Newsletter Update April 26,2021

Feedback from a MARRIED COUPLE who are receiving weekly counseling with the Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor:

I’m realizing the dysfunctional relationship I have had for so many years of rejections and criticism from mother has effected my marriage. You have helped me to understand why I am so hard on myself and constantly trying to prove my love to my wife.

My wife and I learned some real good communication skills. We can see a difference in the way we are dealing with our disagreements…I am learning to respond and not react.

I can really see a difference in my husband. I can see he is really tryiing to change and think before he blows up with anxiety and impatience.

We are learning how to be more honest about our feelings and triggers. Thank you Dr. Jewel for these weekly sessions. We are telling other couples about your counseling service.

Feedback from SEVERAL WOMEN who share their takeway from their sessions with The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor:

. I am more of an avoidant mom than a smothering mom.  I don’t like feeling smothered or too bothered and I get overwhelmed with conflict or responsibility  because I was such a young mom and I was a single mom for most of my children’s lives so I avoid stuff to protect my self.

. My parents did they best they could but I didnt have  a perfect model of parenting and I am parenting from some of those same flawed parenting techniques.

. I may have wrong expectations about the type of parent I can be and I need to practice more self compassion.

. I am struggling to confront and draw boundaries with my mother who is manipulative, emotionally distant, and shows me no respect. You are helping me to accept the reality of her personality and this dysfunctional relationship. I am drained emotionally and it is affecting other areas of my life.

. As a young woman who had a lot of bad decisions with men, you are giving me guidance and helping me to move forward after some deep depression, feeling suicidal, angry, and ashamed. I’m so glad my Grandmother referred me to you for counseling and coaching. I now have 2 new jobs and accepted to go go to community college.

. I can feel the pain but I don’t have to feed it. (For me the feeding is with shopping and eating, and I buying my kids stuff so they wont feel pain and I wont feel guilty.)

. No more secrets I don’t have to be ashamed of my past.  I can be vulnerable and transparent, it is freeing!

. I am gaining so much clarity and feeling free from guilt, shame , and always being the giver, fixer, and go-to person in my family. It’s my time now to start finding out what I want, need, and deserve. My life has been about helping everybody for so many years and now these sessions are strengthening my self-esteem and I’m taking some positive actions to let go and reduce the drama and stress I’ve been feeling for years.

. Generational patterns are repeating themselves, I’m seeing my daughters are making some of my same mistakes.  Divorce, unwed mom, being with men that are broken and don’t value selves and finding men that don’t value them.

. I share too much business with my children because I haven’t had a spouse for many years.

. You helped me to see that we can shine on our jobs and fail at home.

. I need to recognize and acknowledge the things I was running from or I will leave a trail behind me.It may make me uncomfortable at first but it is liberating.

To contact The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor for one-on-one life coaching or counseling, email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com or call 323.964.1736

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Remember to listen to Jewel’s over 100 podcasts. They will GROW your mind! https://jewelspodcasts.buzzsprout.com/

Some lessons are caught, taught, and some are bought

 

God has been “growing” my mind.  I have been learning some rough and beautiful life lessons.

I love being a woman on the grow!  I am learning to reflect on my past with “Kindsight”, to be compassionate, real, and patient with myself.

Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with those areas in your life where you need to grow.  

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Don’t ever wander so far away from your true self just to get close to someone else.

A SHIP is designed to take you places.  
So if your friendSHIP, partnerSHIP, or relationSHIP isn’t taking you anywhere positive and helpful…think…is it time to abandon SHIP?

Some people like to stay busy and distracted or stay in a blame/victim mentality instead of sitting still to reflect, sit with their pain, and heal.  Once you are courageous enough to live with the reality of your pain, loss, setback, heartache, regrets, or disappointments, and patterns … you will be in a position to walk the emotional path of acceptance, healing, renewal, and restoration of self-worth and faith.

Too often I hear people saying they are fighting their demons when the reality is they’re fighting and resisting the consequences of their choices.

Could it be life is inviting you to build spiritual stamina, mental health, and emotional wellness?

Until YOU heal…you will be toxic to anyone who tries to hire you, collaborate with you, befriend you, or love you.

Are you willing to examine your thoughts, patterns, relationships, choices, and emotional capacity to cope with stress?

Positive thinking and faith do not work unless you understand the roots of your beliefs and behaviors.  You can’t ignore your past conditioning, experiences, trauma, fantasies, expectations, and cultural programming. Once you accept your shadow self and all the many versions of YOU, your AWARENESS becomes your superpower to begin transforming your life.

For that someone who has the courage to speak up, armor up, and NOT return to that person or habit which is your “Egypt” (a place of bondage, i.e. addiction, shame, anger, dishonesty, debt, pride, abuse, self-harm, family secrets, or a dysfunctional relationship)… I encourage you to keep walking into your place of promise, freedom, and peace.  Stay in the light.  Getting help can help you overcome the darkness and break unhealthy patterns.

call 323.964.1736 or email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com to reserve your one-on-one video conference with Jewel Diamond Taylor, aka The Self-esteem Dr.

