Author Jewel Diamond Taylor, a native of Washington DC, presently resides in Southern California. Taylor is a wife mother and grandmother. In 1984. Jewel kicked the glass ceiling with her high heels as one of the 1st women of color motivational speakers.
Colleges, churches, corporations, community events, retreats, and many government agencies have invited this cutting edge speaker to their platform, podium, and pulpit.
Taylor is a voice of empowerment born to teach possibility thinking, leadership, emotional wellness, faith, and success principles. This popular conference speaker’s resiliency story and years of experience empower audiences and coaching clients to grow beyond feeling stuck, unworthy, fear, doubt, and stress.
Jewel (aka ‘The Self-esteem Dr.), teaches impactful insights and actionable steps to increase personal success, deeper faith, emotional wellness, inner peace, and a life of purpose.
Taylor is the founder of Women on the Grow, a national 501c3 non-profit organization which offers; training, coaching, mentoring, and her signature powerful coaching, conferences, and women’s retreats.
Jewel has been an invited speaker in Jamaica, the Bahamas, Turks and Caicos, Cancun, the Virgin Islands, Brazil, Saint Kitts, South Africa, London, and 34 of the 50 United States.
To book this speaker for your event call 323.964.1736 or email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com
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Too often we feel a sense of shame, guilt or over responsibility ( e.g. feel like a bad Christian, bad wife, bad mother, bad sister, bad daughter). Or our inner self-talk says, “if I don’t ‘help or give.”…or “They will be in danger if I don’t help.” ….”or “If I stay or if I prove or if I make him feel better, he will love me.” “I’ve invested so much already in this relationship and I don’t know how to stop the manipulation.” …”They need me because I have always been the; e.g. giver, the fixer, the savior, the rescuer, the breadwinner, the strong one in this family.”
I’ve been there and I’ve done that. Thank God I’m not what I used to be. Are you ready to stop playing the “rescue sheroe role”?
I empower my life coaching clients to GROW :
from procrastination to action,
from low self-esteem to a healthy worthiness,
from fear to faith,
from doubt to done, from idea to implementation, from setback to bounce back!
Is your life puzzling, problematic, painful, peaceful, productive or progressing? Life can seem like a mystery, magical, puzzling, exhausting, exciting, a battle or a blessing. The challenge for us all is to learn to trust the unknown and yet live in the present proactively planning our future.
” Jewel is an extremely astute coach, mentor, listener and guide. I had an initial Skype session with Jewel some time back. Since then I have aimed to put in to practice the clear steps she advised me to look at and work on. However, recently I hit a wall, and had an epiphany of what lay at the heart of the majority of my very long standing ‘ negative – self’mindset issues and this resulting suppressant to reach the potential God is calling me to. I knew how deeply significant this was for me and that I’d arrived at a clear watershed in my life. I immediately knew I needed to speak with Jewel. I knew she would read my situation, understand and discern with incisive authority, speaking courage, truth, honour and measured calm in the way that was necessary and fully appropriate to me. I can’t recommend her highly enough. If you are really serious in turning your damaged mindsets round in your life for good so you can move on permanently speak with Jewel to get you on the right path and beyond. Jewel is the total package and genuine spirit-filled- sent article for those of us who need genuine encouragement and a restoration of true self worth.” Emily, United Kingdom
You may be perplexed by your past choices or present circumstances. You can be baffled about your next step because you are isolated or over think the process. You may be stuck in grief, depression or a dysfunctional lifestyle. You may not understand that your problems are an invitation to grow in discernment, courage, wisdom, purpose, faith, fortitude or emotional intelligence. Sure, at times we feel confused and anxious. We wonder whether we’re making the “right decision.” Thoughts haunt us like…”What am I going to do with my life? “What have I done with my life ?@!#!” or “I’m ready to make something out of my life!” We begin to lack trust in ourselves and in the faithfulness of God.
As you grow in your coping skills, faith, self-esteem, relationships, anger issue and purpose you will be able to see how the pieces of your life are coming together. Nothing you have done has been a waste of time. Patience, prayer, perseverance and taking proactive steps will help you to see progress.
If you are enthusiastic about your goal, you will need direction.
If you are discouraged, you will benefit from coaching.
If you are cautious in moving forward, you will need support.
If you have a goal, you will either GIVE UP or GROW up in your commitment, endurance, faith, perseverance, and capacity for success.
For over 25 years I have helped others to put together the pieces of their life. I’m here to serve you and/or your organization. Reply to e-mail Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net or call me 323.964.1736 with your questions or to confirm your success coaching or counseling time with the Self-esteem Dr.”
