“Loneliness and isolation are dangerous. They can be addicting. Once you get used to how peaceful it is, you can begin to dread and avoid dealing with people anymore. When you get upset, it is a set up for depression and isolation. I have had to pray and encourage myself many times out of the cave of depression, grief, isolation, and disappointments from other people’s treatment and loss of my son.
Active fellowship and positive communication are keys to your mental and emotional health. Living and serving in my purpose has been so helpful in pulling me out of my cave.
Even though you may have been hurt and lost trust in people, experienced loss (e.g. death, job, or divorce), or simply tired from the drama some people bring… do not fall into the pit of isolation. Your past implicit memories can trigger you around certain people or environments to have anxiety or isolate.
Believe that there are still good people who can enrich your life. And believe there are people who will benefit from knowing you. Begin to believe in new beginnings, new opportunities, and new possibilities.
To seek help and support is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.
It is not good for your emotional, spiritual or mental health to be alone.
Pray for discernment and the courage to trust again, and create love and social connections into your life.”
by Jewel Diamond Taylor, conference speaker, author, life coach, and emotional wellness educator
As Founder of Women on the Grow, Inc. 501(c)(3), I offer life coaching, personal development materials and programs to empower women with life coping skills, emotional wellness, stress management, and self-esteem to be successful and NOT a statistic.
If you would like to make a donation of any amount, use this paypal link. Thank you so much for believing in my mission to serve, minister, empower, educate, and encourage women from many walks of life.
Women of all ages learn;
. leadership skills
. emotional wellness
. parenting skills
. goal setting
. relationship/communication skills
. time management
. cognitive behavior awareness to
. heal from past trauma and abuse.
Your donations make it possible for women with hardship cases to attend the retreats, programs and conferences, receive life coaching, and materials for women who desire to overcome life issues e.g. divorce, breast cancer, homelessness, unemployment, single parenting, stress, domestic abuse, grief, depression, and adverse childhood experiences of abuse and dysfunction. Emotional pain lasts longer than physical pain.
So many women miss opportunities, success, and peace because they never learned coping skills or experienced the unique, life changing and long lasting results gained from Women on the Grow materials, events, support, coaching, sisterhood, love and non-judging atmosphere.
If you are an advocate for women’s health, the healing of families and your see the value of Women on the Grow that builds up countless women to not only achieve success…but also sustain it…this organization is a great place to add your energy, contributions, resources, prayers, and suggestions.
If you would like to make a donation of any amount, use this paypal link. Thank you so much for believing in my mission to serve, minister, empower, educate and encourage women from many walks of life.
Jewel Diamond Taylor, Founder of Women on the Grow 501c3
email – WOTGrow@gmail.com
A few years ago a young woman sat in my Women on the Grow life enrichment support group classes, How to Be an “E-7 Woman“. I congratulate and celebrate with my Women on the Grow Dream Team Member Arnetha because she followed through by applying the principles from my E-7 Woman Class and my book Shift Happens: The Main Thing is to KEEP the Main Thing…The Main Thing. Enjoy and be inspired by her testimony below:
“I am an E7 Woman on the Grow!!! Hello Jewel Diamond Taylor, This notification is to share with you the good news that I met my goal on June 9, 2012. I graduated from University of Phoenix and received my Bachelors of Science degree in Psychology. It was a long journey. I overcame many challenging obstacles; issues in my marriage relationship, struggling to stay focused and committed to my family and friends (I had to say NO to numerous social activities in order to “Keep the Main Thing ~ The Main Thing. “ My obstacles became my stepping stones for success and strengthened me in areas that I felt I could not persevere. There were times I felt that I would not be able to accomplish my goals because I was too busy trying to balance work and family. I recall at so many of your Super Goal Saturday events that I would say this is my year to graduate only to fall short a few credits (take a break to avoid a breakdown). Well here I am stronger and wiser and more knowledgeable. Yes, I was tired many of nights, sleep deprivation and unprepared family meals; needless to say I lost a few points on assignments due to poor planning of time management better known as procrastination. I will continue to grow and work towards my Masters in Psychology.”