Jewel Diamond Taylor’s Speaking Calendar

March 21 – She is Well Book Launch and Virtual Summit (Maryland)

March 21 –  Sisters4SistersNetwork.org (Maryland)

March 24 Lexington Housing Authority Family Sufficiency Program virtual learning series in North Carolina

March 27 – Women with Visions, Unlimited Women’s History Month Program

March 27 – San Jose Multicultural Artist Guild Girlfriend Appreciation virtual program

March 31 – North County African American Women’s Association “The Strength of a Woman” Program

April 21 – FDIC Admin. Professionals Program

May 1 – 20th Annual Breast and Whole Health Empowerment Forum

Every Sunday Jewel Diamond Taylor’s webinar “The Filling Station”, 3 pm (Pacific)

Call 323.964.1736 or email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com to inquire about these engagements or availability for your event, program, conference, retreat, workshop, etc.

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Are you feeling the pressures of life?

Remember to save the date for this Sunday.  I continue to offer my weekly webinar in my signature zoom room.

For 8 months now, the ladies attending have experienced new levels of understanding about ; their gifts, breaking strongholds, creating success habits, healing issues of shame, worry, doubt, procrastination, and unhealthy relationships, making progress with their goals and life purpose, gaining insight about past pain, trauma, and childhoood experiences which keeps them living in fear, low self-esteem, and cycles of arrested development.  The “Filling Station (Romans 15:13)” has created a space for women to avoid burnout and refill their mind, heart and soul with hope and encouragement.  They are feeling seen, heard, and connected to others seeking empowerment and ways to strengthen their faith and personal development.  This experience is helpful, healing, and a positive resource for you to be able to endure this historic pandemic.  YOU are invited to be with us.

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Once you register, the link and password will be sent to your email address.

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“Challenges make you discover things about yourself that you never really knew. “
Cicely Tyson
“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.” —Rosa Parks
“We all have dreams.  In order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.” ~ Jesse Owens, world record setting Olympic athlete
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Here is a great lesson to learn. If you squeeze a lemon, what comes out? Lemon juice right! Not apple juice, cranberry juice, or orange juice.
The pressure on the outside releases only what’s inside.
If you have fear, doubt, and anger on the inside of you…then when life brings you stress and pressure…the only thing that comes out is fear, worry, doubt, and anger.
“Keep your heart with all diligence for out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23

The more one watches or listens to rubbish on TV, gossip, music, movies, or social media…it shapes the inner man.
What you feel, say, and do is determined by what is going into your eyes, ears, mind, and heart. What comes out of your mouth is determined by what goes into your mind. Garbage in…garbage out.
What is spilling out of you when you are feeling stressed and under pressure? Are your words and conversations full of hate, fear, worry, lack, doubt, shame, anger, and jealousy?
It is a law of nature… that what goes in must come out.
So grateful to know from my readers that my books has helped to infuse faith, peace, hope, resiliency, and courage inside of them.
Guard your heart, eyes, ears, and thoughts.
The more you read God’s word and other inspirational books, the more you will have a reserve of faith, courage, love, and hope inside of you.   So whenever life squeezes you with the pressures of bills, relationships, loss, disappointments, and setbacks…your faith, hope, and courage will be released.

The word encourage is derived from the word courage which means “heart.” It takes courage (heart) to face your problems (i.e. passing a test, providing for your family, interviewing for a job, going into surgery, admitting you need help to become clean and sober, to deal with the bill collectors, resolving or asking for what you want, or going through the stressful process of buying a home or business).

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Covid-19 How to Cope With Anxiety Attacks

 

I continue to offer my coaching/counseling (phone or video) by sharing coping skills, my experience, prayer, and emotional wellness support.
During this crisis there NO fee.  A love offering is available by cash app or paypal.
Contact email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com, call 323.964.1736

Wash your hands, be safe, pray, be kind, conserve your energy, be hopeful, and practice gratitude.

 

I’m done!!!!!

When you are feeling agitated, sad, mad, or hurt…ask yourself “What is REALLY going on?”
The real answer may surprise you. You may just be tired, lonely, sick, feeling ashamed or stretched to your limit. How often do you take out your frustrations on the wrong person, your closest target? How often do you make permanent decisions about a temporary situation? How many times have you quit a relationship, marriage, project, or job because your nerves and emotions were on edge?  How many times have you said, “I’m done!” but you were really feeling anxiety, used, abused, invisible, physically exhausted, not heard, not appreciated, insecure, overwhelmed, scared, tired of trying, and simply needing a break?

Is the clock ticking and you feel like you are running out of time? Sometimes the question is…”Who’s the matter with you” not “WHAT is the matter with you?”  Lingering, futile, toxic, unhappy, or manipulative relationships can tire you out.  Are you an overhelper, co-dependent, fixer, or is your loyalty displaced?

People and circumstances may trigger your emotions which live right underneath your skin that you have pushed down, ignored, forgotten or covered up with a mask.
What is really going on with you?

