I need Jewel’s Life Coaching

“My particular style of counseling/coaching and keynote speaking offers you insights to; stop procrastination, heal from the shame and triggers from past emotional pain, bullet proof your self-esteem, deepen your faith and resilience, improve your relationships I.Q., recognize your gifts and purpose, build up your confidence, and reboots you into positive action.

Encouragement and accountability helps you to engage and trust your own possibilities, power, and potential. Sometimes you are unable to see your own blind spots or your possibilities. Some of the deepest longing in you is the voice of your purpose and gift. It calls you to follow a path of action, courage, integrity and humility. Call me 323.964.1736 to set up your one-on-one coaching/counseling with me or for a speaking engagement … email Jewelmotivates@gmail.com

  Here are some signs you would benefit from having Jewel Diamond Taylor offer you life coaching:

 . you’re not happy with your current life situation, not sure where to start (feeling stuck)

. you have trouble staying motivated

. your heart was broken and it stole your joy and self-motivation

. you desire a breakthrough in your confidence and momentum to move forward with your goals

. your faith, self-esteem, and confidence have been shaken because of the shifts, storms,  and stress in your life

. you lack support from family and friends and need a safe place to think and plan out loud

. you have goals, but find it hard to keep on track, resulting into procrastination

. you have something important in your life that you keep thinking about, but never take any action

. you are isolated and need to align with the right connections and resources to grow in your goals, ministry, leadership, business, personal life, purpose, and faith.

How you can benefit from coaching/counseling with Jewel Diamond Taylor;

1) Increase your self-awareness (e.g. patterns, mind traps, purpose, relationships, strengths, possibilities).
2) Recognize when you are caught in self-defeating patterns (e.g. procrastination, anger, addiction, shutting down, shame, people-pleasing, fear) and convert them to positive actions.
3) Connect the dots from your past to your present state of mind to heal from a childhood of dysfunction, abandonment, trauma, struggle, abuse, etc.
4) Gain coping skills to lower your stress and reactivity to past hurt, grief, divorce, betrayals, broken relationships, and setbacks.
5) Discover your voice from; silent suffering, feeling numb, abuse, and gaslighting relationships.
6) Become emotionally healthy, leading to inner peace, satisfaction, confidence, resiliency, and productivity.
7) Cultivate and strengthen your sense of worthiness, confidence, faith, courage, vision, and momentum to live your best life.
Call 323.964.1736 or emailJewelMotivates@gmail.com

 
Everyone has different needs and different definitions of a “life coach.”
As a popular in-demand life coach, Jewel Diamond Taylor is multi-faceted (e.g. accountability coach, advisor, supportive listener, resource center, strategist to support you in achieving a goal, sounding board, life makeover, spiritual exhorter to build up your faith, hope and life purpose, counselor for emotional wellness and resiliency after a life change (e.g. divorce, layoff, disappointments, stress, feeling stuck, abuse,  etc.).  How would you like the Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor to support you at this time?

Read Testimonies…

” Jewel is an extremely astute coach, mentor, listener, and guide. I had an initial Skype session with Jewel some time back. Since then I have aimed to put in to practice the clear steps she advised me to look at and work on. However, recently I hit a wall and had an epiphany of what lay at the heart of the majority of my very long-standing ‘ negative – self’ mindset issues and this resulting suppressant to reach the potential God is calling me to. I knew how deeply significant this was for me and that I’d arrived at a clear watershed in my life. I immediately knew I needed to speak with Jewel. I knew she would read my situation, understand and discern with incisive authority, speaking courage, truth, honor, and measured calm in the way that was necessary and fully appropriate to me. I can’t recommend her highly enough. If you are really serious in turning your damaged mindsets round in your life for good so you can move on permanently speak with Jewel to get you on the right path and beyond. Jewel is the total package and genuine spirit-filled- sent angel for those of us who need genuine encouragement and a restoration of true self-worth.” – Emily, The United Kingdom

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kimberly williams 2 (1)I had an amazing “author and speaking coaching session” with author and motivational speaker Jewel Diamond Taylor.  Anyone who aspires to go to the next level, you must have a mentor or a personal development coach.  It’s wonderful when you meet someone that likes you on the next level and can give you guidance as well as give you the ingredients to success!  Thank you Jewel for your keen insight, Godly wisdom, and superb road map for success and serving the Kingdom.” Kimberly Williams (speaker and author), Founder of the Matriarch Society

