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Break free from dysfunctional generational patterns

What is the story you have been telling yourself?  When you are consumed with fear, grief, disappointment, rejection, shame, worry or anger it is difficult to “see” the bigger picture.  It is difficult to hear from God.

To survive…you may detach, shut down, go into denial, strive for perfectionism and live in hyperdrive to achieve, lash out to others, severely blame yourself, overeat, overspend, and define yourself by your past.  You may have blind spots and cannot see hope, your future, your value or the bigger picture.

Are you cruising on auto-pilot and not really aware of the story in your head…not aware or willing to admit you have given your power away living in fear, abuse, poor health, toxic relationships, procrastination, financial stress, depression, shame, blame, resentment, burn out, loneliness, addiction or secrets?

You can learn to change how you see and interpret your past.  You can learn to re-work your old narrative stories of being a victim, unworthy, powerless, useless and meaningless to find the lesson, peace, and renewal.

You can find something worthwhile, in what, at one point seemed unbearable, inconvenient, unfair, stressful or painful episodes in your life. 

God can write a best seller in you. Your life story is important. 

The characters in your story may be loving, mysterious, helpful, hurtful, sad, misbehave or leave you.   Each one is writing pages in your book of blessing.  Some of your chapters are long and some are short.

To survive an adverse childhood full of dysfunction, instability, abuse or neglect, you have unconsciously taken on the role of;

. The Helper, The Co-dependent, The Enabler, The Sad One

. The Comedian, The Goof off, The Slacker

. The Good Child, The Perfectionist, The Narcissist,

. The High Achiever, The Low Maintenance Child (the invisible ghost)

. The Truth Teller, The Defiant/Angry One, The Scapegoat/Black Sheep

. The Emotional Dumpster, The Drama Queen, The Addict

. The Lost Child, The Adjuster, The Caretaker, The Mascot

. The Silent Sufferer, The Responsible Child, The Family Hero

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Discover your authentic self (e.g. the pain and joy, your unique strengths and gifts, talents, trials and triumphs, being lost and found, interests and purpose) WITHOUT the denial, anger, illusion, fantasies or creating another generation of dysfunction, pain, addictions, secrets, and brokenness.

Your past may be ugly, painful or traumatic.  You have to acknowledge it but you don’t have to let it define, limit or imprison you.  I help others to reframe and learn how to heal those broken places in their lives by acknowledging the truth of their past circumstances and choices. You can learn to break free from dysfunctional generational patterns.

Get self-motivated Get your own matches to get on fire to live your life of purpose, joy, truth, courage, love, peace, health and abundance.  What this brief video message…you will be glad you did.” 

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Watch Out for the Joy Stealers, Energy Vampires

A few days ago I couldn’t understand why I was feeling down, irritated and exhausted.  After I traced my last few conversations, phone calls, places I went and personal encounters…I figured it out.  I had a conversation with a person who has the personality of what I call a “vacuum cleaner.”  This type “sucks” out all of your joy, energy and oxygen in the room.  This type of person can leave you feeling empty, fearful, or depressed.  I’m learning more and more of the importance to be careful and have boundaries around people who are like “energy vampires”, “vacuum cleaners”, “joy stealers”, and “blessing blockers.”

Have you ever eaten some food and then became violently sick and realized it was food poisoning?  Well I think we should be aware of people in our lives who can give us “mood poisoning.”

Guard your heart, ears, eyes and spirit.  The more you detox your life from people, habits and things that rob you of your peace, the more you will be sensitive to mood poisoning people who are critical, self-absorbed, gossipers, naggers, manipulative, negative, complainers, pessimistic, needy and emotionally messy.

People who lack confidence and full of gloom and doom, distrust, and anxiety are a toxic cocktail mix.  Learn to be smart with your heart, mind and time. You may work with them or they may be in your family, church, campus, neighbor, organization or circle of friends.  Yes, we must learn how to navigate our relationships with love, patience, diplomacy and care.  Learn to assess which relationships are healthy and which you need to limit or distance yourself from.  ~ Jewel Diamond Taylor