“My decision to meet with Jewel as a Life Coach was a divine life changing decision. Jewel was so easy to talk to and I instantly felt comfortable enough to open up and share things that I had not shared before. She truly understood me which meant so much. The nuggets of wisdom that I walked away with I will forever treasure. She is truly an anointed Woman of God.” – B. W. (California)
“I took advantage of this and it was by far one of the best experiences/ coaching session ever. I was very touched that Mrs. Taylor ended our coaching session in Prayer not to mention I felt like a conqueror afterwards. I’m in desperate need of another coaching session and hopefully I can secure of of the available slots. Thank you!!” Wendy Reed
“Every minute…every day you are making choices that could bring you closer to achieving success, peace, financial growth, love, health and purposeful living. Today you will choose between good or unhealthy food choices (e.g. snacks or salad). You will choose between spending or saving. You will choose who to talk to, who to avoid or who to ask questions. You will choose to walk or sit. You will choose to speak up or be quiet. You will choose to be confident or shy. You will choose fear or faith. You will choose to take action or procrastinate. You will choose to stay angry or forgive and let go. You choose who gets your time, body, trust, love and finances. You will choose to waste time or maximize your time. You will choose people into your life who can add to your success or distract and subtract from your success. You will choose integrity or dishonesty. You will choose patience and endurance or you will choose to stressed, impatient and rude. You will choose peace and love or choose hatred, prejudice and jealousy. You will choose comfort and convenience or you will choose to grow out of your comfort zone. You will choose to sabotage your talent and gifts or you will choose to polish up your talent and gifts.
Popular leadership speaker and author John Maxwell says, “Talent is not enough.” Talent allows you to stand out, but wrong choices can set you back.
I have seen in my own life choices where I sabotaged my success or where I totally changed the trajectory of my life. Your choices are shaped by the people who influence you. Your choices are shaped by our habits. Our habits can be hard to break. However, when you realize your habits are hindering your success, relationships, finances, health and peace…it’s time to start maker wiser choices.
Your choices can minimize your talent, self-worth, confidence and possibilities for love and success. Are you ready to maximize your potential and possibilities?
I totally, 100% agree with author John Maxwell who shares 13 key choices that can make maximize your talent.
1. BELIEF lifts your talent.
2. PASSION energizes your talent.
3. INITIATIVE activates your talent.
4. FOCUS directs your talent.
5. PREPARATION positions your talent.
6. PRACTICE sharpens your talent.
7. PERSEVERANCE sustains your talent.
8. COURAGE tests your talent.
9. TEACHABILITY expands your talent.
10. CHARACTER protects your talent.
11. RELATIONSHIPS influence your talent.
12. RESPONSIBILITY strengthens your talent.
13. TEAMWORK multiplies your talent.
If you have talent, you stand alone. If you have talent plus these above attributes, you stand out!
Your daily decisions shape your destiny. Make up your mind that your thoughts, words and actions will break cycles of frustrations and failure. Make up your mind that you will invest in your success, health, faith, abundance, relationships and purpose.
Train your mind to SEEK opportunities. SEE opportunities. SEIZE opportunities. SEE that you are worthy, willing and courageous.
✓ There are no guarantees. Certainly you can never know in advance whether a decision will be correct, therefore, you must be prepared to take risks. The more courage you show in making decisions, the more you improve your skill.
✓ Look for the opportunities. If you make a mistake, view it as an opportunity to learn what didn’t work and why. Many times decisions are reversible and you can change your mind.
✓ Hindsight is 20/20. You might discover in hindsight situations that may have affected your decision had you known about them earlier. This is normal and typical but should not stall your decision-making process.
✓ Don’t make hasty and emotional decisions especially when you just received a large amount of money from gambling, the lottery, job bonus, family inheritance, insurance settlement or when you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired.
✓ The habit of avoidance and procrastination is costly (financially, physically, your relationships and your peace of mind). Listen to my CD on Procrastination to learn the power of making decisions and taking action.
✓ Do not get stuck and do nothing. If you’ve done everything you can to make a good decision and still can’t make up your mind, do not delay making an important decision for fearthat you don’t know enough or will make the wrong choice. Make decisions with confidence and courage.
✓ Don’t let fear stop you. Sometimes people become so paralyzed with the fear of making a wrong decision that they panic and lose sight of what they’re trying to accomplish. This hinders making any decision. Don’t assume the worst or allow other people’s opinions to cloud your judgement and faith. Don’t second-guess yourself and talk yourself out of action, momentum, breakthroughs and peace of mind.