“Since I have joined Jewel Diamond Taylor’s mentoring class my Vision has gone to another level. I thank God for Mrs. Jewel Diamond Taylor she’s awesome.” – Emertha Jones

My dear beloved Life Coach Jewel: “I wanted to share the fruits of your love as my coach.  I couldn’t see the vision and looked down and wanted to give up and you helped lift my head to the Lord from whom ALL my help comes from. From that day in 1993, when I felt my life was not worth living and I contemplated suicide you came into my life via email. God dispatched you as my Angel to lead, guide, and encourage me. With all your books, CDs, and individual coaching over the past 24 years I am humbled and honored to share my endeavors with you.  I will be retiring from my job in Sept 2016. With your coaching and inspiration along with the Holy Spirit I have two businesses that God birth into my spirit last year around this time. I’m forever grateful for you my Angel. Once I’m retired I can’t wait to attend one of your retreats. Love you with all my heart mind and spirit.” ~ Charmaine (Maryland).

I had a great life coaching session with a new client Emily from the U.K. London. We had our 90 minute session via skype. I thank her for sharing her positive feedback below.
“Hello Jewel… Just to thank you very much for our session together.  I found it totally edifying. Lots of notes and things to ruminate, work, reflect and make friends with myself on. I already feel like I am on a re-defined path of growth, like you have switched on my re-set button. Crucially though without being knocked sideways, radically changing my vision or what I feel God has been nudging and encouraging me towards. It just means navigating the path I will know more what to tune into, in order to maintain stamina and clarity, plus nurse any dispiriting days…which are inevitable as well as the good. I would love to have another session soon.” Warmly, Emily

“I took advantage of this and it was by far one of the best experiences/ coaching session ever. I was very touched that Mrs. Taylor ended our coaching session in Prayer not to mention I felt like a conqueror afterward. I’m in desperate need of another coaching session and hopefully, I can secure the available slots. Thank you!!” Wendy Reed, California

“My decision to meet with Jewel as a Life Coach was a divine life-changing decision. Jewel was so easy to talk to and I instantly felt comfortable enough to open up and share things that I had not shared before. She truly understood me which meant so much. The nuggets of wisdom that I walked away with I will forever treasure. She is truly an anointed Woman of God.” – B. W. (California)

“I just wanted to take a minute to share with you the force of nature that is Jewel Diamond Taylor. I first met Jewel back in the 90’s when she was a keynote speaker for African American Tour, a national tour featuring powerhouse African American women whose mission was to inspire and empower. Jewel was so awesome that she was asked to speak in every city for the many years that the tour ran. I was immediately captivated, and have followed her ever since. I’ve gone to her conferences and workshops in different states. I get her e-newsletters. I bought her books. Given her CD’s as gifts. Engaged her to facilitate our women’s weekend retreats (five times over the last 20 years, to date). and regularly visit her website. All are inspiriting and empowering.   What sets Jewel apart is her empathy, humor, style, insight, and spirit. Jewel excels at getting to the heart of the matter, and challenging women to take risks and embrace change. Jewel has taught me to see challenges as opportunities. She is unafraid to share her own testimony, and does so with grace, humility, and humor. Jewel has a wealth of information, and communicates it in a style that is both engaging and relatable. She doesn’t preach. She empowers! Jewel’s life-strategies are life-changing! She is that good!” ~ Roxanne Joy Johnson, New York
“I am a great fan of Jewel Diamond Taylor. She is a genius when it comes down to helping others. Her tremendous life coaching skills have been so helpful in helping me and others to deal with life, family situations and even MY marriage. She empowers me and so many others with her wealth of knowledge and wisdom that she spreads. ~ Kem Morris

Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivator, Speaker, Life Coach, Author, Supreme Woman of God, what else can I say? Truly my first session with Jewel was an appointment ordained by God. Jewel is truly gifted in her profession and anointed by God. I would have never imagined that I would have an opportunity to work with Jewel from a one-on-one coaching perspective. All I can say is God opened the door. My first session was very informative and caused me to do some heartfelt soul searching. I thank God for Jewel’s book, “You Deserve More” because it gave me a voice around what I could not say of did not know how to say. I could relate to everything in the book.  I would strongly recommend that purchase. Make an investment in yourself.  During my session with Jewel, she asked probing questions with genuineness and sincerity to understand my expectations and needs. She was very transparent in sharing her experiences which assisted me in expressing and communicating what I was looking to change and improve. Jewel was empathetic and focused on ensuring I pursue my best self in all areas, personally, emotionally, professionally, spiritually, and financially.  The most amazing part of this experience was the very next morning after the session, I googled a particular topic on joy and so many of the things that Jewel discussed during my session were confirmed by this article that I searched. I don’t call this luck, I call that an anointed and divine session that God had orchestrated from the time I was being formed in my mother’s womb. Jewel, thank you for a wonderful first session. I look forward to many more. To those of you that are going through any challenge or obstacle, love yourself, invest in yourself because YOU are worth it. Be Blessed and as Jewel says, “Stay In The Light”. ~ Renee (Delaware)

“I could not afford some other women coaches that I researched, but I’m glad I found Dr. Jewel because she is affordable but also very knowledgeable, helpful, and spiritually grounded. She really understands women’s issues. She is a wife, mother, sister, entrepreneur, minister and experienced depression and grief after losing her Mother and son to cancer. I felt very comfortable opening up my heart to her about my issues. She taught me that transparency leads to a triumphant victory of healing. Thank you Dr. Jewel!” ~ Deborah E. in Dallas, TX
“All I can say is “WOW”! I thought it would be embarrassing or useless to have counseling. I was so wrong. My phone sessions with Dr. Jewel have been life-changing. So glad I found her web site and picked up the phone.” ~ Nikki, Oakland, CA

“Now that I am away from family, friends, and my community stationed in Japan, I needed emotional support to cope with change. Thank you so much Jewel for offering your coaching services by SKYPE which helped to settle my spirit and regain my focus. God Bless you!” ~ Sandra B. – JAPAN

Coping with Stress and Pressure

“When you are feeling under the pressure of life, be careful not to lose your way, your faith or your identity.  When I see the word “pressure”… I see two (2) words, PRESS and SURE.

The heavy weight of maintaining your family, business, ministry, job, studies, finances and meeting deadliness can PRESS down on you so hard that you can begin to question God and yourself.  You could begin to ask, “Are you sure God I’m supposed to be doing this? Are you sure I am anointed, blessed, talented, covered, called and destined to do this?  The phone isn’t ringing. The sales are slow. My progress is slow.  I feel stuck.  No one seems interested in keeping the family, the team, business or ministry together. You may begin to question yourself under the pressure and ask yourself, “Am I sure I can do this?  Am I sure God will show up?  Am I sure things will work out?  Am I sure I am qualified and ready? I’m not sure I can cope and handle this difficult situation.

When you are confused and discouraged because of the pressures in your life you could begin to give up.  You could easily give up your calling or decide to change your direction and do something different because your identity in God has been stolen.

These questions under pressure can cause you to experience Identity Theft.  External and internal voices, feelings and situations can cause you to lose your confidence and trust in God and trust in yourself.

   The term “identity theft” comes from the escalating criminal acts of finances, identification and credit being stolen. Those who fight against identity theft and arrest the criminals, warn people to do three (3) things to avoid identity theft.

I think the three steps can also be applied to protecting your spiritual identity. 1) DETER – minimize risk and safeguard important information and documents.

2) DETECT suspicious activity by routinely monitoring your financial accounts and billing statements.  3) DEFEND your identity and alert creditors to follow certain procedures before they open new accounts in your name or make changes to your existing accounts.

Everyone needs to realize they are vulnerable to financial and spiritual identity theft.  Thieves are cunning.  They study your habits and routine.  They look for easy access to your information.  The enemy knows when you are feeling down, discouraged, hopeless and dePRESSed.  The enemy knows when you are vulnerable.

When it comes to proactive steps to protect your spiritual identity 1) DETER – minimize risk by protecting your heart and who you share your time, dreams, goals and conversations with.  2) DETECT suspicious activity by monitoring on a regular basis your relationships, what you say, how you feel and what you believe. Check your spirit to avoid depression, pity parties, sabotaging behavior like shame, guilt and procrastination.  3) DEFEND yourself.  Block the enemy from stealing your joy and purpose.  Before you slip into darkness and want to give up, remind yourself who you really are in God.  Speak your declarations and affirmations.  Proclaim again that you are worthy, qualified, blessed and resilient. Go for it.  Stick with it.  Don’t let internal or external enemies discourage you with doubt. Defending your dreams and goals is like hiding a priceless jewels so potential robbers won’t find them and steal them. Defend your purpose and those dreams and goals which are precious to you.  Defend and protect your identity in the Lord.  You are who God says you are. Encourage yourself and defend your worthiness, talents, dreams, purpose and faith in God.  Read Psalm 139:17-18 and remember how precious you are to God.

