Jewel Diamond Taylor s an authentic, highly acclaimed, witty, knowledgeable, in-demand, and international conference speaker, life coach, author, founder of Women on the Grow, Inc. 501c3 …

1. If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy.
2. Real men stay faithful. They don’t have time to look for other women because they’re too busy looking for new ways to love their own.
3. Sometimes rejection is God’s protection.  Guard your heart.  Protect your heart from futile, abusive, neglectful, dishonest, immature, unequally yoked relationships void of God, respect, mutual goals and values.  Heal your heart.
4. When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say.
5. If your mate falls asleep and you feel the need to look through their phone to see who has been calling/texting… if you look on their Facebook page to see who their friends are…if you look through their wallet for phone numbers or condoms…look in the mirror and ask yourself, “Why am I in this relationship if I can’t trust him (her)?
6. Real men never stop trying to show a girl how much she means to him, even after he’s got her.
7. Sometimes you’re not meant to make up after a breakup…it could be your wake upcall to show you that you are not meant to be a couple.
8. The only three things a guy should want change to about his girl is her last name, address, and her viewpoint on men.
9. Stop going back to the one who brings you more pain than happiness. It’s not worth it to continue to invest your feelings into somebody unworthy of your love.
10. When you get in a fight with her and she starts crying, just stop and hold her.
11. When a girl says, ‘I’m done’, it really means ‘fight for me’.
12. Love when you’re ready… not when you’re lonely.
13. There comes a time when you have to choose between turning the page or just closing the book.
14. Every woman’s heart has different instructions. They’re written through her eyes, in her smile, through her actions and in her tears. She just has to find someone who cares enough to read them.
15. Whether the man in your life is a friend, lover or husband, men like women who like themselves.  Women who have a very low self-esteem are dangerous.  Men think they are hysterical, stalkers, whiners, weak, clingy and needy.
16. Find someone that isn’t afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you’re not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn’t imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last but not least, find someone who wouldn’t mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair but still falls in love with you all over again…
17. Marriage is a ministry and covenant.  You both come into the marriage with baggage and wounds.  Pray for the strength, courage, forgiveness, wisdom, sense of humor, compassion and faith to help unpack each other’s baggage.
18. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
19. Choose the guy that takes you to meet his parents and not his bedroom.
20. Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.
21. Don’t cry over a guy. Let a guy cry over you, cause girls give and forgive, but guys get and forget.
22. Don’t let past relationships ruin your future happiness, scars remind us of where we’ve been, not where we are going.
23. A boy will tell you that he loves you but a real man will show it.
24. You can’t see your next if you’re too busy looking at your Ex.
25. A EX should stay an EX. They’re the EXample of false love and an EXplanation for why you deserve better.
26. If someone constantly makes you unhappy, then you must build up the courage to let that person go. Your memories will always live on, but it’s time to move on.
27. Don’t take a good woman or man for granted. Someday, someone will come along and appreciate what you didn’t.
28. Don’t search for a man that will solve all your problems, he won’t. Find one that won’t let you face them alone.
29. Lust and love can make you blind.  When someone shows you who they are, believe it.  Take off your “pink” sunglasses.  Notice the red flags waving that warn you he or she is not the one.
30. Follow your heart…but take your brain with you.   If you are attracted to the unavailable, “bad boy”, selfish, controlling or player type, you won’t be with a prayer.  Don’t just ask for a “good man”…seek a God man.
31. Make your home a castle, not a hassle…and your mate will come home every time.
32. True love doesn’t mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes.
33.  Carry yourself like a Queen and you’ll get your King. Carry yourself as a “ho” and see how far you go.
34. Rushing into emotional or sexual intimacy causes us to fast forward and skip over the real process of building a relationship based on time, dating, communication, trust, asking qualifying questions, honesty, disciplining our hormones, shared values, boundaries and friendship.
35. Never underestimate a woman’s ability to find things out. It is always better to be honest because whatever you did, she will find out sooner or later. Trust me.
36. Before you give up, think of the reason why you held on so long.
37. If you cheat on a woman who is willing to do anything for you, you actually cheated yourself out of true loyalty.
38. Anyone can make you happy by doing something special, but only someone special can make you happy without doing anything.
39. If you’re having relationship problems, confess to God not Facebook.
40. If your girlfriend gets jealous it’s because she’s faithful. If another girl has your attention and she doesn’t get jealous, it’s because someone has hers.
41. Don’t date the most beautiful girl in the world, date the girl who makes your world the most beautiful.
42. Don’t stress over what could’ve been, chances are if it should’ve been, it would’ve been.
43. Giving too much to your man can make him too lazy and he loses interest or he will take, take and take.  Why?…because he has gotten used to being the receiver and loses interest in pursuing and providing for you.
44. It’s better to be slapped by the truth then kissed with a lie.
45. Once they see that you’re doing better without them, then they decide that they want you back.
46. A woman tends to center her life around relationships while men tend to center their priorities around work, money, power and status.
47. If you love someone, you better PROVE it. Because LOVE is not a noun to be defined, but a verb to be acted upon.
48. If your relationship has more issues than your magazine, you need to cancel your subscription.
49. When you say ‘I love you’, you are making a promise with someone else’s heart. Try to honor it.
50. A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it as long as you want but it won’t go.
51. If your parents were physically or emotionally absent or if you witnessed abuse, neglect, infidelity and reckless sexual behavior, you were NOT provided with good examples to know what healthy love looks like.
52. Don’t base your relationship decisions off of the advice of people who don’t have to live with the results.
53. Its time to move on if you aren’t getting as much attention as you desire. there’s nothing worse than feeling lonely in a relationship.