When all is said and done, all you can do is the best with what you have to work with. Do not underestimate the power of intuition, intelligence, ideas and instincts.
Writing down your goals and intentions will force you to clarify what YOU want. Imagine going to the airport with no particular destination, time or date for departure or return? You will get no where until you are specific and clear. Your life is more critical than a trip. Your life needs focus, intention and clarity.
Writing down your goals forces you to select something specific and decide what you want for your life journey or simply your daily tasks. Write down your goals as if you were placing an order for your goal to be manufactured in a factory or is if you were planning your ideal vacation. Writing down your clear and measurable goals (e.g. what, when, where, why, who) and revisiting them regularly will help you to stay on track.
No, you may not achieve all your goals in life, but you certainly increase your chances of achieving your small or big goals, if you write them down. So watch out for the distractions, doubt and procrastination. Stuff happens in life, so don’t be easily discouraged.
Life can be challenging and bring a lot of obstacles. If you are not seeing progress in your life, it can be depressing. So remember the habit of writing down your goals which allows you to see your progress and celebrate as you check off each mini-goal achieved.
It never fails that after every speech, sermon or session…I begin to have regrets about what I forgot to say.
I critique and beat myself up at times thinking I could have presented my message better or in a different way.
Together let’s commit to living our lives with a minimum of regrets.
We don’t get a “do over” in life. Let’s not get to the end of our lives with a woulda, coulda or shoulda.
If there is something you want to do…start. If there is something you want to say…say it. If there is something you need to stop and end…stop today. If there is some place you want to go…start planning today. If you know you could do better in your relationships, church, job, studies, self-care, spending/eating/exercise habits…start today. If you realize you could give more, do more, forgive more, experience more, let go of more and believe more in God’s promises for your life…start now. If you are procrastinating and live in fear about opportunities you have right now…get busy living. Fear and procrastination are thieves. Do something today that you will thank yourself for a year from now. Instead of regrets, live your life with results.
A nurse who takes care of dying patients shared the five regrets that she heard most frequently from her patients:
1. “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
2. “I wish I didn’t work so hard.”
3. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
4. “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
People don’t typically enjoy quitting. People usually are seeking stability/belonging, connection and a place to make a contribution and grow.
People don’t like leaving their jobs, they leave their poor leader/boss/poor management.
People don’t quit on God, they quit the church leader,the members, church hurt.
People don’t quit friendship, they quit haters, dysfunction and unequally yoked relationships.
People don’t quit on marriage, they quit the person who stopped being loving and/or being faithful to them.
People don’t want to quit living, they just want the pain, drama, hatred, abuse, loneliness, and dysfunction to end.
People don’t quit class/college, they quit the boring/ineffective teachers.
People quit dreaming and going after their goals because they lack support, faith, good health/energy, good coaching and mentors.
People quit because they never learned how to endure tough times. If their life has a history of comfort, spoiled by parents, sheltered from pain and struggle, always had a job, home, money, car or support…they will be easily frustrated when faced with difficulty, obstacles and loss.
It’s unrealistic to think you can control everything or agree with every aspect of a project,relationship, group, church, job, etc. But some people quit easily when they can’t control everything or have everything their way. Commitment means staying loyal long after that great feeling you had when you first started has diminished or gone. Commitment is about staying and sticking way past what is convenient, comfortable or controllable.
Some people never learned how to cope, endure, be resilient or press through their pain. Champions, athletes, freedom fighters, single parents, cancer survivors and soldiers are examples of people who learned how to never give up in spite of their physical or emotional pain.
Your body may be tired, but stay inspired. Your way may be hard and long, just don’t lose your faith and song. Don’t give up even though you think no one appreciates you. Don’t give up even though you think God has forsaken you. You may be comparing your life to someone else’s progress. You may be giving too many of the wrong people access to your joy, talents, dreams, time, heart and ear gate. Get up one more time. Your life is worth living. When I come up against a wall of grief, discouragement and delays, I have learned how important it is to encourage myself.”