1 Peter 3:15 says, “Always  be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.” ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor

How to See Your Possibilities More Clearly

  “I remember laughing with one of my beloved spiritual Mothers about her vision. She told me that after finally removing her corrective glasses from her cataract surgery, she thought someone came in and repainted her home.  She said everything looked so bright and new.
     That’s what happens when we get our vision corrected.  We begin to see life differently.
     If you have no vision for your future, everything will seem dark and gloomy.  The word of God tells us that, “A man without vision will perish.” (Proverbs 29:18)
 how we see things    Let me encourage you to get a new vision for your life this year.  Get clear about your priorities and goals to overcome blurry vision.  Begin to SEE your possibilities and abilities to create the life you want to live.  Begin to SEE that you do not have to allow your past to become your identity.  Begin to SEE that there is life after a break up, divorce, death of loved one, lay off or setback.  Begin to SEE that you can overcome the darkness of depression and hopelessness.  Begin to SEE that you are worthy and courageous enough to take action toward your goals and dreams.  Begin to SEE with your spiritual vision the car, home, graduation, health, loving relationship, recovery, business, ministry, etc.  Begin to SEE your beauty, strengths, gifts and talents.  Begin to SEE that God’s grace and power are within you.  God’s promise over life never changes.  Once you change how you SEE your life, everything will look bright and new.  It is a choice to correct your spiritual vision.    Jewel Diamond Taylor, www.DoNotGiveUp.net

5 Bold Ways to Stand Out and Land Your Dream Job

Doing your homework is one thing, but an excellent resume doesn’t cut it in a crowd of equally strong resumes. Instead, start thinking, planning and creating. As long as you’re prepared for a bit of hard work, you can find ways to stand out from the crowd.

Click this link below to read the entire article by Ron Stewart

http://blog.brazencareerist.com/2014/10/27/5-bold-ways-stand-land-dream-job/

If you need a spiritual boost in your prayer life for a new job, visit

http://www.DoNotGiveUp.net/JobPrayer

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Making Better Decisions (2014)

Decision

Your daily decisions shape your destiny. Make up your mind that your thoughts, words and actions will break cycles of frustrations and failure.  Make up your mind that you will invest in your success, health, faith, abundance, relationships and purpose.

Train your mind to SEEK opportunities.  SEE opportunities.  SEIZE opportunities.  SEE that you are worthy, willing and courageous.

There are no guarantees. Certainly you can never know in advance whether a decision will be correct, therefore, you must be prepared to take risks.  The more courage you show in making decisions, the more you improve your skill.

Look for the opportunities. If you make a mistake, view it as an opportunity to learn what didn’t work and why. Many times decisions are reversible and you can change your mind.

Hindsight is 20/20.  You might discover in hindsight situations that may have affected your decision had you known about them earlier.  This is normal and typical but should not stall your decision-making process.

Don’t make hasty and emotional decisions especially when you just received a large amount of money from gambling, the lottery, job bonus, family inheritance, insurance settlement or when you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired.

The habit of avoidance and procrastination is costly (financially, physically, your relationships and your peace of mind).  Listen to my CD on Procrastination to learn the power of making decisions and taking action.

Do not get stuck and do nothing. If you’ve done everything you can to make a good decision and still can’t make up your mind, do not delay making an important decision for fear that you don’t know enough or will make the wrong choice.  Make decisions with confidence and courage.

Don’t let fear stop you. Sometimes people become so paralyzed with the fear of making a wrong decision that they panic and lose sight of what they’re trying to accomplish.  This hinders making any decision.  Don’t assume the worst or allow other people’s opinions to cloud your judgement and faith.  Don’t second-guess yourself and talk yourself out of action, momentum, breakthroughs and peace of mind.

When all is said and done, all you can do is the best with what you have to work with. Do not underestimate the power of intuition, intelligence, ideas and instincts.