My accomplishments and goals as an E7 woman include the following:
1) Empowered – plugged into God’s energy, standing in authority of God’s power
2) Emotional Intelligence – manage my own emotions so others don’t manage me
3) Economic Strength – wise with spending money and prosperous in health, multiple streams of income
4) Enlightened – relationship with God and understanding His word
5) Encouraged – empty the negative and fill myself with positivity, appreciation & gratitude (listening and reading materials by Jewel Diamond Taylor) my mentor and greatest inspirational teacher
6) Education – Returned to school in 2007, one class and one course at a time, focused on the area that I was interested in growing (With God all things are possible)
7) Self Esteem – I am worthy and loved. I am enough. I know who I am and know that I am truly a worthy child of God. (This was a long process to accept of myself).”
Sincerely, Arnetha Booth (Your Dream Team Member) Irvine, CA
Comfort seekers, peace makers and conflict avoiders won’t express their true feelings when someone hurts you or betrays you. You’re afraid of the rejection you might receive if you honestly express your emotions and therefore don’t assert yourself. This often leads to depression, passive aggressive, self-destructive behavior and being an easy target for manipulation from others. A passive aggressive person is one who finds other means and ways to express his feelings and thoughts indirectly so as to hide the real feelings and thoughts. Usually the term is linked with feelings of piled up anger, but in a broader sense it refers to a person not being capable to be honest about his desires and emotions (passivity), and as a result they retaliate in frustration of not being able to be truthful (aggression).
If you cannot cope with your feelings and develop your voice regarding your relationSHIFT, jealousy, neglect, arguments, addictions, in-laws, blended family issues, finances, unhappiness, dishonesty in your marriage… passive aggressiveness can manifest (i.e. cheating affairs, burning dinner, lying, forgetfulness, pouting, sleeping in separate rooms, talking against your mate to your children, friends, co-workers or parents, silent treatments, no intimacy, no sex, sabotaging vacations, over working and busyness to stay away from home, sickness, depression, helplessness, neglecting home cleaning, clutter, excessive shopping or excessive eating, neglecting your appearance, acting like a victim, separate friends and activities).
Because the passive-aggressive doesn’t think they have many tools or self-worth to deal with the ups and downs of relationships, they rely on old patterns or what they saw parents or siblings or friends do in their relationships. When I began to honestly recognize my triggers of avoiding conflict, I had to admit I became a silent sufferer, procrastinator, a peacemaker, comfort seeker and conflict avoider.
I learned as a child and wife to repress, deny and ignore my true thoughts and feelings. When my mother died from breast cancer, I didn’t cope well emotionally or spiritually. That big SHIFT in our family rocked my world. I was afraid to express and feel my sadness and pain.
In the past when my husband and I had conflict or I felt unhappy and powerless, I wasn’t in touch with my anger. There were many SHIFTS in our marriage. By the time our oldest son died from cancer I had learned not to suppress my sadness. I believe I coped with the loss of our son (SHIFT) much better than when my mother transitioned. It still hurts but I have learned to give myself permission to talk about, grieve and take care of myself.
If you cannot cope with your emotions and SHIFT about your job … passive aggressiveness can show up (i.e. being late, gossip, severe absenteeism, slow productivity, long lunches, stealing, talking about co-workers or your boss behind their backs).
Anger and sadness are emotions that tell us when something is wrong, it can help you in terms of getting you to focus, pray, speak up, distance yourself from the boundary bullies, evaluate your values, needs and priorities, take care and honor yourself, identify your purpose and goals and strengthen your relationships and connections with God and others around you. Expressing emotions doesn’t make you weak… but believe me… ignoring them does. This blog is an excerpt from my book “SHIFT HAPPENS”. Order yours today and I will send your autographed copy to you to add to your personal library/ tool box.
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