QUESTION FOR THE SELF-ESTEEM DR. FROM SHELLEY: “Dr. Jewel I’m in my 50’s now and I feel like a failure. I feel like many opportunities for love, money, career advancement and my weight image have passed me by. I feel stuck, lonely and embarrassed when I see what other people around me have accomplished. I was recently laid off my job and too ashamed to tell my family and friends about my fears and financial struggles. I even missed going to our family reunion to avoid the questions and judgment. Just to get out of the bed each day is a struggle. Thank you so much for your web site and the weekly newsletters you send out. I have been saving them for years but now I need to know how to start applying what you write about. I’m sorry I missed your recent speaking engagement in Atlanta but this heavy depression has me on lock down. Did you record your message?”
JEWEL DIAMOND TAYLOR’S RESPONSE: Thank you Shelley for writing me. No, my recent Atlanta message was not recorded. Based on the feedback from my audience, I believe you would have been inspired and blessed to pull yourself out of this pit. We all make mistakes, fail, procrastinate, make the wrong turn, miss golden opportunities and make wrong decisions at some point. We all go through a painful time of reassessing our lives and realizing we were either misinformed, uninspired, in denial, busy helping others, lazy, disconnected from the right people, scattered our time, love and money on the wrong things or wrong people, hoping someone would come along and save us or do what needed to be done for us. If you internalize, obsess and judge yourself based on a failed marriage, being single, your bank account, your education, your dress size, your past of missed opportunities or social/economic status, you will never grow out of your negative self-evaluating patterns, self-loathing and down spiraling emotions.
You will only grow out of this from desperation or inspiration. Unfortunately, most people are not motivated by pleasure but their painful circumstances. Your message sounds like your pain is motivating you to seek help. It’s time to take yourself off the hook. You gain nothing by being angry with yourself, resentful, depressed, critical or defeated. The opposite of beating yourself up is practicing self-care, compassion and self-motivation. I promise you…you are not alone. Shame is a powerful stronghold, but this chain can be broken. You have new choices and new steps you can take. I pray you TAKE YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK.
Read inspirational/motivational books like mine and other authors. Declare that you will encourage yourself. Your worth is not just measured by what you own or accomplished or your marital status. You are worthy in God’s sight. You can still leave your mark. You can still touch lives and find inner peace. You can still move forward, not on a broken road, but a blessed road of faith, action, courage, purpose, humility and love. If you can’t get excited and motivated about your own goal…enlist to help, assist, volunteer and share your experiences, time and talents as a dream pusher for a person/organization you believe in. Open your windows, listen to some upbeat music, make your gratitude list, nurture new relationships, make an appointment with me for some awesome, life changing, effective and healing coaching/counseling. I know how it feels to grieve in your heart for people and opportunities lost. Shake out your garment of despair that’s been hanging on that hook. Put on a garment of praise. The book of Isaiah says to those who grieve in Zion that God will give you a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. Thank God for His grace and mercy which as brought you this far. You are still here.
As Morgan Freeman’s character says in the movie Shawshank Redemption,“Get busy living or get busy dying…..there ain’t nothing in between.”
Woman jogging everyday hears a dog howling in pain…every morning.
Woman asks her neighbor: “What is wrong with your dog? I hear your dog howling every time I pass by your porch. He sounds like he is in so much pain!
Neighbor: He has been on this porch everyday sitting on a nail for weeks.
Woman: Why doesn’t your dog get up off that rusty nail?
Neighbor: It doesn’t hurt bad enough. He howls, but he has gotten used to the pain.
My dear friend reading this message today: Are you sitting on a rusty nail? Have you gotten used to the pain of abuse, being broke, being unhappy or being unhealthy? Have you gotten used to a dead-end relationship or job? Have you gotten used to being overweight or living below your standards? Are you making a lot of noise about your disappointments or drama in your family? Are you making a lot of noise disturbing others around you? Have you gotten used to being broke, sick and tired? Is your rusty nail the people in your life who take your kindness for granted? Are you howling instead of developing your voice of self-esteem and self-worth? What issues in your life need your attention, faith, courage and action?
Get off your rusty nail! No longer howl nor complain! No more noise, make a choice today to create the life you desire! No longer justify or deny your pain.
Get off your rusty nail and be fruitful. Get off your rusty nail and discover the courage and faith to take action. Get off your rusty nail and don’t allow fear nor procrastination to keep you on the “porch of limitation”. ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor, www.DoNotGiveUp.net
Woman: Why doesn’t your dog get up off that rusty nail?
a lot of noise about your disappointments or drama in your family? Are you making a lot of noise disturbing others around you? Have you gotten used to being broke, sick and tired? Is your rusty nail the people in your life who take your kindness for granted? Are you howling instead of developing your voice of self-esteem and self-worth? What issues in your life need your attention, faith, courage and action?
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