54. It’s not about being what everyone wants you to be, it’s about being yourself and finding someone who truly loves you for what you are.
55. Be the one who everyone wants, not the one who everyone’s had.
56. Forgive someone because you believe they are truly sorry, not just because you want to keep them in your life.
57. Pride attracts the girl. Courage approaches the girl. Wisdom gets the girl. Strength puts up with the girl, but loyalty keeps the girl.
58. If you spend too long holding on to the one who treats you like an option, you’ll miss finding the one who treats you like a priority
59. When hugging her, lift her off her feet and spin around …she’ll love it.
60. .Are you one link in a chain of fools?  Are you living with hopeless devotion, waiting and waiting in a one-sided relationship?  Your head probably knows it doesn’t make sense to keep trying, hoping, crying, waiting and wasting your time on someone who can’t return your love.  It’s your heart that needs to see the truth.  Your heart will keep remembering the good times and keep you in denial about the bad times.
61. Females these days really need to search for a man with goals, faith, integrity and ambition because 10 years from now ‘Swag’ isn’t going to pay your bills.
62. Sometimes, you end up losing yourself trying to hold onto someone who doesn’t care about losing you.
63. If he misses you, he’ll call. If he cares, he’ll show it. If not, he can’t be worth your time because you’re obviously not worth his.
64. Don’t waste your time loving someone who isn’t willing to love you.
65. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you, a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…seek someone complimentary… not supplementary.Don’t expect to find the right person if you aren’t willing to let the wrong one go.
66. Don’t be a woman that needs a man, be the woman a man needs.
67. If you leave someone at least tell them why, because what’s more painful than being abandoned; is knowing you’re not worth an explanation.
68. Relationships fail because of trust issues, commitment issues and communication issues.
69. Without respect, love is lost. Without caring, love is boring. Without honesty, love is unhappy. Without trust, love is unstable.
70. Never tell your friends all of your relationship problems, a relationship should only be between two people.
71. Constantly comparing your old relationship to your new one is the quickest way to find yourself single again.
72. When a woman stops crying over you, that means someone else is making her smile.
73. Flirting is a single person’s way of saying ‘I’m free!’ but for those in relationships, it’s their way of saying ‘I’m bored.’
74. If someone truly loves you, then they shouldn’t make you feel like you have to constantly fight for their attention.
75. When women are unconsciously seeking a Daddy, “someone to watch over me, protect me, love me and provide for me.”…she could potentially find herself in desperate situations where she is being controlled and treated like a child instead of a cherished adult.
76. Just like dogs can smell fear, anyone without virtue will recognize a weak and needy person and take advantage of their vulnerability. Dogs only go where they are fed.    Maintain your self-respect and self-esteem. If you keep answering the phone and opening the door to your bedroom even though you are being mistreated, you are opening your heart and spirit to trouble, pain, more disrespect and abuse.  Once you stop feeding a stray dog, they stop coming around.  Unless he’s a puppy, have him tested, you don’t know where he’s been. Don’t handle aggression with aggression. Always compliment good behavior.  Understand that men are territorial.  Puppy love fades – they pant and beg when they don’t get what they want.  If his pants are drooping like a diaper and he calls his place a “crib”, you’ve got a baby…not a man.  If he spends most of his time playing games (i.e.video, play station, sports)…you got a boy…not a man.  If his eyes still roam and he can’t resist flirting with other women or won’t delete the phone numbers from past relationships…he still wants to play…not stay.
77. Jealousy in relationships is actually quite normal. A little jealousy is one way of showing how much we love our significant other. On the other hand, however, too much jealousy signifies a lack of trust in our partner and may break a happy union.
78. Protect her like a daughter, love her like a wife, respect her like your mother.
79. Sometimes, all a girl wants is for you to fight for her. Make her believe that you may want this relationship more than she does.
80. Don’t give up on love, because there is always someone who loves you. Even if it’s not the person you were hoping for.
81. If someone sticks by your side through your worst times, then they deserve to be with you through your good times.
82. The worst way to leave someone is without an explanation.
83. Don’t be someones down-time, spare-time, part-time or sometime. If they cant be there for you all of the time, then they’re not even worth your time.
84. There’s no sense in leading a person on if you already know it isn’t going to work out.
85. Staying with someone who doesn’t appreciate you is like standing in quick sand, slowly sinking in sadness.
86. If she worries about you, don’t think that it’s annoying because it only means she cares about you. When she stops caring, that’s when you should be worried.
87. Nobody wants to hear this, but sometimes the person you want most, is the person you’re best without.
88. Touch her heart….not her body. Steal her attention…not her virginity. Make her smile….don’t waste her tears.
89. The best relationship is when you two can act like lovers and best friends.
90. Fall in love with someone who deserves your heart. Not someone who plays with it.
91. If a girl admits that she likes you, know that it took every ounce of courage in her to say that. Don’t take her for granted.
92. Read more of these pearls of wisdom about relationships in my e-book
    “Love Smart with Your Heart” – click here for your e-book now to be downloaded to your computer or ipad to read.
93. If you have a good guyfriend, don’t make him pay for the mistakes that other men made.
94. Don’t give someone all of your time if they’re only gonna give you half of theirs.
95. If someone does you wrong, keep in mind that everybody makes mistakes. Forgive and forget. No one wants to be around someone who constantly makes them feel guilty.
96. “Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.” – Albert Einstein
97. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.
98. Some people come into your life as blessings and some come into your life as lessons.
99. You may fall in love with some one’s personality but it’s their character you really live with.
100. Wonderful, healthy and lasting relationships are possible. Don’t give up.

These pearls of wisdom about relationships are excerpts from the book “Love Smart With Your Heart” by Jewel Diamond Taylor

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