If you cut your finger or broke your leg, you would seek immediate medical care.
What do you do when you are emotionally bleeding, have a broken heart, become blind and lose sight of your purpose, your joy and optimism are on life support, or you fell down and fractured your faith, peace, and hope?

Through my counseling/coaching style I am able to support others to:

. discover emotional sobriety and emotional freedom
. improve their relationships
. revive their self-worth and self-esteem
. reduce their vulnerability to toxic people or past shame
. learn how to navigate a crisis without numbing themselves
. cope with a crisis with acceptance, action, right thinking, faith, endurance,       hope, and productive coping skills.
. move forward past their shame, procrastination, grief, abuse, setbacks, burnout, or ffaith fatigue.

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by The Self-esteem Dr. Jewel Diamond Taylor, speaker, author, life coach, women’s retreat facilitator, Founder of Women on the Grow, Inc., media personality

To reserve your one-on-one time by phone, zoom, or in person, call 323.964.1736

or email – office@JewelDiamondTaylor.com

Remember to encourage yourself

I don’t know who this is for…but maybe you are in a “God Gap” right in the middle of where you used to be and where you want to be. Are you waiting for a breakthrough in your family, marriage, employment, health, finances, ministry, or business?

Maybe your usual sources of support are missing. Maybe someone let you down and went “ghost” on you.

Maybe you feel your prayers aren’t going past the ceiling.

Maybe you feel no one understands you.

Sing out loud D. L. Lawrence “Encourage Yourself” song. Strengthen yourself. Believe in yourself. Heal yourself. Promise yourself to practice more self-care. Befriend yourself. The kindness and encouragement give to others…give it to yourself also. Don’t betray yourself. Speak your truth. Create your boundaries of emotional or physical distance from the energy vampires, haters, critics, time stealers, and drama bringers. Have a good talk with yourself. Acknowledge your dreams, gifts, talents, ideas, strength, creativity, and accomplishments. Value your time, family, faith, health, anointing, skills, and self-worth. Let go and forgive yourself for past hurtful choices. Remember this scripture…”God is within her, she cannot fail.” Psalm 46:5

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Encourage yourself by guarding your heart from toxic and manipulative people. Encourage yourself to stick and not quit on your goals. Encourage yourself by reminding yourself that you are worthy. Encourage yourself and remember your past victories. Encourage yourself in your money habits and eating habits.

Encourage yourself by speaking life over your situation. Encourage yourself through your recovery from a heartache, divorce, layoff, addiction, setback, illness, or seeking a home, job, car, or new love.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. – Philippians 4:6

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10

By blog writer Jewel Diamond Taylor.

For a life-changing, insightful, and transformative counseling or life coaching session call 323.964.1736

email – JewelMotivates@gmail.com

God, can we talk?!

OK now…please listen God! You got me up writing all these messages and feeling a lot of “aha” moments.  Am I writing these messages for others…or is it really helping me!  I think it’s both.

The revelations and insights are helping me and making me feel some kinda way.  Why didn’t I know these things before?  How many people have I hurt?  How many people have I helped?  Have I been my own worst enemy and saboteur?  Will I get better?  Will I have the right words to express what I am discovering?

I am learnig to process my past poor choices and emotional pain, mourn, feel, deal, heal, grieve, repent, and grow from them.

Everytime I feel I have grown on one level of my life, I find myself back in Your operating room to remove a cancerous thought, unrealistic expectation, belief, or habit.

I am no longer resisting the spiritual surgery.  I am healing and learning at the same time.  The process hurts at first before I begin to feel better.  I have to give up denial, worry, procrastination, and doubts.

It’s hard sometimes to fight a battle when I’m still limping from the last shot, cut, fall, kick, loss, or wound.  Yes, God, I’m learning to be resilient and practice what I teach.

I am reading this morning Isaiah 42:3 and encouraged by this scripture that says, “a bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick He will not quench because even though many of us are heavy laden with doubts, fears, and wounds…we will bend but not break, because of Your divine love.  Even though our inner candle is smoldering and about to go out, Your grace revives the flame of purpose, hope, and strength within us.

Lord, I need Your guidance to share the essential pearls of wisom I have excavated from the depths of my soul, experience, self-awareness, prayer, and study.

I thank you Lord for Your grace, mercy, and marvelous light which are accelerating my growth and peace.

Thank you for my “aha” moments enabling me to see more clearly how to overcome bitterness, depression, doubts, worry, and unrealistic expectations from others.

I get it God…every marriage needs a balance between intimacy and independence.  Beginnigs and endings will happen…friends, customers, and business associates will come and go.  My body needs healthy foods, water, and exercise.  I must see, seek, and seize opportunities beyond my comfort zone.  Continue learning so I can pass any of my tests (i.e. patience test, wilderness test, grief test, character test, courage test, faith test). Trust in Your divine order.  Remember my prosperity commandments.  My thoughts and words have power to create what I focus on.  I must keep the main thing…the MAIN THING!

Thank you for placing so many wonderful people in my life who see me and value my journey and purpose.  I will stay in the light.