Scripture suggestions about making decisions:

Proverbs 3:5-6, James 1:5, Jeremiah 33:3

Big Important Tip for Your Success

Writing down your goals and intentions will force you to clarify what YOU want.  Imagine going to the airport with no particular destination, time or date for departure or return?  You will get no where until you are specific and clear.  Your life is more critical than a trip.  Your life needs focus, intention and clarity.

writing down goals 2Writing down your goals forces you to select something specific and decide what you want for your life journey or simply your daily tasks.   Write down your goals as if you were placing an order for your goal to be manufactured in a factory or is if you were planning your ideal vacation. Writing down your clear and measurable goals (e.g. what, when, where, why, who) and revisiting them regularly will help you to stay on track.

If your goals are out of sight, they are out of your mind.  Keep your written goals visible and review them often.  Read my e-book “The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing, The MAIN THING. $8..99  

No, you may not achieve all your goals in life, but you certainly increase your chances of achieving your small or big goals, if you write them down. So watch out for the distractions, doubt and procrastination. Stuff happens in life, so don’t be easily discouraged.
Life can be challenging and bring a lot of obstacles.  If you are not seeing progress in your life, it can be depressing.  So remember the habit of writing down your goals which allows you to see your progress and celebrate as you check off each mini-goal achieved.

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6 Things That Can Mess Up Your Life

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There are so many factors that can rob you of peace, block your blessings and stop you from achieving your dreams and goals.  Below is a partial list of some of the most critical hindering factors:

1. People – Surround yourself with people of like mind, similar interests/values and who have a positive impact on your life.  You won’t grow around negative people who lack faith and live in fear, drama, and dysfunction.

2.  Past – Don’t dwell on your negative past which only increases guilt, shame and a low sense of self-worth.  You can’t focus on your past and bright future at the same time.

3.  Pity parties – Seek ways to heal any depression, grief, sadness, discouragement or self-loathing.

4.  Present situation – If your present circumstances are unpleasant, challenging or limiting…remember, this, too, shall pass.  Don’t allow your present circumstances to steal your hope, joy and faith.

5. Procrastination is birthed out of fear, low self-esteem, doubt and lack of organization in your life.  Procrastination is a thief.  Get rid of clutter.  Think about the rewards or the consequences you will have if you don’t take some positive action steps today to break the habit of avoidance. Get busy!

6. Pain – If you are suffering from any emotional or physical pain, seek help. It’s difficult feeling optimistic, grateful and productive if you are ignoring any symptoms of pain.  You need your mind and body healthy, clear and energized.  Get your life, joy and health back.

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You Have 2 Brains – Which one are you listening to?

Did you know your body has two (2) brains?  I was reminded of this medical revelation from an experience I had 20 years ago.  I was invited to inspire women living with HIV/Aids but I was the one who left encouraged after my brief encounter and hug from a sightless man who was there as one of the social workers.  I will always remember what this blind man said to me after finishing my keynote speech at a large health conference on a Tuesday in Southern California.  This sightless man stood patiently in my long book signing line to tell me something that has remained with me for 20 years.  When I doubt my purpose or ask God if I should stick with my passion when times are difficult or the speaking invitations come in slow… I remember what he said.  When I question my decision to quit my human resources job with a pay check every week to become self-employed…I remember what he said to me.  He did not see the dress I was wearing.    He did not see my performance of sign language to a Yolanda Adam’s song “Never Give Up.”  He did not see my handouts.   He did not see all the things I prepared to visually inspire and educate my audience.  He didn’t see all the external things that I took so much time planning for or worrying what other people saw or thought about me (e.g. how I looked, how I stood, what I was wearing, my printed handouts, my hair, my jewelry, my shoes, my nails, etc.)  This sightless man standing alone without any assistance but his cane said to me, “Thank you Jewel for following your golden gut.  You have touched my spirit.  I felt your energy and I am encouraged to go on.”  WOW!!  My golden gut!

