking purpose. These emotional traps can knock you down into a state of depression throwing your hands up saying “what’s the use?” When I find myself slipping into darkness, I work on training my brain to focus on what I’m grateful for. I begin to see how far I have come, but I remain dissatisfied enough to want to improve. It’s a tricky balance to be grateful when all your circumstances seem dark or bearing no fruit. You can do it! I believe gratitude coupled with discontent is the turn around.

Thomas Edison once said,”Restlessness is discontent and discontent is the first necessity of progress. Show me a thoroughly satisfied man and I will show you a failure.”

Gratitude lifts your head so you can begin to dream again with a humbled heart. Let your discontentment become your own motivation kicking you out of fear and into action. Don’t complain… remain hungry enough in your soul to want to achieve your goal. Learn the power of resiliency. Bounce back up. Get up. Think up. Cheer up. Count up your blessings. Look up. Speak up. Grow up. Stand up. Hook up with the right people. Turn up your faith and praise to God. But don’t give up! ” – Jewel Diamond Taylor

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From Janitor to Principal

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Joseph “Gabe” Sonnier used to clean up after everyone at Port Barre Elementary in Port Barre, La. Now, the former janitor is the principal at that school.

The journey to his promotion began in 1985 when Port Barre’s then-principal pulled Sonnier aside, CBS Evening News reported. “He said, ‘I’d rather see you grading papers than picking them up,'” Sonnier told the station.

Sonnier had dropped out of Southern University in 1979, according to the Advocate. His mother, a housekeeper, was struggling to support his four siblings and pay for his education, so Sonnier began working to help.  But at the age of 39, while still working as a janitor at Port Barre, he decided to go back to school.

“I would come to work at like 5 in the morning and leave at 7 and go to school all day and then come back and finish up my eight hours of work here and then go home and do homework,” Sonnier told KATC.

He earned his bachelor’s degree, and in 2008, went from janitor to teacher at Port Barre Elementary, according to the Advocate. He later earned a master’s degree in education through Arkansas State University.  Last November, he was made Port Barre Elementary’s principal, KATC reported.

Three months into the job, he’s still a bit in awe of his accomplishments but knows hard work and perseverance made it all possible.

“Don’t let your situation that you’re in now define what you’re going to become later,” Sonnier told CBS. “I always tell them it’s not where you start, it’s how you finish.”  source – HUFFPOST

Are you dying on the inside?

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I have known of a couple of people who told me clearly they had a “near-death” experiences. This phenomena is usually reported after an individual has been pronounced clinically dead or very close to death.  They speak clearly about how they felt and what they saw.  They report feeling a sense of peace, well-being, painlessness, positive emotions and a sense of removal from the world.

But I also know of people who have had “near-life” experiences.  They came close to experiencing joy, passion, new beginnings, love, vibrancy and optimism.

Instead of doing…they are distracted, dreaming and focusing on disappointments.  Instead of living and acting on their spiritual impulse to create…their courage dies,  their faith dies, their trust dies and their confidence dies.  Depression and pain can numb you and place you in an emotional coma or paralysis of analysis.

Indictments, hurt, abandonment, rejection or jealousy from your past can cripple you and you eventually flat line emotionally…no joy, no dreams, no confidence, no purpose, no worth and no faith.Emotional and Spiritual CPR

One of the ways to breathe life into your dreams and purpose is to surround yourself with people who are fully alive.   Build your faith and sense of worth by dealing with any sense of shame, guilt or fears.

Arrest the thief called procrastination.  Get out of any comfort zone of defeat, a rut or what’s the use attitude.  Don’t just stick your toe in the water.  Jump in!  The water will be cold and startling at first.  But the longer you stay in, the more your body will adjust.  Become super-intentional with your thoughts, emotions and actions to be resilient and proactive after any season of challenges, loss, setbacks or pain.   Open up your lungs and breath.  Open up your mind and believe again.  Open up your journals and inspirational books.   Give yourself spiritual and emotional CPR before you flatline.   Life is calling you.  Life is a gift. Endure it, embrace it, enjoy it, excel it and exhale all the hurt so you can inhale all of God’s power.

What to Do After Experiencing a Failure, Setback or Mistake

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Here are twelve reminders to keep you motivated after a mistake or failure:

Take  the time you need to heal emotionally.  Moving on doesn’t take a day; it takes lots of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self. Never let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life. Just because today is painful doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be great. You just got to get there. The best things usually happen when you least expect it. So try to smile in the mean time. Not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have and all the problems you know you don’t have.

There is no success without failure. – A person who makes no mistakes is unlikely to make anything at all. It’s better to have a life full of small failures that you learned from, rather than a lifetime filled with the regrets of never trying.

Positive thinking creates positive results. – If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Being hurt is something you can’t stop from happening, but being miserable is always your choice. Winston Churchill reminds us, “Success is moving from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it. Negative thinking creates negative results. Positive thinking creates positive results. Period. Things always turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.

Success is always closer than it seems. – Your mistakes and failures should be your motivation, not your excuse. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as stepping stones. Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal. The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake. Failure is not falling down; failure is staying down when you have the choice to get back up.

You are not your mistakes. – Life didn’t come with instructions. Accept that mistakes will happen. You are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your tomorrow. No matter how chaotic the past has been, the future is a clean, fresh, wide open slate. What you do with it is up to you. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Life’s best lessons are learned at unexpected times. – Many of the greatest lessons we learn in life we don’t seek on purpose. In fact, life’s best lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. So yes, you will fail sometimes, and that’s okay. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant.