Dr. Gershon, coined the term “second brain” in 1996.  He is one of many researchers who studies brain-gut connections.  The brain controls behavior. Butterflies in your stomach (gut) rise when the brain sends a message of anxiety to the gut, which sends messages back to the brain that it’s unhappy. But the gut has been referred to as your second brain.  Your gut is where you have feelings of being; guided, warned, nervous, sad, happy, in love, or depressed.  Your stomach (gut) dictates your mood and appetite.  Your gut feelings give you warnings and sometimes you may regretfully ignore what your gut (instincts) are telling you.  Your brain and “golden gut” are connected and communicate. My golden gut feeling (instincts, emotions, true north, God’s voice) guided me to quit my job and start my public speaking career in 1984.  Sometimes I question my decision.  But for the most part I’m glad I listened to my golden gut.  That sightless man saw in me the invisible.  He helped me to remember my “why” I wanted to make a difference.  I wanted the freedom of developing my own future.  I wanted to impact people’s lives in a positive way.  I wanted to express what God had revealed to me about love, faith, courage, wisdom, healing, self-esteem, resiliency, perseverance and purpose.  I had no mentors, no web site, no clue and no money but I began following my gut.

I consulted my first brain for logic and set a goal when I should begin my new golden career.  My first brain (mental) calls it risk taking.

My second brain (emotions) calls it a leap of faith.   My first brain wanted a plan.  My first brain was full of doubt and fear.  My second brain was full of excitement and gave me courage.  My second brain compelled me to follow my dream and my heart.   If you only listen to the logic in your first brain, the fear and rational thinking may paralyze you.  If you only listen to your second brain (emotions) without consulting your first brain (logic), you may impulsively make decisions you will soon regret.

What is your “golden gut” saying to you?  I hope you are inspired to discover the golden treasures and life purpose God has for you by listening to your second brain…your golden gut.  Pray that God will guide you to find your hidden golden treasures (Proverbs 2:4) ~ by Jewel Diamond Taylor

 

Don’t Give Up

You may feel your life is blessed …but in a mess.  You may feel your car is a lemon; your body image is ugly, your heart is broken and lonely, your life is on hold, your bank account is low, your faith is stretched to the limit, your job is stressful and your life won’t get any better than this.

Miracles happen every day.  Don’t let the spirit of defeat, depression and disappointment rob you of the wonder, blessings, favor, love and supernatural breakthroughs God can bring.   Say “yes” to miracles, hope and God’s gifts of peace and provision.   Proclaim and announce to the enemy within and without that something great is about to happen.  (Request a free copy of Jewel’s e-book “Something Great is About to Happen” – send request to Jewel@DoNotGiveUp.net)

Nothing you have done has been a waste of time.  Whatever you are going through, let it grow you.  Everything you have been through is a stepping stone to your next level.  Don’t let boredom, depression, fear or procrastination steal your joy or success.  Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.  Whatever you are going through, you can make it.  Do not put yourself down.   Do not count yourself out the game.  Do not dump your anger on others or play the blame game.   Do not shut down, withdraw and isolate yourself.  Help is on the way.   Cancel the pity party.  Get up!   Shake of the stress, doubt and worry.  Focus on solutions.  Pray for discernment, courage and wisdom.  Analyze your options.  Make a decision.  Take action and move forward one step at a time.  You will have a great testimony of your faith, endurance and creative problem solving skills.   You will come through this stronger and wiser.

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I’m Tired – Lost My Joy

Pain and suffering are gifts nobody wants.  I’ve come to understand and embrace the fact that life is bitter and sweet.  If we never experience pain or loss, we never really experience joy.  If we never learn how to cope with difficult times, we become hard, cold, afraid, self-centered, defeated, hopeless, overwhelmed and insensitive to the pain of others around us.

We all experience seasons of pain,suffering, delays, loss, discouragement and change.  You may be overwhelmed with your own issues of poor health, financial stress, divorce, unemployment or worry.  Or you may be overwhelmed because you are a caregiver for a loved one living with autism, addictions, mental illness, cancer or in prison.  It’s enough to steal your joy and sap you of your patience, time, energy, faith and finances.  Only those who have a mustard seed of faith, a remnant of hope and strong in their resolve to press on, will survive tough times. Conquering your giants requires you to live with the realities in your life and then empower yourself to take action.  In your exhaustion and suffering, I pray you find a fresh reason to hope and hold on to your faith.   Recognize the need for healing and strength to endure.   For us to receive the healing of emotional wounds, we must first acknowledge that we are hurting (Matthew 9:10-13, Revelation 3:17). Many of us have lied to ourselves as well as to others. We have said, “I’m really O.K.” or “It really doesn’t matter that much.” Or “I am ashamed and don’t want people to know.” Denial can become a habit, your unconscious defense mechanism.  Denial wants to reduce anxiety, pain, thoughts, feelings, or facts that are consciously too difficult to face.

Sometimes life is not turning right, it makes a left turn.  Sometimes your life doesn’t feel just fine (like Mary J’s song says) and you want growth, stability, progress, love, abundance, joy, health and peace.  Awareness and acceptance are the first place to start if you want to be delivered from pain into peace.

What issues in your life are you trying to avoid? i.e. weight/health, debt, loss, anger, abuse, poor choices in your relationships, family secrets, the pain from your past, bad habits that have become addictions, disorder and clutter in your life, employment, your age or fear of being alone?  Assess your stress! You may be asking, “Why do I keep repeating the same mistakes? How do I break this cycle of depression, worry or self-destructive addictions?” Why do I try so hard to get people to love me and understand me? How do I find some peace in my life instead of always falling to pieces? Why am I always comparing my life to others?

If you don’t honestly look at your pattern of behavior and beliefs, your mind traps will become stronger.  You may realize in this season of your life that you are caught up in an emotional and mental trap. You may realize that the source of your unhappiness and stress is your inability to free yourself from the traps.

As you begin to fully acknowledge that you are often ruled by a protective emotional mask and caught up in a trap to cope with life, your transformational process can happen. Do you genuinely want to make your emotional health a priority?  You can learn how to break the toxic cycle of poor emotional health which is destroying families, children, marriages, careers and even communities.

As you decide and commit to assessing, admitting, and reducing your emotional wounds, you will experience “aha” moments, breakthroughs, and new insights to free yourself from self-defeating mind traps. You will feel more clear, focused, alert, motivated, decisive, calm and centered.

The joy of sharing this information cannot be measured. I discovered so much about the mind and emotional traps through study, self-discovery, counseling, prayer and the courage to find my voice.  I began to discover some common mental and emotional traps.

     Rescuer Trap– Because of a parent’s weakness, absence orpush for excellence, a child can grow up fast and become the “little adult” and feels responsible for other family members’ welfare and comfort, and “keeping the family together. This trap makes one feel they must protect their caregivers and siblings because no one else will. This hinders the child from experiencing normal childhood development.

The need to help others even at the expense and risk of your own well-being is the mind trap. You can never say, “no” to someone’s requests. You receive emotional satisfaction playing the hero and the fixer role. The trap of a caretaker is feeling responsible for compensating for their personality-disordered loved-one’s behaviors, cleaning up any messes created by their actions and fixing any problems arising from their mental or emotional issues. Soon resentment, exhaustion, financial stress, poor health and isolation happen because of burnout.

     Martyr Trap– The Martyr refuses to indulge or enjoy even thesimple pleasures of life. As a result they are always victimizing and punishing themselves. The martyr type’s giving is often totally selfish, it’s not heart orientated giving, because the martyr is simply trying to get your attention by victimizing themselves – it’s an attention seeking strategy, selfish and dangerous. Martyrs are people who recognize they are being taken advantage of and choose to remain in the situation. Martyrs often seek sympathy for their plight. They seek support, advice and help from others.

The trap is believing you are stuck in a situation and seem to be unable to resolve it. Martyrs often believe it is their obligation to remain in their position in life. They would feel guilty if they let go of the current situation. They fear taking the risk to change the situation.

Martyrs are “professional” help seekers. They make the rounds of paid and volunteer helpers, advice givers, counselors/consultants–anyone willing to listen to their tale of woe. Unfortunately, they usually ignore the assistance, advice or direction they are given.

      Victim trap – People who are taken advantage of but areunaware of being treated as such. Victims are individuals whose rights are ignored and abused but were unaware that they would be treated in this manner before they entered the situation. Victims often suffer silently for long periods of time before they are able to verbalize the unfairness of their life situations. Victims frequently never seek help. They are often frustrated and lost as to what needs to be done to get them out of their current situation.

      Procrastinator Trap–This person is caught in a cycle ofavoidance. Their mind trap convinces them they more time or that they should wait until everything is perfect before starting. Or the mind trap will collaborate with your inner critic to convince you that you should wait until you are perfect before starting something new. This mind trap causes you to postpone unpleasant responsibilities and situations. This emotional trap is costly because you lose time and opportunities, your health deteriorates, your money, credit, integrity and peace of mind suffer. The procrastination habit is a thief!

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