Mistakes are rarely as bad as they seem. – Mistakes and setbacks are rarely as bad as they seem, and even when they are, they give us an opportunity to grow stronger. You should never let one dark cloud cover the entire sky. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve, and keep pushing forward.

Not getting what you want can be a blessing. – Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of good luck, because it forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked. Remember, some things in life fall apart so that better things can fall together.

You have the capacity to create your own happiness. – You can hold onto past mistakes or you can create your own happiness going forward. A smile is a choice, not a miracle. Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy. True happiness comes from within. Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.

Mistakes are simply a form of practice. – Every great artist was once an amateur. The sooner you get comfortable with practicing and making mistakes, the quicker you’ll learn the skills and knowledge necessary to master your art. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. So get out there and try again. Either you succeed or you learn a vital lesson. Win – Win. Read The Magic of Thinking Big.

You are making progress. – If you brush yourself off and keep pressing forward, you will learn something and you will earn another chance to get it right. Remember, no matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. Don’t waste your time being upset about something you can’t change. Start over right now, implement the lessons you have learned from your mistakes, and do it better this time.

Life goes on. – Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later this collection of mistakes, called experience, leads us to success. If it’s good, it’s going to be wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s going to be an experience. Your mindset is at the heart of your success. You have to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you have and be thankful for what you had. Forgive yourself and others, but don’t forget. Learn from your mistakes, but don’t regret. Life is change, things go wrong, and life goes on.

Fatal Distractions

When I experience stress, doubt or worry… sometimes I have to listen to my own CDs and podcasts.  Worry, fear, doubt, stress, illness, drama in your home, job, church, team and a constant viewing of the tragic TV news and are fatal distractions.  These things can cause you to crash and lose focus on your faith, purpose, peace and goals.  Be careful of the FATAL DISTRACTIONS in your life.  Being in bad relationships or giving your time, power and talent to the wrong people or organizations will get you off track from your real goals and purpose.  These fatal distractions could cause you to miss graduating from college, building your business/ministry, staying clean and sober or lose your faith and trust in God.  Anger, depression, trivial things and mindless entertainment to escape can be fatal to the focus you need for your priorities and purpose.  Sometimes people are intimidated by you, insecure around you or try to belittle you because they see your greatness and potential for success.  When you feel that push back or put down from people around you … it’s not about you. They are showing you their insecurities. Don’t allow insecure or small thinking people to ruin your day, steal your peace or take you off track from your purpose. I call these people energy vampires or fatal distractions.  Who or what is consuming your attention?  Who or what has taken your eye off your path?  It doesn’t take much to have an accident when you are distracted.

Many of us drive our cars; texting, talking on the phone, eating, fussing at the kids in the back seat, putting on make up, fumbling with CDs and angry at slow drivers.  These distractions cause drivers to miss their exit on the freeway.  Driving distractions on the road can become costly or fatal accidents on the highway.      

Fatal distractionsIt doesn’t take much for life’s tribulations to block your view on your road to success.  Emotional and relational distractions can hinder your victory, destiny, blessings, peace of mind, and God’s way for your life.  I encourage you to be around the right people, study, listen to inspirational CDs or my podcasts, and read the resources that will keep you focused and encouraged.  The main thing is to KEEP the main thing…the MAIN THING!”

~ by Inspirational Speaker, Ordained Minister, One-on-One Life Coach by zoom, Founder of Women on the Grow, Inc. 501c3, College Circuit Speaker, and author of the book “SHIFT HAPPENS: The Main Thing is to Keep the Main Thing, the Main Thing”  Jewel Diamond Taylor,  to book this speaker for your conference, luncheon, church, workplace or women’s retreat, call 323.964.1736 or e-mail JewelMotivates@gmail.com

Be Not Weary

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      “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time, we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Gal 6:9

Sometimes fear sounds louder than your faith. You may think God has been silent, deaf or blind to your situation.  You need wisdom and direction for the days ahead.  Even when it seems that there is no place to stand where you can feel sure and stable, and when the world seems to be crumbling around you,  rest in the assurance that the great I AM is with you.

 Your eyes have not seen, your ears have not heard, nor has your mind begun to conceive what the great I AM is able to do for those who believe. (1 Cor 2:9)

Listen for the still small voice of the Divine, and you will hear God speak and restore you. Your steps will be guided.  New doors and opportunities are opening up for you.  You must rise above the circumstances that have created a place of despair in your heart.

Every word you speak…every step you take…every thought you think and good deed you do…is a prayer.  Cheer up, get up, think up and do not give up!

Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

One-on-One Coaching/Mentoring with Jewel Diamond Taylor

One of the reasons I’m passionate and good at life coaching is because we need people to help us SEE what is not obvious to us. Life coaching is objective. Your perception of your situation and possibilities are subjective. Sometimes you are too close to your “story”, your pain, your old way of thinking, low self-worth, your anger or your impatience that you don’t SEE the obvious right in front of you. My style and expertise in life coaching empowers women to SEE more than the obvious. Do you SEE all the squares below? The answer is obvious to some and NOT to others. We all have blind spots and that is why personal life coaching/counseling can be so powerful and heart opening.

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“My particular style of counseling/mentoring/coaching offers;

. relief from isolation, procrastination, self-defeating behavior and frustration

. release off your brakes

. recognition of your gifts

. re-energizes your focus, confidence and purpose and

. reboots you into positive action.

Encouragement and accountability helps you to engage and trust your own possibilities, power and potential. Sometimes you are unable to see your own blind spots or your possibilities.

Some of the deepest longing in you is the voice of your purpose and gift. It calls you to follow a path of action, courage, integrity and humility. Call me 323.964.1736 to set up your one-on-one coaching with me (via Skype or phone)  or email Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net” ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor

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